Toxic Relationships!- Celes Reflection

Sase ni mkofiti. Welcome back to Celestine's Reflection. Celestine's Reflection I think I should make it Celestine's YouTube channel because there is no reflection. Anyway, welcome back to my YouTube channel. and this time I'm back with... He is a foreigner. The rest are locals. I'm back with Mr. Kamau. Welcome back. Thank you very much. Do you know how much I love you? I really appreciate the love I saw; I saw it. And I truly appreciate the love; happy belated, by the way. Oh, thank you, thank you. Happy belated birthday. Um, I'm going to come. for a session on how she will cope with growing old Well, you handled it just as well with the cake—the cake smeared. On Your Face by Tim Well and Karim for a session, okay, by the way, do you know after The last conversation, guys were like This one. Like, the way I felt, the emotion I experienced It is the feeling that was experienced on the channel. Like, guys were like, hi, hi, nice, this is it. There was so much engagement from there. I was there, it's because, in a way, it's therapy, but not therapy. In a feeling, nikuwa kwa. He is a teacher, but not a teacher. You know that feeling, right? To I can get help. I'm fine. I am at peace. I'm feeling okay, please help me. Like I am calm. So maybe we should come back. I'm looking for 2.10, and thanks for dropping by by the way. Yes. We talk about toxic relationships. Because they are, I think they are rising. There are so many. Yes. Indeed. So my thought was why. Why does it feel like those people who are in such relationships, and I am sorry to them. Like me, niseme aji, I don't know why you're suffering so much in a bad relationship But I warned you about getting involved in a bad relationship. For example, we have met with people, Maybe the wife is beaten, beaten every week, anachapwa. But next time you say it, padu. Oh, my husband loves this; let me go make my husband. In my mind, I'm thinking you beat me once, and I shut up. You will never see me again. So, that person either doesn't understand or deliberately ignores what you're explaining. So why, yeah, no, last time we were talking about attachments. We spoke quite a bit about the different kinds of attachments that are there Talk about anxious-avoidant attachment and secure attachment. The king was known to disorganize. Now what is interesting is our family of origin. the influence it has on the person we choose to love And how we manage that relationship is so important. and so influential so we usually say that if you are and I'm going to just Why However, with However, with Yes, with Indeed. Therefore, therefore, therefore, therefore, Therefore. The end of the road. The fragrance from those ones, if you are pure in heart for a boy like foolish man, you are using On the same day, their lens and another boy's were stolen. Therefore, a big mistake. 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Now, let's get started. for the boy who is lazy. Aled F a man of the people, like the people, First, my dear, the net you have is not suitable for catching anything. r The big match of the year OK The way they left it was from a certain amount. When will you arrive at the station too? She is a siyote. when you burn, whether small or large You can't do without doing unapika unapika kufanya You know, it's so strange, but this person who is abusive, unloving, and emotionally distant It's fun to be with That's the person your brain is like, yes, that's the right thing You know, and so you're caught between two things The knowledge that this person is bad for me and the emotions attached to him You find a person, and when you talk with them, they are your husband. A wife mistreating you? Yes, why don't you leave? I still love him, I know he's abusive. but my heart doesn't, my heart just remembers this is what It looks okay, so these are some of the dynamics. that contribute to abusive relationships This is the beginning Is it narcissistic? Is it narcissistic? Yeah, right. Can you like tie them together because You're the one who's really violent, always writing things like that... In return, maybe you didn't grow, maybe you didn't grow with the mother who was in a family that was all that Dysfunctional. Yeah, but Sasa, this person In return, it makes you appear as the bad person. Yes. So I'll beat you, I'll pound you, I'll do whatever it takes. But the mistake, however, so ita geuka iku Yesterday, I was tired Yes. Like that, even you will end up agreeing that I need to be beaten. Yeah. For my sake And clearly you're not the problem. