THE NARCISSIST IS NOT HAPPY ABOUT THE DISCARD!

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I am so sorry in advance for those people who are not going to make this live. what's up people what up beautiful people this is your girl mommy so true who i gotta get my hands clean before i start this one y'all look oh because i'm about to get them right back dirty you guys and but anyways before i jump in though hello from from wherever you are or hello to you wherever you are all over the world man so many beautiful people out there over everywhere across across all kinds of seas you guys are watching and i'm so grateful for all of you today um you guys i know this is not my scheduled live so i'm doing a quick check in today because this is in my spirit at the moment and i'm itching to talk about it so i just wanted to jump in and see you know whoever's available you're available and i'm thankful that you are It's probably meant that you catch this word right now because I'm talking about the fact that the narcissist is not happy about discard and this is not for everybody okay my my quick simple disclaimer this may not be for you I may not be speaking to you but for so many this is this is you this is you because um it's the reality of it the discard is a very painful phase and it's very unexpected most times. So we're going to talk about why the narcissist actually ends up unhappy about the discard, actually ends up miserable during the discard phase. You guys, let's get right into it. I am going to jump right in and talk about this today. The narcissist is not happy about the discard. So first of all, I'm going to start by telling you or reminding you, don't forget how the narcissist idealized you so much in the beginning. They idealized you so much in the beginning that they secured you to the public. They bragged about you so much. They call this the love bombing phase, but they're in that phase. They're doing everything they can do to get you hooked. And that involves talking about you, calling that best friend and bragging about you, calling their parents, their family members, talking about you, pulling up to family members homes to show you off. They were so into you at first that they talked about you, said great things about you. It starts so happy and so dandy in the beginning when you meet a narcissist because they're busy telling everybody it's true love. They boasting about you, telling them how amazing of a person that you are. Oh my God, they made their family and their kids fall in love with you. Yeah, that's all part of the idealizing phase that's happening a lot during love bombing. Whatever they can do to attract you and to keep you. And one of those things is to idolize you. Idolization is one of the ways narcissists gets into our lives. One of the ways they hook us. One of the ways they get us in. They make us feel like we're seen. They make us feel like we're being heard by somebody that actually cares about us they they give you a certain connection and make you feel so surreal about it and you you hang on to that in the beginning it feels so magical and some narcissists actually invest in you they invest time they invest money they give things, they buy things, they idealize you so much that they end up overly investing in you not even realizing why they were trying to set you up, that they were leaving you with tools to make you The narcissistic parent does this as well. The narcissist is used to treating you as an object. You're just an image to a narcissist. The parent loves you because of what they can talk about. Oh, their daughter has accomplished X, Y, and Z. Their son is a major league X, Y, and Z. Something to brag about. It's all about image. It's all about what you look like, how you make them look and in the beginning you add it to the image in the beginning you made it look so good, you made it look so sweet, the narcissistic parent attempts to create an extension of themselves and they become obsessed with that, they spend their entire life creating and molding you into what they want you to be and they're boldly talking about it when you're still their puppet. They're boldly, you know, sharing what they want to share when they want to, whatever makes them look good. They only talk about you when you leave. They only talk about you when you're no longer interested in being their dump. Like I said, y'all, for a narcissist, it's all about image. How you make them look, it's all about that. What they can say about you to be looked at as a great parent, a great wife, the best of the best of the best, they're gonna say it, you have some narcissists that lie about the status of the people in their lives just to look a certain way, idealizing creating this, this fantasy world, a world full of lies, you only look good to a narcissist when you're blind to their manipulation, you only fit in their perfect fantasy world when you didn't know what a narcissist is, when you don't know what they are, but then you mess around and you learn, you mess around and you wake up and you see things for what they are, mentally the narcissist plans your discard especially when they notice that you're too strong for them so many of us are hurt by the discard we don't see it coming it's a huge slap in the face and we're surprised because they plot and they plan a long time ago they started plotting the discard because you showed strength a long time ago. They knew that you were their biggest nightmare a long time ago. You just didn't know that you were dealing with a narcissist. You didn't