How Marriage at 15 Years Completely Ruined My Life! -The Painful story of Natasha Doreen

Inakuajo, the strongest presenter, is Ali from Entertainment Pia, thank you very much for being at the front of the line. Waminifu wa channel ya Presenter Ali Thank you for being kind and showing love Kukulike, kushare Comfort you completely, subscribe now When you first look at Mary We are honored to present Presenter Ali I only ask hardly for you to subscribe to my channel Because I always give you spicy content Just like this one Yesterday, a young girl named Natasha Doreen passed away. Come here and tell me your story Because he was about to tell his own story I felt Kumba is a great story. Learn from the past, for it is the foundation of wisdom. Mawili ama machatu What's up? For your safety, thank you very much for coming For all the bad things, I will blame Maria first. Naumbu jitambulishi At the funeral, Doreen was buried. Uganda I'm from Uganda, from Barala. It's in western Uganda. I'm a mother of six and thirty Yes Your beautiful flower How are you? My life as a young child It wasn't okay because I'm a toto on offer My dad passed away when I was turning two. When I was five years old And since my father had three wives My mother was a second wife. To my mum We are two. I am the firstborn, and my sister But all of us We are five siblings. So my dad left us To one of his favorite sisters Before he passed away Our grandmother told us that He called her. She told her Things are not okay. But you are the one who is supposed to stay with my daughters. So she took us To her place Where we left off in my seventh grade You know, in Uganda, we finish in grade seven. So after Completing my seventh grade She told me to go to my village. On my father's side And talk to my grandmother For high school issues Then I was like Now how will my grandmother afford to pay? My high school fees She told me if she can't afford it Then go to your father's grave And cry from there So when I was there One of the other aunts came And she was like What are you doing? Other kids are in school I went with her Since he is the director He called the children. They had not paid their school fees. So he knew We were going to Dorin I am his niece, but he wanted to Confirm from me Then I was like my auntie Of course your sister Then he told me to go and tell her. He wants school fees. Actually, it was BOMA. International High School I guess the international aspect The school was not for free education. So I went to town. Where my aunt was working I told her what her brother Have told me Then she asked me again Are you Telling me the truth? Then I was like, yeah. My uncle told me I should come. He wants school fees. I had registered in the first term. Upon reaching my mocks Now the school management Wanted all of us on the senior team To pay the balance Before the mock exams So I went to town. And told her The headmaster wants her fees. Since I had about one year of arrears So she said That money is too much. For her She was also a single mother of five. She was raising her child alone. I felt so bad. Because she had been trying for me But things weren't adding up. Now I have decided To come to Kenya I looked for the money I was looking for When I reached Busia I would go straight to Kisumu. That's what I did I arrived in Kisumu. I reached a market called Kibie. It's there I went to Asoko. I started explaining myself. I didn't know Kiswai back then. So I am talking about this Our English But you know lower women But one lady Now I understand you She took me in with her. So I worked with her Like 4 to 5 months Now this is How did I end up with this lowly man In courts Now the man was like You are so beautiful for doing this work. And you're still young for this How old were you? I was 15 Because I came When I was turning 15 So we moved in But I am not a wife. He will not be a husband by then. So during boyfriend girlfriend Things So I got pregnant. And then the guy was like I am not ready I am still young By the way, he didn't have a job. He was just hustling. So I decided to go back home. Now going back to my place Remember when I came They didn't know where I was. So I explained where I'm coming from. And You know the shoot is in five to six months. Then they were like But you're pregnant. So everyone chose for me to abort. Only my late grandmother Wanted me to abort So I was like I have a burden. Nobody is caring Nobody wants to know what you're going through. So I decided to go back Now I did not search for the man. I went there directly. His parents They were hearing rumors. That his son has a girlfriend from Uganda So I explained to myself I am from Uganda I am your son's girlfriend, and I am pregnant. So the dad After hearing my story Since I am an orphan He was thinking, now what should I do? You are like my daughter. You have to stay But the mother did not buy the idea. Because she wanted a son She wanted the people of Uganda She did not have a bad word to say. About Ugandan girls So I was in that relationship. My mother-in-law didn't want me. So I decided to abort So my first clinic For my baby I needed family planning. Because I didn't want to give birth again So the nurse told me You just go home The day you will see You are safe, then come for family planning. But if you don't realize you're okay So I was waiting To see, but I did not I was waiting to see I was shocked once again I was pregnant. But to me, I knew I was five months. I was pregnant with my second child. I gave birth on April 8th. So from there I said I won't wait to see the message. I went straight To family planning I went to an old整车 plant for 5 years So we moved on Since I got a girl and a boy We're good to go And that is when Their dad joined. The GSU He is now employed. I see that we are a happy family. So we stayed After Dad saw the girl got a job He said those two kids Are not sufficient Since the boy Firstborn So he said He did not speak to me directly. He sent my sister-in-law. She told me Dad said He did not know they were separated. So I decided to talk to him. That was 2013 After I gave birth Now things turned against me I was in family planning. I gave birth. After giving birth to the third child March 2013 I am on birth control. But in September 2014 I gave birth To our fourth child So you gave birth in 2013. 