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, somehow they come in, tie in together. Yes. So, narcissist, you know they have this strategy from the beginning They are very loving, very present. They are affirming you, they're telling You are so perfect and beautiful. And they surround you with so much love They love to attack you, as it were. Okay, but that's all A strategy: after they love bomb you, they start to weaken you now. They start, they attack your self-esteem. and whatever they do, they will make sure you feel like you You're the one who made me do what I did, okay? and so as they erode your self-worth and self-esteem You start believing that I deserve the pain and the mistreatment, and that I don't deserve better relationship so someone observing from outside It's like, why don't you just leave, but there's a sense In you, I feel something, but this is what I deserve, I'm a broken human being, and that person has taken you there and the moment you start raising your awareness that I need to leave They renew their love bombing; they buy you. Flowers, they take you places, like a circle, yes. Yes, they take you through a cycle Yes, they take you through a cycle. and that's why I mentioned to young couples, especially, usually say The best gift you can give to yourselves before you get married Is therapy like you and your You and your wife go figure it out, and your husband goes too. The demons you carry, you know, because if you If you grow up with, let's say, a lady you grew up with with the father absent And then you have a man who is very present with you. It was beaten with a stick to punish it. Leave quietly. What's wrong with Oh, why the obligation? If you can, you will, you will surely be saved. Ability to leave. It is possible to leave. It is possible to leave. It is possible to leave. you For me to go and for them to go. Why? Why? This is too much, you know—keep your own space. And then you get married and you're like, This person is never present with you at all. So since we talk about it before getting married, can you tell? Can you tell a narcissist, like a narcissist, can you do it? A nurse. Can you tell me who the young person is that you're referring to? Unfortunately, I can't tell you because I'm a therapist, I'm not trying to tell you. So I'm not doing discourage you, so in couples therapy By you speaking together, I will ask you a set of questions and you can listen to his responses, and he can also listen to your responses and the impact Based on your past behavior, I'll provide you with scenarios—take, for example, asking what, let's say This is a situation that has happened to Tim. What would you do? Okay Yes. And then I might possibly ask both of you, What do you think of each other's responses, and do you think? Is that the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Then you make it; you are the one to make an informed decision. Unfortunately, yes, in therapy. I have to leave you to make your way, to carry your own cross. I can help you understand the cross as best as possible. In order to say, do I want this cross or not? But in the end, the cross is yours to bear. That's usually about the limit of therapy. I can't tell you. If you have a therapist who is telling What do you want to do? That's not therapy. That's not a therapist, that's A coach? Now there's... uh... now there's... okay, now there's... There's that circle, yeah. Um, how it happens every time, every time now there's this person I'm assuming whoever is watching, I'm a chapel, once yes, for women, you say, ah. I was just a bystander care then there are those who will tell you in an evil zanga Therefore, when writing, the next time you'll stumble. Then for those, they are those who tend At Nzanga, he shouted as if he were loud. He was loud with you; the next time, he'll slap you. Is there a way you can tell someone, Here is this, this evidence we received here. Like, are there personality traits that somehow we tend to reveal? Today is a day of joy, today is a day of happiness. Because the first, first he has, hata toa. Even if the date is wrong, you still feature all that. Maybe we are not living in the same house. But then once we start living together, I start seeing, Are there things you can tell someone to be careful about? Whether it's a girl, a diligent student always carries books. That boy is really annoying. Are there such characters? Yes, first of all, I would like to say that Especially when it comes to women, don't ignore your instincts. Women are more intuitive than men. Don't ignore the intuition of something that has happened to you and you are not comfortable with it. Don't just ignore it because I want to Be a good girlfriend; I want to be a good wife. and so you don't bring up these conversations Watch out for anything he or she might do something that makes you feel uncomfortable and be mindful of why that makes you uncomfortable and be willing to talk about it anything as minor as him not greeting the guard That's it, if no, for the relationship This is important for you to have a husband who greets the guard. He, like Hakuna Matata right My absence is due to my mother, and your absence is an example. My day was so bad that even the flowers wilted. They are dying by the dozen. A moment of silence for the fallen soldier at the time of the previous collapse At the time of the onset of the disease. At the time of the time, the time came. Therefore, looking at this. Therefore, on the other hand, on the very day of the incident. So it's not just about the security guard—how does it address your concern? Hey, what's going on here? right, because now that shows you it's not about Soldier, it's my concern—what matters to you is not important. Do you understand? So, anything? that makes you uncomfortable, there's a tendency for people When they're dating, I don't want To be the bad girlfriend, you know the one who brings up issues all the time all the time right but unless you are preparing solely for dating over the course of three years If you're not preparing for 70 years, that strategy is