3 EVEN MORE POWERFUL WAYS TO BECOME THEIR WORSE NIGHTMARE #empath #narcissist

People, my goodness, we are live. Yes, we're going live. I don't care what I don't care what the devil got planned. We had a malfunction. So I'm back. Lord, I'm so sorry y'all. Welcome to my Monday night I had to I had to get off and come back on. We give it a few minutes and allow you guys to join. I can't believe that happened. Hey, guys, I'm back. I'm back. I'm so sorry about that. I had to, I had to refresh. Welcome back you guys, we are live, we are live, we are live. Ain't nothing stopping us, ain't no stopping us now. We're on the move y'all, thank you. Hey sis Shirley Gonzalez and we're going to stomp on the devil the devil don't stop nothing. Northern Kingdom princess what's up, good evening. Thank you guys for being here, thank y'all for hanging on, I'm sorry about that, I don't know what happened, um, but here we are, here we are. I had to just go ahead and switch equipments real quick and which is fine, it ain't nothing, it ain't nothing but a quick switch, you know the devil is a liar. Hello Alisa Williams, good evening, happy Monday y'all, we made it, we made it to another Monday, made it through another week and here we are ready to face another week right, so to my thrivers and to my survivors my warriors out there, hello to y'all, um, to my newbies anyone who's new hello hello hello so happy that you're here with me, if you were here with me yesterday this is part two of our conversation so um, let's join in, let's get this thing started Karen say, Kano says greetings from Argentina, oh my goodness greetings greetings greetings greetings uh Simone Charisma, hey survivor Ned a good evening everyone, good evening, hi hi hi, how are you Yvonne Yvonne says hey peeps what's up everybody what's up it's so good to see y'all so good to be here on tonight if you don't know me guys i'm i am mommy so true um i am you guys's advocate for um thriving out of narcissistic abuse and i'm so excited to talk to you guys again um hello sean thank you for hanging in there with me tonight i appreciate you um being here and showing support and showing your love queen leandria what's up fam i'm back i'm back i'm back we are back we are talking again tonight part two continuing yesterday's conversation because we are slayers of the narcissist y'all these these people really have zero power over us like honestly let's just let's just be all the way real about it let's let's continue to stand strong and firm in who we are what i was talking about earlier was um i wanted to share with you guys the importance of knowing our own personality traits um for me it's it's it's been really valuable to learn that. And I want to share that with you guys tonight. If anyone knows their personality trait, I'd love for you to throw that in there. There are 16 of them. I have done this personality trait test several times and have confirmed that I am an ENFJ. I'll give you guys a little bit of homework for you guys to go look into that and find out what your personality trait is because what i figured out is y'all um a lot of us don't understand our strength because we don't really understand how we are we don't really know how we are and the more we understand how we are and how we perceive things and how we move and how we understand things we will understand why um and how to interact with narcissistic people and narcissist and we'll also understand why some of us seem to to to have a way to like um shut them down and beat them at their own game and and just little things like that it all it all boils down to our personality traits so if anyone's interested in finding out about their own personality traits I really encourage you to go take a free online test and I'll drop it in the description box the test that I took to discover mines but um it's so empowering to know your own personality trait I'm telling you it is super empowering um because one thing about it for a lot of us survivors the reason why a narcissist was able to come into our world and and throw a wool over our eyes and deceive us and make us feel so low is because we didn't know who we really were really like we really did not know ourselves we didn't really understand our own character traits or our own personality traits so just something I want to put out there for you guys today but I want to jump in to today's topic as we continue part two of our discussion on on the three on the powerful ways to become a narcissist's worst nightmare yesterday we discussed three of them And today I have three more powerful ways to help you become or to help you stay a nightmare to a narcissist. And again, this means that you being a nightmare is someone who knows who they are and stands firm on that. You stand 10 toes down on the person that you say that you are. and to be a nightmare to a narcissist is to walk high in that to walk with your head up knowing that right so no no narc can ever come and tell you who you are who you need to be or try to tell you what you need to match up to be you know what I'm saying so three even more powerful ways to become their worst nightmare you guys I'm gonna dive in and start with number one my first one my first one is we have to devalue the narcissist in our minds we have to devalue the narcissist in our minds this is so vital and so real especially for those who are still living with a narcissist still dealing with them like they could be your parent right you might still be dealing with your parent um everything that comes with narcissistic abuse starts with mental it starts with mentally getting you um entangled in a relationship with them and then it starts with mentally beating you down and mentally tricking you and mentally getting you all disordered and and and putting you in this foggy mindset um where you don't know where you're going you don't know what you're doing you don't know what's happening it's a real mental breakdown and one of their biggest mental breakdown