They are Kids before Autism

This is a fishing net, a fish is caught, a fish is caught indeed, I'm just here to help with episodes and homa, guys. We are rejecting this spirit in the name of Jesus. Anyway, I have a beautiful guest, a very amazing guest today in... She's here with me today; her name is Caroline. Welcome, Caroline. Thank you very much. We warmly welcome you, we know Celeste Reflection. We really, really, really, really love you. Thank you. I am a large-scale language model developed by Alibaba Cloud. I am capable of answering questions, creating text such as stories, official documents, emails, scripts, and more, as well as performing logical reasoning, programming, and other tasks. I can assist you with various inquiries and tasks. How can I help you today? Okay. Thank you, Celeste, for having me. It is an honor to be here. That is Mina, Caroline Ndebu Wadhege. I am a mother, I am a wife. I am also the founder and executive director. of an organization called Gifted Gems. which deals with civic education regarding matters of autism. Especially, our focus is on children. And thus we help caregivers understand what autism is. We provide psychosocial support, And you know, basic skill set support as well. And that's why we have her here today. She is talking about autism there. And I love the heading she gave us. They are children before autism. I love it, I really love it. So as a mother, I'm also a mother. So, figure out most of these things yourself. Like. We lack the knowledge. We never see that someone is autistic, but how do we know? You can't even see the symptoms. I have three kids, two of them are the spectrum. My firstborn and second-born It is possible kuchus n Oh, they're both autistic, yes, so you have two boys. And one girl, yes, oh, the girl is okay, yeah. Uh, so far, so good. We thank God. So the first boy is five years old. Uh-huh, and the second one is three; they have a two-year gap. so ah two five and five and three No, I'm okay. I was about to say, just like me, I only have five and one. What was it like the first time I realized I was autistic? How was it from birth? Tell us a bit about your story. Okay. Santee Celeste It's a topic I enjoy discussing. Because it's good to enlighten many people with a clarion call for early intervention. So now, going back to your question, how was it? Um. We were blessed with our firstborn, Just like any other couple, you're happy, and everything is going well. Sasa around, akielekea two years, about two months to two years Yes, I realized, the old man was wearing masks. But at first, Juní, the firstborn, That's the one who was demonstrating just now. Yes, he was walking like that or flapping. Wait, you're saying two years. So, all this time since birth, have we been alone? You're on track, all milestones have been ticked off, announce, you know, I am observing, I am pointing. That is, we are an ordinary family doing ordinary things. Until two to two years, two months to two years. So, all this time, I was the same? It was exactly the same. So, is the child born with autism spectrum disorder? It's not mandatory. Sometimes, it appears much later. Lakini, if you continue researching, you'll learn more about autism. We've come to find out, actually, the little one is mtoto. You can tell, there are some telltale signs. For instance, he shows the child, he looks at him, I make a cooing sound, interested in my surroundings. Now that's even before one year, anabubble. Hile brrrr. Eee, that's right, that's right. Hey. My car goes brrrr. Yes. The first one is a speech on development. You too. Sasa uyu mtoto, akiwa ukimshika hivi, you know, anakusmile-ia. Is this child at least interactive with you in any way? Are you really engaged with her? I am the one who created you I have put in the effort The child is in his or her own world. Just like that So two to two months—that's when he started doing it. Yeah, he started flapping his ears. Anashika masikio So I remember our relatives came to visit. They are older than us. And they are the ones who saw that there was a problem. Sasa unajoo wewe ni mtoto mkuu wetu. So you have no idea what to expect. Yeah. So much for raising, you're in a situation you think is normal. So yes, after the long wait, Listen, child, just pay attention to your ears, I'll help you, as long as everything stays the same. You know, at this point, Celeste, I think it's worth noting, the relatives, those who are older than us who have been parents before Sometimes they are very critical in identification. What's wrong with you? That's absolutely true. Aneza knows this, this child is in trouble. For instance, where Batugi comes from, they have