I went on 10 dates in 30 days and here's what happened ...

A little over a month ago, I decided that I was going to do a challenge where I went on 10 dates in 30 days. And if you know me, that's actually quite crazy because I don't date. I don't like dating. I don't like the apps or I didn't like the apps. This challenge actually seemed like one of the best things that I've done for myself. A little over a month ago, I was visiting my friend Ally in Wilmington and I was talking to her. I was turning 28 and I was just saying, you know, I really just like need to like meet someone. I would like to meet someone. I would like to find someone, but I literally could not, for the life of me, get myself to go on a date. I previously have always dated friends. Like, I wasn't like out and about dating. I would just meet someone and then we would date for a year or two and then we'd break up and then I would happen to meet someone. So, I had never really gone on like a ton of different dates. And Ally has been saying forever that I just need to start going on dates and like putting myself out there. And I, for whatever reason, was just convinced that I was going to find someone without going on dates. Like I was like, I don't need to do that. Not doing that. Not interested. The thought of going on dates was exhausting to me. Like wasn't fun. Didn't sound like a good time. Okay. She knows you very well. And she said, "You're such a goal- oriented person. Like why don't you just give yourself a goal of going on like 10 dates in 30 days cuz it needs to be more than just one because one is like not enough. I need of course like something in an extreme." So she's like, "Give yourself a goal of going on 10 dates and 30 days." And if you burn out after it, whatever, at least you're like kind of just getting in to the routine and the habit of like going on these dates. That is what I did. And about 30 days ago, I started on my dating challenge. And guys, I'm taking you through the whole thing. Honestly, this was probably the best thing I've ever done. And this is crazy coming from me. Like, I've become one of those people who like tells you to go like, it's actually crazy. I'm I'm a very different person now. So, I'm going to recap my thoughts, things I learned, ideas, why I think you guys should do this at the end of the video, but I will take you guys through the full journey because I obviously filmed it all. I didn't film the dates, don't worry. There's only like two that I didn't film. The very first one was a date on the 4th of July that I do recap um with a man in the army. It was a little too intimate for a first date, I will say. And then um I think like date seven or something cuz date seven was just really chill and I just like forgot to film. Um, but anyways, let's go through my 10 dates in 30 days challenge. Hi y'all. We're getting ready for date number two. I didn't film number one because it was so last minute. Also, moment for the wine. Size of my head. Like, that's easily two glasses. I really got ahead of myself there. Um, but the last date I went on on the 4th of July and I went with a troop. He was the nicest guy. So fun. We were in Nashville. He just like met up with us and then we like hung out that night. But um he's a troop and it was the 4th of July. So we're sitting there like during the fireworks and all the like army and stuff's coming up and I'm like am I supposed to like say thank you for your service like make out with you? Like what am I supposed to do? Like it was like too intimate almost for like the first I can't even describe it guys. It was just crazy. Obviously thank them for your service but I met in the setting of the date with this man like am I supposed to make out with you right now because you know what I mean. It was really something. Anyway, tonight I'm going to drinks at Facini with a guy from Hinge before I get dinner with my cousin. I'm getting dinner with her at 7:00. We're getting drinks at 5:00. I was kind of hoping it would be like an hour just in case it's like not going anywhere, but like knowing Alyssa, she will be at dinner at 6:30. So, I will be needing to leave at 6:30 and it's going to be fine. So, anyway, I'm going to get ready and do my little TikTok get ready with me, but I'll see you guys in a second with my full look. I've got 10 minutes to get ready because I've been working. It's Friday and I'll see you guys soon. My hair's already done, so don't even worry about it. Oh, I should do one of those like transitions. Okay, bye. Oh, that was not right. Okay, let me I have my pajama pants on and my gossip line. The most fun part about this so far is like getting ready for the dates. I wish I could play music, but I'm filming because I'm an entrepreneur and I have to work and pay the bills. Anyway, okay, I'll see you guys in a sec. I don't know if that worked. Here we are. Here is the full look. My hair, Here's the thing. It's looked better. Like, it's a little bit messed up from I had a hair appointment earlier, but it's really hot out. It's like 100°, so I just cannot be bothered to fix that. I'm wearing my favorite jeans from origami instead of a new pair. They're like the lowrise curve love. I think I will link lowrise ultral loose. I think they're curve, but they're just the best jeans. I'm wearing them in a size 28. I'll give you guys a better visual. And then I have these Zara heels in this blue and brown fun that just like really ties it all together. And I'm going on a date. Still need to finish. I think I'm just going to chuck this whole thing. Like I will be fine. It will be okay. It's a lot to do. I'm getting picked up in like 10 minutes. Actually, I think I got like 20 minutes. It takes me no time to get ready. Aene wine always. Here's a better visual of the outfit. Ready to go. I need to charge my phone. Before I do that though, I need to go through and pack my purse. First things first, I have this perfume I've been using. Ellis Brooklyn. This is the vanilla Santo scent. Smells really, really good. First thing. Then then we have the lip products. Why do I have this brush? It's not a nice grab. My favorite brush from Crowd Affair that I literally cannot live without. And then my wallet. Perfect. Guys, I'm not like changing my whole schedule in life for this dating challenge. I'm just like adding it into parts of my life that I'm already doing, if that makes any