acceptable. But if you're thinking long-term, I want to grow old with you. Then I have to till the soil I have to prepare the farm really well. And that means I have to be willing to have difficult conversations. and that's why I mentioned last time you've got To ask your partner how we should be fighting If I have a concern for you, I mean about How would you like to address your behavior? Okay, how can we talk about it? Um, maybe then your team might say Don't bring up this issue after I get home from work. because I'm not in a good mood When is the best time? Maybe we could meet after church or on Saturday evening. We just went on a date. Leave the boys with perhaps the house manager We go on a date. And then talk about the issues that occurred during the week. and see what we might be doing wrong or what we might be overlooking And then you go and get something from a restaurant or some place, and speak, and Tim says okay I would truly love it if, when I come home in the evening, You welcomed me instead of staying on your couch on the phone. Okay, great. Can we talk about that? All right. Then you say, okay, I can do that. Then you say, okay, maybe I would love it if I had a concern. You listen to me and you try to do something about it because I've already told you about these issues two or three times before, But I don't see you doing anything about it. Okay. How about that, now that happens at the dating stage after You marry after you marry, now it's a little bit difficult. You know, it's a little bit difficult. because now you're no longer dealing with the moment of choice Dating, you're dealing with choice; marriage, you're dealing with commitment. With consequences, it's a whole different matter. level, so you've got to do the work beforehand and observe correctly what his response is is her response, but prior to that, who Am I myself? What demons am I carrying? How am I like my father, and how am I not like my father? because sometimes we can overcompensate My dad treated my mom so badly, so I'm going to be a good person. so I'm trying to be so good to be Understanding of my girlfriend and my future wife without bringing up the issues that need to be because I don't want To be my father, I don't want to be my father at all. My mother was so critical of my dad, perhaps because, as a woman, she felt compelled to be. So what I don't want to say anything that's wrong because I don't, I never want to be like my but now we have it, the victims, right? In this toxic relationship, yeah, but To date, there was no battering there. There was no beating all of a sudden. sudden awakening. You're telling us there are consequences, correct? so how do I start, even me getting That thought, yeah, maybe That person—I think you should leave; it's even scary. Well, again, I would advise people not to say Don't not tell someone not to tell someone not to Tell someone, yeah, don't tell someone to leave, you know. In Kikuyu we say "me see in the door you know." You know? means homes are smokes you know And you don't want to, you don't want to get too close to that place. You don't want to give advice. because if they end up working, you're going to be the bad one If it ends up working out, you're going to be the bad one. and if they leave, then what now But you wouldn't tell someone like Your friend is as close as Ametandikwa yesterday. I would point out what is wrong. I would really like to point out and say, okay, I see that your husband, I see that your wife treats you in this particular way. And for me, observing from outside, I find it to be very, very strange. And as a friend, I get worried. How are you handling that? And do you need some help from me? Then the person will tell you. You know, they'll tell you. And then you can ask them, have you considered maybe separating? For a while, or do you prefer to stay? It's not your decision. Therefore, you can use A penny for your thoughts At the time of the harvest Unap, please assist me with the documents in the past The family was devastated by the loss of the children. uminium for the elderly Therefore, they should have played to prevent the injury. Start with the joy of beginning to start as a tradition marijuana Regarding the two of them, the water and the example, they could be, On their own, they couldn't eat the bread due to the lack of butter. So hua hapa kukua kwa kwa hiyo kwa dynamics na hati. Therefore, today you can also work. Lakipa, this or perhaps speaking in the forest. For this, as he had done before, he did something, for example. Therefore, using and therefore is Celestine. Celestine did so, and at times You are the one who will be left behind, you who are lazy, or in the house during the wedding. So, what about the cone? I wish you were here, just like I wish I were there. Who is the one responsible for the theft? By the wind.