know that you were setting boundaries. You didn't know that that's what it was called. They made you think that maybe you were doing too much. Maybe you talk too much. Maybe you're always defending yourself too much. No, what you were doing was setting personal boundaries. So eventually it led to being discarded in this relationship with this narcissist. They change how others look at you during discard. We call it the smear campaigns. Narcissists smear your name. They aim to destroy your name, especially during discard. Why? Because discard is a time of embarrassment for the narcissist. The narcissist is not happy about the discard. Things get real ugly when it's that time. whether whether you discarded them or they discarded you but the fact that you're gone the relationship is over things are about to get ugly and honestly the narcissist is not ready for this so that's why they panic that's why they panic and act very cowardly and start talking about the narcissist is more interested in how people are looking at them than standing 10 toes down on the truth about what's really going on so instead of being honest and taking accountability a narcissist will literally lie create stories create a different version of what's actually happening lie about what type of a mother you really were what type of a father you really are so that people will look at you differently look at you crazy point fingers at you all to protect image changing how others look at you after they told the world you were their soulmate it's all to avoid shame and honestly speaking a narcissist does not really avoid shame when they smear campaign because people with common sense can see right through smear campaigns there's a lot of people that the narcissist is trying to smear your name about and these people know you they they know you they've watched you grow up they went to school with you they know you so no matter what this person tries to tell them they know the real you and and in return it makes them look at the narcissist like something is not right here and narcissists are so smart they're actually stupid try to smear campaign you and end up looking really really crazy in the end all to avoid the truth narcissists cannot stand the truth and are doing anything to avoid the truth and during discard the truth starts to come out they got to do anything they can do to prevent that by the time discard phase hits it's it's pretty obvious in a lot of situations what's going on if you have people in your life that know you and pay attention by the time discard phase hits it's pretty obvious you've been going through something and for those of you that don't have that effect by the time discard hits you look crazy it's it's it's it's very apparent in your physical there's something that's going on you look drained you don't appear happy and nine times out of 10, you're probably isolating yourself, staying away from anybody and everybody that could possibly know you. Many narcissists fear how somebody is going to look at them. This is a true fear for narcs. They're not happy during the discard because in a lot of ways, the discard represents that they've failed. They have failed and the narcissist is so crazy about how they look to people how they look to outsiders that narcissistic parent is so interested in how everybody looks at them how everybody judges them during discard it might look like maybe they're a bad parent these people are not happy about the discard it's embarrassing it's embarrassing and it's frightful to know that somebody might be actually telling the truth now the person i used to control the person i used to be able to isolate and keep from the truth is now accessible to the public they can now start telling everybody how this was all a joke how it all looked good but it's not good at home how it smells rosy but it's it's very funky at home they go in complete panic mode and panic attack that's why they act crazy during discard the narcissist is not happy about discard they are not happy about discard they have to save their image and that's hard work It was hard trying to get you in. It was hard trying to reel you in in the beginning. It was hard idolizing you how they did because it was fake to keep up with all that, to get you in and to trap you. And now all this time went by and the relationship got rocky, rocky enough for them to let you go, rocky enough for them to lose you and led all the way up to this discarding phase, this discarding word, a breakup, a breakup with a narcissist. It's completely toxic. It's painful. it's toxic you're not leaving you're not leaving on good terms you're not you're not walking away like mature individuals ending a relationship you're going down and they're going down with all kind of chaos and nine times out of ten it was all caused by them nine times out of ten they're walking away from children that they've created children who look up to them children who admire them because these children are so innocent in this situation they still look at that narcissistic parent and want their foolish selves in their lives oh my daddy don't even know don't even understand you walked away from your family you walk away from the people who have put time love and effort into you so many of them walked away from a marriage lost a marriage after 20 years 30 years 40 years of knowing you being with you do you know how many people have been paying attention to their life? Do you know how many people have been a part of that marriage that is sitting back watching it all unfold during discard? The