sense. So, it's like easier for me to go and just add like drinks to a dinner I was already going on. It's making me a little bit more social and get out of my comfort zone. And it's a good feeling. So, the other thing I will say is that I have like absolutely zero pressure on any of these dates. Like, I don't even think about them. Like, especially when we have a date, I'm like, "Who is this again?" I'm not putting any pressure on the dates, which I feel like maybe would be a good thing. We'll see later cuz I mean I have like zero expectations really. I'm just like doing this as an exercise to put myself out there and like live a little. So, I guess we'll chat tomorrow. All right, guys. It's the next morning. We're doing a little date recap. So, we went and got drinks last night. It was really fun. I was there for like an hour and a half. Really nice guy. Great conversation. It was fine. I don't feel like sparks were like flying by any means. He was nice. It was a fine time. Not a bad date by any means. Um, really nice guy. Had a reservation. Had everything. Like picked a place right next to where I was getting dinner. Really like communicative. Great. Nice guy. Anyway, in the middle of this conversation, we're talking and I like hate to tell a man that I am an influencer cuz I just hate I hate like talking about it in general. It's just like a conversation that like I avoid basically at all cost. And so he's like asking these questions. He's like, "Wait, what do you do?" And I was like, "Oh, I have a podcast." Like whatever. So he's like, "Oh, so you're an influencer." And I was like, "Yeah, but mind you guys, like I don't want them to see my social media right now because I'm posting about how I'm going on 10 dates in 30 days. That is why I don't want them to see the social media." I'm like, "Oh my god." Also, I will say like I started this challenge with very genuine intentions, not challenge. Like I was saying to Ally, I was like, "Look, I really do want to meet someone. I feel like I'm in a good place to like I actually feel ready. like blah blah blah blah, but I just the actual getting with you on a date seems impossible. She's like, "You should just do a challenge. Force yourself to get out there, then you're going to get back into the routine." So, of course, I do the 10 dates in 30 days and now we're doing this whole YouTube video and it's like a whole thing. Okay, normally I wouldn't air my stuff out this much, but I just kind of felt like it. Like, what if I like meet the love of my life next week and I can't ever like go on dates and tell you guys about them? You know what I mean? So, anyway, he knew I was an influencer. We get to the end of the date and he goes, "Okay, Kenzie, I've got like one question for you." And I'm like kind of scared cuz like what's the question? Like what could this possibly be? And he's like, "What are you looking for?" I'm like, "Oh my god." Like I I don't know. Like that's why I'm going on dates cuz like I don't know what I'm looking for. I do want a partner. Like I obviously want to settle down but like with the right person. Like someone that like really I feel like is the right person. Like well I feel like once I've met them then I would want to settle down. You know what I mean? Like I really understand men when they're like it's not that the men aren't ready. It's just that like you're not the right one. Like now I'm like yes I get that. Like that's how I feel. So anyways, I was just like, "Oh, like I" I was so caught off guard, guys. I was like, "I what are you looking for? I don't know." And he's like, basically this elevator pitch. I'm like, "I'm really looking to settle down. Like I want to find a partner. I want to whatever." Really sweet, great intentions king shot. Like literally amazing. That's another thing with the guys that I go on dates with. And this month I will be setting them up with my friends. Like if they're great and I think there's like a good match, like I will be setting them up. I would love to do that. But anyway, I was like, "Oh, I don't know." Like it's not that I'm not looking for something. I'm like, I'm open. I don't remember what I said, but like I was just kind of vague. And I was like, yeah. Like, okay. Right. He's laughing. He's like, oh yeah. He's like, the intentions like, oh, for content. And I was like, guys, like guys, guys, guys, guys. And it's not just for content. But like, look at me right now. Literally, look at me right now. So, there are tears in my eyes because like I literally Anyway, obviously if I were to meet someone and like fall in love with them, like then you'll probably won't hear anything about that. You know, then I'll then I'll get my mouth shut, but that was really something. So, that is my date recap. Um, he's been texting me. Nice guy. And yeah, that's date number two. Date number two for the content. Date number one, don't go on a Fourth of July date with a troop as your first date. Date number two, what are your intentions? I'm excited to see what date number three is. Time for date number three. It is a Monday, so I'm cracking open the Swah adaptogen drink. These are my favorite. This is actually the hot margarita. I haven't even tried this one yet. Okay, it's a spicy mugg and it actually tastes exactly like one. I'm getting ready for a date. It's a first date with a man from Hinge. We're going to get drinks. Said I have a dinner at 7:45. We're going to get drinks at 6:30. So, it's 1 hour, which is my dream time for a date. update on the last guy. He did ask me on another date. Now, let me tell you, my schedule is very packed between all the hosting and all the painting and all the dates. I don't even know I'm gonna be able to squeeze him in. I accidentally scheduled five dates for Wednesday. Five. I just assumed that like half of them would bail or forget or whatever. They all followed up. So, I'm in a little bit of a pickle. I actually need to respond to that when I get back. I do not feel like getting ready right now. I do not feel like going on a date. But, that is why this challenge is good because it's getting me out. It's getting me to go do stuff. Honestly, I really need that. So, I'm going to film my get ready for TikTok and I'll be right back. I just did some very minimal makeup. So, time to get dressed and pick out our outfit. I don't have like a go-to outfit for first date. Also, with the amount