drawing out my dream life and how I plan to make it happen! let's plan together

[Music] Heat. Heat. [Music] You were down or not even feeling after that. [Music] Hi y'all. This is going to be a very motivating vlog. All right, I am feeling very inspired. I have a couple things that I need to get together in my life. I'm actually going to be planning for the next couple of months up until September. So, really through the summer, I need to do like my vision board, my goals, my habits. We're getting very, very micro on how to essentially like create the life that you want. Set goals like what I do. This is really just what I do. You guys can take what you like, leave what you don't. Um, I actually just ordered a habit tracker. Let's see if that's here yet. I have never used to have a tracker, but I was influenced by Miss Shelby Sako herself. It's arriving today by 4:30. I'm really excited. I have like never been more motivated work-wise, honestly. And I feel like I'm always for the most part pretty motivated, but I just like love love love building friend of mine, which is my home lifestyle brand designed to help you gather in the home. Speaking of, it's actually the perfect Mother's Day gift and we are running a sale for Mother's Day. So, if you spend $60, you get 15% off. If you spend $100 or more, you get 25% off. It's the perfect Mother's Day gift. The recipe journals, the dinner cards, the night cards, the family cards specifically is what I would recommend for Mother's Day. I would get the recipe binder and I would get the family cards. I think that is a very, very sweet, thoughtful gift for mom and I love that. So, that's just running on our site currently. I also need to get my house in order. So, we're going to be cleaning and organizing today. It's all goal setting. It's all cleaning and organizing. We're gonna do a vision board. It's gonna be like actually everything. Like this is like my favorite kind of day. Okay. I actually just filmed a haul. So, this is a mess. But before I get into my big like brainstorming, locked in, zoned in mindset. I am going to clean this house and shower and tan. Okay. I need to be clean. I need everything else around me to be clean. I need to light some candles. I have some new stuff too to set up that I got from Anthropology. Um, it's insane how fast my grass grows in my backyard. Like I know grass grows and like that is definitely something that happens, don't get me wrong, but it just like overnight it's all it's crazy. So if you guys are partaking in this with me, let's clean, let's shower, let's get cozy, and let's get ready. [Music] Hey. [Music] I'm freshly showered. The house is clean. I still need to vacuum. I just realized that I forgot to do that. I'm getting cozy in bed because this is where I do my best planning and brainstorming. I also have tanner on right now. It's an express, so don't mind that. And I ordered myself some sushi. We got spicy edamame crispy rice. I just got a little spicy roll. I need to get to brainstorming. Here are my items that we were using. One, my laptop. I have this heaven mayhem case on. It's the cutest. One Leatherology journal and another Leatherology journal. This is business. This is personal. I really really want to focus on business because that's truly all I care about these days. However, like I cannot keep neglecting my personal life. So, we will be getting to that a little bit. That'll be a story for later in this vlog. [Music] I'm back. It's a couple hours later. I ran some errands and I got Smoothie King. Okay. But I also got some things printed out for a vision board. I started off by going online. I'm a digital girly these days, so I need all my stuff online. Um, I actually asked Chacht to help me with my goals, and it was helpful. And then I built a private notion board. I actually will go through tomorrow and go through all of my goals with y'all and what I'm going to do in order to achieve these goals. Um, and I really like them. I got very granular. I put a date there. I organized it by category. I had four different categories. House guest, friend of mine, Kinsey Elizabeth, socials, and YouTube. And then personal. personal really being like dating. But the thing is like it just sucks because I like don't want to be alone forever. And I really thought especially being in Nashville, I was like, "Oh, I want to date a lot." Like there's something about being in a city that you don't even though I do live here now technically, but I don't live here full-time. There's something about the energy of a city that you don't live in full-time that's just like more fun when it comes to dating. By the way, I have all my face balms on right now. So, if I look insane, it's because there's a lot going on here. Maisy and I talk about this a lot, but I'm trying to channel the energy of like when you are in a new city. You know, when you're out and you're like, "Oh my god, this is so fun. There's like you guys everywhere. We're having the best time. The energy is amazing." And that happens everywhere. And like that actually really is just you having that energy because you are on vacation. I'm trying to channel that energy with me everywhere I go, okay? Especially in Asheville, but even in Dallas. And I like to just like stay home, work, work, work. Like I'm so excited about friend of mine right now. I think probably the most I've ever been, which is saying something because I'm always very excited about friend of mine. Past year and a half haven't been my best. So anyway, I'm just really really motivated and very excited and very inspired about friend of mine right now. So I just want to stay home and work literally 24/7. I feel like that's all I do. Even this past month, I'm like, this month was meant for me to just kind of get acclimated to Nashville and then when I come back in June, it's going to be really crazy because of CMA Fest and all the