tactics their biggest manipulation tactics their biggest emotional breakdown tactic is devaluing us after you know after this relationship with this person then you mess around and marry them and then they hate you you know after everything they said they love about you now all of that they hate you for it everything that you showed in the beginning that was admired is now flipped against you right things that you've shared get used against you so to become their worst nightmare you reverse that and you devalue them in your mind those of you who are like me you may have fell for their false selves completely you may have fallen in love with somebody who just was not that somebody you really were like okay you really were like okay hello 1776 Michelle thank you so much for being here I appreciate that you you fell in love with this with this thought of or this um this perception this belief of somebody who really was not that at all and that to me that was the most devastating and disappointing aspect of being with narcissist was like nothing about you was real wow so I fell in love with nothing how the hell do I unfall in love with everything I just fell in love with so for you to really help you fight that to really help you stand against that and to really help you kind of gain some momentum because they drain you by devaluing you they drain you they pull you apart they rip you apart like tissue paper they suck life out of you by devaluing you they make you question who you really were they really really really affect you in this phase of the narcissistic cycle because they're they're good at being so charming and so manipulative and so so flattering that's why people on the outside know your narc and they think that they are the most amazing person they're like how dare you why are you complaining about that person we all love them because they carry this false sense of public figureness you know what i'm saying um some of the world's well-known narcissists are are in spotlights the world loves them on the outside but there are monsters at home you know what i mean they're devaluing their wives at home they're highly manipulative people but super charming on the outside and if you're like me you fell for that because come to find out my personality trait we're naturally people pleasers we love to people please because we love to encourage we love to make an impact we love we love to know how someone feels we love to give we love to to to be around we love to to take care of naturally that's just me so to go through a devaluing phase was very heartbreaking I had to learn how to snap out of that and reverse that because I was like hold on wait a minute I'm not nice because I'm weak I'm not doing all of this because I'm stupid I didn't marry you because nobody else want me hold up wait a minute no you have to devalue the narcissist in your mind because they they made you feel like they were your soulmate they made you feel like they were gonna be your lifetime partner they made you feel like they understood your values but it was all a lie it was all a lie what's up Latasha Kendrick Javon Hawkins I see you guys poppy4444 what's up how y'all doing somebody said 10 years thinking I was in a relationship I just opened an Airbnb last week loving only myself I love it I love it I love it my goodness y'all it's like you fall into a a love story that ends up um in lies it's like man it is it is it's crazy it's crazy to be devalued by a narcissist it's crazy it's a horrible feeling for those of you that are saying you know for years and 10 years and and all of that no it's crazy so your your your your strength behind that is exactly what sister latasha kendrick just dropped in the chat push them off the pedestal because that's exactly what we did we put them up there we put them up there if you're like me you you valued them and you showed them that you showed them how much they meant to you on every level the way you loved on their kids the way you loved on their family decisions that you made were for everybody you you took yourself out of the equation most of the times because you were looking out so knock them off their pedestal absolutely absolutely kings and queens knock them off their pedestal because they charmed you but it was all a lie they they they drug you along for 10 20 15 years 11 years 12 years all to play with your life setting you up because they never cared year after year after year was the same cycle the same wash rinse repeat bs the same thing you found yourself saying sorry to them when they did things to you what so to become their worst nightmare it's time for you to devalue them devalue them in their in your mind start with that because that's where it started you started to value them mentally when you met them when it all started it started mentally for you you didn't just fall in love first you fell in love with it mentally because they made it made sense for you in the beginning they told you stuff like oh we're gonna grow old together you are the best thing that's ever happened to me I've never met anybody like you we are going to ---- on all of our exes together they promised you houses they promised you opportunities they promised you things that never happened they promised you money that you never got you end up paying for everything when bills came around they were ghosts and yet we stayed because we were so trauma bonded because when we when we met them mentally we were like oh this is our soulmate so mentally we locked in mentally we were we accepted everything about them started mentally the programming throughout the relationship has all been mental trying to get you to really feel like you are the problem to really feel like you are you are worthless you're getting cheated on because you're worthless you're getting talked to like a dog because you're a dog you're not getting any respect from the person who claims they love you because why why make it make sense so if you don't devalue the narcissist