narcissist is so smart. They know who's actually paying attention. They know who's not stupid. They know who knew all along that they were actually going to slip. They're not happy about the discard because it proves a lot of people right. That family that idealized you in the beginning, their own family who idealized you do in the beginning, they end up looking stupid because they either knew about it because they're narcissistic as well, or they're sad because this person lost you and now they lost you too. They even knew and expected it. They're not surprised, but they're sorry because they knew you were probably the best thing that ever happened to that family. That family is not happy about the discard. This person has to live their life knowing that their children are wondering, what happened? Where did they go? Why did you lose our stepmom, our stepdad? Why did you lose your wife or your husband? Children may not ask, but they wonder, trying to figure it out. They're not happy about the discard. So many of us have to walk away from narcissistic situations where we're leaving children behind, children who needed us, children who depended on us, children whose lives were better because we were in it. We invested in them. Our presence made a difference in their life now without you the narcissist has to sit there and look at that child probably if the child was not yours now they're stuck single parent again don't know what to do with that child because they're a narcissist now they got a smear campaign you tell everybody how you abandoned them you left them and you did this and the third when the truth is you hung around you did what you could and this narcissist put you out the door the truth is you begged and you pleaded and you warned them about you and they still played with you and you had to abandon them abandon those kids abandon the family and now they gotta live with that they gotta live with that they busy smearing your name and talking about you because they have to appear to look like the saint in the situation they have to promote these false narratives get all these flying monkeys involved because they have to protect the false narrative the last thing any narcissist wants to do is feel embarrassed, look embarrassed, and sound like they cannot hold a relationship together, sound like they messed up the relationship. They can't even face the truth in court. A narcissist will destroy you in front of judges, in front of the courtroom, because they can't face the truth. We have to understand that to pretend and to constantly pretend and lie and to constantly keep up with lies and to constantly act up to keep up with your lies is exhausting. It's a lot of work and they do not like to work. They put in even more work during the discard than they did trying to trap you in the relationship, trying to get you in the relationship, trying to keep you hooked for the relationship. They got to work a million times harder because number one, they're working to prove that you're somebody that you're not. They lying on you. They're not giving you your credit. They taking you through all these legal battles making you fight for everything this is exhausting this takes a lot of planning a lot of time and as evil and as malicious as a narcissist can be this means they're losing sleep they already cannot sleep now they gotta they gotta stay up all night trying to create hell during the discard, this is a lot, this adds to their already insane through the roof anxiety, this is a lot, they already paranoid about their life, they already hate their life, this is a lot, this requires more deception, this requires more acting and even worse of all, this requires them having to set a higher expectation for the new supply and the new supplies, this is why they go through hell this is why they catch hell, narcissist is not happy about discard, it's a lot of work to discard you, it's a lot of work to try to make you look bad and if you've been isolating this whole time and they don't believe you. These folks know. They know you're not the crazy one. A lot of them act like they believe the narcissist because they're scared of the damn narcissist. People listen to smear campaigns and ride that smear campaign wave because they're scared of the person who is smearing you during the campaign. They're scared. The narcissist is not happy about the discard. That's why they put in so much time, effort, and energy into a new supply. They lie to the new supply about you, they set up this whole situation about you, how you wasn't this, how you wasn't that you didn't do this, you wasn't that, make it seem like it's because of you they're walking away because of you they're leaving their own kids sad to say but they're doing it, they're not happy about this discard, how can you be, can you be, it's going to take a lot of work to discard you after all the work you just put in to get you involved the way you've been involved, it's going to take a lot of lying which takes a lot of energy to convince people that this is your fault, it didn't work, but they're a narcissist, they're gonna ride that wave and exhaust themselves they're gonna add to their paranoia that's why they can't be happy with the next person because they're busy trying to make you suffer in discard because they're suffering they're not happy about the discard they're not happy about the discard at all this adds to their narcissistic tendencies you've injured them even if they discarded you it's an injury nine times out of ten they discarded you and they ruined the