Your Mother is Your First Pimp #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #generationaltrauma

Your mother was actually your first pimp. Ladies, I'm talking to you. If your mother was abusive and narcissistic, I guarantee you she was your very first pimp. She was grooming you to pimp you for life. Pay attention because I'm going to go deep, okay? And by your mama pimping you out and grooming you and parentifying you, she was actually training you and setting you up to get in romantic relationships with abusive men who did the same ******* thing to you. How many of y'all have been in a relationship with an abusive man, whether he put his hands on you and assaulted you or not? He abused you financially. He got with you, whether it was through marriage or he moved in with you or he trapped you with a baby, he locked you down to get access to your resources, your money, maybe it was your status. You got a good job. maybe you're well known in your community socially we are well known in the church what what you got going on your life your status it makes him look good because he don't got ---- going on for himself so he had to attach himself to you to level himself up or at least make people believe he was on a level up because of his woman you do you realize when a man attaches his when he attaches himself to you and uses you for your resources bleeds you dry of your energy he is pimping you he is pimping you and because you're so loving you got a good heart but you gotta remember it was your mother who groomed you from childhood to be a ******* doormat and people pleaser your mother taught you how to allow people to walk all over you and that's why you get in toxic relationships with men who bleed you dry your resources in your mind you think you're being generous and giving and loving a man you know um your family is pressuring you to get married You know, society pressures us women to get married and have a picket white fence, a home and a family. It's wrong. They taught us wrong. These men are narcissists. And all they want to do is attach themselves to you to bleed you dry of your resources and put a baby inside of you to trap you so that they can mark their territory. so no other man will want you or try to control you, okay? They don't care about the ******* child. Your baby father does not care about his child. He don't love his ******* children, but he had to find a way to anchor you and mark his territory because by him having an attachment to you, in his mind, he feels he's pimping you. Even if he moves on with another woman, he still has a direct pipeline to you. He's connected to you through the child, and that's to continue to pimp you out of your resources. It's for him to have bragging rights. Even if y'all are beefing, he can sit up with his boys and say, look at my baby mother. And he knows you're pretty. You're probably the best-looking woman he's ever had, which is why he continues to bring your name up. Even if he's talking bad about you, he wants niggas to know he put a baby in you because you look better than all the bitches he's ever been with. You look better than the bitches in his family. So he has bragging rights. So that pimping that these men do, them attaching themselves to you, trapping you with a baby, even marriage. Marriage is a trap. He has to find a way to attach himself and to lock you down so that he can bleed you of your resources and your social status. He will suck you dry before he tosses you off like trash. He will discard you like trash and move right the **** on with the next woman. that is pimping that is pimping 101 and guess who groomed you and set you up to get in relationships with these types of men it was your mother your mother was your first pimp your very abusive narcissistic mother see this was the whole point you got siblings this is why she shitted on you and she spoiled and treated your brother and sister well she was training you in early childhood to tolerate poor treatment she was training you to break your self-esteem you were not good enough to receive love but your siblings were she wanted you to feel unloved and isolated in the family outcasted and bullied she was training you she didn't want you to feel beautiful about yourself that's where your low self-esteem begins it starts with mom mom broke your self-esteem before any man broke your heart and broke your self-esteem. It was the ******* woman that gave birth to you. That's where it starts. She planted the seed of doubt inside of you. She planted seeds of insecurity inside of you when she compared you to your sister and said your sister was prettier than you. Your mama set you up like that. She was grooming you. This is what narcissists do. They groom their ******* daughters from early childhood and set them up for failure later on in life. It's all strategic and very calculated. Then when you become a teenager, even preteen, 11, 12 years old, why are you being a parent to your siblings? Why are you cooking and cleaning while your mother and father are out running in the streets? They are parentifying you. Meanwhile, you're missing out on childhood. You can't go to the mall like all regular teenagers do with their friends you at home being a ******* adult being a ******* parent and taking care of your siblings while your parents are in the ******* street that is parentification that is grooming you are being groomed to put everybody else's needs before yours all this is done in early childhood it is grooming if you do not cut your abusive mother off when you become an adult the pimping will continue she will want access to your money if you get a good job first off you graduate college she's going to be jealous now she'll go behind your back and brag to people she'll brag to your family she'll brag to her church community oh my daughter graduated college that's to make her look good but behind closed doors she's envious she hates that you excelled And you did. You went further than her. She doesn't support you behind closed doors. And she's not going to show up to your college graduation because she's envious that you went against the odds. Remember now she spoils your siblings. They get all the money and the praise. She makes things hard for you. And even though things were hard for you, you still persevered against the odds. and you walked the stage and you graduated college. Meanwhile, your siblings are over there being lazy and unproductive and they're being rewarded with money and gifts for it. She hates you for that. So she doesn't support you behind closed doors, but she will brag to the outside community about your achievements that she never contributed to. That's all to make her look good. You graduate college, you get a good job. Your mama is pocket watching. She sees you making six figures. she will feel entitled to your motherfucking money even though she did not contribute to your college education she crippled you she kicked you out on the streets she made things hard for you she will still feel entitled to everything that God has blessed you with if you buy a beautiful home she will want to move into your home take over your home and run your household and take over your children. Don't do it. Don't move her in. I've heard so many horror stories from women who have moved their narcissistic mother. They let their mama move in and their mama turned the house inside out and they regret it. And they're having a hard time getting rid of their mama. The pimping continues even when your mom becomes an elderly woman, an old ass woman. Why? She's groomed you to take care of her in retirement. She's groomed you if she gets sick in the hospital, has to go to the nursing home it will be you not your siblings taking care of her the pimping starts from early childhood so it's a it's a lifelong thing for you to stick around and let her use abuse you use you of your energy your money your resources and you will get sick honey this is why women develop cancer and autoimmune disease because the ************ who brought you in to this world is dragging you for filth and you refuse to cut her off. Your mama is your first pimp.