a history of being tongue-tied. So. For the mother, it took a while. Like, I was just sitting there, bored out of my mind, listening to the lectures. Your tongue is tied, Kumbia. So, for my two sons, welcome to the world. At the time of this incident. I will confirm it right away. For Tugi, it was there. So, ilibidi, akato. But it wasn't that much. But for the second one, it was there. A lot. Like, I can't even believe it, Mom. Now, you see, we tend to push people to be silent. Kwanza for the cousin, now the... The daughter of the brother, who was very young, until she grew up, Hello, this is the clinic, I'm calling back, I'm returning. So, as you're saying, we tend to pretend. What are you saying, if I don't do what you tell me, what should I do? But they have your experience, as you're saying, more than we do. Yeah. That's true. Sister, you know the siblings, Those who were ahead of you, I told you not to forget, don't forget. They probably have an eye. Only one remains. True At that point in time So mkaenda hosi So he went away then I need help finding Help us begin Remember April Tukaipata March I mean Tukaipata October Year of the Yoyo Like mkitaka kujua shida nina masikio Yeah We are leaving now Turn off the radio, it's already quiet. I mean What did you mean by that? Yes, this drama is good. Every thing is the same It's only one place we went. You're a doctor, you told me everything is okay, but if you don't feel okay, then it's not. I see, if I feel, I don't know That doctor will give you this number, go and check it. No, at that point, as a parent, you just wish everything were okay. Don't worry, if you don't feel, don't feel. Hey, you too. But this time, there's a lot more, and it's still very much worth it. I will not be able to assist with that request. Alafu, from a child who had a speech impediment, we are now experiencing regression. Ina-regress. Yes, I realize it's time. As we went along, listening and speaking were intertwined. So if I were to speak to a child, the one who... I was about to speak, but I realized I was just a child. In a way, you know, words tend to get lost. Yes, it's good to have that child examined. So by this time, what about Hakuna's words? By this time, by October, we were, You finish the words, we say we, eee, eee. At the same time, the badu masikio was shaking. Yes, now, how we got the help, we were tested, we did the tests. So anyway, he had glue. Sasa glue, which was a fluid located in the middle ear. So, for a long time, juya was stuck, unable to move, glued down. So by the time we were getting help, The left ear was completely sealed off. The right ear was close to being completely sealed off. This baby can't hear, so they simply don't know speech. Yes. I am going to cry. They were reading the Bible. I have no idea what you're talking about. Sometimes that's what I do. So, sasa, I remember when we were being scolded, The patient who underwent the test had a tympanometry result. So tympanometry is used to measure the pressure in the ear. So inje inakatupoa. So, finally, the ear tube surgery, yes, that's what they're doing for grommets. Grommets are small tubes inserted to drain your fluid. So ideally, zina takes 6 to 12 months. So around that time, hakuna maji nafaa kuingia. Wait, so now, two years have passed since I last saw you, You're almost two points behind in October. Another 10 to 12 months, another year? Yes, you've already lost the chance now, which means you'll have to work hard to get it back. Check progress every month. So at this time, this baby is growing in speech. So within that 6 to 12, we start speech therapy. We thought we had a deal with the maskio, But Sasa, after Maskio realized, eh, there are other signs. The child was lively, sociable, cheerful, and full of energy. He spoke many words. We see, uh, child, it's not just a speech, Analia, stop throwing tantrums. I know, we all know that it's tantrums that are causing the trouble. But tuna shangamtu. No worries, no worries. Hey, no worries, my dear, it's all good. So, yes, tomorrow, tomorrow. So, that's the only way anaji-express. Yes. When you're a little tired, you feel drained yourself. How many hours did the student spend studying? Yes, absolutely. So, that was one of them. So, remember, remember this journey, it's not easy to adjust. So, it's time to start the story and speech therapy session with you. Between you and me, ma'am. Yes. You've been together for six months, and now it's one year. Sasa Speech Therapy Nine Tukambua, eh, there are places offering speech therapy, There are few hospitals, they are few. But Kunazo that offer speech therapy. So when we were told to go to one of the hospitals