relationship because they're a narcissist and they had no choice ain't the lights went out there was a storm today that's what made me get on live it's just been a weird friday i'm like what's happening today you know what i'm gonna get on live i'm gonna get on live because that's the devil the devil is messing with me and i ain't gonna allow it and i know if i'm feeling like that i got some warriors and some some some thrivers and survivors who probably feeling like that and many of them are feeling like that because of discard being discarded going through a discard surviving the discard preparing for a discard because you bought the discard them happy about the discard y'all because discard phase y'all it's time for them to really get into their narcissist mode it's time for them to really get into being the narcissist that they are the mask completely slips during discard they really show their true colors during they show their true colors during discard and when they're going through that all hell is going is breaking loose mentally they're starting to hear voices now now the devil is making them want to commit suicide because the discard makes a narcissist feel like a complete failure now they're suicidal and they're so narcissistic they got to pretend to be suicidal so the next person can like them just like they did to you I want to kill myself. I hate myself. My life sucks. Make up all these crazy, pitiful stories so the next person can like them. Feel sorry for them. Open their arms to them. They hate to discard because it's time to go in survivor mode. It's time to lie some more so somebody can like you some more. So the next person can like you. The next person will like you even more knowing that you're telling them their ex-wife, ex-husband, or ex-girlfriend or boyfriend mistreated them, mistreated you. Silly, silly, silly. They're not ready for the discard phase like they think they are. It's painful. It's more painful for them than it is for you. We all need partners in life. Partners are for us to have companionship, partnership, fellowship. We all need that. That's why we fall for the narcissist because we think that they are partners in the beginning. We think that they're here to fellowship with us in the beginning, and we fall for their ways. We fall for their tricks. We fall for their lies. But we're so godly, so genuine, so empathetic, so loving, so compassionate, so real, that eventually we wake up and we learn and we see them for exactly what they are. and they start to hate us really hate us and that's why we get discarded we go from being loved and obsessed over to being discarded they go from being obsessed to being on the phone with you all day to blocking you now they blocking you discarding you blocking you packing up moving on with the next person in a heartbeat to discard those so many people off because they don't even see it coming they're like what you got somebody what you marrying somebody what you married somebody what what wait what what what it's surprising it's a crazy feeling oh wow and then here comes the lights it's a crazy feeling the discard hurts you the way it hurts you but it hurts them so much more so much more because while they doing everything they can do during the discard to hurt you they got to keep thinking about you how can you move on with the new supply if you're still worried about me and what i'm doing that's why they stalking they can't even help you they're even more possessed during the discard phase possessively obsessed with you during the discard phase than they were when they were in the relationship with you and this is what they don't want they don't want to be somewhere obsessed with you after you dumped them or they dumped you but they're so narcissistic they can't even help it you such a narcissist you don't even know how to move on you can't move on not only am i the best supply ever on your little supply list there's only one in a million if that one in a lifetime yeah forget a million there's only one in a lifetime only one of you only one person with this fingerprint so that's why you hoover because discard is hard while we're in the discard phase we're healing we're thriving we're trying to move on we're getting better them on the other hand they're going downhill trying to find another you a new you that never works out because everything they're doing with a new supply is a complete joke we all know look at your own story come on now at this point understanding the narcissist is is man if if us survivors and warriors don't have our our NPD PhDs at this point our certificate our certifications boy because we are highly qualified we should know better we should know so much this entity is not happy they can never be how can you be when you live in a delusional world how can you be when you're not realistic you fake you're fake you're so fake you will sit in a marriage for 20 30 40 years and pretend to be there but not there you're fake you're not even existing you you're not even here you're not a real person how can you be happy how can you be happy when you live a life always having to put on a show a clown show at that they don't even get paid to be clowns they are freelancing clowns they work for free they are free working clowns they throw up shows everywhere how can you be happy discard is is the the biggest clown phase the biggest clown phase for narcs you put all that time and energy into building a relationship with somebody just to lose the relationship and you're so sick and evil and wicked that now you got to run