Mind Blowing Coaching I've Experienced in 10 Minutes • The Coaching Journey

Recently I had a coaching experience which lasted for about 10 maximum 15 minutes where I was being the coached person and I have to say the results were mind-blowing and I was really inspired by it so I decided I will share it with you as an interesting story. So the way this happened is some days ago like a week ago I was in a coaching online workshop called Awaken Your Inner Coach, led by a legendary coaching expert Ian McDermott. I made an in-depth review of the workshop so if you're interested there's gonna be a link below but in this video I want to focus on how me and Ian had kind of a one-on-one exchange for as I said like around 10 minutes and how impressed I was by how he conducted it and also what results it had and what it brought up in me. Just to give you a bit more information about the the background of the situation, the Awaken Your Inner Coach workshop was focusing on having a good and constructive clear dialogue with your own subconscious or at least that's the way I understand it. So kind of listening into your intuition, understanding how it communicates through somatic experiences, kind of almost questioning sometimes that internal dialogue and and seeing or kind of observing whether it's a negative one or a positive one. Are you being too hard on yourself or are you are you being generous to yourself? There's been a lot of details and I was really impressed by the workshop itself but during the workshop we had a bit of back and forth. Sometimes we were there were like breakouts to groups and we have questions to discuss and sometimes we were asked a question by Ian the person who led the workshop and some people would raise their virtual hand and and answer his question so everybody would have a feeling for you know what's going on through the participants minds and since I thought you know why not I whenever a question was asked I didn't always jump into onto it but if I had something I felt like okay this feels like valuable I can share this or if nobody was raising their hands I was like you know I can do this as well especially if I had something to share not just forcefully and so that was one of those situations and I believe the exercise that we were about to do was and again this is this is my you know retelling of the story this is my my experience so I might not say exactly everything you know the way it was supposed to be but this is how I understood it how I perceived it so the exercise was more or less to to find a question which matters to you and kind of like where there's a more or less like a dilemma where you're considering two options and and just kind of how just actually think well let's not make this too long-winded but basically there there was a suggestion to not be judgmental about your inner process but to wonder to to be open-minded and to explore whatever is happening in you with curiosity which is a really really great approach I love that suggestion and I'm familiar with that process that's kind of how I process my thoughts in general and I really most of the times not always but most of the times and I really love that approach where you're leaving open space and and you're kind of getting to know yourself better through that wondering you're not like this is good this is bad it's either one or the other but the exploration if you are curious about it if you're wondering as as Ian used the term wondering then so much more can open up and so you can discover so many more things maybe an option c option d or or something you just haven't thought about so it's a brilliant process and we were given a task to ask ourselves whatever we're like would find a situation in our lives in ourselves where we are kind of conflicted between two options and to wonder about it and and as we went to breakout groups we were supposed to share what that is and how we feel about that like what what are the two options and so I thought about I had like a number of examples which were on my mind which I could have used as examples but I felt the most the most active one is one if you're following this channel if you're following the journey you're you'll most likely be aware of it it's reading versus exploration and I haven't spoken that much about it I've spoken about that a little bit in the in the review so again you might be in tune but basically the idea is recently I realized that I have very clear limitations in regards to giving what I want to give and my conclusion was that if I want to create the effect in the world that I want to create my conclusion was that I need more knowledge that I need more more information more wisdom as well maybe but mostly just focusing on the knowledge and the skill set aspect of it but a few different people have suggested to me that just being completely focused on your books may not be the way to go and I started to think you know that that may be true my my coaching therapist who I am in constant contact with who is coaching me regularly she suggested as well that you know that it's not all about reading books it's important to explore yourself and and and that potentially the inner wisdom that comes from your own observations and your own explorations may be more valuable than just pure information that you gather from external books and I saw some of the truth in it but I was still conflicted because my ambitious mind was saying no you just need to learn everything that's possible and and I was kind of contemplating about that and I probably will make actually a separate video on digging into the details of that dilemma more but coming back to what happened in that coaching session so nobody was raising their hands to give the example so I just I was like okay I have my example I raised my hand and and Ian was like okay Rokas you know what's your example and I'm we're in a zoom conversation there's like 70 people so they're all listening but it's a one-on-one between me and Ian and I said well my my dilemma my my content my my my wondering