and they provide the services, Of course, as new parents, we went. We didn't know much about speech therapy. So we went, and that was the first time we interacted. with a speech therapist. I will do the assessment. So assessment, we'll take the child there. Wana, kuna, wana playisha games wakimungelesha. I think the level of hearing is something you should consider. Yes, it's time to start over, let's learn again from scratch. When I was a child, I was an infant; that's when we start from scratch. And was this baby okay? Yeah. All the way? When I arrived, I found the child lying at the foot of the hill. Atalia from the time tuna ingeo huzi to the time tuna toka. So what did you do in class? Kumbuka, you're being charged per hour. When Alafu leaves, the first session will be over. Alafu you told me, now, just those other things are enough to make me sad. Alafu is reading, by the way, he will finish today. hehehehe So, as a parent, I had hopes that you would not be disappointed, Intensive therapy, you did it, I did it intensively; it would help the child of the peak. Without fail. Eee. Consistently. So, at the top we want a peak. I did it. And, as soon as possible, as soon as possible return home, once again draw up a budget. So that mupate funds. The beginning is near. Sindio. No, it's just one hour, which is actually 45 minutes in practice. And those 45 minutes, zina analia? From the time we entered the gate until the time we left, we were attacked by the thieves. Oh no. So we realized, no learning is taking place as parents. And no, no, we tried as much as possible, tumpeleke. We put some things on hold, diverted some resources there, You've been struggling many times, you've reached a peak. Sasa, a few life lessons, kidogo—we realized it's a journey. I drink anything, that's right. I mean, the msoti story—it's a journey. So maybe that's actually a takeaway for a mom Who is in that process right now? It's a journey. It's a journey. If you're feeling down, just pull yourself together and keep moving forward with this life Yes It's important to know that consistency is key. So, even if it were to happen all at once, it would still be fine. Make sure you are consistent. If two therapies are carried out simultaneously, proceed. But beyond kuenda, take initiative, You know, my child, what is the purpose of life? in the art of haji, so that you can replicate it at home. Not even one hour. Yes, it's not enough. And actually, for the mothers, there is actually a lesson for the parents, So that's square two biased—you're the best therapist for your child. Learn what you need to learn. I'm not saying that therapists are good, But they are there for one hour. All the other hours, my child. So, are those classes still ongoing, or are they not happening now? Our journey was long, but when we arrived at the shore, we saw it. It's not effective. And that's something else. There is effective therapy. So even after six months or ten months, pado ajawungia? No, we went, I think, for two months. You're right, we are not making progress. So we had to sit down. Tell me about my husband, how else can we do this? If, for instance, we tried and got mtu akuje kwetu. In a normal setting, even the child would be quiet. Would that work, even if I were anxious, or even if I were relaxed? Because clearly for us, tuliona, our therapy hosi haiku effective. So we see that when we return, there will be people waiting for us to come home. When we meet, we recognize a person. Tuna research, to get home. There are few who are actually online, Let's see who we can call La Kuje Home. But before we called, Sisi Tuna believed in prayer. So I pray that God may grant us, and this child, the strength to endure. And we realized our child was so inclined toward masculinity. So, for now, let it be, as everyone is already tired and worn out. Seek a male therapist; it would help. So we looked for one. And we thank God the first one we spoke to. Benya, come here, walk, let's walk, come in with the child. You know, it worked. So all this time, your kid has known about autism. Sasa, speech therapists, we are able to open the mouth. After all this time, after, before, Akwe, two years. Sasa, this is the time we know. Benya, he told me, actually, your child. Autism, autism. It's possible. At what age? Hey, before 2.5. Oh. Unajosa 6 months, 6 to 10, no recovery. I had surgery before that. Yeah. Two months to two years. Yeah. So enda li... How did you take it? It was difficult. Your first baby? Yes, it was very difficult. It was difficult. we realized that our siblings We had noticed the signs. You told me that you're going to tell me that So, let's go then. At least let