Letting Go of Comparison & Embracing Peace - Celes Reflection

I feel like the moment you compare your pace, and you compare your journey compared to that of someone who appears to be doing well. Because most of the time, you compare him to a person who is like you Below you, you will always compare yourself with someone who is ahead of you so you end up feeling like you're not doing anything, you end up feeling like You're not moving as expected. you end up feeling like Oh, you're worthless, end up Feeling like oh, Sasa Mini, you're about to leave the world behind People, oh what's going on? That is why we are doing this episode today. because you are enough exactly as you are, right where you are at this very moment is where you're supposed to be So you're comparing yourself with someone else. That's what we want to stop doing. Thank you for the gift, Welcome back for Seles Reflection I have no words, I have no words, And I am so grateful, I am so grateful. In case you have forgotten everything, Thank you so much for always tuning in every Wednesday. Every Wednesday, Muna tunes in for Seles. Friday, tune in for, by the way, Thank you so much, I truly appreciate it. Juneza was coming with a basket and was carrying it, In the morning, I couldn't even see a single view. But for the few of you, For many of you who show up every Wednesday, take it from me, I am so, so grateful, and I pray to God, may the next episode be fair. I know, even if I am wrong. I mean, I can only give you strength, you know, that's all I can say. Anyway, today I have a challenge Today I'm challenging you I know last week Nika wafanya dedication You're doing money matters again I made a mid-year financial reflection So here I am, today I'm giving you a challenge A challenge that may seem easy At the same time, you're not sure if it's easy; it might be hard. So we are doing it; I'm going to challenge you for 30 days. Thirty days without comparison, yeah. So, 30 days without comparing yourself. To anyone else, it's like comparing your business, Mind your own business, and stop comparing your pace to anyone else's. Today I am taking on a challenge, and this challenge is not mine alone. It's for both of us, me and you. I, Julaina, have been feeling down lately, and I want to start therapy. Hadi sahi, the last Wednesday of the month, Today we are doing a challenge titled "30 Days Without Comparison." Yes, 30 days without comparison, so in short, in August. Whatever, even if it's August, I still have all the videos. And maybe you struggle with, you know, comparing yourself, comparing Your business, comparing every little thing with someone else's. So, just take on this challenge. If you're willing, you can do it next month. Whatever time you're watching this episode and whatever you're feeling, Okay, that's something I can do. Please go ahead. And the reason I'm doing it is because every time you're on social media, I feel so many people are missing you, because we are living different lives, different life stages, each person according to their age I was hit by a car at the age of 20. Kuna mungina at the age of 20, ya kona nyumba, Kuna Mungina at the age of 20, he suddenly decided to leave the union mind. You know, so different, each person has their own life, just one person, just one life. That's his problem, but you might find yourself comparing. So today I want us to do that. No please, if you're able to take up the challenge, Just comment and hapo chini niambia tu, mimi I am so ready. So, why? Because I feel like the moment you compare your pace, you compare your journey compared to that of someone who appears to be doing well. Because most of the time, Sita is given to someone else. Below you, you will always compare yourself with someone who is ahead of you so you end up feeling like you're not doing anything, you end up feeling like You're not moving as expected. you end up feeling like Oh, you're worthless, end up Feeling like oh, Sasa Mini, you're about to make the world spin again People, oh I don't know what this is That is why we are doing this episode today. because you are enough, you the way you are, where you are at this very moment is where you're supposed to be So you're comparing yourself with someone else. That's what we want us to stop doing. And I'm hoping that by the time you've completed 30 days without comparison, By the time you arrive on day 30, you'll be a changed person. You'll even see yourself Of greater value than where you are when you have begun. So let's start with week one. You're doing it week by week to break it down. Doing it day by day is manageable, but 30 days is a lot. But let's start with week one. So how often do you find yourself comparing yourself to others, Be at peace with other people's lives, be at peace with other businesses? How often do you do it? So, by the end of the first week, analyze that week. It's raining. Where is the nearest supermarket? Was I unable to compare? Did I avoid? Like whatever it is that makes me compare. Could be your family is experiencing those pressures you mentioned. You're supposed to have married by now, Kufi. You were supposed to have moved out. A mother's societal pressure. Ama ni kwa job peers. I have been promoting since I was young. Umekua kwa yoni ni position miaka saba. So identify actually. No, analyze how often you do it yourself, how often do you do it? Analyze yourself: how often do you compare? So, regarding the job, week one, do your best. Najwa is on the first