the person down who you've been abusing a lot of them get away with it because they've been secretly abusing you but even for them it's exhausting and it costs a lot it costs a lot to keep on smearing you keeping up with you stalking you that's a lot are you keeping up with all this gas gas is high a narcissist will drive miles and miles and miles just to come stalk you you doing all of that you spending all this money that you didn't have when we was together you was broke when we was together now they leave you get discarded oh they making money they making money because they gotta they gotta torture you they gotta find ways to hurt your feelings they gotta find ways to keep hurting you that's why it look like they're doing better after after they left that's why it looks like they're thriving after the relationship that's why they went and get up got a job after the relationship oh now you working yeah damn right you working damn right they working they're a narcissist the discard proves to you that they are narcissists look at what they're doing after they left you now you're somewhere trying to act like mighty mighty Joe Young now you see how you Tarzan now you super dad you posting statuses about children you know now all of a sudden they got photos of things and people that that you didn't even know they had they got pictures of your kids that you didn't even know they had they posting it now during discard to look like a good parent how sick they're not happy about discard they got to make it look good they have to they have to they laid there and had all them kids with you boy they better create some lies you better make you better make me the bad guy for walking out on these children you just had with me what other explanation do you have what other explanation are you going to give you're gonna have to make these children think it was my fault because you really completely destroyed this and you're such a narcissist you're not going to take accountability so what are you going to do lie and keep lying and keep exhausting yourself for the rest of your life with more lies the narcissist the narcissist is not happy about discard they're not happy during discard it ain't nothing to be happy about it ain't nothing to be happy about. There's a whole lot to be ashamed about. Y'all think they're not ashamed? Yeah, they're ashamed. They're ashamed. They are shameful human beings. Everything about them is shameful. They're walking shameful beings. And there's levels to being a narcissist. So there's some that come off as not ashamed or whatever. But discard is a shameful phase because it's a representation that they're failures. It's representation that they cannot do nothing right and they some of them really believe that about themselves that's why they hate themselves they know they're shitty they know they're horrible they got in a relationship with you made you think that their past relationships it wasn't their fault they got dead dirty no they know they're horrible they know what they've done to all their exes they know what they're still doing to people during love bombing phase they know exactly what they're doing to you which is creating a bond in the relationship that they really are never genuinely going to hold on to they know they're users they know they're abusers they know they're not happy with discard because they know that during discard you now have a mind to reflect during discard you're going to sit back think back and realize that you've been conned you've been duped you've been used during discard after you painfully get through the hurt of them leaving you, walking out on you, leaving you stranded. After you get through all of that, you actually see you've been dealing with a whole clown. You've been dealing with a whole demon, a whole snake, a whole unavailable and uninterested being, a selfish, useless coward. They know you sitting at home feeling discarded, feeling empty, feeling sad, but you still in the back of your mind know that you've been dealing with an empty, sad person. The narcissist is not happy about the discard. They can't be. They can't because so many of them are so smart. They know that discard means it's the end for them. They know that they messed up. They know there's no coming back. You're not taking them back. You're not interested. For those of you that end up having to discard them, reverse discard, whatever they call it. That is so painful to a narcissist. They be ready to go die, ready to go kill they self. The narcissist is not happy about discard. Discard means you've abandoned them. One of their biggest fears, you've abandoned them. Discard means you've cut the cord to their control. That's the total opposite of their goal. That's the total opposite of what they want. The narcissist is not happy about discard. discard means that they're defeated they could not they couldn't keep you in control for your whole life discard means that they got to let you go you got to find a new supply because I'm not it I'm not interested in being it I won't be it I refuse to be it I'm done being it if I was it discard means huh silly rabbit tricks are for kids and even kids aren't that dumb you're not gonna keep tricking me because kids after a while you can't even trick them no more you can't keep lying to them no more you can't keep telling them santa is real can't keep telling them there's a fat man with a white beard coming down the chimney to drop off gifts when they're 13 they're gonna be looking at you like or weird as hell dad you're you're retarded but okay