events and all that stuff. But, um, in May, it's going to be crazy in Dallas. Anyway, anyway, with all that being said, I don't even remember where I was to begin with, but I made goals for every different category of my life, which we will get into at the end of the video. And then I decided I needed a vision board. I'm a visual person. and I need to be able to see these things out. And so I went and printed some stuff off. I'm going to cut it all up and I'm going to place it on that pin board. Bulletin board with bulletin pins. Is that right? Push pins. That's what I was thinking. I got new ones. Okay. I do feel like things are really coming together career-wise for me and I'm feeling good about them. That's just kind of my process. Yes, I like to go through, make the actual goals, then do the vision board so I can see it, and then make a plan of how I'm actually going to achieve every single goal. Because like a vision board is really just that you need more, like Lauren Bostic used to say, you need an action board, which is true. Like you don't just like look at these things and just like pray it's going to work out. You need to look at these things as a reminder every day to remember where you want to be at the end of this year. Some of this is a little bit beyond. Um, oh, I was talking about that because of dating. Okay, with dating now I'm like, I really don't want to do that. And part of me thinks maybe I'm not ready if I really really don't want to do that. I think before I really didn't want to date, but I did want to partner and now I'm like I don't even know if I want to partner. But I think it's because of the freedom and flexibility I have right now living between two cities. But I don't know if that means that I should just like not date and just take a second back. Like I have not dated for so long so I probably shouldn't. And like I do want to meet someone and I'm turning 28 this summer. Not that I feel like all this pressure really around like age, but I am thinking like, okay, if I want to have a family in my 30s, I should probably at least start dating now. Not that I need to be married by 30. Well, that would be nice for it just to work out. Um, yeah. I don't know. Now I'm kind of like going back on it, but I just think that I need to ignore that. And maybe it's just because I'm like scared, you know what I mean? Once you stop dating, it's so much harder to get back to it. And like that's what I'm dealing with and I have no one to blame but myself. Another struggle that I feel I've been facing for a while is that I just feel like I can't break past like where I'm at more numbers wise, like the amount of views that I get on a video or the amount of like followers or like I feel like I just like stay stagnant and I just can't really break to it. And then when one of my other platforms like it grows, it only grows to a certain amount and then it just like sits there and it's stagnant and I don't want that. And then I am thinking like well there's something wrong with me like is it because I don't believe in myself? Is it because I am not like manifesting enough or not like praying enough or not thinking enough or like I'm just not in the right place for that to happen? like I just like really internalize it and I overthink it and I'm like so grateful for it and I work very hard but I do want to grow and I do want obviously this is like a job and a career and a business that just you know helps all the everything else but I do feel like there's this like block like there's this wall once I get to the certain point I'm just stuck there and I can't get past it and I can't break past it. So, I need to figure out how to break past that because I cannot for the life of me figure it out. I really part of me, okay, like obviously it is me, but like I more so mean like it's something that I can't figure out. Like I can't figure out what it is in me that's not allowing myself to get to that point. Or maybe it truly is just like it's going to happen just in the right timing. I don't know. I really don't know. What I'm saying here, I think, is a bigger idea than just like a subscriber count or a view count on YouTube. I more so mean like breaking past something in your life, like a limit. I don't know. I feel like I'm like setting a limit and I can't break past it, but I want to break past it. And I really do believe in myself. Like it's this weird thing where I really truly do like think that I can do all these things, but then there's like certain I don't know. there's like certain things that I'm like, well, that just never happened. So, and I start to just like be okay with. I don't know. I really don't know what I'm trying to say here. I hope that I'm making sense. I'm really just like fine-tuning when it comes to like fitness goals and routines. I would say like those are my main things that I'm switching up a little bit or just fine-tuning like making taking a little bit up to the next step. Going to get to work with this stuff. And oh my god, guys, I got a habit tracker. Okay, I was influenced by Michelle Baco. Love that woman. And before you guys say to have her on the podcast, I already have actually. The episode is up. It was up like probably 2 years ago, but it's a good one. Go listen. Anyways, she created this habit tracker. I saw her talk about it on TikTok and I of course had to support my girl and I had told me see that I got one and then she got one and she wrote down all of her habits that she's doing. So, I'll take you guys through all that tomorrow. Heat. [Music] Heat. Heat. [Music] Heat. Heat. Heat. [Music] Hello guys, these next day. Yes, this is lemon water and a glass of wine. Sue me. Okay. Okay. We're going to have a very important business meeting. All right, y'all. We're going to go over my findings from yesterday, if you will. I had to pour myself a little glass of wine to shoot some content for