that I'm going on right now, I can't. Okay, I'm thinking this dress just because I love this dress. It's a safe dress. Very comfortable. It's from Dish. Actually, it's shrunk a little bit. I got in a size six. And at first I wish I had gotten a little smaller just cuz it is a lot of fabric, but it did shrink a little. Day number three in the books, guys. Wait till Wednesday. As of right now, I have six Oh, he kept joking cuz I said I have like a dinner plan, but I just have a dinner planned like at every dinner after every drink so I have like a hard cut off so I don't have to be there forever and I feel like it's just better to be in and out. Anyway, he did keep making jokes about how like I have a date after. He made the joke like two or three times and how I was like leaving to go on another date and like here's the thing like that's not tonight. Like that's Wednesday. Like that Wednesday I will be doing that but not tonight. You know, we weren't going to drink and then there was a mobile taxi. It was like a whole thing. Anyway, guys, I'm really proud of myself. Seriously, like I feel like a great sense of accomplishment cuz I feel like for so long dating was almost like a fear of mine cuz I just stopped doing it for so long. And other things like I'm way less scared of. But like dating for some reason was just like more intimidating. And once you just like start doing it again, it's fine. Hi y'all. We have a special guest who's back again. Sierra is in the closet. >> Am I in the frame? >> Yes, you are. Is that okay? >> I was literally thinking I was out of it. So, I was trying to be >> Oh, no, no, no, no, no. >> I have a wide angle lens. >> Oh, wide angle lens. I'm getting ready for not one date, but two >> two dates. >> It was like a whole thing cuz it feels exhausting. I'm not like necessarily burnt out because I'm not I think this challenge has been incredible for me with dating because I am not taking anything seriously. >> Yes. So, it's been really fun cuz I'm just like in and out, in and out. I don't think anything of it like later at all. >> Um, >> I feel like I don't care about your names. >> Yeah. But I'm just so tired today and I'm not really feeling like going. Also, I got new jeans though and they're really Yeah, they're from Etekica. >> I really am liking this. >> Like, okay, I'm going to give a little visual. A little one, two. >> I really like >> And they're really comfy. They fit perfectly. >> Yeah. No, those look really good. >> They're really great. >> Not me looking at your ass. I'm like, >> we're getting ready. Sierra's coming so we can be grillies. >> Yes, I'm here >> as I get ready for my dates >> and I'll show you guys my outfit. >> It's so stunn. Wait, did where'd you get that skirt from? Did we get it shopping together? >> We got it from Free People. I did spill some um orange soda on it. >> And like >> I never said I was perfect. >> Are you supposed to be perfect? >> Like what am I supposed to do? I'm creating God's image. You know what? >> Literally. >> Anyway, the skirt is from Free People. It does have a matching set, but we're in Texas and there's just no world that I'm wearing a long sleeve shirt right now. >> So real. >> And this is from Pacon, you guys. Pacon right now. It's crazy. Everything's on sale, >> guys. Pacon. I used to die for Pac. >> No. And has slept on airy. >> Wake up. >> Always slept on that. >> I really like too. >> Wake that up. I like that. So, I'm just going to do my hair and then get ready. And I've pretty much picked out my outfit, but I am going on two days today. So, as you guys know, I will be habit stacking dates because that's just a lot. >> Habit sacking dates is sucking dates. >> Habit sacking dates. >> Oh my god, Fitz. What's your routine? >> Also, guys, I am having like before I go on these dates, this is like how to do dating. I think just become so disconnected. Like I get to the point where like when I pull up to the date, I have to pull up their profile and like see what they look like and their name, which has been I just think wildly great. Like it is >> God my dating era. >> Yeah, you really did. >> I And what's crazy is I can't imagine doing that now. And so seeing you go forth and conquer really is doing something for me. >> I mean it's a new thing. It's very new for me. >> Beautiful. >> And I'm ready for this challenge to be over, I think. >> How many dates have you been on? >> This will be four and five. >> Oh my god. >> Yeah. >> And you would really like to get in six this week? >> I'm hoping to get in six. >> I'm hoping to do six. six on Friday so that I can come home like leave come home feel. >> Are you traveling anytime soon? >> I'm going to Naka next week, but I'm I am probably taking those dates out, but I'm doing such a good I'm doing so great on the time that I might not have to. >> I might I might actually do it. >> Like it is a work. >> Well, I actually might be able to get it done so I don't have to put it off. >> This is the only way was that I used to document it to get it done. And I have such low stakes that like watch me actually meet someone but then they like hate me because I >> they won't. They won't. >> They literally won't. The day I met Alex that was it the night. Okay, so here's He always says that I went on a date the day after I met him. I say that I went on a date the day before I met him. I Who's to say to say at this time >> and the truth lies somewhere in between. >> It's the truth lies. We actually were going on two dates at once. >> Um I was just bouncing back and forth. that would be somewhere in between. Um, but he like looked me up and watched my whole dating series. >> Yeah. So, >> and yet, >> well, honestly, here's how I feel about that. Like, the kind of guy that I'm with has to be someone who's like, "Okay, like I don't actually air out my dirty laundry online half." I mean, not even nearly as much as I should. It would be incredible for my career. I really don't do that. But, like, I would I think it's a really good sign for like my partner if they think this is funny versus, >> you know what I mean? >> Cuz it's silly. It's like serious. >> Gosh, we're having fun. >> It's like, relax, you're fine. >> Who am I to turn down a free after all spritz on a Tuesday night? >> That is what I'm going to get tonight. >> Is today Tuesday? >> Wednesday. >> I genuinely never know what day of the week it is. All