is about reading versus exploration like considering so which one is more valuable how much should I invest into which side and I explained the conflict I had in me where I feel that you know yearning to to read and learn and to know more in order to give more and and Ian asked me so he said so what's like what's what's your driving force like well what is that was it what is it that that pushes you to do that and I said I had a clear answer I said well I am very much focused about creating value for everyone else but that's like a core essential primary goal for me to create as much value to others as I can and I came to conclusion that reading gathering information may be the best way for me to go right now but I also have a sense that exploration may be valuable too and I don't know which one to choose and I can't recall exactly like like what was said when because it was such an active process but but but I observed being myself an instructor I was an Aikido instructor yoga meditation so I dabbled in philosophy and many conversations I used to have with my students or clients were kind of inquiring as well I would ask questions and so so that that the whole process was familiar to me and I had some you know coaching experience I was coached a number of times so I was observing it as kind of like I was I was participating participating in the conversation but I was also observing so you know how does to do that like what is happening and oh man was I impressed for the whole workshop actually I was impressed by Ian very much like how curious he was how open he was and how he would engage other people and and he wasn't the type of person who's telling you oh this is the right answer this is the wrong answer you should think like that he wasn't like giving you answers but but he was so good at creating questions or bringing up questions which made you think about it but he was also in my experience my perception he was also incredible at at giving some ideas but not in a way where I know and I will tell you but versus like he was kind of you could feel the authentic curiosity behind his consideration like like he was like you know that makes me think about this and and I feel a little bit like this and this what do you think about that it was like such a such an authentic way of exploring which I admire I feel that's one of the best ways to go because these days I criticize a lot or I'm more and more focusing on criticizing the whole self-help guru culture where people find or even like find partially their truth and they tell everyone their truth as the truth which I think is not the way to go and again Ian was not doing that so so just observing him through the whole workshop I was really impressed and I know I'm spitting off a little bit to the side I'll come back to my main point but I really want to share this uh so what happened is especially after the the coaching session I went through him I realized damn this is a person that I'm looking at and listening to which I admire from the get-go and it inspires me and and I have I had a sense which I don't have often these days uh you know I met so many people great incredible people traveling uh through the world and and learning from the experts like top-notch people and uh I have this feeling with some people but it's it's quite a rare feeling when I look at that person like holy crap that person has something which I want to have as well it's like I I love some quality or aspect he has and I want I want to kind of obtain that as well so I feel like I have a feeling like I want to hang out with that person so that's why I'm so happy not only that I was in that workshop but also that uh I will be participating in in the eight-month course uh designed from what I understand by by Ian of coaching or linguistic programming executive coaching and personal coaching so I'm and he's gonna be one of one of the number of instructors I'm really looking forward to to get spend more time with him and to get to know how he feels how he thinks I had that feeling from him which is rare and I really appreciate it I guess that's what I'm trying to say but coming back to the original story so I'm having this back and forth conversation with him this is kind of a mini coaching session and he made such incredible points during it and part of those points where again I can't remember exactly how he got there I remember just a couple of bits which I will express more or less right now but but he said he focused on the word yearning I said that you know I yearn I can't remember what I said I yearn for it was probably I'm yearning to make a difference or yearning to know more but there was the word yearning and he said you know it's such a powerful word and and and he kind of made a point that me expressing that point already is making impact because other people are listening and and you know that that same example applies having that sense of yearning of exploring of wanting of being in hunger and searching and and seeking for for answers seeking for truth that's already creating value for others and that touched me really deeply because I felt like wow that's kind of something I felt in the back of my mind that's kind of what I'm doing for this channel the journey I'm not giving you answers per se I'm exploring you know my side of the truth or my explorations of the truth and sometimes I question myself it's it's it's a difficult process to run a YouTube channel especially a new one and sometimes I question myself so should I really do this you know is this the way to go is this channel really valuable because I'm so focused on value but deep inside I felt like there is something here that's worthwhile that I shouldn't drop this channel and I was in that in a very specific kind of mindset or consideration just like a couple weeks ago which I expressed in one of videos I thought since I decided to devote myself to learning so deeply I thought about cutting this channel off like just leaving it be and for like a year focusing just on learning and learning and