day. As much as possible, avoid making comparisons. When you receive the error, you will be able to trace it, Like unajipata, like unarealize weight. This is what I'm striving for, not being able to make comparisons. For example, week one, I went to the office with my brother. For the sake of peace, for the sake of the nation, my heart is heavy. I have been busy this week, Check your ego; start comparing yourself to others. So, in the midst of, ukaeza kujikutilia, then... Uchikumbushe, like, okay, my hair is still okay. My hair still has a few more days to go. My plan was to reverse it after two weeks, not now. Umejiretrieve As you've figured out, I was heading somewhere which wasn't going to be good Because at the end, after comparing, how do you feel? You feel bad, you feel insufficient You feel like you're doing badly We see So if in week one you're able to analyze Ebu, let me see. Abu Therefore, to conclude What mood do you get into after you've been scammed by people? Analyze, as in week one, what mood does it typically evoke? If it gives you a mood of, sasa mi nakaa haji, People are going to be excited on Monday, with the new smart ones. Sasa mbona mi wakuniambia ni bomoe, that's not a good thing. But if it makes you feel like, haa, Hi, my dear, she said, I'll bomb it. Like if it doesn't change your mood, if it doesn't make you feel like a lesser being, At least now you, right here, you're not moving in the negative direction where little by little I am being led astray, I feel frustrated when others are progressing while I'm left behind. You know, a little bit of this, uh, buying and selling, Ha, I'm still on the right track, Mama, okay. That's the time, my time is still coming, you know. This is how you can do it, but. It's okay, done better. especially to yourself, not to them to yourself So I might say, wow, I'm really feeling it now. I love it Hey, Aki, your hair looks beautiful. Why did you do it? Yeah, even if you want it next time, my day will arrive then. I'll try, it's the same compared to My heart is heavy with sorrow and pain. My heart, what did you do? That's why he started washing the clothes. which is not good for you because if you feel washay washay, then you're not You're not helping yourself at all. You're just now finishing up. Unajikill from within. Then in week two, try replacing your comparison with curiosity. So if this person is coming to wait. So if this person is posting, What is Ama doing? I'm trying to look for, Because most of the places where we obtain comparisons are social media. So if this person is doing, His life was cut short. It is very beautiful, I'm going to the market, I'm buying vegetables, I'm going to work, I'm tired. Instead of comparing, be curious. What if? What if? What lessons must I draw from this person's life? We see, that's it, my friend, you're gone, If you live there, then you dwell there. No, there's no such thing, by the way. If you also want to be a pigeon, you'll be a fool. Try to enter the job portal early. I'll try to see if I can be in a better mood. I'll try to see if it helps me health-wise. Maybe you're having health problems. Be curious about how good it is. I hope it does you good. Unlike your wishy-washy approach. Okay? So instead of week two, instead of comparing, what can I learn? I'm just curious to learn something because I know hatu jaji tosheleza So we need to live among our people and among those people. is where there is this comparison thing. Among your peers in Among Us, among us your colleagues, as you've said, among us your family, If you're going to do these comparisons, what are you going to do, what are you going to do? So instead of you now comparing yourself to others, What about you wanting to learn? From whatever it may be. So, Nikulize, you've already done it, keep on pushing forward like this. Huh? If it's editing, she learns editing; if it's makeup, she learns makeup. Be ready to see. Can it help me too? Okay? Then in week three, analyze yourself to discover those triggers. Like, confront them head-on. What causes me to begin comparing myself? Could it be? As I've said, social media is the number one thing. Could it be Instagram, I'm looking at, I'm seeing, I see, What can I say, Nikiona nanya me post wins ake. What did you do, why do I feel this way? Is my mood shifting? For example, I have a few people who will tell me, I started going to the gym, sele kuzo view, At the café, that one was curious, huh, Like Alikama Sele at the gym, even a small home gym helps me get going. na aka, ah, now you're reaping the consequences of your curiosity, just like you've, Learned kumbe can work out I didn't know I could work out But because I saw someone else doing it I was inspired I was like, if she can do it She's a mother. She has children. She did it. I know You're the one who's always complaining, even when I'm trying my best. Nisijipe excuses So now That one is Helping you As a person Okay So discover the triggers The engine is not working. I'll be with you after work Whatever, I'm just gonna drive off, you know, I'm done with this nonsense. What is it called, iyo hour, iyo happy hour? He quickly got into his car and drove off. I don't know what you're asking for. Does it make me feel like I want to compare myself to my peers? Because if my peers are driving, I should be driving. But perhaps what you don't know is, I messed up the drive, I lost it in the bush. Unfortunately, Kashamba, I see every scratch on your car. A what? So, if