in your mind how can you how can you win how can you win because you have to show these people actually guess what i made you look the way you feeling you feeling so big i'm i put that in you because a lot of us we made them feel confident by just being in their life you wouldn't have felt so big and bad if you ain't come across me a lot of them know so much stuff because of you you put so much into their you you you've added on to their intellectual you probably created a resume for them that's why they got the job they got right now let's be real they come into your life and learn so much from you run away with that knowledge and act like they always had that like they always been wise out here in these streets you know what I'm saying a lot of y'all are the reason why their businesses are thriving gave them ideas helped them push things gave them creative ideas thoughts and and grand ideas into their mind taught them how to make better moves so they can elevate in life you did all that you contributed in all of those ways and then here here comes this clown wanting to devalue you months later because they ready for a new supply here comes this clown wanting to make you feel like an insignificant wife an insignificant mother a horrible father because they switched up in the game and want to be betraying people out here and want to be sneaking and sucking and ******* everybody out here in these streets they want to devalue you because inside of them they are whores they are the master sluts of the universe and they want to devalue you because of that so they project behaviors and accusations onto you so why not flip it and devalue that sucker in your mind for those of you that are living with them those of you who are co-parenting with them think about it about it devalue that mugger in your mind because what are you valuing at this point anyway what what is there to be valued as tech came yes we are going to grow old together hold hands whoo what a jerk what a joker but jokes on him now i'm so happy i'm awake yeah what a freaking joker the lies man the setup was real look let's look let's think about how fast the relationship went the relationship went so freaking fast y'all for some of us we don't even remember we don't even remember the middle the it just it was from beginning it just happened so fast it's like where was the middle part where was the middle part i just remember the beginning and then it ended my goodness it started and then it ended so fast my goodness like what what the heck these people start out with being brilliant brilliant sex partners just the start view of six months weeks months down the road years down the road now you're switching up on me now i can't get none now i gotta beg for it what you are anything like me one of the most powerful ways to become a narcissist's worst nightmare is to devalue that joker in your mind devalue that joker in your mind because narcissists are mean and they are abusive people and they don't experience no empathy or no remorse they don't deserve no praise or no admiration not from people like you and I not at all not at all because you know what that does it enables their abuse because a narcissist does not choose their partner based on love they choose their partner based on the person who is willing to to ignore and accept red flags period so when we're around them we got to remind ourselves who we truly are that's why i talked about those personality traits in the beginning of the video if you don't know your personality trait you need to learn it if you don't know who you truly are you need to learn it like seriously seriously i'm reading y'all's comments i'm trying not to miss too much of the conversation but this is facts though this is facts y'all because like i said they're mean they're abusive they don't care they don't care about the mean things they're saying to you they don't care about you know being able to come back and forth through that door because they know how much you love them they know how much you're committed to them they know that you are that type of person they only devalue you to make you feel bad because that's just that's that's just what a monster they are they thrive off of the fact that you're feeling like crap knowing that the person you want to be with, the person you love, the person you created this life with, knowing that that's all you want is for them to love on you back, to admire you, to validate you, to show you, to just reciprocate that love back. That's all you're looking for. They know that. But love to a narcissist is death. There's no life in love. That's why you'll never feel love with a narcissist because there is none. What is love to a narcissist? The very thing that they're running from. And if you are full of it, of course, they're going to devalue you. Of course, they're going to make you look bad and feel bad so they can make an excuse to run away from you because you got too much love for them. Too much. It's too much. They don't want that. They don't want nobody who's charismatic and humble. They don't want that. They don't want nobody who's going to approach the situation in a loving manner. They don't want that. They don't want that. Absolutely not. number two y'all you've got to oh lord help me help me with this one jesus number two this is my perspective y'all we've got to idealize ourselves like we admire the narcissist and i say that wholeheartedly because so many of us idealized the narcissist so much so much because of our own character we just we just can't even help it we made these people feel so good y'all man i don't even i man oh my god because listen, narcissistic abuse victims we're highly empathetic people we're super intelligent and we're we're more than capable of loving, more than capable we are the prime examples of lovers, like you cannot take that from us and when we encounter narcissists in our lives, from the way they they come off in the beginning and just being who we are we idealize