right, y'all. I'm ready for dates four and five. I'm not really feeling it, but here is my look. I mean, you guys already really saw it. Etica jeans, top is abcom. I'll give you guys a better visual over here. This is my date fit. Hope you guys are wishing me luck right now. I just like I feel like I disassociate from these dates and I just like show up and I'm like, "Hey." And then you get home, you're like, "What did we talk about?" >> No, literally, you know what? Actually, okay. I dated a guy for 3 months and do this day. I'm like, "I don't know what we talked about." >> Oh, I feel that way about a couple. >> I like I really I re I'm like, "What did he >> And like I know for a fact I told him nothing about myself >> at all and he didn't ask >> and I didn't want to share to be honest." >> So, it was actually a perfect scenario. >> No, it was actually amazing. But like they talked a little bit. >> Actually, I like when I prefer when they talk more cuz like I don't want to share more about myself necessarily. >> No, that's actually really fair. >> Unless I like like them more. But >> I think if I were dating at this place in my life, I would really not want to talk. >> Yeah. >> Cuz it's like you don't need to you don't need to know anything. >> Exactly. >> But you can meet your husband tonight. >> I think the chances of that are so slim. >> Like but who's to say? >> Who's to say? Who's to say? And could you imagine watching back this vlog? >> I know. >> And you're like, "That was the night." >> I should just vlog every day from here on out just in case. >> I'm telling you. Yeah. Yeah. It would be kind of fun. >> I think it would be fun. >> I just feel like I'm so disconnected from the idea of me actually being with someone. Like I can't I literally cannot picture it. Even though like I was always a relationship girl. I always had relationships, but I just like literally cannot >> picture meeting someone, liking them enough to be with them. I can't wrap my head around that. So, I think like once it happens, it's going to be like crazy. >> It's going to be crazy. But maybe that means like whoever you're going to be with next is so different than any relationship you've had. >> Sarah, I can only hope to God. Let me hit my knees right now. >> Literally, prayer circle. Like, add that to your prayer list. Like, God, >> I can only literally beg for that. >> Like, I Please, please, please. I'm >> so But I do think you should vlog every day. I mean, I'm down. >> And do you like date recaps? >> Everyone's really liking date number two for my TikToks. And um he's like super nice. I just don't want to like give him the wrong idea that like we're going to be together or something cuz I you know what I like you. >> No. Yes. >> I'm not trying to be I just don't like >> No. Yes. >> I don't think that there was like a spark. Here's my thing though. Like how do you know if you should go on like a second date? >> Cuz like now I'm like oh you want to go on a second date? I wasn't really thinking that. And you know what I Well, I think if you weren't really thinking that, then you you don't want to go. >> But I know myself and like I think sometimes it'll take me a second to like warm up to someone. Like >> like I feel that way about myself. I mean I don't mean I like know myself. I mean >> I have an idea. >> Reverse reverse. Like unless you like No, I don't want to go at all on a second date. Then you should always go on a second date if you're >> That's kind of what I was thinking. Unless it's like an actual no. >> Yeah. >> Okay. >> Unless you're leaving and you're like literally blocking his number on the way to your car. >> Yeah. >> On a second date. So now it's like 20 dates in 60 days. Oh >> no. Should I do it to Nashville? Like should I do 10 more dates in Nashville? >> Yeah. >> But then I'm really going to burn out. That's 20 dates. >> And then you're really going to fall in love. >> Do you guys agree it's a numbers game numbers game? >> I do think that. I think that if you go on 50 dates and somebody else goes on 50 dates and then they meet whoever they're going to be with long term and you don't, odds are they probably just said no to people that they knew they didn't like early enough to like get there. trying to get the numbers game and like statistics or something. >> Yeah, >> economics, >> math, I don't know, something. So, anyway, here is my date look. This is literally just a closet vlog, but >> I love that. This is the closet where I go and then I fall in love. So, maybe not this time around, but we'll see. Guys, that was my best date so far. I actually really liked him and it was fun. And like the other ones were fun, but like this one I actually liked. >> And it looked like you guys were having a good time when I was He already asked me on like something else >> and I hope that you ask him to my wedding. >> Yeah. Well, we were just discussing. I'm like, actually, >> yes. >> This is just to get a plus one. >> And it's perfect timing, too. >> Cuz I have time. >> It's like, you have time. >> I have time. >> And we just had great conversation. Like, I really liked him. >> Like, I actually liked him. Nor had great conversation cuz like I can just talk to a wall, but I actually really liked him. >> When I walked in, you were like smiling. >> What's going to happen when he knows? Like, when he sees us, he's like, "I have dinner." And then he's like, "You went another date." >> And that's fine, >> but he doesn't have social media. So Mike, you can't pull up my TikTok. I think he might just not pull up my Tik Tok. >> He wouldn't know. >> But eventually he will see the YouTube video because he did ask about that. >> Well, eventually he'll be helping you film the YouTube video. >> Eventually he'll be watching this. So, >> hey Diva. >> Hi D.A. Also, he had a needle point belt on. So I just assumed like this man just ran through because like an ex-girlfriend would have done that for. And like maybe that is true, but I know his mom needle points too. So like maybe his mom >> No, his mom definitely did it. >> Yeah. No one is wearing a needle point belt from an ex-girlfriend on a first date. Like, that's just not >> Men are dumb. One of my ex-boyfriends wears a chain necklace that I bought him like 6 years ago, every single day. Like, anytime I see him, he's still wearing that necklace. >> I would quite literally screenshot him wearing