friend of mine for anthropology. Crazy. And now I'm like, I can't let this go to waste. It's Abalene. It's my favorite one. I started my goal list. I don't mean for this to be all about me. I'm just trying to kind of take you guys through my process. I'm also very big on saying your goals and dreams out loud. So, I feel like you and I are sitting here like vision boarding together and going through all of it. I'm hoping that the birds are peaceful and not annoying cuz they are so loud here. All right, let's review my vision board. So, this is really for summer, like now until September 1st. Obviously, not all of these things will be accomplished or happen by then, but we will at least be moving closer. Up here we have a lot of work stuff sold out. I want our summer drops to sell out really bad. Frame bridge. They're one of my dream partners for friend of mine. I think they'd be amazing. Like we could do the coolest friend of mine patterns as mats and then eventually frames. Like I just think it would be so sick especially for like events and stuff. Um I like this general vibe. I know of course YouTube because I really want to focus on growing on YouTube for both my vlogs and this just main this channel in general and the podcast. Um, Charleston. I really want to do some friend of mine stuff there. We have Hill House on Nucket. My dream would be to do a friend of mine event on Nucket. At Hill House, like doing like a little mini popup, maybe an event. Maybe we do like lead a panel and it's like I host it for an alley. Like I don't know what it could be, but I'm obsessed. Then we have Anthropology in store because I really want Friend of Mine to launch in store versus just the website. Um, lots of stuff, friends, family. There's like these old women on here that I'm just like obsessed with. I got all these photos on Pinterest. I obviously don't know any of them. Um and then I have some love stuff. I do need to work on that. And then Nantucket more. Um lots of friends. It's really just like outside cooking, baking, crafting, drinking wine, being outdoors. That's really like my main thing. Hair because I just like need to get ready. It makes me feel so much better about myself when I have like a fresh blowout. And like my hair right now is really gross. The water in Tennessee is just tough. And I did get a filter and it has been better, but my hair's just like I need to just get it cut I think is the issue. Um, cute stuff, more cute vibes, lots of drinks, like just hosting obviously nothing crazy. Main stuff is just like outside. This summer I want to be outside 24/7. I either want to be at shows, I want to be going to like the Ryman, the Opry, like Blubber Cafe, events, all that stuff. um between both like Dallas and Nashville. I want to be at outdoor dinner parties. I want to be on land. I want to be near horses. Like I just want to be outside and I want to really like go full force towards my dreams, especially with friend of mine and YouTube. But I don't want to just become a hermit, which like I've already done the past week in Nashville. Like I haven't left my house and all I've been doing is working. So I really want to make sure that I'm still putting myself out there because I do want to meet someone. Right now I'm not feeling that. so closely to my soul, if that makes sense. But I do want to like have kids in my 30s. So I'm 27, I'm turning 28 this year. Like I need to kind of just start dating at least. So anyway, um with that being said, I need to be putting myself in new environments constantly. Like the first couple weeks that I lived here, I was just always putting myself out there. This was literally last week. Okay, I've been home for a couple days and now I'm like, this is awful. Um but anyway, I just need to be putting myself out there. So this is the vision board. I'm obsessed. Okay, we're gonna quickly go through my goals and my habits just so I can tell you guys like how I plan to get where I want to be. So, I went on notion and I separated them into four different categories. Friend of mine, house guest, um Kinsey Elizabeth, which is sounds so annoying to say my name in third person, but it's just like YouTube social and personal. The first goal, this is very ambitious, but I do think it's possible given YouTube growth. I want a double house guest listenership. That is massive. I'm going to do this by getting a lot of guests. I used to we used to be really really guest heavy and now it's mainly just like solos with my friends because that's what our normal listener prefers. However, that's not growing the show. Like I prefer those episodes too, but I need to be doing stuff that's like gaining traction with newer audiences to bring them to my show. So I will be doing that by focusing on YouTube growth and getting guests. And I will be repackaging the title, thumbnail, all that stuff to fit it towards YouTube. I want to get three high-profile guests. I have one. And then there's a ton of people I want on my list. Like I really want Joy Lens from One Tree Hill on. I had a conversation with her actually cuz I read her book. She's amazing. She literally is like the most incredible person. She has this book called Dinner for Vampires. You need to read it actually. She was in a Christian cult. It's so fascinating and just it's so impressive and inspiring to see like what she's gone through. Um, Wishbone Kitchen would be a great guest, especially with her book tour. I would love to Okay, relax. I would love to have teams on, too. I've been loving her solo episodes. There's a bunch of people. Honestly, I'm interested to see who you guys think I should have. I would love this is like reaching reaching, but I would love to have Hayden Paniti on at some point cuz she also lost her brother and I just think it'd be like a very helpful conversation. But like Kelly Ruther, she's just fun. Like I want bigger guests. I really want