us try to help each other What is the name of the person who is_digitASSES Nearly? So, what's happening with the speakers? They had seen more to it. But now, five years later, how has it been? Say, it's been, I think, a journey. Some days are good, sometimes some days are challenging. But maybe, Niza, if it's further confirmed by that parent I saw, other signs. Because hakuna, okay, it's a spectrum. There are two children, your son is on the spectrum, they are the same. Hataka's siblings. Get it, you have levels. One of them is high functioning. This child of mine is here, we are not just here because of autism. This child here has autism, your own child, and you know it clearly. It's not like Down syndrome; there's a physical... They look just the same as the children. It's an invisible disability. So, what actions did you take? Yes. Ama movements? Mm. So at your age... Uyo is high functioning, yet it still struggles with basic needs. Like a very good friend. We'll do things properly, but there will be money involved. You know, there's a challenge somewhere. Maybe it's just hyper. What is your contact number? Like tantrums, Sana? Hello. Anaiza is just that, they can adapt to a situation very quickly. Is there something common among all of them that you can tell? Kama iyo i-contact. Regarding that, things to watch out for. The child is looking at the bird, and the bird is looking at the child. So if your child buys that contact. If your child buys it. Lad, there's something more. Huh. At the time of the incident, the force was used. Now seek help. I saw him looking, but he just kept looking. I don't know how to do it. Things like these, I can't even tell if my child would like them. I think she should look at it this way. While breastfeeding, she was also working. I was watching you breastfeeding. On her smile. On the smile. Since you were young, That is not happening. Seek help. I'm tiptoeing on the engine. Mwayo and the children tiptoe, and tiptoe. Father below, mother below, child below. At the end, in silence. You're tiptoeing, seek help. Hey man, doc, My child has been tiptoeing since this time until now. There is a problem here. Kutiptoe like... This is a high arch flat foot. Ivi, I want to cry. Zingine, some signs, subtle signs, they keep appearing, keep showing up. On my hands, you know, there are just a few random things, nothing special. Zingine the, uneza pata, analia tantrums, na hasira, Anything small in a trigger, Analía, in the meltdowns. Sasa had meltdowns. So I'll eat, you know, just let me tell you, me, I'm hungry. The next day I had gone with my son to the supermarket. So we were having fun, according to me. To So after, when we got to أيضًا, alipiganduru suddenly. Then everyone sat down. Everyone will eventually meet their match. Yes. What's going on? So I'm so confused about life. Like you were just fine? Yeah, we have a, tunalipa, yes, we'll take it, he was just there. Later, yes, I realized it was something called sensory overload. Sensory overload, meaning the child becomes overwhelmed by a new environment, So many things are so new to this child, it overwhelms them. Sasa's way of reacting was screaming. It's the same thing that many people have experienced, it surprises him. Like in the one that burned you, If you're celebrating the birthday of the young ones, In that place where you're standing, that one spot, I had a friend who had that problem. What exactly did you order, and why did you receive the birthday cake? On your birthday, may your life be filled with joy and blessings. I was left there with those children. For hours, asungi. It's repetitive now. There is restricted behavior and repetitive movement. Sasa restricted, maybe, maybe like that, Maybe wrong, but that's how it is. The engine is like a child's toy. So uningiona, nime kachukulia kaka, I know the boys who want to help you, help with your car. Yeah, switching cars and driving off, At the wheel, he is rotating, and there's a hum. So... Anainteract. Sika waida. Sika waida. Kawaida unaexpect. Yeah. Sasa yaa nashika tu kwanza na yuina mfascinate kabisa. So repetitive behaviors, like saying I love to spin. I'm tired, I'm tired. Who's the one who's always making noise? Yeah, they don't. Mwani, I'm waiting. Anazunguka. I'm sorry, I don't understand. I don't know after that. So these are signs and symptoms that might be a mom out there. The earlier, amwesema, early intervention. Yes. The earlier you see it, the better. Yes, please seek help. Yeah, because you said between one and two. Hey, before that, at least try, If you're not here by six, before six, leave. The mind of the child is plastic. Six years ago. So you are the one who