How Narcissistic Parents Cause Eating Disorders in Their Children #narcissist #narcissisticabuse

If your child is fat, it's because you're a bad parent. Having overweight children is childhood. I 100% agree because I was overweight, obese as a child. And my parents being baby boomer parents were very abusive. They were violent. They always got into physical altercations. It wasn't where my father was whooping and beating on my mama and she was screaming and crying. Like my mother fought like a dude. She would fight him right back. So this went on all the time. And just imagine it was me and my brother and sister, me being the oldest child, like that's a lot of anxiety for a child to witness their parents constantly, you know, fist fighting all the time. Add to that, my parents were unstable in terms of our housing. You know, at the time we were living in New Jersey, all I can remember as the oldest child is we moving from one motel low budget motels all over South Jersey not realizing you know when i was a little girl and being obese that um i had an eating problem because i was coping with my anxiety and stress of being you know abused you know my mother was the violent one constantly beating and belittling me fat shaming me as a little girl on top of that witnessing my parents physically fight each other you know so at the time the only comfort and joy I would have is food you know and that's where the emotional eating and overeating came for me and you know my mother caught us asking her asking for food begging for food in anyone's homes grandma whoever next door neighbor we would get beat for that add to that that I have a a physical condition called lip lipoedema. Um, and I've always had lipoedema. I'm just now learning. I've had two surgeries over the last two years to, um, remove a lot of the lipoedema out of my thighs. The lipoedema has been in my legs since I was a little girl. And if you don't know what lipoedema is or lymphedema, it's, it's like really stubborn fat. Like no matter how much you diet or go to the gym and exercise, it will not burn away. It stays, it's like hard fat. It's like this fat that's like in the form of pebbles like really like small pebbles and it stays stored in your legs no matter how much you diet and exercise it just will not go away and that comes from i don't know i they're still doing studies on it but i can sit here and say i've had that condition since i was about seven eight years old i've always had big thighs big legs and i honestly believe it's stress related it's just stress and trauma stored in the body because i was always around violence witnessing seeing my parents, you know, fight each other being beat on and bullied by my mother. So in essence, I do believe that, you know, if children are overweight and obese, it is a form of child abuse and bad parenting. You're hearing it straight from the source. Okay. And you know, you also create psychological problems down the line for your children. If you don't stay on top of their their uh choices in food if you're beating them for being hungry and you know they don't eat but the moment they get their hands on some food they binge eat that's also abuse you know so like i said my parents were baby boomers even my daddy my daddy even though my father didn't physically beat my ass my father would say ---- like you have a pretty face you would be so much prettier if you lose the weight and you know things like that hurt you know even though my daddy didn't beat me he said he would say ---- like that about my body and my weight so i blame both my parents i absolutely think you know it's a it's a form of bad parenting if your child is obese overweight um it's a form of child abuse 100 percent you know um it is the parent's obligation to stay on top of the child's eating habits you know make sure they're not stressed out make sure they're not overeating under eating you know make sure they have a healthy diet and I just feel like you know my parents created a lot of psychological issues that affected me and you know fucked up my eating habits and then my body and my weight was weaponized against me you know they create the issues in my childhood then I was then I was autistic finding out that I you know I'm just now learning I'm autistic on top of my lipedema. I got, you know, thank God that my health insurance paid for the surgeries. I had two surgeries to remove the lipedema out my legs that I've had since I was a little girl. But now I'm also just finding out that I'm autistic. I got a diagnosis from a psychologist. So I'm like, all this went on as a child. No wonder I was obese, overweight. I was eating as a form of emotional comfort. Food was the only thing that comforted me because I was in an unsafe environment all the ******* time. And I blame my parents. So 100% dude is telling the truth. You know, if your children are obese, overweight, it is a sign. It is a huge red flag that it's either bad parenting or a form of child abuse. Either way, get on top of your ----. You know, you are in control of your children and, you know, get them to a nutritionist. You know, if you want them to do better and eat better, stay on top of their, their weight and their diet without punishing them and bullying them and watch what you do and say to your children because that psychological abuse that verbal abuse also can have you know an impact on their eating habits i said what i said