it. >> Take it off. >> Take it off. And I would report it to the credit card company and say, "This was stolen from me. This was lit." And this man >> I think it's a little late, but that's a really good idea. >> No. If he bought on an MX, they'll do it for 50 years. >> Yeah. >> No, absolutely. >> It's really okay. >> How are you feeling so far on this date? Like, are you enjoying your time? >> I am really having a great time. So, here's here's the drama. I walked in to sit at the bar and I saw them sitting straight ahead. I really needed to just be looking at the road. I saw them sitting and Kenzie was smiling and he was smiling and I got a good vibe. And so I thought, okay, to sit outside on the patio and, you know, enjoy a frozen lemonade, have some waffle fries, and then resume my duties as the Uber driver. >> Obsessed. >> So, I'm feeling really good, and I think that he is going to really have so much fun at the wedding. Um, and then maybe him and Alex can become best friends because Alex is really worried about only having three groomsmen. >> Um, so we're going to have >> No, this will be good. And like here's the thing, like maybe my next date will be even better. >> Like, and we just don't know. And that's the fun of this challenge. >> Gosh, how are we to know at this time? >> How are we to know? >> And we're not meant to. >> We're not meant to. >> This is the most fun. >> Okay, I'm back from my dates. Honestly, guys, I really like date number four. Like, I didn't see this one coming. I mean, we'll see. Like, I could not like him tomorrow. You never know. But like, I actually really liked him, which is so out of character. Like, I don't like anyone ever guys wise, like not like people. But yeah, it was like really good and fun. And then I left. And then I went on another date and he was really nice. It was just like not there and like whatever. It was just kind of like a little bit more boring. But yeah, guys, like date number four is like in the lead. I actually really liked him. I literally can't believe it. This is so out of character. Like he was so nice. We had a lot to talk about. Like it was just like kind of like it was like the perfect like first date. Not even like an atmosphere. I just feel like we like clicked well but like not too well. You know what I mean? I don't know. Anyway, I'm going to go to bed. But um they both already asked me on other dates. So I'll definitely be going on another date with date number four. I don't even think I would be able to with date number five because we won't be in town at the same time. But anyway, that's great progress. Like this is good guys. I like have a crush. It is so crazy. This has taken a turn. I was not expecting this. I didn't think I would like anyone and I thought this would just be a good challenge, but honestly things are going great. um going on a second date with date number four this weekend. I really should have booked another like at least drinks date tonight. It's Friday, but I was like kind of burning out and honestly like I've just been preoccupied with my crush and I can just do a couple on like Monday to Tuesday because now I have five dates. Well, six, no I have five dates left but really four cuz I already have one scheduled for this weekend. We're really just chugging along honestly. But guys, like who would have thought? Not me. Seriously, I understand the point of dates is to like see if you want to date someone or like you have a crush on them in like my middle school verbiage, but I don't know. I just like really didn't see it happening for me. I really didn't. I almost I literally almost canled the date, guys. Also, another thing I've always said that the guys that I like, like any guy I've ever dated, any guy I've ever liked or had feelings for anything, like anything, I would have probably never swiped on them on Hinge or like on any dating app just because like I don't think they would like have a good profile. So, I had to really keep that in mind when I was like going on Hinge. Also, a man who has too good of a profile, like little not for me. And his profile like there's like barely even anything on it. I swiped, I think, because he's cute. But also because he doesn't have social media, so I was like, "Perfect. Amazing." Um, but yeah. No, like I literally have a crush, guys. It's like insane. So fun. Like this is crazy. Hi y'all. It is now Sunday. I'm getting ready for yet another date. This is actually date number two with date number four. So it's my sixth date of the 10, but it's a second date, almost a double date. It's a second day and it's Sunday and I'm like actually excited about this date, but I just got hit with like a wave of I need a nap so bad. So, we'll see how this goes. But, we're going to get sushi. I haven't been to this place since like somewhere on Henderson. So, we will see how it goes. Guys, while I get ready for this date that is probably going to be a good date, I can tell you about the worst date that I've ever had and that was earlier this year. I wish I talked about this like I think briefly on the podcast. Um, I wish that I had my phone with me right now. It's just charging because I literally it was so bad when he got out to go to the bathroom. I got my phone out and I was typing things in the notes app so I wouldn't forget. Um, first off, I wanted drinks and you guys know how I feel about like my 1 hour first date. That's it. So, he was making plans. Also, I would never give someone like my Saturday. I would give the guy that I'm like going on a date with now a Saturday, but like not on the first date, right? Anyway, so this was a Saturday. I was or maybe a Friday. I was going to meet friends for dinner at Honor Bar and so he was like, "Okay, great. Let's get drinks before and he ended up wanting it to be like a 2 and 1 half hour long drinks date and I was like, "Okay, that's a little long." I got it down to two and at that point I was just kind of like, "Look, I'm home. I might as well just go early. Like, who cares? Whatever." Also, this guy was like really cute, seemed really normal. Like, I thought it was going to be like a fine date and it was so not fine. I walked in and he's like yelling like not yelling at me but he just talks so loudly that he it like made me like physically uncomfortable you know when you just know like everyone is staring at you. Um except for the problem is that there was