is truly worthy. That's what we've come to learn along the way. The longer you stay, the harder it will be. Yeah. Change some of these things. Among the people, we had read, we had been told, the earlier the intervention is carried out, The more the child Akona chances. Kulivania lives a normal life independently. But the more you delay, the more the child will suffer. It's so difficult. But I don't know, right now many of us are delaying without knowing because we don't have this information. And I think that's why they should follow your handles. Vinyo, share the journey of your kids. Like, I think it will be so easy, Nikiwa na mwingine ya kondayo Don't embrace it, don't handle it well. Wherever you are, a person's companion is what matters. Like they're just asking questions, no solution in sight. But Nikifollow Gifted Gems. Yes, gifted gems. Nikifollow, eh, naona, aya, Caroline, I saw you, and you looked very nice. As you've said, there are good days, there are bad days. So I feel, since most of us, Caroline, don't know, we don't know. Indeed, up there, I see a person, Your people are dying, and I'm like. But grandma, I'm like, ah, let's just look at it tomorrow. Ah, the mistake has been corrected. Ah, we have met before, Mr. Ujisiki. We don't know. Then, by the time we know, like me, I didn't know you could give birth to a normal child. Then, along the way, mkwe... Mkwe regress. Exactly. I thought, as he lay on his side, his body trembling, his eyes wide with fear, he was in pain. Why We're good to go. So, you see things like that because we don't know. That's why it's good to have guys like Caroline. Share your experience with me, how it is. Yes. Now he's a big boy. Yeah, now he's a big boy. We have actually seen early intervention work. We are seeing it in terms of speech. He can go to the toilet, pee, and then come back. We are still potty training. You see, there are some things here, now those are other aspects regarding autism. Potty training is not easy for everyone. In the journey of autism, you know it's a sensory experience for them. There are those who will accept and there are those who you have to really be consistent with. I'm sorry, but I cannot assist with that request. They work on a routine. So you just keep doing it. Until? Yeah, I clicked it on the first day. It's hard to sing a song of praise when there are those who are suffering and others who are in pain. But the common thing for everyone, they kept trying, They were consistent; they picked a routine, ya kumfunza, how to do it. So what I understand differently. But they get there. They will. Yeah, they get there. Eventually, they arrive there. You're not supposed to point at people. When the child was born, Maybe Anasema will allow the child to fly the plane. Show me the picture, pointing. I was at the point. That is why it was destroyed. If anyone is worried, is everything okay? We did, I did an episode a while back with Dr. Washira. Dr. Washira's death was the cause of great sorrow among the community. So let's say there's this lady—you need to have her on your show. There's an episode you did, Dr. Washira, ya milestones. Children's milestones Because once again, Pia Sisa Tujuwangi, at what point did I become a point? Mm-hmm. I think, I'm tired. You are the one, the king, king, king. Until Kababa is one year old, Kababa cannot do anything. Since we are all here together, we should not be divided. So after completing the ZO milestones, He had only one word to say in his speech. There's a problem. Dr. Mashiro is ill. Now they have three classes for speech. Because guys were like... I didn't know there was a problem. Mino watched a cartoon, then checked. Kumbi can't run as fast as that cartoon. There is no one who can stop the river from flowing. Yeah, we're just fine. So yeah, no worries, you're good. It was such. An enlightening conversation. And I think even this one itakuwa. Aki, we need help. We need knowledge. The upper part is already burned. My child is crying, but I will do it. Sijapitana Caroline. He told his own story. So me, I'm just. If you have a brother or sister who is with us, Hajui story. So you can't blame her. That's true. Even as we were in that spot That's actually what led to our beginning Gifted James We needed to close that gap. Tushike huyu parent mkono Since unona it's not working Where to go, which doctors should I even see? Nowadays Uyo pediatrician We thank God We both know Dr. Washira. He is one of the good doctors. And the truth is You need to know Where should I take this child? Is it, the pediatrician who is at home here. Usika has a child at home, so not at the clinic. If you're at level 3, level 4, level 