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There's a bad smell in here. It's so smelly. Mom, why don't you clean up the room for me? I'm sick. How can I bear it? And remember, I have to leave early tomorrow. Mom, I told you I have to leave early today. Why don't you tie my shoes? Mom, where did you put my shoes? Did you cut them for me or did you leave them there? If you can do it, don't do it. Mom, mom, mom. It's a pleasure to meet you again in the familiar time frame of The Lifetime Show. Ladies and gentlemen, with the development of society, information technology, science and technology are also developing. This has made it possible for young people to have more opportunities to get in touch with more knowledge and better jobs. But in contrast to those steps, there are many young people who are gradually losing the ability to be independent and live in dependence on those around them. So where did this happen from? And how does this affect the future development of society? Please come to The Lifetime Show today and meet the guests of the show, Ms. Vu Cam Van and Kim Anh. Hello, Ms. Cam Van. Hello, Hong My. Hello, Kim Anh. Kim Anh, dear. Maybe when Hong My introduced, you already know what our topic today is, right? According to you, what is dependence? Have you ever been a dependent? I think I probably have. Sometimes I do it on purpose, but I also depend on my family, friends, or sometimes I think, oh, just leave it for tomorrow. Or there are people who are dependent on me. I think that when I think that I don't do it, there are others who do it for me. Or someone replaces me, so I just need to leave it and that's it. I think that's a dependence. Ms. Van, what do you think about your answer? Is there any expression of a dependent? That is one of the expressions of a dependent. A dependent usually has no sense of responsibility for things that belong to them. Or they don't have the energy to try in life, but they are always dependent on others. That's why Kim Anh's expression is just one of those expressions. Besides, there are a lot of people. If you are a dependent, you will be lazy, and you don't want to think. And you think that everything is done by others for you. At the same time, you are usually impulsive, and you don't want to try in life. Let everything flow normally. And even if there are many situations, you can't handle it in time. You never want to challenge yourself or take any new breakthroughs. In your opinion, what is the age when you are the most dependent? The age of adolescence. There are a lot of young people. They used to be dependent. But when they were young, from 2 to 3 years old, they started to do things on their own. They wanted to prove themselves. At the age of 2 to 3 years old, they wanted to wear their own clothes, wear their own shoes, or eat on their own. That's one of the reasons even though they know who they are. But if they don't agree with their parents, they are afraid that their children will throw up, or wear clothes that are not suitable for them, so they don't let them do it. That's how they form their mind. There are a lot of reasons for young people to be dependent. Kim Anh, do you have any other reasons? I think it's because of the environment they are exposed to. For example, they are surrounded by obstacles. When they go to school, they think that they have everything in the textbook, so they just focus on studying. They don't pay attention to the outside. When they go home, they think that they have their parents, so they don't have to do anything. They just have fun, study, and sleep. It's like re-establishing their happiness and forgetting everything around them. I think that, for example, when they are in school, they think that they are good students, and have achieved a lot, so they think that they are good, and don't want to try anymore. There are a lot of things like that in school, right? We have talked a lot about the reasons, for example, when they go to school, due to the environment they are exposed to. Do you think that family is one of the first environments that create the tendency to be dependent on young people? That's right, Hong My, that's right, Kim Anh. Family is where young people grow up. Family is the environment for them to develop their personality. That's why in the first 5 months, as we have just shared, parents have to prevent their children from being independent. And when they grow up a little bit more, when they go to school, there are a lot of subjects. Parents expect their children to have a lot of subjects, and sometimes they don't have time. They don't have time to play, to have fun, to have fun, to do housework, to do things that they have to do on their own. Or when they go to school, their parents let them go to school. Everything is already in the textbook. So they just have to learn what the teacher teaches them. And gradually, they develop a habit that that's enough. They don't need to struggle anymore. Or their family members are also quite fake. There may be families who already have people to help them. Their parents don't touch the housework, so they don't participate. And they think that their parents have a lot of money, so if they don't study well, they can still find a job later. And they still have a home, a place to live. In this case, I will share with you a story. There was a student. In the case of meeting parents and counselors, this person was very competitive. How much money does the house have? How much money do you get? He took his classmates to eat. But when he took them to the mall, he spent about a few million VND a day, sometimes up to 10 million VND. He told them, just eat and play comfortably. Our money is for our children and grandchildren. We don't have enough money to eat, so you can use it comfortably. And when I heard their stories, I was shocked. Because they are too subjective. They don't know that there will be risks in the future. If something happens, how can they respond to it? When I heard Ms. Van's story, I thought of many other young people, whose families have conditions. Parents always agree, ask for whatever they want. They think they have the right to ask for that, because their family is quite fake. Parents think that our family is rich, so we have to respond to their questions. So they have an idea that when they need something, they have to ask their parents. And when their parents give it to them, they will feel that they can meet their needs. And they repeat that many times. It will form a relationship. I don't know if your parents always agree with you. I think that I still see that happen every day in my class. There are many people who have an iPhone 4, but they want to have an iPhone 5. They keep asking for higher things. There is a story that I don't know if I should laugh or cry. In the past, I knew a friend when we went to a party together. The whole group bought a kilo of mangoes to share with everyone. But when I asked this girl to peel the mangoes, she didn't know how to do it. She said that in her family, her mother didn't allow her to do anything. Her only job was to go to school. So she always said that she really wanted to do it, but she didn't want to do it now. That's when she realized how unkind the people around her are. Women who don't know how to do such simple things can't be sympathized with, right? So I think that the family and the society must create conditions for you to practice self-discipline in yourself. The family, society and yourself must make an effort to prevent your actions from harming your future. Then you will have ways to change yourself. For example, you have to improve your knowledge. You have to find all the knowledge you can learn on your own. Don't think that you have a family to take care of. Because in life, we can't predict what will happen in the future. For example, if your parents are seriously ill, you will be shocked and it will be hard for you to stand on your own feet. Besides, when you are independent, you will realize that success is much easier for you. So when you realize that, apart from the support of your family, school and society, you have to support yourself. You have to make an effort. We have said that dependence on others will affect your mental health and your development. Do you think that this dependence will affect your family and the development of society? Of course not. First of all, it will affect your family. But it will also affect a large group of people. For example, in a group, if you don't depend on others, don't want to be creative, don't want to expose yourself, you will lose what you want to do. Therefore, if you are not creative, you will not have good ideas. You will lose good ideas and it will make you gradually lose your potential and your qualities. It's a pity. Your words are very helpful. Thank you for joining us today. Ladies and gentlemen, the phenomenon of dependence on children is a dangerous disease that needs to be eliminated to bring development to society. From now on, young people need to create an independent personality in their work, study and life. I also hope that parents should create all the conditions for their children The program will end here. Thank you for watching the program. If you want to watch the program again, you can search for it on www.kỹnăngsốngvtv3.com Goodbye and see you again in the following programs. Please keep in mind that if you are going to arrange a neat and tidy house, you will not be late for this trip. It's not difficult at all. But I can't do it.