no one in this bar. It was literally just us. So there's no reason to be screaming and he got there like 30 minutes earlier. Um and he was sitting there and he had like his like full coat, full scarf, full everything on which I thought was like interesting cuz like he'd been sitting here for 30 minutes. I wasn't late. He was just really early. And later we're talking, so this is January and we're talking about he's talking about like house fires and stuff and he's like, "What would you keep in a houseire?" And I'm like, "Oh, I give like a normal answer." He tells me that he would keep his Farerraama scarf that he got on a vacation with his parents when they went to Italy um when he was going through a hard time, which I then realized right then I knew it was a breakup, but it ended up being he ended up sharing that with me later um because it serves as an anchor for him in life. Fair scarf serves as an anchor for him in life and I was like, "Oh, great." And the whole time he's like yelling it. It was like I was on a job interview later, like right before we were leaving, he like tells this story that he thinks is so funny that he when he was drunk driving and I was like, "Okay, I obviously don't think that's funny literally at all." That's when we were getting the check. Thank God. He kept talking about his mom and how she like does everything for him. His parents live in like a really nice neighborhood, like the nicest neighborhood here, which typically for me that area it it's not like a red flag, but it's something where I'm like, I don't know, I don't normally get along with like just like a different vibe there. Um, so anyway, I was right and he like tells this whole monologue about how he went to the bathroom and he experienced three emotions. Like there's so many things, guys. And it was so bad. Like genuinely, I was sitting there. I'm like, they could write like a TV show just off this date. Like it was so bad. And then at the end of it, he's like, "You know what? I care about things. I like you, Kenzie. I care about things. You care about things. We care about things." Like, well, and he kept like it was just so bizarre. And then he tells me that um we should that I basically passed and that we should go on another date. And he was trying. He like pulled out his calendar. I was like, "Oh yeah, I'm like really busy, you know, whatever." And um it was rodeo season, so I actually am busy during rodeo season. But he was like, "Oh, no, no, no problem. If it's 2 or 3 weeks from now, that's totally fine. Let's get this on the books." And I was like, "Oh, I don't know. Like just text me. We'll see. Whatever." And he text me the next day. And I think I did respond, but I don't think I get dates or something. But it was just so bad. And like none of the dates that I've gone on in this round have been bad. I've had one like really good date and the rest have just been like fine, but they haven't been bad. But that one, I mean, it's just I can go on and on and on. I just I'm so bored by this subject of this boring date by now. But I figured I might as well just talk about it like get ready today. It was crazy. And also when I'm out sometimes I'll be like, "Oh my god, like I'm bound to run into him." I let it sit and then I brush it out and then I put hair oil in it and it's perfect. But I have to look like Shirley Temple for a little bit. So anyways, I'm going to do my makeup and then I'll get back and we will get dressed. Okay guys, going on day number two. Here is my outfit. This is actually my all-time favorite dress from Reformation. I've never had a dress that I just feel better in. It's so comfortable and just so flattering and it's the best. By Raa, I think, or what is it? Yeah, by Raa. Raa watch. Um, my earrings, I cannot remember literally at all where they're from. I have the flats on from Zara that I've been wearing like every single day. And then I'm just going to wear my cute little long bag. So, here's my fit for date number six, which is date number two with date number four. Yes, I almost wasn't going to have wine, and I was like, you know what? Like, who knows how many more like first or second dates I'll have. I just need to be drinking wine before I get ready for them. Like, I need to make it an experience. You know what I mean? I probably just jinx myself. It's probably going to be like 500, but whatever. I'm not nervous cuz we get along like very well. I don't really have like I was kind of nervous and then I drink a little bit of wine and now I feel fine. Like very very very slightly nervous but not really. I feel very comfortable. Guys, I'm so tired. It's 8:00 p.m. Get ready with me to go on day eight. So I didn't film my day yesterday. Like getting ready. I'm I've been in the pool all afternoon and I'm very tired. So we're going to get ready. I'm going to Hudson House tonight which is like my favorite restaurant in Dallas. Um, guys, I could fall asleep literally right this second. My hair is like not cooperating and it's still kind of wet. So, all right, y'all. I did my makeup in 2 minutes and now putting on my outfit. This is what I'm thinking. It's 110° here, but in the Zara shoes, I wear them literally every single day. Guys, I like couldn't do more boring right now. Like, I'm tired. [Music] Okay, I've changed. This is actually what I'm going to wear. Abberroi. I think this is Abbercomi, actually. Zara shoes. Reformation bag that I always wear. Going to Hudson House. Got to go. Hi y'all. Getting ready for another date. I'm going to Billy Currington today. So, I'm also drinking a Hillstone Chris Martini. I'm also like a little bit drunk cuz I've been drinking all day if I'm being honest with you. This concealer brush duo is so good. Also, I'm like really pale right now, so I don't think that any of my makeup is going to match my face, which isn't good. Guys, if you haven't made a Hillstone Chris martini from home, you have to. It's a weird martini. I'm not a martini girl at all, but and if you don't have a Hillstone, I guess it wouldn't make sense to you. But it's like Sony Blanc and a martini, which is probably why I like it cuz it's not like a legitimate martini, but it is so so good and it's refreshing. It's like a good summer drink. Also, oh my god, my Uber is like already on its way. I'm not ready at all. Um I was curling my hair just now and I grabbed like the actual Hot Barrel, so that's