How Your Narcissistic Parents Set You Up to Fail in Life #npd #narcissist #generationalcurse #swb

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You can watch my old videos repeatedly and share them. Okay. All right. So let's, let's get into this video. I'm going to drop a couple of videos and then I'm going to go party for the rest of the day. Cause I love y'all. I want to talk about how your narcissistic mother and father set you up to fail in life. And this is, this is where people, when you understand what narcissistic abuse is everything will make sense everything in your life will fall into place you'll be able to heal properly and and do what you need to do to level up in life and stay there if you have if your mother or father is a narcissist one or the other or both in my case both of my parents are narcissists narcissists well you got to understand what a narcissist is narcissists are basically they're toddlers trapped in adult bodies and when I say a toddler trapped in an adult body what it means is that they are emotionally stunted somewhere in their childhood their early childhood their family whoever raised them was also a narcissist and their parents uh this and I'm talking about your grandparents and your great-grandparents because this is this is dysfunction and generational curses that have been passed down trauma trauma transferring okay one generation transferring trauma to the next generation and that's what happened whoever raised your mother and father they are also narcissistic okay or they're a toxic codependent when a narcissist is a you know narcissism is taught it's you know this is what doctors are saying it's taught but I'm really starting to believe it's it's hereditary in my case I'll talk about both my parents and how they both became narcissists my mother's case my grandmother may she rest in peace my grandmother who I feel and I know for a fact is a covert was a covert narcissist because female narcissists have multiple baby fathers and they have what they do they trap they trap men with pregnancy okay my grandmother may she rest in peace was promiscuous that's the bottom line i don't care who gets mad you know we're going to deal with healing our our family trauma and dysfunction we got to deal with the truth and reality and that's what's wrong with the black community we don't want to deal with the truth you know we just want to sweep ---- underneath the rug and keep passing the ---- down generation to generation but i'm not here for that ---- i i am determined to destroy the generational curse in my bloodline my grandmother may she rest in peace on my mother's side my maternal grandmother was a covert narcissist she had multiple baby daddies and i loved her to death but i now realize that my grandmother was emotionally void narcissists are emotionally void and that is how my grandmother was able to have one baby abandon that baby move forward get pregnant by another man abandon that baby move forward so my mother she gave birth to my mother my mother was a twin she gave my grandmother gave birth to twins um passed my mother off to her grandmother my great-grandmother who raised her and my grandmother abandoned her and moved on got married and started another family created more children and abandoned my mother this is what narcissists do because they are not emotionally connected to their children there's no way i could give birth to a child and abandon my child i don't care how poor or how rough things get for me um and i have been poor i have been homeless my baby stayed on my hip me and my baby have been in homeless shelters there's no way i'm abandoning my child not not no way so my grandmother abandoned my mother and my great grandmother raised my mother and just like you know like nothing my grandmother moved on got married and started another family so because my grandmother had was was emotionally my grandmother was emotionally disconnected from my mother even though she gave birth to her my mother bonded with her grandmother who raised her and my great-grandmother who I feel possibly could have been a narcissist as well I don't know because she died when I was a little girl and I did not have time to analyze her personality spoiled my mother and this this you know spoiling a child uh creates a monster when you create when you spoil a child give the child too much you do not teach the child healthy boundaries when you spoil a child you are actually teaching a child to be self-entitled and very self-centered and that the world evolves around him and her and if they don't get what they want they're going to throw a hissy fit so because my grandmother abandoned my mother my mother's grandmother compensated the void by spoiling my mother thus creating a narcissist my mother grew up repeating that dysfunction she became self-centered self-entitled and narcissistic so now my mother gives birth to me and my siblings and instead of her being a better mother than what her mother showed her being a loving nurturing caretaker she transferred her trauma and pain and she took it out on her children so yes she may have been a provider financially kept a roof over our head even though we lived in motels but she was never ever emotionally she was gone she was never a nurturer she was never loving she was never supportive my mother is all about financial I gave you a roof a roof over your head I did I did the best I could, that's what they say you you know your mother fathers are narcissists when they say you know I did the best I could, no you did not do the best you could because I would have taken love and nurturing over the financial stuff any day and i don't have that type of relationship with my child me and my daughter have a loving loving every day i wake up i tell my daughter i love her i tell my daughter she's beautiful i support her uh endeavors whatever her goals are i'm not kick i was kicked out of the house and as a teenager i had to learn to survive as a teenager I will never kick my daughter out the house uh you know just to be vindictive I'm going to help my daughter you know get on her feet and transition so she can survive and not mess her credit up and and and different things things that I didn't my mother didn't teach me I had to learn in college my girlfriends had to teach me even about my hygiene so when you have a narcissistic parent they do not teach you survival skills they want you to be codependent they never want you to leave home they want to maintain that control over you so my mother transferred her pain and trauma onto her children thus repeating the cycle of dysfunction she was never loving she was never nurturing matter of fact that she did a lot of cruel things to triangulate her children against each other i'll give you an example one Christmas you know because she's trained my sister to be the golden child my sister is also a narcissist my sister is a duplicate of my mother and my mother specifically trained my sister to be a a complete copy carbon copy of my mother same personality same habits same gold gold digger lifestyle my sister is the exact replica of my mother my sister is a narcissist me and my brother were the scapegoat children we were beat uh molested abused bloody brutally beaten everything we had a very violent trauma trauma-based childhood and my mother will not acknowledge that now my father uh his mother beat the bloody crap out of him as well and his brothers had anxiety issues my other uncle he wet the bed there was a lot of violence because my paternal my grandmother and grandfather on my father's side were violent and they were violent in front of their children and they there was no emotion you know hey you know they they might have been raised in a home where food and everything was provided but the nurturing was not there so my father passed down his trauma onto his children because he did not he he was not financially responsible he abandoned his financial responsibilities when he divorced my mother he took his pain out on his children because you know in order to hurt my mother so your parents will not give you the survival skills when they are narcissistic they will not teach you how to be independent on your own because they really want to maintain control over you well into your adulthood and when you break free from your parents they're going to hate you because you are taking away their control when you're a young when you're the scapegoat child and you're a young child your parents there's a term for this is it's called parentification parentification is when a narcissistic mother or father dumps all the responsibility on their young child to be the parent it's like you're the third parent in the family you have to take care of your siblings you you you know you can't you miss your childhood because you're too busy playing adult caretaker you you uh this is where we learn to have no boundaries y'all this is where we learn in our childhood that we are to put everyone's needs before ours this is where we learn to be doormats and people pleasers because mommy and daddy has trained us to take care of everyone else except ourselves so of course when you grow up you're going to attract abusers and users how would you know any better when you have been programmed to be a ******* doormat by your mother and father of course you're going to attract toxic abusive men and women in your life and they're going to walk all over you because the behavior has been normalized in your childhood. Your parents have normalized you being a doormat. You are to take care of your siblings and you are to do this and your parents are greedy. If you get a job, I worked two jobs in high school. My mother took all my paychecks. I never could spend my money in the mall and go shopping with my friends. When I worked in high school, my mother took my paychecks from me. Financially controlling, financially abusive. So this is how a narcissistic mother and father they set you up to fail in life they set you up to be in toxic relationships they know that you're you're going to get in a relationship with an abuser and when that abuser destroys you your parents know you're going to have to run back home to them and they get to regain that control in your adulthood you got to break free from a toxic narcissistic mother and father and i mean relocate move move far away distance yourself and become a better parent train your children love your children be emotional emotionally available to your children do not repeat what your parents have have shown you and demonstrated to you it is toxic and it is not normal break that generational curse y'all have a blessed day