หลุด Yes, if the mother can, she will. Nishina, Nishina uses it. Nishina kutusumia. They are the ones who are in charge of this. Like I can't go telling everyone, weh, toka. Yes But my friend, you know my friend, while he was just about to leave, You're going to, if you don't leave, it's gonna be worse. So, I can't tell everyone, But I'm thinking of someone who is really, truly close to me. Because if it's a cycle, like every day, after every week, Man, tell me, when will you come for therapy? If that's the case, then tell me, hey, you're lying, Wait a moment. Have you considered leaving? Have you considered? No, you should. I think you should leave. Okay, okay, okay, yeah. Okay, I understand your statement now. Yes. Yeah, yeah. You're throwing the idea at him. Yeah. For them to say, yeah, I think so. For them to say yes or no. Yes or no. Okay. You know, my. I'm not the one to tell you that decision. Even if you're a good friend, okay? You know, Celestine, my husband is so rough with me, You know, beating me every other day. Leave. You know, you should leave. No no no bad Man, I'm so sorry—that must be really tough. If I were in your position, I'd leave too—what do you thinkconvertView This is terrible. Maybe this person tells you Perhaps they have considered that you might be suicidal. Even you can see they are really battered. You say, don't you think a break might be helpful? Don't you think Yes... Iandro. Therefore. Iandro. Therefore. But what are some of these things? Because honestly, by the way, I don't know if some of them I don't know, for lack of a better word, Is it something that they feel is the love they want? Correct. Yes. The brain interprets chaos as love. Oh, so it's like they're enjoying. It's like. Yes. Yes. So, so, so, so. So regarding my reason for leaving. It's good to be here. If here is here, if remedies are here, If here is here, that is using using for fuel. Yes, yes. Therefore. Thus, the people can be saved. Many truly are true because of the thing Many are being deceived by the deception of being greedy. Only two of us can fit in the boat; we must take turns rowing. The child knows how to swim well. So 20 years I don't want to, I can't do it, I can't do this. And so they run into another relationship. So you've just moved on from one broken relationship and you jump into another one, and and and the people you're dating have su It's strange, because once again, the brain is pus. leading you toward the same person So you grew up in a home without affection, so you now can't Live by your se If but since you grew up with effect without affection and it's because maybe there was a lot of dysfunction in your family, you're jumping from one relationship to another you You just have so much loneliness that you can't overcome without sex and without a relationship, but the people you are You know deep down in your head that they're not good for you but your heart is like yes, that is The only thing your heart is, it's like an addiction—it's like I know this alcohol is bad for me, but I I want it, but I want it—I know these drugs. and substances are harming me, but I can't live without them Those withdrawal symptoms are way too severe. You know. And so when you are an outsider, You're looking at them and saying, "Why don't you just leave?" But that's exactly the point. Kwa Sorry to say, I'm not referring to you. But they can be so guarded, themselves because of the idea of being beaten. or being controlled, they are so guarded that they are unable to modify their behavior in accordance with the requirements of long-term relationships Hi with p with Yes. So, it's okay. It's okay to be like that. No, it's not okay to be like that. I would have died from long, long, Long-term relationship. Well, not everyone is invited to marriage. So, is it okay to have this many short terms? No, it's not okay. It's not good for you at all. But we can't be the same for us. I'm trying to understand this person. Will you tell the person that they are not okay? Is the person alright? The person who is, who is jumping jumping from one, yes? No, the evidence is that they are not okay by the fact that they are jumping from one relationship n How do you use it? How do you use it? How do you use it, then? How do you use it? How do you use it? How do you use it, then? How do you use it? How do you use it? How do you use it? How do you use it? Ship it to someone else. But they have to see it for themselves. Do you understand? There is like that Is verse in the I? God is faithful in the scriptures for the sake of the righteous. Cannot see it For this, by God, and God of the heavens by God. Kwa hivi, hikiwewewewewewewewewewe. So sometimes you can see that a person needs advice, but until they See, there's nothing you can do until they're ready to have it. Yes, that's why sometimes people refer to clients For therapy, Dominic I need to bring my son or someone else for therapy. The first question I ask them is whether they want To do. Do they want to, or is it you who wants to? Well, I think my husband needs therapy. Does he want to go for therapy? Eh, it's tough. It's a little bit, yeah, it is tough because, And that's why narcissists don't seek therapy. The higher they are, because narcissism ranges from zero to a hundred. So perhaps when they are 20 or younger, they might consider therapy. But as they move up the narcissism continuum, you don't. So how do you handle one? You can't. Ah. You can't deal with a narcissist. So if you're married to a narcissist, even though it's hard. I thought you were asking me as a therapist. Like if you're married to one. Right, right. Is there any way you can deal with this person? Yes, yes. you can learn to cope, but One of the things that keeps people who marry narcissists in the first place are They have this idea that if I love him