to have Bobby Brown on um during her book tour and I'm so excited to read that book. I just like love people especially like over the age of like 50 or 60 because they just get actual real good advice because they live life. So really I would like to like target that age for guest as well because like I learn so much more from that. So I will be doing this through pitching with our PR team a bunch of people but I really want to get to 20,000 views per podcast video average. I'm gonna do this by spending a lot more time ideulating the YouTube like titles, thumbnails, who the guests are. Maybe go a little YouTube heavy on the guest. Um, I would love for like one of the videos to have like 100,000 views. Like that would be crazy. Anyway, also 10,000 newsletter downloads. That reminds me guys, I have a newsletter where every single Thursday you get an email of what I'm listening to, what I'm loving, what I'm reading, what I'm doing, what I'm learning, all of those things. I think you guys would really like it. By the way, guys, I do have a newsletter where every single week in your inbox, you get what I'm learning, which is a nod to like old house guest podcast episodes. We do that as a series, what I'm listening to, what I'm reading, what I'm loving, and the new podcast episode. It's a really fun newsletter. We also have downloads, so we have like our top my top 100 book racks. If you guys ever need book racks, it is on there. You guys can download them. I'm also working on like a DFW master list that should be coming in May at some point. So, I'm going to be doing that by sharing the newsletter cuz I literally never share it with you guys ever. This is the first time I talked about on YouTube probably. And then I'm going to do more downloads so we can gain more emails. Um, for my Kinsey Elizabeth YouTube social overall, I want to grow to 150,000 Instagram followers. Um, I want to grow to 750,000 monthly YouTube views, which I used to do, so we can get back to that. And then I want to start averaging like 40 to 55,000 views average per vlog. And I'm going to do this by just spending a lot more time ideulating videos versus just like filming week in my lives every week. Listen, like they can still be week in my life videos. I'm just packaging them differently. This all was very inspired by my conversation with Tess Barlay, which actually is coming up soon on the podcast and then the video that I watched yesterday. Like there's just things that I can do to repackage and make it more accessible for a new audience. Like the videos, all the content that I feel like I make is really just content for the audience that I have now versus the audience that I want to grow to. Like I obviously want to obviously I obviously always want to make content for y'all. But there's a way to do that and make content for other people. So working on that for a friend of mine. I really want to do some stuff on Nucket. The Hill House collaboration will be a dream. I want three new major wholesale partners. Two of them are already pretty much close to close. I want to hire our first full-time employee by end of summer. This would have been a lot easier had the first couple months of this year been better for us. I feel like everyone's struggling right now with sales, but I just want to blow us up this summer so bad so that we're able to make our first full-time hire. Um, we have a needle point drop that should be our first one back launching with our new partner. The hosting journal will launch. I want that to sell out within like days, 3 days. friend of mine in store is my big dream. And then personal, I'll share one of them. I do want to find love. I say that very loosely because like I can't even really picture it. Like I don't really even know if that's what I want. But I need to just start putting myself out there in dating. I think I just got too I know I just got too comfortable. So I'm going to read the book. This is so embarrassing and cringe, but I've heard great things. I'm going to read the book Calling in the One. And I'm going to make myself go on two dates minimum a month. So, those are my goals and that's how I'm going to achieve them. And then these are the habits also. Okay. I'm going to need a lot of energy. So, I need to be taking care of myself because I'm going to be busy, busy, busy. Okay. I want to be doing 11,000 steps per day. That makes me feel so much better emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually. I get my best ideas on walks. I'm very productive after a walk. I want to be getting 100 gram plus of protein a day. It makes me feel amazing. I want to be taking my hair vitamins, Neutrifall, mouth taping every night because I've never gotten better sleep and it's the only time I ever wake up with energy. Uh, five workouts a week. I pretty much already do that. Three days strength training, two days Pilates. I want to be sculpting my face every single day. It's not that hard. My face is so puffy all the time. And imagine if I just took 3 minutes to sculpt that thing, you know? Want to be journaling daily. I love journaling. It's amazing. I'm not consistent with it. I want to be consistent. I want to be reading 30 minutes a day. I'm pretty consistent with that. I used to read way more than that a day. Um, so I want to get back to that. And then I want to be waking up 6:15 the latest. Really, it should probably be 6:30, but we'll try 6:15. So, that is going to be my habit tracker. And that is how I plan to achieve my goals and create the life that I want in the coming months. That's where where I'm heading, where I'm going. I like doing a couple months at a time cuz it's a little bit less overwhelming and then you can get like really practical on like things that you're going to do right this second. So, anyway, I hope you guys enjoyed this video. I love you guys so much. and I will see you in my next video. [Music]