2014 So I left the injection. For 3 months I went to a knoll plant. Because I had a second baby The fifth born The same The knoll plant had been there for three years. The fifth one was the same. So at my age I said I'm not yet thirty. I'm not even 28. I have 5 children. So I chose To go to Jaramogi To seek an abortion There's a word When a person is pregnant They ask for help So they gave me one of the nurses. She was a little old. She asked me I told her After listening to my story I saw her crying. Then I was like Why are you crying? I was stressed. I saw her crying. Then she told me I am not of my age I have done my utmost. I am a midwife, but I have never been blessed. So God has blessed you You are on family planning. But you're pregnant. So remember at home I had left my friends. I had given birth I am going to abort Since the 2014 baby was still small They took care of the children. They saw me I was back in two to three hours. They were shocked. Because abortion Is an hour nowadays I told them I don't want to get pregnant They asked me why. I told them I had already started Seeing red flags In my marriage The man is a cheat. When he is at home You know what he used to do. When he is at home You would hear him calling I am in the barracks. The barracks is in Nairobi. You would ask him Why are you telling people you're in the barracks? And you are here He would tell you It's my husband. I don't want them to know I kept on crying But Even your best friend He would have called her. And told her how much he loves her But now I'm talking to my grandmother Before she died I told her You are an orphan. You are the one who left. When the children are born Who will take care of them? You have to stay there and suffer because of the children. I saw Now everyone is against me I am almost a mother of five I started selling my stuff. I was staying in a two-bedroom house. Before I died The rent was not good. So The man's sister Used to help us pay the rent My mother-in-law used to help us with food. I used to wash clothes. Sweep the floor Things like that Since the elders were going to school They even left. So I started selling things My landlord told me If you keep on selling things It will end. After it ends He told me Talk to the man If he is serious about you and the children You can't just leave. Go live in Nairobi I called the man and told him It's either I choose Nairobi or Uganda I'm fed up with Kisumu. So by then This man loved his children. I knew he wouldn't let me leave. So he came He told me to come to Nairobi. We came He told me his mother Was moving me to a single room Because mom didn't want me to come Because mom didn't love you She didn't want me to come. I was with her son苎 So we came We arrived at the barracks. Things were okay. I started regretting Why I was living in Kisumu He was providing food. The children were happy. So we sat Everyone was asking Are you his wife? Are you his children? So I was like Why are we giving people so much attention? When you pass through the gate There are about 8 soldiers. Everyone was turning their faces This is his wife. So I came to know The guy had a wife. She was married, but Mum didn't tell me. So he decided to come. He took her out of the barracks. So we stayed there. We stayed there. I arrived in 2018. I said I know I am not educated I am an orphan, but this is not the life of marriage. I would have wished to have Because the man He was violent. He was rude. He used to beat me. The guys used to ask me If I were his wife Sometimes he said I will be your wife. So I decided to go to Uganda. Kampala There is this man of God I went there to pray. Because I had been watching him on TV I realized that was my last hope I arrived there. That week I planned to buy a phone. Because I wanted to capture everything Since I had missed home When I arrived I had a Kenyan ID. I didn't want to tell them I was Ugandan On my ID I don't want them to know Because they will understand My ID reads Natasha Doreen With a man's Name So they placed me Because they always give First priority to foreign nationals Being there Like a foreigner My phone disappeared. My new phone It was stolen. We are foreigners We are new there. My attention Went from prayers to my phone Now I have a phone. I want to see the man of God. One on one Since he is a prophet I want him to give my phone back. Being there Desperate I was in Kampala. The ushers led me to the man of God. They took my case. But I didn't see him. They gave me money. Did you pray? I did, but in that church There's a way you are welcomed There are mothers Like me Mothers are welcome Men are welcome So for him The way he welcomed the children He just came. Touching our foreheads There was no reproach. I was disappointed once again. Because I wanted him to tell me If I am in the right marriage Or not They gave me money for lodging. And to go back with the kids So we arrived I borrowed a phone from one of the members. The ones we came with on the bus They were mostly from that church. I borrowed a phone and called him. I told him to meet me at the gate. He took my suitcase. I met him there. We型号 entered the house When I arrived I had left a daughter with his sister. She was left with the three kids. I left When I arrived She was a grown-up. She was in Grade 10 She told me we should have left her alone. I asked her why. She told me Ever since you went on Tuesday Dad has never slept in the house. So I asked her If he had done something He should have brought food. Or he should have brought tea. So I asked her What's not happening I called a man. I asked him what I was doing. He denied everything. But as you know, we women We know how to look for I heard rumors That lady who took me out Was taken back But now the barracks have an upper side and a lower side. So I am on the upper side He took me to the lower side. So you were with the two wives In the same barracks That's