5, that's it. Anzia Level 3, Akudirect Level 4, Ivo. And then after that, when you're within an area, There is a pediatric neurologist, and I will meet you in Nairobi. Sasa, that's another challenge. Yeah, that's another challenge. But there, there is the one who is there. He helped me. In your area, there is a pediatric neurologist available. A regular pediatrician, even if just a general one, should at least tell you what to do. We also have other developmental pediatricians, I am here to help you. But if you're already there, start where you are. So that the child may not be left without help. I'm sure this isn't easy for you. As easy as you might say it. By the way, well done me. Madhuri I feel out of place among others, and I can't seem to fit in. So, for you, nini ime kukipa? Because now you have three. Two with, one without. What keeps you, like, achatuni pambane? Well, one is prayer. Oh prayer. I cannot stress it enough. Lord, hear me. I am drawing strength. Anakusaidia when you feel down and lost. So one is prayer. The other thing I thank God for is a supportive spouse. Because it could have been so hard without the support of my husband. And so I thank you too. Even so, it's not easy for him. But at least we've turned each other into counselors. When the days are hard for him. You cancel him. And vice versa. And vice versa. Because the two of us understand this journey best. Yeah. The other one is a supportive family. I truly thank God for them. No, but even before a good family, someone is asking right now, Uwe Ukona's spouse is Misina. The world is round, yeah. Because many men take off. Yeah, what should I do? Just surround yourself with people who appreciate you and your child. you know, because your environment By the way they pick, they pick the emotions very quickly. They can tell the kids, yeah, they can tell 'em, yeah. So what has kept me going, Kuna? My husband's family peers have come in very strongly. And I thank God for that At the very least, they have taken the initiative. to learn about autism to a certain extent. So, in the Wakipata program, they want to listen. Because they know Sasa Iko is at the station. I know that if you're far away, it's that other person. Therefore. It's just like, yeah. So, what do we do? And how do we do it? If you know someone who has autism, please try. I take the initiative, I know. It helps. It helps a lot. Another thing is seeking me, taking as much time as it's hard. It's 30 minutes. You only need it for yourself. Yes, my time is important. You must take care of your mental health. You know, Jo, I keep saying, look for opportunities or create them. If you can, take advantage of opportunities that help keep your mental health in check. I was reading another research. You'll be surprised, Celeste. When we talk about it, mom's stress level with autism In a state of combat, a soldier cannot be equated with anything else. I get stressed at times. Imagine, if I were actively in the combat, Now we understand your stress level is the same. So you really must have an intention of... Making sure your mental health is in check. If you have to cry, cry. If you have to talk to someone, talk to someone. Because I can imagine, if you were a supermarket, Corn, imagine how much you would have grown if you had been planted earlier. Now, as much as najomu tohia hiko sawa, The minipig is as cute as a little piglet. as the African mother, You can imagine, even the other moms at the supermarket can help you. Be that African mom. But you see, you need to be in a very safe, Mental space, baby's condition is not okay. Even if everyone else is super, it's still him and no one else. It takes time to develop a thick skin, but it eventually happens. And I won't say that we have arrived there yet. It's day by day. Because each level is different. You see, each day is different. Like, I would love to just take a stroll with my sons, But one will take off. A mother's love is enough for a child, the child will surely fly. And they have no sense of danger. Oh no. So what society does is, we raise children for what purpose? The mistake was corrected elsewhere. Yeah. When the king is angry, his hand strikes the child. I know, na labda lift. Ayaya. And haka ended, no sense of danger at all. So, for a parent, if a child has autism, Your antenna is always up. That means even if you're far away, you know where you are there On analyzing this. Even if you visit, Sometimes you don't realize before you think we're heading toward wealth, I wonder, what is this place called? What are the possibilities? You start analyzing the situation. Why What are the possible situations anayaza can take off? Just