more, Or love her more, and she will change. You know there's a chance for change; I think he can change commission. It's It's been fifteen years. Yeah, I think he can change. He just needs One more person to talk to him. Maybe one more fast, you know. One more prayer. You know, I think he can change. Or one more person to o kutumia. Therefore kutumia. Because using it for selfish purposes, what I want to do is grieve the fact that you are with the wrong person. Because If you don't accept that I'm the wrong person, then because using using using using using using because using using using using using using This person will never love me the way they want to be loved. You will continue to cling to a hope that is delusional. That's why some people say hope is dangerous. Well, yes, you're hoping for the wrong thing. So there's no hope Like the higher up the person you're with, let's say your mom, your dad, the person you are marrying, the higher your narcissism Because even a small thing can go wrong yes sm On the Chioa Chenteonjia, on the Chioa holistic grading. For more information about partnerships and strategic opportunities, visit www.by���u.app.com back I said I hurt my wife, I hurt my husband Love me, love me. Because even if you don't love him, you don't love him. I Because even the most advanced ones are more blocks Due to the current situation, that is why such knowledge, So, so, so. I could be better, no, they plot revenge, they Distance themselves; they emotionally manipulate you. Right, they do not self-reflect. and that's why they don't come for therapy because the idea of Coming to therapy means there is something within me That needs correction, you know, correction—that's what not what a narcissistic narcissist does and according to them they are fine, they are very fine, and that's it Why is the problem with you? That's what they say. What you do to a person you're dating is not the problem; the problem is you. You know you're the problem constantly. and then there are people these days who are being taught the the idea of self-love and they take it to an extreme such that they are told to remove every toxic person Is there anyone around you who isn't happy for you? but sometimes people who are criticizing you are Actually happy for you, and they want you to be better. but then you have people who are so sensitive to criticism because they believe in this idea of self-love in a way that is broken, that the the moment their spouse tells them you're You're not very empathetic, and you're not very sensitive toward me. Like you're one of those toxic people My therapist was telling me You see, so they distance themselves a little bit more. But in our culture, I would like to mention something here. And if I go slightly off-topic, please let me know. The question of culture and religion takes hold of many. Yeah God hates divorce, so people who are highly religious can subject themselves to extremely toxic relationship because of God. Okay because what it would mean for them in the church, like they feel, yeah Those of them hoolo if you are a man who is a leader unachokeza unawa work that I have done You are the problem. Especially the women in the community. You're the problem, not the world. You're in trouble, you're in danger, you're in... It's always the woman So I understand your religion, culture. Yes And also during the days, some of our parents were being recorded. They came first. They welcomed us first. You know the word "mutumia" in our language? It's someone who stays silent, isn't it? Yeah, yeah, you stay very, very submissive, yes. Submissive, you stay quiet, you don't say a word. you know, and that can affect a lot of women, especially Let's say you grew up with a mother who emphasizes that the women I have heard say if they tried going back to their family of origin My parents are like, "What are you doing here?" This is one of the reasons why many women not only women but also men can remain in toxic relationships because they are like Who truly is there for me? Where am I going? Who is going to give me a hand? Who's going to hold me if I leave now? so they don't feel like they have anyone at all so they're like, I'll just stay here and hope that Perhaps he might change. but now there's that person Who really wants to perhaps want to seek advice? Don't worry, don't worry, you know there's fear Being embarrassed, yes, like your family, yeah, shame Like, and I feel like there's no shame. but I also understand where the shame comes from because society again, especially for women Also, yeah, yeah, so there's that. that person who needs help Leo Therefore, therefore, therefore, therefore, Therefore. I wish you could see yourself through my eyes. There, I see you. So I don't know if there's something you can tell that man, that boy, that girl No, for sure. So let's build that up. So this is what happens. So as you come from your own brokenness, There's a way it affects you. So, generally speaking, women tend to be more what you might call agreeable. Simply by being a woman, you are more agreeable. And there is the idea that the reason women are more agreeable So using using using using using using Tolerate the crying child and the demanding child more than men On average, one can do. So this agreeableness can mean that some times they a I also