The Cut-Off Set You Free so your the villain in their story

There's this powerful moment. There's this moment that I want us to talk about real quick real briefly. Welcome to the channel This is your girl mommy. So true. Make sure you subscribe join the crew We're thrivers after narcissistic abuse hit the like button and drop a comment because I want to know what's on your mind as I talk to you about this the moment that you finally cut them off or maybe this was the moment where they Discarded you and called it a break a breakup Whatever they wanted to camouflage it as it was a discard They left you hanging or you finally left them hanging We got to talk about it because somehow after you were manipulated lied to cheated on given Narcissistic STDs, you know, there was a new supply pulled in there was false narratives lies Triangulations, I mean the list goes on and on and on the violence and then the way they treated you the silent treatments Had you walking on eggshells? Had you scared to be yourself? I mean, I mean they had you confused Had you going through this narcissistic obstacle course that had no prize at the end? But yet when they walked away and you shut the door or when you finally shut the door on your own By your own strength with God Almighty You're expected to feel guilty because you know why that cut off whether they did it or you did it the fact that you stood on it and you made the decision to make it last and Make it a thing and make it for real. It's brutal. It's brutal So you will be left to feel guilty if you know, you know, you will be left to be the bad guy You're the villain because you really disconnected. You really took that opportunity to detach They didn't see that coming you become the bad guy now you're talked about there's this ugly smear campaign Why because you disconnecting like that is brutal to that narcissist that parent those siblings those family members They're not ready for you to pull yourself away from them like that Because they trained and conditioned you to believe that you were like them. You were one of them, huh? Lies, there's somewhere Flabbergasted because you cut the cord there's somewhere bashing your name Trying to change the narrative lying about how it happened. What happened denying what you went through because the cutoff was too brutal They can't take it. They don't they don't get it. They're confused now But it's too bad because when you get to this point You don't care what a narcissist thinks or feel because of the cutoff Whether they felt the brutality of it or not is none of your concern. All you care about is that it's happened Divorce filed who's laughing now who's taking happy selfies now? Because I'm pretty sure when that divorce was finally stamped you took a selfie and you smiled hard I'm pretty sure you partied and you celebrated because you was so ready to sign those papers over it Celebrating the fact that you knowing your knowing you didn't ruin this relationship. It wasn't even a relationship You took an exit from this hostage Situationship you ended this Negotiation contract with this narcan nut who kept changing the terms You finally ripped that paper into pieces. You shredded it up through it out the window burned it Your cutoff was so brutal when you first did it. It hurt you to do it You thought you missed him Huh, but it was so brutal eventually you realize you ain't even love him like you thought you did Uh-oh, the truth is out cut off so brutal. You don't care to stare at your phone. You better not call me I don't even know you matter of fact, you don't have this number. You ain't looking for no answers You don't want no answers. You don't even want to understand you already understand you can see clearly you don't need no more clarification It's you got it. I got it. I ain't the smartest, but I ain't that dumb. I got it I don't need no more red flags. I don't need no more STDs. I don't need no more None of that nonsense. I don't need to be embarrassed and humiliated No more. I got it cut off Activated we are done. You can't ever come back here If I ever thought I wanted you my bad. I don't never ever ever again You made the right decision That's why that cut off didn't feel so nice at first it may have not have been so easy Or maybe it felt great, and maybe it was real easy share your thoughts below, but it was so brutal Because it was so toxic see if this was something healthy you wouldn't have to recover You wouldn't have to go heal from it. You could have just moved on This is a narcissist the cutoff is brutal Not just for them, but for you, too This is why when you cut them off that moment when you finally said I was done when you finally was like this I can't go anymore it came with something your nervous system was so Conditioned that it felt the detachment you went through it you had some symptoms drop your symptoms below the moment You cut them off. What do you remember going through nervous system was going crazy? You were triggered by music smells Sounds people that look like them Whoo probably locked yourself away for a long time Having dated in years because of that nut Scared to date scared to move on Now you think everybody's a narcissist went through those phases of just not even wanting to be alive anymore That cutoff is brutal Had you realize how messed up they had you? Internally you realize how unsafe you've been that's supposed to be your mother That was a marriage This is family That cutoff brutal Had you going through withdrawals? Because this person was like cracking your life You had to grieve these people this person grieve the relationship Because for many the cutoff means you gotta treat them like they're not here You gotta treat that narc like it's dead You gotta grieve the person you used to hope they will become Because they have qualities that it's like dang man. If only you weren't a narcissist You gotta grieve the future. They promised you it just it's just never gonna happen. Let it go sis You gotta grieve the version of yourself. You were when you allowed it When they walked all over you when they kept railing you in even though you had moments where you could have left But then you came back or you did leave but then you came back You gotta grieve the years and the time the things you did the sacrifices you made You gotta grieve what you allowed them to do to your body your mind your finances That cutoff is brutal, ain't it? But here's the freeing part Radically accepting that that narc and nut understood That you were hurting they knew it They loved it though They enjoyed watching you dwell in confusion They enjoyed watching you shed tears because of pain that they were inflicting They enjoyed the show you were putting on because of you your reactions your emotional reactions The moment you learned that the moment you accepted that that's what they was That it's always been a monster No matter what the image is how they look how sweet they sound how many people love them You knew the truth. You saw the mask and there was no unseeing it That was the freeing part That's what made the cutoff brutal, but freeing Made it more brutal for them than for you in the end That brutal cutoff is actually your rescue mission You didn't lose the cutoff Was not and it is not you losing them the brutal cutoff is About you finding yourself under all that chaos. You didn't fail because you left No, no, no, no Thriver No, no, no, no warrior you won because you finally stopped Volunteering for a role that required you to disappear Keep thriving beautiful people Until next time stay blessed and stay true