sometimes losing people makes you find yourself…it broke your heart but fixed your vision…

what am i going to do today to change what i see in this mirror how you address it is you face it you face it every day you face it every single day of your life the things that how people look how people act how smart someone is this is a race that you run completely alone and you're all by yourself growth only comes through pain that which you do not hate you will eventually tolerate and i think that identifies most people's lives in other words they average becomes sort of like this slow asphyxiation it's almost like an anesthetic and that over time we become kind of immune and dulled to the average that we're becoming your life doesn't have meaning without aspiration or name okay so you need a hierarchy of values there's got to be something at the top it's got to be something important if you don't have that your life doesn't have any meaning so if you criticize the hierarchy or even the ideas of idea of hierarchy you destroy the idea of aspiration and then people have nothing this is i believe the single biggest factor for most people that robs them of success that you use what other people might say or think or be disappointed by as an excuse to not fully be yourself to not fully go after what you want you're going to get out of your life what you'll accept that's really difficult for people i think to understand is look what you think you're worth and what you're going to tolerate is absolutely what you're going to bring into your life and what the outward part of your life's going to look like no there's two motivators right there's the gaining of pleasure right wanting to go get something chasing the dream but then there's the avoidance of pain [Music] i'm great we surround ourselves around people that make us feel great they tell us what we want to hear the second we put ourselves amongst the uncommon people we don't like that feeling we like that person who says hey you know what man i don't feel good today man and they say oh it's okay brother we don't want that in our lives we don't want that person who's constantly challenging our weaknesses we want that person's constantly you know making us feel nice and good and secure in ours that's the mediocrity of life we want to be the best amongst the average people if you don't develop your capabilities and realize your potential you may be successful externally but you will be deeply unhappy because you're not fulfilling your gifts your nature and so that's what the way that's done is bottom up each person discovering their gift turning it into valued skills and then using it to succeed by contributing but one's career is infinite there's there's no end it's like our lives are finite but life is infinite people come and people go but life continues they spend their whole life working for one goal though most will never get it the few that do don't know what to do next because their goals were finite their goals were fine and so there are finite components to your career but your career should be infinite so yes of course you have to win the finite game you have to get the part but immediately when you get the part now you convert to infinite so the monkey mind is jumping from branch to branch it doesn't want to focus on the root of the issue it wants to find the next banana it wants to find the next excuse it wants to find the next instant gratification right that's the monkey mind and so the monkey mind is never going to help you focus on your strengths the reason why we struggle to find our passion is because the world has constantly pushed us away from our strength we've constantly told to focus on your weaknesses [Music] and so we've all been programmed to say oh your strengths are they're fine they're good the way they are or why are you not performing at this and so the one way to know your strengths is to ask yourself what do you do that you feel the most confidence doing when you get tired when you get fatigued when you get down when you're in a slump it's your habits rituals routines and your standards that carry you through if you don't have good habits you don't have good rituals you don't have good routines always in your life you will fall down in bad times in slumps and fatigue and stress so you want to be normal [Music] so you just want to be like everybody else that roams the world not knowing the power that's in them being fine with being mediocre i see a whole bunch of people walking around out here who have no idea how talented they truly are he wrote deep is to hunger the voice of the genuine the centering moment one of the things that i can just tell you as you think about your goals and dreams all of us can say in a spirit of integrity that it's possible that if anybody at any point in time live their dream then it's possible that i can live my all i want you to ever do is try that's it i just want you to try in those moments where you hear yourself i want you to try in those moments where you know that it's time to speak up i want you to try that's all that i ever ask of you because if you simply do that and i say simply as if it's so easy right you will literally unlock the potential of your life you have to ask am i able to turn this fantasy of mine into a fact can i actually realize it can i turn my dreams into reality now you're either going to say yes i'm able to or no i'm not if you realize you are able if you have an understanding of this potential this power within you then you have to ask yourself are you willing and there's a long series of tests there you don't even know what you're going to come up against one thing is for certain you'll come up against ridicule you have to be willing to do whatever is required if you really want to turn your fantasy into a fact the second you say yes i'm willing at that instant you've created your theory [Music] [Music] so [Music] [Music] you