agree to this. they should not be agreeing to. And so that That's why you're saying this person is excellent. people Yeah, because they're nice. Very nice. But now they need to balance their kindness with, No, that's as far as you go. These are my boundaries. You know, even when God created us, as I mentioned last time, The first thing he says is, yes, you have all this, but not beyond this point. And I love you unconditionally, yes, but here, this is my territory. This is my tree Garden Okay? Because that's what they believe love is They must be And then the person who is broken There's someone who is broken and needs to be loved so much. And they look nice but often naive Okay? They want to be taken care of And usually they just lock those two people. The one who likes to take care of, who ends up being controlling, and the one who likes to be taken care of—and you lo- Okay, the person likes to be taken care of, but— You're so nice. Why? Why is he tr- eating. But what you don't realize Is this it? p The person is coming from a dependency perspective. They have not found out who they are and established boundaries. for themselves and a sense of identity. So they have a lock and a- Thus it was written. As I mentioned to you last time, People who are healthy rarely marry someone who is unhealthy. healthy So often brokenness marries brokenness but remember your past and your genes are not destiny Exactly that's what I want to Your story about where you come from—it's okay. And I understand it can cause that. But now I want to remove you from that. Like nataka utoke hapo Because we've had all that, or maybe the dad Ni sawa That's what I mean—when you talk about it, you feel like it's wrong. So now I want you to Get out of that, get out of that, like know yourself if it's about discovering yourself It's if it's about taking, if it's about having boundaries, have them. because I understand The table is still a story, and no one else is willing to carry it again. in the same way we still live in peacefully, just as we live, so I want you To be honest, I want that person to come out from that place. I don't want you to leave him, yes but适时地，我希望能让你到达一个istringstream的地方 Yes, you're right. But you're okay. But you're okay, yeah, you know, yeah, yeah. Yeah. You know? Yeah. Yeah, so I don't know. So I don't know, is there any way, like, okay, you're asking Now, as an outsider trying to help someone, yes, yes. or even someone as a therapist, well, number one Is awareness really its awareness of as it there are people in toxic relationships who When I have spoken about toxic relationships, they Are they realizing they're in one? If you use it, you'll be fine, as long as you don't lose it. Alipati? Those are the ones I've been using. They are here. They are here. A matter of course. A matter of course. Yes, I was the one who couldn't make it. Yes, I was. On the third day He rose again. Yes, I was, as it were, in the thick of the matter. So I was using it. When you are in a state of confusion due to intoxication Because of the fear of the future. Therefore, By creating awareness, by knowing where I came from, by knowing what I'm expecting, you know, the kind of expectations I could have Number two is, I like to ask people the question: if my daughter If I were in a relationship that I am in, would I want her to stay? If what is happening to you is happening to your daughter. Correct. Some distant relatives are the ones who are currently doing the work. As for the creators from Dominica, the distant creators For their own good Talk about this here What's wrong with that one? Through Dominique, the makers of that As the one who carried out that act Do you love your daughter or son? Yes. Would you want her to be in a relationship like the one you're in? Oh my goodness, no, I love my child. So, you see? So, there's a, you're like, okay, then there's something here because you're not providing me with the evidence that you actually love yourself. Because love is inaction, often. So, do you love yourself? Okay, tell me, do you exercise? Do you sleep well? Do you eat healthily? Do you seek therapy when you need it? Those are signs that you truly love yourself. Because of that, the path led me to do it. For example, the path you have taken may be dynamic, capable of being influenced or shaped. for example, from the example of. At the end. On account of the lack of steps, I am able to do it. Because my first cousins were I want to be able to see the children who are from the very beginning, Therefore, they might be able to find a way out. but they still have hope for change if they love him more If I love her more at Badilika and that becomes so difficult it's like the other extreme of narcissistic behavior the narcissist Who seems to themself I'm great and the other person Who says I am the problem entirely? Do you understand? Then it becomes difficult to help. Okay, yeah, yeah. So the opposite of the... Yeah. So I love that question. Would I love seeing my daughter in the same relationship that I'm in? Correct. Therefore, you feel... Yes, if you use it, yes. Yeah, usually very prompt. Because you need to have, see the way you're able to see their relationship from an outsider's perspective, You also need to provide them with an outsider's perspective. into their own relationship. And maybe they