Your Assumptions About Us As Parents

We've been parents for six months now. So naturally we thought we'd let the internet do some interneting and give their opinions about us, specifically about us as parents. Here is your assumptions. First assumption. Gabe has struggled with connection with Jess post birth. We're just diving right in. Oh my gosh. Yeah. We're not easing into it at all here. I would say like partly true and partly not true. Partly true because it's harder to find time for it. Yeah. Given the circumstances of just trying to keep another human alive, that requires a hundred percent of your attention. So like naturally it's going to be harder. And I think the time where connection was hardest to find was the time spent learning on how to operate in this new season of life. Like at the beginning. Routines are out the window. Like I remember we had to have a couple of conversations just because it's so new. Like it's such a big transition. And during that time period, I think connection was definitely lacking compared to what it literally was the week before. But then over time we were able to get that back for sure. I feel so connected to Gabe because we are in this together. Seeing him father my daughter, like it's the coolest experience and I definitely feel connected, but I do agree that us time is like so much more limited now. Yeah. Gabe changes more diapers. I might say yeah. Yes. When I'm around to do it, you have the breastfeeding as like the intimate thing that is a connection thing for your child. For dads it's like, Oh, I can't breastfeed. But like I can change her bare butt. It's a little way to like bond. I know that sounds weird, but it's true. If I finished feeding, I'm like, daddy wants to change you. I actually really enjoy doing it. Changing the diapers obviously kind of gross, but it's more so when she gets put on her change table, she is like, just for some reason she's the happiest. And it's just so funny. She's laughing all the time. I'm just kissing her. I tickle her belly, like all that stuff. And it's just, it's just really cute. Yeah, it is really cute. You love Micaiah too much to have another baby. No, I can definitely have another baby. I was talking to one of our friends recently. I said, I don't know how I could possibly, I know I would, but it's just the love I have for Micaiah is so next level that it's like, how do I even have room in my heart for that same amount of love? And our friends said like your heart makes room. And I thought that was really sweet. The thought of being able to love another baby the same amount that I love her is actually really exciting. That's going to be nuts. Having two kids. Whoop-dee-doo. Guys, we've got more assumptions, but first coffee. Haven't said that one in a while. How are you doing? Good. Good to see you. This is a lovely little Australian cafe that just opened up near us a few months ago. I know it's literally my favorite. And we like know the people now. We come in here so often. You won't be able to say no to what she wants. I think we will. I think so too. What's the why behind it? We're going to be able to say no to what she wants because the goal is to raise a competent adult, not a well-behaved child. So like with that perspective in mind, it makes it easier to say no and have the child practice delayed gratification and all those sorts of things that you need to practice and instill in your child to become like a well-functioning, competent adult raising children. That's what you have to do. You have to like teach them. I think that will also help in explaining the why instead of just going like, cause I said, so is it going to get the point across correctly? Yeah. And then it kind of allows room for distrust. I think even if it's a no, for the sake of saying no to say like, Hey, I'm trying to teach you that like life, when you become an adult, sometimes you just, it tells you, no, sometimes like life just says no, and you can't do everything that you want to do. So I'm just going to tell you, no, now to help you practice that for the future, explaining it that way to let them know that you're saying it for their own good is different than just saying, because I said, so listen to me, you know? Yeah. Just got our drinks. Oh my gosh. That is so funny. Why? Oh, Oh, come on. You see that? That's right. That you will force your child to go to church. I think force is the wrong, I don't think force is the right word. It's not the right word that we will take our child along with us to church because that's what we do as a family. Yeah, I agree. It's something that like Gabe and I do every week. And so it would be weird, I think to be like, Hey, you guys stay home while we go to church. Yeah. That'd be really bizarre. Obviously everyone is different and I think everyone will have their own like walk and path, but it's something that Gabe and I definitely want. Something our family does. Yeah. Parents are lame. No offense. Oh, it says no offense. Oh my gosh. I was worried there for a second. I like nearly got offended. Always singing. Yeah. I would say that's definitely accurate. Even if it's just me with Micaiah, like you have no idea how much I sing to her. It's fun. And like singing to kids is so good for them and she loves it. She's loved like music and singing ever since she was like really little. She's taught me. Yeah. She tells me things. I just make up songs all the time. Yeah, we do. I'll take a melody of a preexisting song and then just change the lyrics to her name. Jesus loves Micaiah Lou. Not because her eyes are blue or because the things she do just cause she's Micaiah Lou. I don't know. Gabe is going to be the strict parent when Micaiah gets older. I think because of the way I was raised specifically, like my dad's tendency to be so, so strict. It's something that can naturally happen because that's the way I was raised. I'm like really intentionally trying to use being strict in a healthy way when it's needed and necessary. That's exactly what I was going to say. My parents were still strict, but definitely in a healthy way. I would say that'll be like a thing I'll need to be like catching myself doing and correcting within myself as I learned to parent better. That's very self-aware. Just really self-aware of me guys. Sorry. You guys overthink parenthood even though you are exceptional at it. I guess it's normal. Not sure if that was like a diss or yeah, that's confusing. Maybe this person is assuming that we are overthinking it and like freak out about everything we do. Although we're good at it. I'm not going to say she's wrong about us being absolutely exceptional. I think it's really interesting. I feel like nothing. So I just, that one went right. I'm sorry. I feel like a lot of parenting has come naturally. I know we're not at a stage of where they're like misbehaving or anything like that, but I have found a lot of it has just