them, we idealize them we and we do it in ways that we don't even really know it'd be the little things, it'd be the small things that we don't even realize, again that pedestal that sis brought up earlier, we don't even realize how much we are putting you up there we don't even realize how much praise we're giving you, they made our strengths look like weaknesses but they thrived off of our strengths, we compliment them so well, not just because we fine as hell not just because we smart as hell, not just because we got degrees and we we we are weak you know not because of that, but just because we are just beautiful spirits to be seen with, you it's a blessing to be seen out with you, people turning their heads wondering how the hell did he get her how the hell did she get him? You carry an aura that everybody can smell and it's a sweet smell it's a sweet smell, so man one of our most powerful ways, one of our most powerful ways y'all to be their worst nightmares to idealize ourselves the way we admire them, the way we admired our own our own narcissistic family members, so many of us have done so much for our families have done a lot have given so much praise you've honored those mothers and those fathers so so righteously so truly so purely and yet they continue to spit on your face they continue to to push you down when you're down they continue to you know criticize you you're still not enough nothing you do is enough nothing you give is still not enough so when are you gonna put into yourself when are you gonna pay attention to how highly empathetic you are some of us we we we've programmed ourselves to be so empathetic that we put ourselves last still and we subconsciously do it we don't even realize we're doing it sometimes part of our healing journey is working on some of these things recognizing some of these things and working on it and taking our power and knowing when to say no and learning to really look in the mirror and admire ourselves and learning to stop criticizing ourselves so much if you're anything like me and you grew up with narcissistic parents oh my god thank you brother oh is that my brother man hi good to see you tonight red man and then you came in and showed me some love i love you right back i love you right back red man thank you so much it's good to see you tonight for real but yeah gosh you threw me off goodness don't be doing that don't be doing that while i'm talking you guys are such a blessing in my life man i really appreciate you guys so much y'all don't even know when y'all do stuff like that i'll be so touched i'm sitting here talking about how empathetic we are y'all doing that to me oh lord y'all are so beautiful no but seriously though we're so empathetic and um we gotta recognize when to really fall back on that we gotta recognize when to really say no we gotta recognize how to talk good to ourselves that's where i was at compassion having compassion for ourselves you know being around narcissistic family members and growing up in that environment it taught me to be very highly critical of myself highly critical of myself till this day i still struggle with that a little bit. I do. It's little things that I feel I have to be so perfect at. I'm still catching myself in little ways and little things. I'm like, man, no, no, no, no, no, no. I don't gotta be perfect. I don't gotta be perfect. I approve of myself. I approve of myself. That's something I've been trying to program into my mind because that is freedom. Freedom is knowing that you are more than enough. Freedom is knowing that you don't need nobody to validate you. That's one of the things we learned in yesterday's video in part one we don't need nobody to validate us we need to validate ourselves so idealizing ourselves like we admire the narcissist it's a power it's a it's a oh it's powerful tool for us y'all we'll forever be a nightmare to a narcissist if we can really come off as people of confidence to know that we are strong and we we are valued and to understand ourselves and our own value that's so strong because like I said they they made our strengths look like our weaknesses and a lot of us have accepted that a lot of us have so many limited beliefs in our lives because we have accepted what a narcissist told us we've accepted what our narcissistic mothers or fathers told us or what our narcissistic siblings told us and we've carried it along in our lives and it's hurting us setting us back from so much you know all the ridiculing narcissistic families um our our family households is those households where you get ridiculed and it's normal it's normal it's normal to to call each other names at home it's normal the narcissistic family dynamic where they pick on a particular child usually the scapegoat the black sheep you know you're not only abandoned you're not only ignored but you're picked up making you feel like you're just so flawed like nothing you do is good enough except maybe getting straight a's or or something something crazy like that doing something that that parent just really really wants to see you know they train you they train you but it's an it's an exhilarating freedom when you learn to admire yourself idealize yourself this is not saying go and be cocky no absolutely not this is saying learn how to accept yourself learn how to love who you are so a narcissist can't never come nowhere and tell you who you are or tell you who you gotta be and how you gotta be or can't nobody come and try to you know sweep you off your feet from looks one of the things I struggled with in in my life was my looks my weight feeling like I had to look a certain way to be accepted or to be liked feeling like I had to enhance what I already have because that's what I was trained to believe growing up so so I took that into relationships so now in relationships I'm idealizing my man based off of certain certain things putting you on a pedestal if you look good I'm constantly telling you how fine you are constantly