Your Mother is Never Going to Change #npd #narcissist #narcissisticmother #narcissisticabuse

You do not need to have a relationship with your mother in order to forgive her for the things she's done to you. Okay, now this video is not for those of y'all who had a lovely relationship with your mother. I'm so happy that your mama was good to you and all that, but this ain't the video I need you to scroll past or don't comment. This is a very sensitive topic and I've built a community here to help people heal, heal from the trauma and pain that their narcissistic mothers and fathers have caused them so when you get in the comment section and start bragging about how wonderful your mom is just know you're a piece of ---- and you're insensitive and cruel and you have no respect for the survivors that are actually still suffering so please if you had a great relationship with your mama i'm happy for you but refrain from commenting and just sit and listen or say something you know to uplift people or else i'm gonna block your ass we live in a very narcissistic society that um enables and enforces narcissism on all of us so you know for instance on holidays like mother's day and father's day we're pressured to buy gifts and flowers and you know to you know say happy mother's day even though our mothers the abusive ones have abused their children and abusive fathers were deadbeats society pressures us to have this toxic loyalty to abusive parents and i don't i don't buy it i'm not with it and then we have our families whether it's your mother's side your father's side of the family or both sides of your family you have millions of narcissists hundreds of millions of thousands of narcissists sprinkled all throughout your family both sides and they too will pressure you and enable you and guilt trip you and gaslight you to stay you know going back to your abusive parents they'll try to make you feel bad when you try to distance yourself from your abusive parents that too is unacceptable and that's something that must change amongst families dysfunctional families will always pressure the victim instead of attacking the abuser in the family and it's got to stop and since your family members don't want to step up and change the generational trauma or dysfunction there's always going to be that one And that one is you. You're going to have to step up and make the change and just know you're going to be pressured with, you know, all this pushback and backlash. You're going to be hated and outcast and smeared. OK, just be prepared. Your family's your family is so comfortable sitting in their own ----, continuing the generational trauma that's been passed down from generation to generation. they're still stuck in their ---- and for you to step out and make a change or try to confront them on their bullshit is going to make all of them uncomfortable but you do it anyway and also there's always a ringleader in your family there's always a head matriarch or head patriarch a male or female figure it may be your grandmother it may be your mother maybe your father but i'm gonna talk about the mothers that are extremely incredibly abusive they're sociopathic uh they they do extensive damage to their children and they continue to do this damage when their children become adults and it should not be tolerated because you know your mother feels this sick sense of entitlement to keep doing it to you over and over again no matter how many times you forgive her so with that said you know because society pressures you and your family pressures you to keep giving your mother chance after chance after chance I'm here to tell you if you keep giving your abusive mother chance after chance you're going to deteriorate hear me and hear me good to be constantly abused emotionally verbally physically sexually whatever to be constantly abused by the person who gave birth to you you put your body into physical distress you understand your body your nervous system becomes dysregulated your body can develop chronic illness autoimmune diseases cancer even um you know your hair could fall out you know you could stop eating due to anxiety or you can overeat there's eating disorders as as you know a form of uh you know dealing with stress coping with anxiety that your mother abusive mother has has created in you just know when you open yourself up to continuous emotional abuse see a lot of people think abuse is just physical no no no no the worst types of abuse is invisible covert emotional abuse when you open yourself up for your mother to repeatedly abuse you after you give her multiple chances you keep forgiving her you keep going back trying to work things out with her and every time she kicks you off the pedestal she kicks you in your back she's cutthroat and she feels like she's entitled to do it because she gave birth to you and nobody could tell her what to do because she's your mother and I brought you into this world listen listen just because she brought you into this world does not give her the right to take you out of this world that's a misconception that toxic narcissistic parents especially the baby boomers and silent generation they came up with that ---- I brought you into this world I'll take you out no no no no no he brought me into this world you were the vessel to deliver me here honey but don't get it twisted he brought me here and he's the only one that can take me out. You're not God, mom. Stop acting like God, mother. But that's the nature of having narcissistic personality disorder. When your parents have the disorder, they have a God-like complex. So they're gonna treat their children like, I brought you into this world, I'll take you out. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. When you get burned enough and you're sick and tired of your mother's bullshit and you decide once and for all, you're gonna cut her off, stay away. And you forgive her when you're good and ready. And when you forgive her, you do it in a silent prayer. You don't have to pick up the phone and call her. You don't have to email her. Do not contact her. You don't need to contact your mother in order to forgive her. You don't have to reconnect or interact with her to forgive her. You can silently say a prayer. You can tell God, I forgive my mother, but I don't want to deal with her ever again. I'm not going to her funeral. I don't care what happens to her. Lord, bring me peace. I want to heal. I'm sick of it. I can't do this anymore. Talk to God. you can forgive her and tell him and that's all you need to do **** your family tell your family to mind their ******* business matter of fact your family can all get cut off anybody that supports your mother and her bullshit they all can get cut off this is not your family to step in and interfere it's a one-on-one battle and the battle becomes three when God intervenes but you got to step up to the plate and make the first move you got to cut her off and be permanent about it and when you forgive her if you decide to forgive her because you don't have to forgive her you do not have to forgive her that's a personal choice between you and god and don't you let nobody pressure you to forgive your mother after everything she's done to you after she's allowed other people to bully and molest you no no no you forgive on your own time but when you do forgive all you gotta do is tell him you don't have to announce it to family you don't have to tell your mama you don't have to pick up the phone email social media cut the bitch off be one and done that's the only way you're gonna have peace because she's never going to change hear me and hear me good your mother is never going to change honey she's actually going to get worse with age she's set in her ways and the abuse is just going to get worse and worse the more that she feels you're going to keep running back to her giving her numerous chances she's just going to crank that abuse right on up because she knows you're a loyal stupid ass dog you're a lap dog that hates to be rejected that's how she's going to ******* treat you cut her off and cut her off for good and when you forgive her if you decide to keep it quiet and personal you just got to tell him you don't have to announce it to the world or on social media you don't have to announce it to your family be one and done you don't have to connect with her or reconcile in order to forgive your mother.