those are the things that are going to trigger you, Sometimes, Uneza chooses to avoid. When my tipasa went missing, I lost my mini investment elsewhere as opposed to where they invested. So if those groups make you feel like you're comparing yourself and most of the time again ukiji compares You always feel like you're doing something wrong. So avoid them. That group is the same as today's group. Kesho it will be better. He did not even... I also follow you on Instagram. Ah, silence. Mute hata imwezi yo 30 days. Mute. And you will realize the moment you stop comparing. Actually, we are now in week 3. The moment you stop comparing, You even begin to appreciate your own journey. Um. Because now, you have blessings that you cannot see. But surprisingly, you're the one who's always late, not me. When you stop comparing yourself to others, you begin to find contentment. You begin to appreciate where you are. Let's start analyzing, by the way, it's the same. My house, mine is three bedrooms, my mother's. But you know what? Niko is here. Life in a songa. Miniko, I'm content with where I am. I am content. Name, name that one. Kwa Slowly, by slowly, you begin to receive blessings, like unexpected blessings, because you're happy, You're content with where you are. Because most of the time you realize that kama is not comparable to unakuji Indeed. With people, I just get frustrated. I can't believe it, this gadget of mine isn't smart. Yet, your case is no different from that person who is incomparable to him. Maybe his is black and hers is brown. But Awoni Juwewe, you're always late. This truth of mine is no different from yours. Like you're always comparing, you'll always be frustrated. You will never see your worth, you will never see yourself having A better thing, you will never see yourself as someone who is blessed, someone worthy of anything But the moment you start, you stop And by the time you're getting to week four, your energy's low. You'll find yourself, you've been, like, umepata freedom, Redirect your energy, why do you keep comparing yourself to this person? Who is grateful for every little thing. As little as waking up in the morning. Just found it, you're like wow, today's the trench coat vibes, When you see someone doing something, you say, "Your action is smart." This child has been suffering for six months. like weko wako uko onayona kani kitu, but because now, Your energy shifts to yourself; now you're being content. Now you're happy with where you are in life, you're happy As a human being, with your tiny little progress, you're content. You even begin receiving blessings you never even expected. Suddenly, everything seems to be working. Everything around you seems to be working. You're thriving. You're doing so well. I see you, my dear, I'm so happy, Your threat is at your level, You're stuck on the problem, you can't solve it. What's this magic? Ninini, this guy always gets scolded and nagged every single day, you know? So, when you stop comparing yourself, your energy, Your focus shifts, and all of a sudden, you're even at peace. Because now you're not even complaining anymore. The time about small, small, petty, petty things. So, yeah, I think my challenge is up to you guys. And reflect, like tiny, tiny reflections. Uneza chose it at home. Nijianalize niji. And the last few episodes I've done solo, I realize I'm sharing more. You're analyzing yourself, even as you do so. Most of the time, when you're with your wife, you only get what you deserve. I was alone, there at home, Doonanzanga kujuliza ya mimi kama ndiinda. What am I supposed to do with this thing of comparison? This can only be between you and yourself. Unajuliza, okay, by the way, losi jaenda out. Hi my house, I don't need a closet. Aya, come here, you little rascal. You know, you're at peace, you can do your own thing, you can move at your own pace, in your own way, at your... Required time. I told my friend I want to go out every weekend. Every day I want to wake up early, I want to go to bed at night, day and night. Like my schedule, I want it to be on Friday. Night, day, Saturday, here, here. But sometimes, Pia, we forget. Just allow yourself to sit down. You alone, with your thoughts. And you know you can't fool your thoughts. You cannot lie to yourself. Analyze yourself. KT2, after these 30 days, you'll find yourself reflecting on so much that you are supposed to be grateful for, as opposed to complaining about. As simple as the year has come all the way to July, I am not afraid of the lion, I am not afraid. I was about to go to work as a teacher I was a businessman, and I ended up in prison. As little as I may have been aware, I didn't know anything. I'll give you so much. You are on the right track with God. You see the ordinary. We all know right now that people are sleeping soundly. So, sit quietly, observe your thoughts, examine yourself and your thoughts. And yeah, I think if you take on that challenge for those four weeks, You will find that even you become a better person. Not always, even if no one else stumbles, you still fall. That's how you'll complete it and move on, you know. Not a day without you, no jealousy, no separation. Because you can see good things and still celebrate with someone without feeling. anything like some heaviness a bit of a mood shift For a person who has won because they will win in some You will win in others And that is life to each person in this life He's in a hurry. As I always say Everyone has their