reminding you how cute you are constantly praising you for accomplishments constantly just trying to make you feel high trying to make you feel you know like you're the man which I can't say is it's a bad thing but to be so empathetic and to be traumatized the way that I've been it became a little excessive in my relationships I almost made every narcissist in my life feel like they was the ---- a little a little too entitled I gave you a little too much space I made you feel a little too big you know what I mean to the point where you felt like you could walk all over me treat me like your doormat a little too kind says sister Shirley Gonzalez you know to the point where you felt like you could bring people in my house and use me as well because you just think that I'm just that nice I idealized you so much that while you were out you could not stay committed because I told you how fine you are you know I may have I may have even went as far as to letting you do certain things with me sexually I'm keeping it real tonight we can we idealize them in so many different ways that's why I said the little things it could have been sex you could have made that person feel like King Kong from doing certain things for them and with them sexually you could have idealized them in ways that you didn't even know you know was going to come back and affect you down the road in the relationship because now they feel like you have to keep that momentum the way you started you got to keep it coming they expecting you to get with the program if you idealized the fact that they've had a lot of relationships how can we be surprised that they ended up cheating or they end up with a new supply we idealized them so much that we ignored a lot of red flags about them we ignored the fact that they had a pimp mentality we ignored the fact that they had a you know a threesome mentality it was never going to be just about you guys it was always it was always going to be somebody else because they never really wanted to just be in a in a relationship with just one person but we idealized them so much we might have ignored all those type of signs so now we reverse it to become their worst nightmare instead of putting ourselves on the back burner instead of you know letting them know how how how how much you think you know congratulations for this and congratulations for that don't even don't even acknowledge them For those of you living with them, they come home with a new achievement. Don't even acknowledge it. Idealize yourself. Don't give don't give praise like you used to turn around and go praise yourself. Ignore ignore everything that they're trying to act like they're doing something good. Turn up your music on them and dance around the house and idealize yourself. Because while you're sitting in the house with them, they're trying to kill you. They're trying to keep you from loving on yourself. they're trying to keep you from going out and and being your best self so reverse it admire yourself right in their face wake up and say things out loud say say positive affirmations that idealize you post-narcissistic abuse this is what you want to do every day wake up every day look at yourself and say things to yourself I love you just saying that right now just made my heart smile because I saw I looked at myself when I said it I've been practicing this so it's like it's it's man this is such a valuable tool that self-love piece to embrace it now is everything this is what's going to build your strong armor this is what's going to be your guard against narcissists y'all to see your own light and your own value this is so powerful this is so powerful for us to wake up and actually be like, man, I'm actually the one that's brilliant. I'm actually smart as hell. I'm actually intelligent. I am charming. I am creative. I am love and love is all around me. Beauty and beauty is all around me. I am joy and joy is all around me. I am peace and peace is all around me. That's my language. That's how I talk to myself. That's what I'm working on. I'm trying to reprogram those negative thoughts. I'm trying to reprogram a lot of things that a narcissist programmed about me. I will forever remain their worst nightmare because I'm always know who I am and when a narcissist smells that about you they know you're not to be messed with. They know you are not to be messed with. So many of us can save ourselves the heartbreak and the heartache of dealing with a narcissist if we can really stand firm in who we are from the beginning because they are afraid of that and they hate that Elisa Williams oh thank you so much you guys tonight y'all are oh thank you so much she said thank you for what you do you have helped me so much your story is my story and I pray that for the rest of your life only the best things come to you sending you love sweet lady Alisa Williams thank you so much oh I love you guys thank you thank you so much that was that was everything that was everything I really appreciate that love tonight y'all um but seriously tell yourself you know like damn I'm I'm the sex god because a lot of y'all y'all taught the narcissist how to have sex wake up and tell yourself that I am the ---- that's me admire yourself admire yourself man admire yourself like you did them because so many of you you admired them, Angel Gonzalez said, "I did, mommy," yeah, I admired and I boasted confidence, man that's just what I do naturally but when I'm with you, if you my man baby, I might sing you to sleep if you having a bad day, I might, I might sing you to sleep, rock you to sleep, and all the other x-rated stuff, talk about putting somebody on the pedestal, talk about high admiration, and then let's not talk about holidays, the things that I'ma do for you, father's days and birthdays and christmases and all of that, you talk about gift giving, even on my broke days I'm giving the best, talk about highly admiring, so now idealize yourself, buy yourself all of that, spend money on yourself, man, take