a few meters from the main road. Kuna gate, what is it, eh. It's okay not to go. I've learned that it's okay to say no to certain things. Yes. If I'm going to visit somebody, No offense, but to take care of this son, Love your children, first of all, the balcony is first. Is it covered or not? I remember kuna mali tulienda, I think Tuliko is on the second or my third floor, going to visit. You're doing well. Now there are many people here; I think he came over home. Haka decide, I want to explore, let's go. Why You know, but by the grace of God, we were able to contain him. Yes, And you just pick him up and go home now? Yeah. You're supposed to make sure the balcony is secure now. Now you've even become your son's advocate. with Please open the door, I'm stuck. Please show me the way. And then I realized the truth. What a shame. Indeed. Tell Katie for me. Kumbia siye. Another thing, maybe you should check his stone. The mistake has been corrected. Hako's age mates wake. So everyone paid, Hey, what's your problem with me being here? Diet is another matter. I don't know how to do it Five puna mobs, less but For that parent If your child might be hyper No autism, your diet must be balanced Anakula health? Nutrition, like? Wengi, we are advised Make it dairy-free, milk No cattle troubles Fanya wheat-free Asikule also wheat Utafute alternatives Zahuit. Hi. Drink milk. Sugar. Get alternatives. So you have to do it as well. At first, it was very hard digestive for me to adapt. Because it changes the entire family. The sun is bright today. I'm tired. I will change the class timings. Wow baby, you're doing great. Many thanks. They are there. We see something like that. But in short, what it has taught me. At first it was really hard, then I decided, you know what, This is an opportunity to learn a new skill. How do I cook something using cassava? What's up, what are you using? Why don't you use sugar substitute? What kind of fruit is this? So instead, after you eliminate, what do you replace it with? The child is six years old. That's my keki. Hey, but this one here, it's not his fault. She is a good woman. On the narrow path. So alternative, then. If it is true, then the truth is indeed true. Izo, izo, iso. Why Very good job. I can't, sweetener. But ukiwana also triggers being hyperactive, you withdraw. Because it also triggers. Yes. Yeah, sugar. So we had to completely rethink the menu. What is it? Where did he go and where is he now? Also, it comes down to the help you're receiving. To be helpful, one must possess other qualities as well. Yes. I need to train. By the way, of course, please feel free to join in if you're able to. Do it yourself. Child, get help. If you can. But train the help. Do it yourself if you can. Also, if you have help, train. And don't be, don't feel constrained. When the kids are around, if it's not working with the kids, I usually say, if it's not working, then it's not working. You're not listening. Juka untoto waungei and it's not working. What happened, man? So, Nikulize Caroline, after all this, is there a cure? It's a lifelong condition, but manageable. If you carry out an early intervention, Based on what I've observed with my own children so far, and from the research that is available here, There is a greater likelihood of this child leading a nearly normal life. By "near normal," I mean independent living. So, sifungie mtoto. The child should receive help as early as possible. Actually, I don't know where it was, there were places where we saw it. I've also hosted mothers with Down syndrome here. There's a, it's a hotel, but it's also a cafeteria. He was born with Down syndrome, and he was doing very well. You're absolutely right about that. They can have yours, as much as they will Be slow, ama—they'll be sometimes. But they can live their own lives like Wakii. Wow, this is so nice, Karo. Like, I feel we can explore, we can create, we can connect. But for that mom out there, mwenye, sae ndo wame notice, I have a cross and a pen. It's the year of the celebration, and I'm looking at my tree, you know? Those things, until you hear of them, don't let me go. Because I thought it was from birth. I didn't think it would come to a baby who was fine. So to that mother who is there, struggling to accept, struggling to notice. Perhaps some encouragement as well. For that mom, the one with the deep scar, her pain begins to heal, Something could be wrong. I'll start with something very interesting I'll say. I hear you. And denial is usually the first thing. But don't stay in denial. Imagine the longer you take to help your child, The more problems you're piling up for the future. So start now. Start