good. This is my favorite blush. I feel like I'm just saying the same things over and over again because I can't really say much now. Today's actually my birthday. I'm 28 now, which is crazy. That was the first time I said I'm 28 now, guys. I'm growing up. They grow up so fast. Now, I like just don't really have much that I can say. So, this video is kind of getting a little bit more boring. But, I will say this challenge was a very good thing that I did. This lip liner, can you tell? Like I really like how I've been doing my makeup lately. It takes 5 minutes to do it like legitimately, but I really do like it. This is a new lip gloss I just got, so I can't really speak to this. It's from Jip. Oh, wait. Sorry. I love these lip glosses, but this is a new lip gloss, but I do really like their lip glosses. Best setting spray ever. Wish me luck in the 100°ree heat. Oh my god. Outdoor concert. Miserable. We're actually going to meet my siblings, my cousins, which my siblings and my cousins are like my social life in Dallas. like majority of like who I hang out with just in general are friendly. So, we're going to go meet them for like dinner and drinks before. And Alyssa just texted me that she's going to be there 20 minutes earlier, which is very typical for granddaughter. Wait, guys, this mascara is incredible. Why don't I use this more? Because I don't really wear like actual mascara. I feel like I just like half acid if anything cuz I hate taking it off. But, okay, makeup is done. I need to put on my outfits and chug this drink. I'm drinking a Hillstone Chris martini. It's the best. Guys, I have a beasting from Nantucket and like it is killing me. My hair is a little too crazy. I need to add dry shampoo so I have like more volume on top. But this dress is from Reformation. I actually wore on my 27th birthday. It's such a cute dress. And then I have these boots from Chovas. They're actually newer boots to me, but they're like really tall. And Chovas used to not even have tall boots for the Abby. Now they have these. and I love them. They're like the perfect brown knee high boot. I'm going to have to chug this because my Uber's getting here in 4 minutes. This video is literally just me drinking. I swear this is not normal. Um and then also I'm using this perfume. Smells insane. It's like a Bakarat um like knockoff from Dossier. It's insane. These are like 50 maybe to 100 bucks. Under 100 maybe 50. I don't know. Really really good. Smells so good. Last amazing. I forgot what bag I'm gonna wear, but I'm off to Billy Kurrington. Bye. And for the grand finale of this dating challenge, I am going on a 10-hour road trip with a man. Obviously, this is not our first date. I'm going back to Nashville for the month. And I normally have someone in common with me. And look at how great this challenge worked out. Seriously, perfect. I have most things packed up now. I don't have to move them. Like, guys, this is literally the best thing ever. Is anyone else shocked by my grand finale of this video? Anyway, here's my road trip fit. These are like basically Skim's pajama shorts, Skim top, park said active crew. Got some New Balances here. I just made myself a nice coffee and he's going to put my bags away. So, got to go. Bye. So, now I'm going to be answering a ton of questions. The first one, where are you meeting these men? I met every single guy that I went on a date with on Hinge. every single one of them. And here's the thing about Hinge. Hinge actually is great. Okay, you just have to like change your preferences. Don't be too broad. I heard this once on a podcast and I think it's so true. I feel like on a dating app, like you don't put like specifics or you won't put something on there that you think will be a turnoff to other people. But I actually think and I don't feel like I did this at all on my profile. I would go back and like change it and make it better with the prompts and stuff. But I do think that being the like I do think that the more specific you are, the better your chances are because you're not trying to appeal to the masses, like you're really trying to just appeal to like the right person. You know what I mean? So I would go on and when I first started this, I changed all of my preferences and I got like pretty specific and that just brought like a ton of better matches and I was like, "Oh, everyone here is like great." Especially in Dallas, guys. Like here's the thing. There are cities where it is harder to date. It is never impossible, of course. But like LA and New York are definitely just like different dating cities than Dallas. Like Dallas has like really really great options. It's just easy for anyone to say, which like I fall into this a billion times. I feel like I'm the person that's like, "Oh my god, guys, things happen when you least expect it." But like I definitely had a bad attitude towards dating for so long. So that was a lot of this challenge was just me being like, "Oh no, there's a lot of like good options out there. I'm having fun. Like going on a date is a fun time. Like I don't want to gouge my eyes out. I don't want to die. And if anything, it's like good for the plot. It's a good story. So, just get specific on your Hinge like preferences. And also, you kind of have to treat it like it's a part-time job. Like, I was really on the apps. I feel like before I had the apps, but I wasn't messaging people back. I wasn't messaging consistently. And when it came to this challenge, since I had the goal, I was treating it like it was like a part-time job. And I would make sure that I had like multiple dates lined up. I only ever did one day of two dates in a row. And honestly guys, like had things gone differently, I probably would have done like four or five at a time. I really had things gone differently, I probably could have done like 15 or 20 dates if I just like kept up the pace that I was at. But what I would do is I would schedule a 1hour drinks date. I will not do like dinner or anything else on like a first date. I said originally in the challenge that I was going to like count people meeting up with us and stuff and I did on the first one just because I did it, but I ended up going on the actual drinks dates with everyone. And honestly, like I don't feel like I even needed to have just countered if someone met up with us. Like it's completely doable to do. So I would do the 1-hour