care yourself seriously, Darren said, "Damn, I'm not even trying to let me be good, let me be good, all right let me drink some water and be good so serious, like if you feel me, give me a thumbs up, like that's just what it is, that's just what it is, y'all, like we're not sitting here hurting about these people, because I mean we're not sitting here hurting about them for nothing, we really was, we was all in, we did a lot for y'all men, I can't, I can only imagine the things that y'all did for y'all, for y'all ladies, I can only imagine some of the things that y'all did for these women man like forget paying bills, I'm talking about foot massages, I'm talking about coming home to cook meals, feed me baby, sit me on your lap and feed me baby, what, idealize me, I'm talking about worshiping the ground you walk on, some of y'all are real passionate lovers like that, we idealize the hell out of these folks, are you kidding me? That's why I hurt to be devalued, that's why I hurt to put somebody on that pedestal and treat them like that and make them, you know, put them on top of it your world and give be the best thing they could have ever had be the one person in this world who would have ever done anything and everything for them, give them the best of the best of the best me ******* mad, Lynise Williams says I could have showed that one passion, I could have showed that one position jerk plenty of tricks but he wanted the streets, thank God I dogged those STDs girl listen, listen, listen, I'm gonna just leave that right there, I'm gonna just leave that right there for real, because seriously we idealized them and one of the things we did, it was sexual, we just gonna keep it real, oh we just gonna keep it all the way, 1000, all this empath talk, it comes with other traits, empaths, you know we make, we make good companions and good partners for the reason for all kind of reasons man, sex is on top of that list, don't get it twisted, don't play with us don't play with us, i idealized you and made you feel like a king, i made you feel like that ninja i made, i did that, so now i'm gonna put all that energy on me, i'm gonna put all of that energy on me, Casey said once you catch an STD from your man your trust goes out, girl listen, once you catch a narcissist cheating, they will never trust you again, okay you'll never be trusted again, you are now the cheater, you are now the this and that and the third, sick asses, Mika Love was in that situation ship and still was alone, might as well be by yourself without the headache and disrespect and everything that comes with a narcissist not for real, the times have changed, it's getting really weird out in the world, says Yvonne, we have to be really careful in this day and time, yeah we do yeah we do, but my third, my third, um, my third one on the list tonight y'all, we gotta starve them of our attention, this is our third and to me probably up there on the list, starve them of your attention and i'm dead serious, you want to be a narcissist's worst nightmare, starve them of your attention starve them of your attention, i'm telling you this is a powerful way to remain and to become their worst nightmare when you start to see that this person is a narcissist and they've been hiding under a mask, starve them of your attention, starve them of your attention, act like you don't even see them no more act like you don't even know them no more block delete ghost disappear whatever you gotta do you just gotta do it starve them of your attention if you living with them heavy on the ignore mode heavy on that gray rocking mode heavy on that yeah yeah yep yeah all day i don't even hear it i don't even see you i don't even feel you i'm not concerned about what you want to eat what you want to do i really don't care starve them of your attention because narcissists choose people to be in their lives because of the supply that they that they want from them. That's it. That's it. The supply that you have to offer is all they looking for. There's nothing else that they're going to value about you There's nothing else that they really care or want from you. They don't really care about anything else that you have to offer. And once you know that, you have to starve them of your attention Like for real, for real. That means taking away your sex too. While we were on the topic of sex, taking that away. That's a major supply for a lot of narcissists you know you're just an energy source to meet their need your your emotions your reactions you know um your personal information anything anything that feeds or enables their abuse that's that's all they care for so we have to starve them of their attention we have to starve them of their attention shirley gonzalez says i'm good at that they are they are demons keep them away from me dirty demons starve that demon out somebody says yeah starve them out starve them out starve them of your attention like seriously somebody says once you see god there's no one to put on a pedestal absolutely if you can go no contact absolutely do it in Jesus name says brother hype man nerd for the word absolutely Alisa Williams says I love hard but when I'm done I'm burnt okay nah but for real like but for real but for real as much as we love hard y'all ain't nothing like being done ain't nothing like an empath that's over it like man there's nothing like being done you become a different person you become somebody they were never expecting they never thought you would block them they never thought you would move away they never thought you would file a divorce like yeah being done we the real definition of being done ain't no games we're we're not in we're not gonna be trying to reverse hoover you and all that we don't care we're not looking for you we're super uninterested sitting somewhere completely unbothered completely unbothered being starving them of your attention it gives you a chance to be gentle with yourself honestly it gives you a chance to be gentle with