own journey. I have been here for 20 years. It's all right His car is there. It's okay. Pia huyo huyo wa 20 Hakona Mashida Zake You don't know anything about it Trust me, maybe you'll see it there, You can, we are already in your zone. Your zone, the one right here, just here, right there, It is where you are meant to be at this exact moment. So, analyze yourself from that perspective and remain hopeful. We are not saying that we don't work hard. No, we are working hard. Of course, we want to get better. We want to be in a better place in a few years. to come, in a few months' time But that should not make you, when someone is already at the place you're heading to, Unafili baya? No. Your time is coming. Your time is for sure coming. Absolutely, absolutely, absolutely, absolutely. Let me tell you something. I know, I think I'm hearing. I know, I think I'm hearing. After you have sold it, after you have attached the file, I went to see the lake, I went to see the lake in Kampala. So I used to take the Viatuzi Kampala na KujA, Well, Siku did many things, but now that Now that I'm here, like now that I'm thinking about it, Three men came out of the car wearing boots and walked inside. That's Jack Mill. The mission is very important. Nikino. Nikino's mother, Regen. Nikino. Jack Mills PA market. Boot is already open here. In my sandals. And I think I did that for a week. If not three, then four days. Here are these people. On Facebook. Wanabai. That was very nice indeed. This stock is also available in Sasa. I will take another stock. I went once. Never mind. They were about 12 pairs. Ah! waneza nunua. Then I went back and took like 30 or 40 pairs. So it was hard to Push the 30, 40 pairs. So here comes the trouble, Nauza, nauna. So up Until now, Suyati ni Kitumbaya, but when you look back, like Thank you, it wasn't a burden at all. but those days are gone. If you do it, if you make it, I'll send you some sweet treats. Not bad, I took a picture, that's what matters. Like life is just a journey. Of course, back then that's exactly what I wanted to argue with someone else. Koko's office, when I was very young, I think I was 23, yes, if not 24. So imagine, Sahi Msenaa and 23 going there Open the car door at the market. Back then, I was into the trend, not into TikTok much. But the evil thing is that It's your own pace, it's your own race. But I can imagine the amount of pressure that comes to such a young person. To me, back then, I was silent, I was hidden, I was afraid to speak up, What was it, it was my favorite lipstick. I had a lipstick, Fulani, that I was holding onto, money. So you can imagine the pressure, even you yourself can't bear it. Because Niko likes it, guys, everyone eats out every Sunday. Every Sunday I have to go open the car, but you know, it's life. If I choose to focus When starting to force issues, it's like with other people, Most likely, Wawa Mimi is a bit tired. You can withdraw money every Sunday. Mimi kwetu kwenye nimetoka ulisha ya somesho, When we finish school, we'll go look for other jobs. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but please stop comparing. Your life is yours. In short, your life is yours. Yeah, that's right Wherever you are right now, You will definitely learn something that will help you. When you arrive at the place you are heading to. The moment you arrive at a place. To the place you want to be. These matters of ours have passed. The rain has stopped. You will have a lot to learn. You can also come here if you're not dragging your feet like this. I hope to gain strength. I hope it makes sense. All I'm trying to say is wherever you are right now. You need that to prepare you for where you are headed. So, the user is like that. Oh, Wenzangu does it this way, and others do it this way. What you do, that is what you should do. Whatever you are doing is exactly what you are meant to be doing. All we can do is work harder and pray for the best. Otherwise, akuna inye ikona mutaratara Atiyo tunafatu hope to skip, skip. I must take care of everything, yeah. Yes, and that's all from me, guys. So 30 days. 30 days without comparison. 30 days without comparing yourself to any other person. 30 days with just you. Sitting with yourself, analyzing yourself, appreciating how far you've come, appreciating the small steps, appreciating even the difficulties Because those challenges show you how strong you are. When I see it just like that, it's too easy, easy, easy. You are strong. Yeah, I hope that gives you a little encouragement. As we move into August, whatever it is you feel like you want to... Pick up, start, try, I did the financials, whatever it is you If you feel like you want to challenge yourself this month, go for it. It might not be a comparison. because maybe you don't struggle with comparison, but whatever it is, In the month of August, 30 days, 30 days of doing that thing, for sure, by the time the 30 days are up, Your habit is with me, Like 30 days without eating sugar, it automatically sticks. 30 days without doing what, 30 days of what, 30... It will change you as a person, and you're only working. To improve yourself, to become a better human being. Yes, and that's all from me. Well, I'm worried about our little problem, but I hope, I hope, I hope, umelan kitu, okay? I hope so too, okay? Yes, and if you want to join me. You're welcome. The email is thecelestinedinda at gmail.com. Happy to host you. Until next time, it's a bye from me and Celestine Reflection. Goodbye.