drinks date and I would just schedule it around things that I already had going on. So if I knew I had the girl dinner on a Thursday, I would like schedule an hour drinks date before cuz I was already out. I was already ready. It was easy. It wasn't like overwhelming in my schedule. I feel like that was a lot of the issue before, too. I was like, when am I even going to like find time to fit this in? You always have time for what you want to make time for. Number one. Two, dating doesn't it's not like derailing your life. Like you just like add it into like different pockets and stuff. I would also say there wasn't a single guy that I went on a date with that like was a bad guy. Like honestly, all of them were great. Like a lot of them I had this dream of like I want to like set people up with like people that I know. I don't feel like anyone that I went on a date with would like be good for my friends that maybe I'll meet someone one day and I'm like you'd be perfect. But I really did um like have a fine time. Like everyone was fine. I maybe wasn't like romantically invested in majority of them, but like overall it was a good time. Like I didn't like go on a bunch of like bad awful dates. I really didn't. But the actual reason that I think that this challenge was so so so helpful is because it you don't put like your eggs in one basket. I feel like a lot of the time if you have like one date that's like really all you're thinking about in terms of like your dating life and it becomes a bigger thing. But with this 10 dates and 30 days challenge, I was having to pull up the man's like Hinge profile to see what he looked like and to check his name and to like see what we had messaged about prior. Like there was like one person that I knew like what we had been talking about. But I would pull up to the date like having really not even knowing who I was going on a date with. Like that is how like disconnected I was from this challenge. I will say like doing it on like filming it and turning it into like an actual challenge definitely like skewed my We've talked about this. It skewed like my intent. I would say it was great because it made it everything not a big deal. Like with having all these dates going on at once. Now, I wouldn't do that like I Yeah, I wouldn't do that like past liking someone like at that point. I'd be like, "Oh, I like would like to see where this goes." I know a lot of people just like date a bunch of people and they'll do that for like months and stuff. That isn't really my style. I wouldn't be able to do that. But when it comes to like the initial dates when I was putting myself out there like dating, it was so good for me because nothing was a big deal. It like didn't matter. And the stakes were so low and I had zero expectations. Like I was not walking into any of these things being like, "This is my husband." Like at all. Like I was just like, "Oh, this one's like a fun date. It's not serious." Now, of course, not everyone's walking into a first date being like, "This is my husband." But like sometimes you'll just like make it a bigger thing in your head. And with how many dates I was going on, like I couldn't make it a bigger thing in my head cuz I wasn't even thinking about it cuz I was busy. And then I would just show up. It also had me go on dates with people that I wouldn't necessarily think that I would be interested in. Like, which is good because the people that I thought I would be like less interested in were actually the ones that I was the most interested in. Which makes sense because I've always said any guy that I've dated in the past, I would have probably not swiped on them on Hinge because they were not like they didn't have like the best Hinge profile because like that's not really the kind. I'm not looking for a guy who's like facetuning his photos off of Hinge. You know what I mean? Like I don't know. I've always said that though. the guys that I like, I like them in person and like they're it's not that they're like not attractive. It has nothing to do with the looks. It's more of like I don't think I would have realized I would have connected with this person so well in general if we had met on Hinge. So, I feel like the people I was just more open like I wasn't just like taking any date or anything like that. Like all of them were like great contenders, don't get me wrong, but it made me like step outside of the box and like try different things cuz also guys, I'd gotten to the point where like I hadn't like consistently dated someone well like I just kind of gotten to the point too in dating where I like didn't even know what I wanted anymore. Like I felt like I had changed so much as I was like last in a serious relationship or like even dating someone and I was like I don't even like really remember what I want. I don't know what I want. Like I need to just kind of like try things out and like figure it out. Like seriously, 10 out of 10. Highly recommend this challenge. It was actually probably the best thing I've ever done. I wish this was the Hinge partnership. It's not, but it was literally all from Hinge. I also saw a Tik Tok, which means it's fact, from this like wedding person saying that, you know, in the past like 3 or 4 years, like eight out of 10 couples that she like does their weddings for all met on Hinge. Like my cousin and her, my cousin-in-law now, is that a thing? I don't know. Alyssa and Colobby, they met on Hinge. So many people in my life like met their significant others on Hinge. So I wasn't like anti-Hinge like in general, but I think I was anti-hinge for myself cuz I was like, "Oh, I just like that's not really me." And like get over yourself. Like go get with the times. Like it's fine. You guys have any more questions about this challenge, leave them in the comments below. I'm trying to like answer the questions that I think I will have or the ones that I've been getting on TikTok and I feel like I've answered all of them. But yeah, anyways guys, best thing I ever did. Highly recommend 10 dates in 30 days. If you guys do it, like, please document it on TikTok. I need to see like I need to be up to date. DM me, message me. I need to hear like this was the best. So anyway, I love y'all and I will see you guys in my next video. Bye. By the way, overalls are out I think now, August 15th, depending on when this video goes up. [Music] [Applause] [Music]