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Why don't you go to bed? You have to go to school tomorrow. You have to be on your phone all the time. You must be on social media or Facebook. Or are you in class? Tell me. No, I'm going to bed. Why do young people keep using Facebook all the time? You don't even talk to your parents. Should I ask an agency to create a Facebook account for me? I don't understand what they are thinking and doing. If my parents ask me to make friends, I will accept it. But I don't encourage my parents to make friends. I will not make friends with my parents on social media. I don't want to make friends with my parents. Because my parents are busy. I don't agree with it. I have my own thoughts. I have many different friends. If my parents use Facebook, I will make friends with them right away. My parents will understand me when I'm stressed or sad. It's easy to talk to my parents. I have many friends on social media. I want my posts to be understood by my friends. I want to make friends with my parents in real life, not on social media. Today, let's talk about making friends on social media. A familiar face of the show is Mr. Tran Thanh Nam, a psychologist at the National University of Hanoi. Today, we have Pha Linh Trang, a 11th grade student at the Viet Duc High School, Hoang Kiem, Hanoi. Young people are being attracted by social media. What social media do you use? I use Facebook and Instagram. How much time do you usually spend on Facebook? I used to use it for 2 to 5 hours a day. But recently, I have reduced the time to use it to 30 minutes a day. That's a significant reduction, right? What do you usually do on Facebook? I usually use Facebook to post photos, share personal information, to make friends, and to share my work on Facebook. So Facebook and social media are multifunctional, both for work and entertainment. You mentioned that one of the most important functions of Facebook is to make friends. Now, let's talk about your special friends. Do you make friends with your parents on social media? Yes, I do. I make friends with my father on Facebook. Does your father tell you that he wants you to make friends with him? Or do you just see his suggestion one day and agree? I saw his suggestion and I agreed. At first, I was a bit shy. I don't know if I was shy when I shared my personal information. My father is very sensitive. After thinking about it, I decided to make friends with my father. Why did your father decide to make friends with you on social media? And why did you hesitate? Why did your father hesitate to make friends with you? I have to say that social media gives us a lot of opportunities to make friends. But there are also positive and negative sides. My parents want to participate in my social media to help them understand more about me. It's a good need. However, it can also bring some disadvantages. Because sometimes our words are not considered positive. It's always like that, right? We can only make a small group. If it's the same generation as us, it can be contradictory to the views of previous generations. I think those are the reasons that make you hesitate. As Mr. Nam has shared, parents always take every opportunity to talk to their children. Why don't you talk to them directly? Is it better to talk to them through social media? I feel that parents are not used to talking to their children. Besides, they have a lot of work to do. So they don't have time to invest in direct relationships. Moreover, there is a lot of time for young people to spend on social media. Let's go back to Trang. What do you think about your friend on social media? I feel more comfortable on social media. Sometimes when I have a bad feeling, I can share it on social media. Sometimes when I love my mom, but I don't know how to express it, I can share it on social media. This is a positive thing that parents and children can be friends on social media. However, have there ever been any stories that are contrary to what you said? I had one. Because I participated in group activities at school, it affected my study time. Sometimes it affected my grades. At that time, my parents did not support me to participate in group activities. I was a young girl. I posted it on social media. I also shared my personal opinions that were not allowed to my parents. Of course, my father made friends with me and my father read that post. We had a signal with each other. So did that friendship bring a positive effect? Of course. If your parents did not read that post, it would not have a positive effect. Now, if I were to ask you a question, I choose to think about the young people. Do you think that young people sympathize with parents on social media? I think that most of the young people these days do not like their parents on social media. Because young people these days are under a lot of pressure from their parents. They are under pressure from their parents about their studies. Social media is also a place where you can share your personal feelings. Or you can share your personal relationships with your friends. You do not want your parents to interfere too much. And you will feel that you do not have your own space. What do you think about this? I agree with Trang. It is a good thing to make friends. Of course, I feel that you will have difficulties. If your parents do not accept you on Facebook, it is not good. But when your parents accept you, sometimes you forget to write some messages that you think your parents will easily misunderstand. It will cause bad things for your parents. So I think that parents should be calm. In terms of the body, or in terms of the living space where you live, your parents have controlled it. But if your parents control your thoughts, or the way you need to feel, then the parents who control you too much are more likely to be worried and sensitive than the parents who use the approach of sharing to convince you. If you share like that, one of the reasons why parents want to make friends with their children on social media is not necessarily to share, but to increase the way they manage you, right? And if you increase the management like that, it is not a very positive solution. So how can parents and children talk more easily and directly? I think the most important thing is that parents and children have to build a habit of sharing with each other. Parents may have to form a habit for their children from an early age. That is, parents care about their children's emotional states. If you share with your parents, that's what they welcome. If you can create such a mentality, then your children will not hide their feelings. And if your parents suddenly set a state that makes you feel worried, then first stay calm and then share with your children directly. With the way you share like that, I think the quality of parents' management for their children will be better. From the beginning of the show, we have mentioned quite a bit about the negative aspects of parents and children making friends on social media. They have to hide everything, there is no benefit. Its benefits are obvious. It is also an opportunity for parents to draw closer to the generation gap. Social media is also a channel for information research so that parents can discover signs of abnormal emotions in their children in time. If there is any risk, there are timely measures to prevent it. No matter what you say, social media is just a virtual world, right? In the end, parents and children still live under the same roof. You said that your parents are very positive, right? Can you be more specific about the positive and positive things in your parents? Do you know of any parents who are watching the show, who can learn and follow to be more comfortable with their children on social media? Ah, my father. For example, when my father used Facebook, he asked me to take a selfie with him. Then he updated it on Facebook, added my name on it, with very cute sentences. For example, Today I went to eat sticky rice with my daughter. I'm so full. Something like that. My father also often asks me, How was your day at school today? Is there anything fun? In general, he asks me about my class. And when I'm sad, my father often asks me to dance and sing together. So, your father has applied the right methods to bring parents and children closer together. Dear audience, I hope that through today's show, with advice from the expert Nam, with sharing from a young friend, a child, you and your parents will feel more confident in improving the relationship with your children. Especially, it will be very comfortable when you connect with your children on social media. Once again, thank you Nam and Trang for participating in today's show. Dear audience, Today's show hopes that we have helped parents and children to get rid of their worries and from there, become friends on social media and in real life. Once again, thank you for joining us in today's show. Dear audience, to learn more about the show, please visit www.kitnangsongwtv3.com Goodbye and see you again. I see blue skies reflection And everything is blue and blurry Kiss my soul