that's what this discard looks like you looking at the narcissist like wow you're retarded but okay you looking back at messages where they projected all this onto you you're like man none of this makes sense man you go back to your first text messages with them you realize wow you you never respected me for real you've been talking to me crazy for real since the beginning i've been ignoring real red signs since the beginning you had anger issues since the beginning never take your ass back you've been a demon they're not happy about discard it gives you a chance to really really pay attention and figure them out discard is the reason why narcissist videos are popping up on your screen they're not happy about discard because you done found out who mommy so true is all because you got discarded it hurt so much you had to go find out why does it hurt so much what is going on i feel like i'm dying i can't breathe i need some oxygen discard put you on game to this thing called a narcissist because of discard them hoovers ain't really working not too many of y'all are are falling for the hoovers because of discard you're learning to protect your kids your peace you're learning what trauma bond was and what it is because that's what that love phase was because of this discard you know you just went through something that was not an ordinary experience you just went through something with a real demon you just had a real spiritual encounter with somebody who ain't on on your side of the spiritual world because of this discard you you are running to god running for your life seeking the face of jehovah this discard got you looking like god where are you you gotta exist because what the hell is this how did i just survive this it gotta be because of you i'm making it so because of that i need to really seek you because what the hell is this this entity what am i laying with what did i marry have i given my life and my soul to who am i trusting my world with discard i always say the discard saves so many of our lives as painful as it is to be discarded as painful as it is to discard them walk away turn your back act like they don't even exist as painful as it is it hurts and it's hard it's hard but it has to be done it has to be done to it to it gets to a point where it just there's no other choice they leave you no other choice they leave you no other option and in the back of that sick mind of that narcissist they're not happy about the discard because they know they gotta hoover you one day they walking out acting acting like they don't care they're losing you and they don't see your value and i got somebody better and all that bs but in the sick of their back little minds they know they are losing the best thing that's ever happened to them and they gotta to figure out how they're going to come back from this. For now, I'm going to walk up out of here and pretend to act like I'm good and I'm happy and I'm moving on, but I'm going to come up with a plan because I know I look stupid. This is the narcissist feeling stupid, but keeping a smile. Yeah, I'm an idiot, but I'm just going to look like this because it looks better to look like this than to be seen looking like this because this is my truth. And if I look like this, everybody's going to ask me, what's wrong? What did I do? What really happened? And I may not be prepared to lie about it I may not be ready to lie they might catch me off guard so in order to catch me off guard and to just you know be prepared to lie I'm just gonna have this fake smile keep this fake persona this fake attitude keep this fake new life with this new fake person and act like I'm I'm good so that everybody can leave me alone so everybody can look at that that other person that I hurt because they sitting there looking sad you sitting somewhere looking sad looking confused you're isolating yourself they not even seeing you during this guard because you feel so disgusting, so disgusted, so let down, so hurt, so damaged, so freaking broken, so ripped apart, man. They know you're somewhere looking defeated during this scar. So they got to keep that funky fake smile so you can keep looking crazy on the outside, on the other end, because they're wicked. That's what wicked people do. A wicked person is going to hurt you and then laugh at you. That's the narcissist. Yeah, I hurt you. Yeah, I did all that. But so what? It's your fault anyway, because you're not perfect. That's the narcissist. And because of that wicked thinking, there's consequences that come with that. And so many of them, they know. They know that your light is so bright that if they don't act like they're going to walk away happy, you're going to see how much they're actually unhappy. You're going to notice how miserable they really are. You're going to notice how broke they really have become. They got to kick it up with acting. They can't let you see them slipping. They can't let you see them fall. They got to make sure they somewhere looking rich on social media because they know you know the truth. They know you know how broke they really are. They know you know how much they really don't have nothing. They know you know the real them because you do. That's why you got discarded because you know the real them. You see right through them and they can't stand you for that. That's why they discarded you. They're not happy about the discard though because they know that at the end of the day you you know the truth you know the truth they're not happy about discard because they know that the simple fact that you know the