FAMILY ENMESHMENT IS DANGEROUS #robreiner #nickreiner #narcissist #narcissisticabuse

I'm going to answer the million dollar question that everybody has been asking. OK, that's Rob Reiner and that is his son, Nick, to the left of me. As you know, recently, Nick, he took the lives of both his parents. He slit his parents' throats while they were sleeping. And not only that, it is alleged that he stabbed them multiple times. He basically butchered his parents' bodies. okay which says to me um that's next level rage and anger and we can blame mental illness i don't think it's it's mental illness mental illness is just a small component this is repressed anger and trauma uh that this young man has been dealing with for many many years behind closed doors but in this video I want to talk about enmeshment what does enmeshment mean in a family that is being led by a narcissistic mother and father okay in a narcissistic family structure it is ran like a cult and there's usually a cult leader I want to talk about enmeshment and how dangerous it is to all the children born into this type of family structure and what happens when one child threatens to leave that toxic family structure that is enmeshed uh what usually happens and why nicholas stayed why did he if he if he um hated his parents which obviously he did why did he continue to go back home to them move in with them live with them and on the flip side if his parents knew he had all these issues why didn't they cut him off permanently place him in some type of conservatorship uh why didn't they you know send him away they have the money to put him in an apartment and give him you know the psychological services the outreach and resources they have all of that but instead they kept inviting nick to come back home i'm gonna explain why. We're going to talk about family enmeshment in a narcissistic household. First of all, TMZ and all these media news outlets are trying to say he was recently diagnosed with schizophrenia. No, he wasn't. No, he wasn't. He'd been diagnosed in his teenage years. His family been knowing his, his mental health, all his diagnosis. They know that his mother and father, they have the paperwork. They got the tea on him. Okay. So I really wish the media would stop trying to demonize mental illness because I know a few people, my daughter's father, I hate bringing him up. He has schizophrenia. I have an aunt that's schizophrenic and they haven't been violent towards people. This is not about mental illness. What he did was a personal traumatic that, that what he did comes from repressed anger and trauma. I guarantee you we need to stop blaming mental illness I believe that Rob Reiner and his wife are narcissists um I believe they spoiled him and coddled him but they also punished him in his early childhood and that is how you create a sociopath psychopaths are born sociopaths are created how do you create a sociopath you abuse them and you coddle and spoil them okay and you you create cognitive dissonance in the little boy that's why we're seeing a rise in male violence against their own mothers google it I promise you men are turning on their mothers why because mom confused him in early childhood and she did not allow him the opportunity to be his own individual he doesn't have an identity he's enmeshed with his mama she would spoil and coddle him but she would also abuse him where she would allow others her boyfriend her husband to abuse him somebody in the family molest him that's how you create uh a sociopath in early childhood the Reiners did that with this boy before he learned that he was mentally ill and and where does the drug addiction come from drug addiction and we we also need to stop demonizing uh drug addicts because when I hear these types of stories at at the root of all the pain it's something that happened in childhood he was on drugs at 14 15 years old his parents started sending him away to rehabs because they didn't want to deal with the problem they just had enough money to pay somebody else to deal with him that boy needed love and the Reiners although they had this perfect family everybody thought they were so perfect behind closed doors they were emotionally disconnected from Nick they did not want to deal with the mental illness and whatever trauma something happened I don't care what nobody say something happened to that boy because he was doing cocaine by the age of 15. That's some serious ----. What happened to Nick and why did he have to turn to heavy drugs to cope with what happened to him? Again, we can say mental illness, but we got to backtrack to the root of the cause of why he turned down that road at such an early age. Once he got out of rehab, his father allowed him to move back in the house. They enabled him. They probably celebrate it. You know, when he got out of rehab, you know, gave gave him money. Let's celebrate. Ooh, Nick is sober. Give him money. And guess what? When they give him money, they're enabling him to relapse and get back on drugs. His father, his parents enabled him to relapse over and over and over again. His father was abusive, which is why he kept relapsing. then they would take listen they financially they controlled his finances okay if he's already a sociopath undiagnosed autism adhd and he's impulsive and he has this this diagnosis of schizophrenia which i believe he did in his teenage years you can't play with him give him money take it away give him things take it away threaten his livelihood take it away kick him out on the streets he's going to have repressed anger towards mom and dad that's what his parents did his dad leveraged his mental health and bullied him and abused him behind closed doors but dad was also obsessed with protecting his perfect image because dad is a narcissist he would have rather keep his son close to him knowing his son had all these issues they could put his son when when his son becomes an adult, right? I want y'all to understand there's something called supportive housing for people who are mentally ill. Supportive housing is Nick. Nick would have had his own apartment and you know, he would be visited once a month, twice a month by a mental health professional. He would be given special services, medication. His family has enough money to set up a way for him to live away from the family. Why did they keep allowing him to come back into the home. I'll tell you why, because he was abused and his father was trying to control any information that would leak out to the public to protect the family's reputation. What happened to Nick in his childhood that traumatized him? I guarantee is going to come out. He's going to, now that his parents are gone, he can tell his side of the story once and for all. His father was terrified of the truth getting out. So dad being a narcissist had to control the perception of the public. That's why they kept Nicholas close at home Nicholas said he would stay home and tear up the house the guest house punch holes in the wall punch the TV have these episodes yeah dad did not want that getting out to the public because dad is a narcissist and dad his whole family is enmeshed Enmeshment is dangerous you have to allow your children to have their own identity even if they're addicted to drugs and they're going on a downward spiral you have to cut them off and set a boundary not in this family dad normalized enmeshment because dad was more obsessed with his public reputation than to allow the truth of what his son was dealing with to go out that's why he did a documentary because in that documentary trying to tell his son's story he's still trying to control his son's you know everything that happened to his son it's perception management because dad does not want the truth getting out so when you are born into a family of narcissists, the key word is enmeshment. If you are the scapegoat child and you cut your family off, they will stalk you and they will become obsessed with pulling you back in because they don't want the truth to get out. They protect the predators and pedophiles in the family because they don't want the truth to get out. When you leave and cut family off, you become a threat. That's why they didn't cut him off. They kept bringing him into home, giving him money to enable his addiction and kicking him out on the street. He became frustrated. Add to that sitting there watching his dad be praised when he knows the truth. His dad is not a good person behind closed doors. Over the years, that type of resentment will build up. And this is why what happened happened. You have to go no contact when your parents are narcissists. You're either going to end up in jail or worse. You're going to harm your parents if you don't cut them off and heal from the damage they've caused since childhood. This is what happens.