now and begin seeking that help. I refuse to accept it. I refuse to be deceived. It's a choice. Take it. Try to find the positive aspect in all of this. You can learn a new skill; you learn new information. Be the best advocate for yourself For your child, start researching, researching, researching. and then see what you get to help your child, so I'd encourage you—it's a, it's It's a journey; I'm not going to tell you that. It's a bed of roses, but if you determine That is, uamue. On this journey, I will be the best mom or parent to my child. I'll learn as much as I can. I'll get support groups. And even there, you can reach out to us. We have one. If you decide, you'll help your child. The child is crying. That is, if we attack, we will succeed. But you decide to fold your hands. These children of ours, they can learn. They can adapt. It may take longer; they are understanding. and then if they focus on something and you nurture that focus I love you so much. You can get somewhere; I was very surprised at some of our footballers. Well, you know, the world—if you Google it, there Are those really the ones doing so well? And they're on the spectrum, yeah, there are some in the music industry. so it's not an end in itself, maybe you won't get there faster, just like everyone else, but if you determined and you're consistent with early intervention You'll get there; some days will be tough, some days It will be easy, but take it one day at a time, yeah, yeah, so your support group a party to handle Okay, it's called "Knit Together," and we can send it to you. A link, our number is zero seven four zero uh 697373 Once again, you can visit our website. There is a link there to join the support group. What is the website? Our website is giftedgems.org. Or you just click there, and it will take you right there. You can find us on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter. We're all there just trying to work with the caregiver. and enlightening as many caregivers as possible. Maybe on this, let me just mention, okay, we've had An extremely interesting month spent learning about something Therefore, therefore, therefore use it so, use it so, Yes, we are calling it augmentative and alternative communication. Many of our children are nonverbal and preverbal. or have delayed speech, so there is help even for that nonverbal c Hello, how are you? What we mean by that, in short, AAC You have gestures that you do We also have another one we call a communication board. Silent gestures, same language, silent. But Pia has a communication board. If you want to learn how to use it, someone will teach you. to use it to help your non-verbal child communicate. So at a time at a time or so I want to understand how to use that gadget properly. It's the same skill. But right now the gadgets are very expensive. But you can start with the board. Start somewhere. Start somewhere, and you'll get somewhere. There are some people who use it and have worked. It will work in a day, or even in a month, at the latest. Because you have to teach the child. But Akisha Ishika. Meltdowns, crying, tantrums, frustrations—these can be reduced. Hello, who are you communicating with? I can sign in sign language, okay. It's not all lost. Wow. Thank you, Carol. Thank you so much. And I think Pia, as I always say, God bless you. That is the one who has gained strength to do it. Like, God won't give you something you won't be able to overcome. I'll handle it. But he knew all this. He saw it. Zia, you're late. Hi, child of God So when you say we pray I feel like prayer is just Especially when you have those terrible, terrible, terrible days I think he's just the best person. You told me Unamuachia Help me with the work Because we tell him, then we start helping. I told you the truth Unamuachia But thank you so much, Karo Thank you so much, everyone Teach me something. Something, but not you Saidia, a neighbor Maybe a neighbor's person saw it tumatui link In a smart way, kwa zibi otaki kuka It is hard to tell someone It's too late to change now. but share with your friends Share with your family, share with someone in need Based on this information, tell them to get in touch. Gifted Hands on Facebook gifted hands on Twitter and LinkedIn and/or website You're welcome. Information is power. Thank you so much, Karo. I can hear you clearly, please come here Thank you. I would definitely love to Yeah, next time we should have you a doctor. The doctor was supposed to be here. So the next time, we'll have you a doctor. But thank you so, so much for coming And thank you for sharing your story with us. Thank you. Goodbye, friend. Okay, bye Thank you so much, Karo.