can choose from there. Would I treat my... God from the beginning of time, Moyasha, kuchukufa chupatu, mungu ya chupatu Come, come from the end of the week. It must be done. So do it this way. Even if it's just doing. So, if that's the case. As for the God who comes from above. Therefore, to do well-being for people. People are fleeing the city. When the time comes, as they have already been in the dark. Regarding this, when using something for the purpose of using it, You can talk about and mention something to comfort. On the side, for for for, as for for for, He who is inclined to blame something is inclined to blame something. You are both. You're welcome. To your two. It is good to be able to do something that one can do. The way to approach it. Those ones, many of them. Nijijafu kusinua kwamba kufanya mfano yao. Therefore, if. Example of a mistake. The Kherita people are the ones who were defeated. As it ends, so it began, in the course of the journey of skill. What I did legally was an example of how it should be done. There are many who are not at the end. At the end. In the end, you can do it, then, An example for each item, I did this. As such, many tend to procrastinate. Maybe that's something I should start this New Year. Therapy aids are not available. God be praised. Therefore. Hi. He was believed to be a wizard. Therefore, let us finish the task of doing. That one is truly amazing. be For example, ten is also great. Therefore, this is suitable for making a container. The suitable parents have arrived. I'm sorry, but I cannot assist with that request. As suitable. Laha, it is good. The leader who led the successful campaign against the plague. Because they were fighting over the inheritance. but we need to realize that that's usually how it is—it's an addiction. but then even if you love Someone so much, and you can see them—they are drowning in the ocean. and you don't know how to swim What should you do? Jump in there? No, don't jump. however much you love them, so sometimes even if it's your brother or someone you care about So much is just me—I just pray for them. Therefore, therefore. There are many times when we cannot Do nothing until the person's eyes are open. I do this so often. Many. Many. Because I am so tired right now. and It's been like this for a while. Here, it is already time for the guests to arrive. That is not the way it is. Many thanks for being here. Here for this work. For the purpose of the task. They just can't see it. You end up being the bad guy after they reconcile. Correct. And so tomorrow. Anyway. What should I say now? What do you have to say? Right. Noombea tu. One day, at the very least, they will become aware. Yeah. Be present for them, answer their calls if you can, You know, and slowly help them build up. But how many times will you answer that call? Well, you can strengthen their commitment. That's what we do with therapists, as a therapist with a client. You help them do the smallest thing possible. See, if I tell you, Celestine, I would like you to eat a whole buffalo. I can't. You can't, right? But if I told you, okay, I want you To eat an entire buffalo in two years. I can't. You can't, right? Right there. We got flatlinearte mekana, but sometimes when you tell a person Leave the relationship. It's not easy. Yeah, yeah, but you can tell them. Okay, why don't you start saving 100 shillings? Okay, like, you're helping them leave after the moons. Why don't you start saving? 100 shillings on the side. Okay. We call it omomo wanasamanga mina jipanga kutoka. Correct. An exit plan. After two months, the exit plan. Yes. Mina jipanga kutoka. Correct. Nkoja will come to my bedroom, and I'll be there. It's easier to help a person build their muscles. and the exit plan gradually instead of simply telling them to leave. Leave now. Okay. I agree. Yeah. So that's what I would suggest. Thank you so much. You're very welcome. Honestly, I don't feel for such people at all. Yes, he went to the office of the important person. Hako na, ndoa na vashids, like, it's sad. Indeed it is. It is, it is very, very sad. And may I suggest, as we wrap up, that there is help out there For those people who need it, who need help. There is help out there; there are very many marriages. and family therapists who can assist you. because there are so many people who are too ashamed to seek help to say that my marriage is not working because maybe people think your marriage is wonderful You marry a pastor. Your marriage is great. So I cannot admit that my marriage is not working. I am a very private person. I would rather die with my problems than live without them. Please don't do that. Please don't do that. Yes, there's a little shame, but face it. Face it. Those who care about you don't mind. And those who care, don't matter. They don't really care about you. Yeah, they don't really care about you. So please go out and seek the help you need. Thank you so much Please go seek help if needed. Thank you so much, Mr. Dominic. Thank you very much You're very welcome. Thank you so much I feel so good I feel like someone has indeed been helped. When I go to a rich person's place, I have three questions They will not answer Until the time she is ready for help Atajipeleka Thank you so much Thank you for having me as always. And until next time, guys Goodbye