come really naturally. And so I know that we are good parents to Micaiah. Does that sound too weird to be? Wow. I don't mean it in a cocky way, but it's like, I can just tell. I guess you could say we overthink it, but I don't know if we're fully overthinking it as a thing. Some people may think we're overthinking it, but. We're overthinking this question. Sure. All right. Next. You don't slash won't let Micaiah watch TV. I will let her watch TV. I forget who I heard it from, but it was the most brilliant screen time tactic that also teaches the children slash child that also teaches the children slash child. I guess like time management skills, this guy and his wife allowed their kids each one individually had their own iPad. They put the chargers on at the beginning of the week and then they had one full charge of their iPad throughout the whole entire week. Child could use it all up on one Sunday or use it, you know, spurs throughout the week and then Saturday they saw 50% and then they just go ham on Saturday. But it like taught them time management skills. Now with longer lasting battery life and devices nowadays, don't know how that's going to work because I feel like you could really utilize a full charge throughout a week. I don't want to be someone that's like, I'm never going to give my kids an iPad and then like two years down the road they have an iPad. But I would love if we could just be a little old fashioned. You know what I thought about the other day is that I had to wait. I knew a specific time that Hannah Montana was on TV and now kids don't have to wait for a certain time or a certain day. Anytime they want, they can, you know, go to Netflix or whatever and stream whatever. I watched a lot of TV and movies as a kid. Like I loved Disney channel. I like learned to knit. I made videos like I did random stuff that I would just love to encourage them to do things that aren't just like watch TV on the weekends. It's kind of hot in here. Yeah, because you're in here. You want at least three kids. That's a pretty good assumption. I would say at least two, but I have a feeling that we're probably leaning more towards three. I don't know. You never know, honey. I think it depends on what like the Australia family situation turns out to be like if your parents end up moving here one day or something, you know, something like that, that's a lot easier scenario to have more kids. But then it's also like, I don't want to like not have the kids that God wants us to have just because we're traveling. We'll see how we feel after two. If we had to say a number, let's say it at the count of three. One, two, three, three, four. No processed food for Micaiah. That's funny. Sounds about right. In the house. I think we try to stick to like kind of more whole foods. Maybe it's the right way to describe it. But when we go out, like it's not like I'm never going to let her eat a KitKat. We're eating a cookie right now. There's a place that has the best donuts here. So to keep me from just going there and ordering a donut every day, I give myself once a week after church on Sundays, Jess and I go to this place, get a donut, we'll get a coffee or whatever. But like that's my one donut for the week. God put some delicious food on this earth. So I think there's going to be a healthy balance. Yeah, no offense, but it seems that Jess is more connected to Micaiah. I think that's normal. I think that's like also no offense to you, like science. I'm so offended right now. I feel so connected to her because like she was really in my belly. And you're like breastfeeding. There's like a different relationship that you have during the first few months to the first year or so. But I will say I have seen your connection with her grow stronger and stronger as she is getting more playful. The funniest thing that she does is she'll like do something and then I kind of like sit there and look at you to like get your reaction. And then once you start laughing at like what she did, she'll then start laughing because she made you laugh. I laugh more because of what she's just making me laugh. Then that wasn't even a proper sentence, but me too, honey. I think this is a good segue. Gabe is the cool parent. Absolutely. He is already the cool parent. Holla for a dollar. He's the cool parent. And I'm like, holla baby, holla, holla at your boy. So cool. Y'all are planning to homeschool your daughter. Probably, probably. Gabe had such a good experience with homeschool. I feel like you need to be in an environment where there's a lot of homeschoolers in your area. So it's not, you're not just like bone wolfing it and your kid is unsocialized. We're like, I was in an environment where there was a lot of homeschool kids. So I was like always hanging out with friends and whatever. And like I was socialized here. There's also that. I already have friends of like new moms who went to homeschool. So I feel like we will all have that together. Yeah. Also my brother's probably not watching this video, but I would make him play skills with me when I was young. I'd be like, let's have maths. And I'd like to have this little printout. And so I'm like very excited to live that. A little homeschool room with a whiteboard. This is a cool parent right here. Oh yeah. See great. You guys will not argue in front of your kids. We don't necessarily argue a lot anyway. I think we will have disagreements in front of her that we can like show how we resolve them in a healthy manner. My parents didn't fight like they weren't fighters either, but I definitely saw them disagree. And I think that's healthy. I also saw them be really, really lovey dovey with each other. And so I think it's like really healthy for them to see that. I don't know the psychology around it fully, but I feel like if you don't like disagree at all in front of your kids, it's not giving them a full like truth of what a marriage relationship is going to be. Oh, this last one's juicy. Seggy time is low now. Well there's obviously a period of where it's going to be really low right after birth. What is it? Six to eight weeks that you can't have sex. You can't have segs. I think also you just need to remember like at the very beginning, your priority is like learning how to keep this baby alive and just like learning this whole new world with your partner. And so I think there's always going to be ebbs and flows. Ours is definitely like an upward linear graph of being able to incorporate being more intimate with each other. She's finally sleeping through the night. So now there's time for us to just like be together without Makai there. I know. I think a lot of the time too is exactly that. It was just like you're with the baby all the time. Anyway, I love you. I love you. These were pretty kind assumptions. If you liked the juice in this video, you'll probably like the juice in this video. The one on justice face. Bye. See ya.