truth that's why you you silently sit back during discard so many of us we just silently sit back at that point we just we just let go and we let God because we know the truth and our truth will always fight for us and the more we're silent the louder they gotta be because they don't know what we're doing. They don't know our moves. They don't know what we're thinking. They don't know who we're really talking to. They don't know what calls we're really making. They don't know what plans we're really coming up with. So they get scared. They panic. And now the already paranoid fool is even more paranoid because they don't know what's coming. They know you can be dangerous too though. So they don't really know what's coming. The narcissist is not happy about the discard. They're not happy about the discard. They think time is a healer. That's why they discard and they they stay silent for months thinking they're being smart by staying silent but end up staying gone so long it gives you time to wake up and heal now you can't come back ever because I know who you are now I'm stronger you left me long you left me so long I got strong I got thick skin now now when you talk it's like I'm listening but I'm not because I know it's all lies. You can't come back and wiggle your way in. You can't come back and idealize me again. Your compliments and your validation is unneeded now. I don't need you. A lot of them know that this is going to be your mindset when the relationship ends. That's why discard hurts and that's why they treat you so bad. They're not happy about discard because they know it's the end of the road for them with you. They know they ain't going to never be able to come back from this. Oh my God. Not needing someone to validate you, that's what healing teaches you. Taking time away from someone who has abused you, hurt you, and taken advantage of you gives you time to heal. It gives you time to love on yourself. It gives you time to pay attention to every aspect of the situation. And as foolish as a narcissist is, they know that because they know they're horrible they know their character sucks their character stinks they know nobody can be with them nobody really really wants to be with them they really know that they pursue relationships hopeful just trying it out they pursue relationships because they're sent on assignment to attack you on a spiritual level so from the beginning they know they're not worthy of your time of they're not they're not worthy of the relationship they know they just hope that they can control you enough condition you know condition you enough and hold on to you long enough for you to keep them right there with you to never let them go to just accept them for who they are narcissists will discard you and try to make you feel bad as if you didn't know how to handle them oh you you lost the relationship or the marriage ended because you didn't know how to do this and you didn't know how to do that you were lacking in this area or that area that's a whole lie. That's a whole lie. Every lie they got to create to look good in the end is worth it to them because it's all about image. It's all about how they look now. Everybody around their circle thinks that they're a great dad. So now that they're losing their wife, how does that look? What do they have to do to make sure that everybody still thinks that about them? It's all about an image to protect that image a new supply comes in they become the new object the new toy because it's all about image they're not happy about discard that's more work they got to put into this new supply this new object this new toy they got to keep this toy shiny they look like they taking care of the new supply because they got to shine they got to keep her polished they got narcissist gets obsessed when they first meet you you're that new toy that new object they over there shining you make sure that make sure it stays nice and polished so everybody everybody sees that i'm still on top of my game i'm still number one i'm still that guy yeah i'm that man i'm that mom i'm that community mom i'm that that church mom that's me super dad yeah it's all about title image they're not happy about this guard because you crushed their image and you made them have the work to create a new one, a better one. Damn. How dare you? How dare you? You guys, I'm coming to the end of my life. I know this was a pop-up live. My official schedule is not set for me to drop lives on Friday nights, but stay tuned. I'm going to announce my new live schedule moving forward i'm still going live mondays at 8 p.m eastern time but i'm adding additional lives more lives as time goes on so thank you so much for those of you who were here tonight for tuning in don't forget to like comment and subscribe if you're new here those of you who are already here with me thank you for being here with me thank you for for being who you are continue to strive continue to thrive on you are a survivor you are a warrior don't you give up You guys, so much love and so much light. Enjoy the rest of your Friday. Keep thriving and just know that that silly, foolish narcissist is not happy about the discard. They're going through it. They're going through it worse than you and they're going to go through it forever, forever. Meanwhile, you just going to go through it for now. After a while, you're going to be so good and that's going to be painful to watch because they're still going to be watching. But we'll continue this another time, you guys. So much love, so much light. Have a blessed night, guys.