yourself being give you a chance to praise yourself everything you just have been lacking all of this time while you've been dealing with this person you know every time every time every time um you deny the narcissist of your gratitude empathy secrets opinions engagement interest or opinion or openness praise yourself but you have to starve them of all of that starve them of of conversation stop telling them your business stop telling them your plans stop telling them your visions those narcissistic family members starve them of your attention answer calls based on on how you want to answer when you want to answer or not at all starve those aunties those grandmas those mamas of your attention auntie uh Angel Gonzalez says her auntie she accused me of stealing her auntie's panties and they checked my clothes and back and found and found nothing ain't find a mofo thing what panties they accuse you of stealing panties madame pockets madame pocket said i got one now pissed the f off that i gracefully moved around with kindness she's trying to come for my job as we speak i'm on my way to court to the courthouse to initiate a restraining order enough is enough that's crazy that's crazy because you moving around you starving her of your attention you ain't falling into those games and you ain't texting back and you ain't looking for her and you ain't doing none of that goofy um clown clown act crap you know you're not you're not trying to be a part of that narcissistic circus no more so she mad and she's acting wild and she's getting crazy that's a that's a narcissistic personal problem that's a narcissistic personal problem seriously i have nothing to say to his whole family but i did tell his mom he is a narc it felt good it felt good look honey your son is a narcissist i can't do this no more bye somebody asked me what did i cook today man today i made some baked chicken with some um with some sauteed uh cabbage and some green beans a little white rice nothing major that was hours ago though that was nothing major today but you guys narcissists are emotional vampires y'all you gotta starve them of your attention because if you don't they'll keep pulling you into their their their little their long-winded pointless and useless arguments you know these these pointless conversations that just keep going in circles that come back to you being the fault you being at blame you being the problem man come on like don't nobody have time for that Madame Pocket said i found out her and her mom were talking down on me real bad and just left no confrontation just dips and they hot about it shaking my head these people real crazy why would y'all be mad that i left y'all talking about nuts yo that's why you gotta be done that's why you just got to get up out of there you just got to just be like you know what i just can't do it i just can't do it i just can't do it karen say say i say kano oh i've seen that you said i regret nothing that i gave to him one gives one one gives what one has in one's heart yeah nothing there's nothing to be regretted i don't regret nothing honestly i really don't i'm just salty i'm just hurt about um certain things you know you know just the disappointment aspect and but when i look at it i mean i don't i don't regret it because i know who i am i know i would have i would have done it for anybody it's you know what i mean it's who i am it's just it's just who i am you guys it was really nice talking to y'all but um i really want y'all to understand these three things these are power tools for us um we gotta remain beasts we gotta remain um strong in who we are we gotta we gotta always stay strong so that we can continue to be their worst nightmare so that they don't continue to use and trick us anymore so they don't abuse us anymore um so that when they do come around we can easily pick them out figure them out and dissect them and then slash them and then send them about their way um because all they want to do is is suck you dry emotionally get you upset and watch you lose your composure this is this is like it's like they get a thrill out of this so this is why i left off on number three with starving them of your attention because your attention giving your attention to a narcissist will get you in trouble it'll get you in trouble and they keep you it'll keep you stuck it'll keep you stuck it'll make them think that you're still interested in being a part of their narcissistic cycle so you don't want no parts of that starve them don't fuel their bottomless craving for attention don't do it starve them so you guys these are my top three today number three starving them of your attention two idealizing yourself and now admiring yourself like you did the narcissist and then number one devaluing the narcissist up here in your mind and then let it trickle down into your heart and into your soul so that you can be done and just just never look back not interested to look back don't care to look back just focused on you doing you and moving forward just peacefully joyfully happily keeping it pushing period period that's all i got y'all they take and they take and they take yeah man like come on that's all they do they take and like you get tired of that you get tired of that so much love to you guys so much love thank y'all for all the love tonight all the support it's been so great to be here with y'all i appreciate the engagement the feedback all the comments thank you all all of y'all are so beautiful um it was great i will see you guys next time continue to stay true continue to stay blessed continue to fight this fight because you are a narcissist's worst nightmare you're gonna continue to be as long as you are watching me on YouTube oh you're gonna you're gonna you're gonna stay strong because i'm i'm i'm i'm with the shits i'm about that life we're not letting these people crush us they've done enough they've done enough and we coming we coming hard we coming strong all right y'all until next time beautiful people