learning without any content but then but already in the back of my mind I had feeling maybe that's not the way to go maybe maybe there is some value in my explorations my searching and hearing Ian say that kind of emphasizing that that there is value in that honest sincere search for truth and sharing that with others this the search rather than the the find and that again that touched me deeply hearing someone as high level as him to point that out and and he again he made a very good point too which I didn't realize at the moment there was a chat session the chat section in Zoom where people are typing stuff and I since I was in a conversation in the conversation with Ian I didn't look at it but but for a moment he said I'm checking the chat and he's like people are already responding and that was the case I later looked through and so many people were saying like wow thank you for sharing this this exploration is so beautiful you know it's inspiring and I was like holy crap that's the you know that's kind of a sign that it it does create value and that that type of inquiry the type of exploration and the the final kind of a cherry on top that Ian did he he said that he just recently watched again Lord of the Rings the the the first one the Fellowship of the Ring and he said that he's always touched by a single moment in that movie which kind of reminded him of this situation and that's the moment where where the Fellowship of the Ring meets there's the meeting and everyone's like I will be the guy who will take the ring because I am capable of this and I'm the guy who's and then he's there everyone's arguing who's the best guy to do it and then Frodo steps in and says you know I don't care about power you know I I you know have nothing to prove basically but but and I don't know how I will get to the final point but I know I will you know I I I will commit to it you know I will give my whole life and essence to it and then everyone is touched by it by his sincerity by his humility and by his kind of confidence by his belief and the process and then people start to say like you know I'm I'm giving you my sword I'm giving you my my my bows and people believe in him and start to follow him not because he's the best of the best not because he knows all the answers not because he's the toughest guy in the scene but because you know he had that sincere kind of faith whatever however you would describe that and and I think he said as well that it reminded him of the hero's journey like that's a great example of the hero's journey and hero's journey I love the hero's journey I keep thinking about the hero's journey it's a big reference point in my life I was like damn oh man oh man that's such a sweet spot you know that was such a good story for me to hear because I love movies I I do like Lord of the Rings I love the hero's journey and it just like it was the perfect story for me where it just like kind of created that final explosion in my mind I was like holy crap and I was kind of a reaffirming that it does make sense what I'm doing that it is a good way to go and you know I don't know how I will get to the final point either I have big goals and I don't know yet how I will get there but there is the sincerity there is the the yearning the desire the commitment the working the work ethics you know all that is down it's I just need to you know trust the process and focus on it and and that was really encouraged that type of mentality by that short coaching session that we have so yeah that really blew my mind so yeah that's kind of what I wanted to share with you I'll let you know what you think I know I kind of went through circles but this is again an active exploration so I hope it wasn't too long for you but it was very touching and I hope you'll find value in it too again let me know what what it brought up in you and we'll continue the journey together in the next videos so thanks for listening actually one more thing very quick I forgot to say but it's funny interesting insight that I wanted to share with you is so my girlfriend was actually she was at during that coaching moment she was actually listening in and she heard the exchange between me and Ian and we later discussed about it and she what's funny is she picked up very different things from the talk like she she she picked up different insights and and the way she understood the message of Ian was different to the way I understood it but for me it's not like a problem it's actually a very funny interesting phenomenon which I think partly what shows what's great about coaching because when you don't give very specific answers of oh this is the truth this is exactly what I wanted to say it's in general we tend to interpret things differently and we tend to take and associate ourselves with the message but also the way the message was designed it was open-ended enough also to find the truth in it which was valuable for you and the people in the chat who were expressing gratitude for the exchange a bunch of people even like privately messaged like oh thank you for you know for for opening up that but this this this talk happened between you you two it was like very inspiring and stuff like that it was like part of that thing is because people took whatever they needed to take from it and it's again it's not an issue that what I took from it and what I understood the message to be and my girlfriend understood the message to be they were I see like what she took and I understand her point but also I but also it's like it's fine that we took different different different parts but again that's like I feel that's like a level of mastery where you present something where there's so much different things wonderful things you can take from it and whatever I presented the way I understood that exchange it does mean like that was exactly like it we're all different and and you know we're taking different things and that's natural and cool so I guess that's what I wanted to share thank you for staying for this last moment see you next time