how he decided to get married. But now He doesn't want me to tell him. But I heard from people He has decided to get married. Remember this guy He has never made an effort to come to our place. He doesn't know my place. He doesn't know anyone of me It's only me Even when I tell him to go with the kids He can't find them. He has never made an effort. All these years All these kids Then again, you're getting married. From then on But again, this guy He came. I don't know what he was thinking. I went to Kampala. To pray for my marriage to be alright Then he came back. And got the worst of it What is this? One month later he returned. For some reason, he is sorry; he is confessing. Now I am telling my God Thank you, Jesus, You have done it for me Now you are witnessing the prayers being answered. Yeah, I saw my prayers being answered. Answered, sorry Now when he came back But remember I'm on birth control again Now the 6th child came. Wow When the sixth child arrives The wife is also pregnant. At the same time? Yes, but she gave birth four months ago. Now let me tell you I have been pregnant since day one Yes The medicine I was given And the pregnancy I don't even want my enemy to go through From that man So We continued like that. My friends were there for me I gave birth It was not a normal birth. I went to the theatre. Due to the stress I went to the theatre. When I left My friends were still there for me And a few members of my family Even my sister By the way She was there. For me When the sixth child arrived I told myself I can eat food. I started looking for a job. So I shared it with one of my friends In the Barracks She told me she has an uncle at the airport. He works at a hotel. She called him. It was on Monday. I told her not to hide anything from him. Tell him everything. We're going through a lot. The mother of the 6th child left me. So I am the one for my children. So When I called him on Monday He told me he was recruiting. New members on Friday So by the end of the week If you had called me last week You would have had that chance. So I told myself It is God's will. Because I am an orphan Marriage is a work. Education is also work. So I'm like Maybe God just wanted me to survive. I'm sorry. So He called me the next day. He told me I think maybe God heard my prayers He told me to bring that man. Tomorrow And see what I will do It was on Tuesday. So we went on Wednesday But at that time I was so big So when we arrived The uncle asked me Are you sure he will do the job? Because we were looking for a waiter Are you sure? There's a rush You must attract customers. And there's competition Because the hotels are at KSh 100 So you have to attract customers. Maureen told him He will try. Because He has suffered a lot. I did my best I tried But this year February was the last Due to COVID We were told Money should not be wasted. So They hired the best. Like the chefs So I have been staying at home. I have been washing And washing I know how to wash. When I get customers I wash them When I get permission to wash I remember I was living with his cousin. She was born in my house. I was taking care of her child. She was 1 year and some months old. I had another daughter. From his brother I was living with them. So now I wasn't trying Because the house was free I was just looking for food for the kids And going to school Now the surprise of the year arrived My husband was given a transfer. So when you receive a transfer You vacate the house. Go and live somewhere else. If he goes to Mstunu You go and retire Or if he goes to the Barracks Go and look for another house So Remember, I am not speaking to this man in court. I am sending his cousin. To ask him When he gets transferred He will tell him. Don't stress We are just there We don't know what is happening. I remember he is in grade 8. I have enrolled him in grade 8. Of which I have to stay there You will be born When you finish grade 8 Now if I receive a transfer It means he will either repeat Or drop out of school Because he doesn't have a job That is the current situation. I have nowhere to go We don't have food. We're just feeding on friends. What kind of work can you do? I can do I am a hairdresser. I can do it at a salon. I can do it at a hotel The year and months I worked I can also work in a hotel. Once again I am a driver When I was working I dropped out of school. I got a chance Because I don't have a certificate Remember So I decided to learn Driving Maybe I can get a job as a driver God will make a way God will open doors Thank you so much for sharing your story. I want to thank you To all the team presenters Thank you so much Is it okay if I share your number? It's okay Because right now I really need help. I am asking you to help If you can help I don't think it's a job. It's a job. I think it will help you If you are lost If you need any services Like a hairdresser Like a driver My people are powerful. You know how we do it I am asking you to show love If you are a counselor You can call her She is going through a difficult time. I am depressed. There was a time when my kids They were sick. You see, we parents When a child is ill You are talking to your God To help them recover But in my case When my children are sick Like the 5th baby She is on oxygen. She can't breathe. So you will find me telling my God I have not died physically But just take her You see I see 6 kids. When you reach a place I will share your story You'll ask why you have six kids. Why are you crying? I am a mother of six. Sometimes I see 6 kids It's like a birthday. Of which I did not want I conceived them I conceived three babies. In family planning I am truly sorry. I wish you all the best Thank you Thank you again for being courageous. We have been in touch with Natasha Doreen. I hope you have heard her story. I really hope there's someone out there Who can come through? Don't give up Encourage her Even food Nothing You will be okay. My name is Your Entertainment PA Thank you for taking the time To listen to Natasha's story I wish you all the best May God bless you God bless you I'll see you in the next video.