Finish this Video, You'll Become a Happier and Calmer Person

We all know that getting emotional is number one reason not that screw up a lot of things. It can screw up your important tasks, destroy your relationship or make you do some crazy things in general. So in this video I will share you 10 tricks that can make you happy immediately. Some of them are a little bit wild but they work. Number one, go change. Yes, I mean change your clothes. Have you remember that in some movie when people getting emotional one actor will say oh I will go get change and actor try it is work really well go get a change wear something that's make you happy wear something that make you feel satisfied like your favorite clothes your perfect dressing just dress something nicely dress something a little bit dramatic and it will completely change your mood and it will help you to reset to your normal The second thing I found really helpful is keep things that you like nearby. For example, if you have a nice pretty jewelry, just put it beside your desk. See it often. So every time you see it, it bring you a little bit satisfaction. And trust me, they are great distractions. I can't remember how many times when I get emotional and when I about to make the wrong decision and I just look at my jewelry on my desk, I was like, "Oh, that's so pretty." And it distract me successfully a lot of time. It not necessarily need to be something expensive. It can be something that truly make you happy like a picture recording a perfect moment. The point is when you see that thing, you will feel happy. You will feel satisfied. you will feel that thing looks pretty. It need to give you the feeling. So here's a step. Go through the things you have and pick out the one that gave you the feeling and you put that right next to your desk. See that often when you work when you get stressful just look at them. The third trick is 10 years from now. A lot of time like we are given too much attention to the task we are doing right now. But a lot of time those taxs are not that important. If you could think about 10 years before or when you were little like a lot of things that you care about so much by that time become not that important in the long run. So next time when you getting emotional just think for a second if you are 10 years older than right now do you still care about that thing? Is that text really important? Is that going to make a difference in the long run? A lot of time the answer is no. And if you could zoom out and look at your problem from a bigger picture, you will have a much clearer view and it will help you calm down. By the way, I will leave the best for the last. So stay tuned. The fourth trick is pause that thing immediately or change ts. You can just sit there doing nothing and breathe. Help yourself get back to your neutral by just doing nothing. Take a deep breath. Pause. If you can't do that, just change the text. If you get stressful doing something with your laptop, just walk away for a second. Go to the nature. The nature will help you. This bring to my next point, which is nature will help you a lot of time. You don't necessarily need to go to a park or go to a mountain to experience nature. Even a small piece of grass in front of your house can do the help. If you try it, you will find out like nature do nothing bad. They will not make your condition worse. But if that day is a nice weather day and you just go out for a little walk, get close to the nature, see the bird, see the trees, see the grass, it will help you release your stress immediately. The sixth trick is get some sleep because a lot of time we're just giving ourselves too much task and we are tired and our brain is not working properly. We can't manage our emotional well because we are lack of sleep. A lot of time I see people overdo it including myself. Sometimes we think the more we do the sooner we'll get to our goal but a lot of time less is more. It's not about how much things you are doing. It's about how are your feeling while you are doing that thing. And when you can be well rested, think clearly, you will find out you can do the things much better. So next time when you get a little stressful or emotional, just ask yourself, do I feel tired? Do I need more sleep? I know coffee can wake us up. But sometimes sleep can reset your emotion. Sleep will not only help you be awake, also help you to think better, to think clearly, to functional better. And the next trick I found really helpful, it's called take it away. So if you are being stressful about something just imagine for a second what if you don't have this right now and you will find a lot of time the problem you are dealing with are actually good problem for example if you get super stressful with your job and you find oh I'm experience so much stress oh I need to get up whatever time and to go to my work oh my god I'm spending so much time on the traffic just ask yourself this question what if I don't have this job right now how would I feel Maybe you will start realizing I'm so lucky because I have a job. I can earn myself enough money. I can feed myself. Maybe you will realize that's a good problem. If all of the above doesn't work, try this one. The trick is today is my last day. I'm not encouraging you to do something impulsive. Just imagine for a second if today is your last day. Do you still care about the thing that you're doing right now? Do you think Oh my god, that's a beautiful bird. Hi. If today is your last day. Oh my god, that's a beautiful bird. Do you want to see her? Oh my god. Oh my god. Look at that. Oh my god. Hi. Oh my god. What is that bird? That looks amazing. This is the third bird come so close to me like within the last hour. Oh my god. Anyway, where am I? For example, I'm not a big fan of rainy day. But for example, I'm not a big fan of rainy day. But if for a second if I think today is my rainy day, I'll probably find myself saying, "Oh, I was so happy to see the rain last time." I never see the rain so beautiful in my life. When you can view from the point that this is your last couple hours or last day of your life, you will appreciate the things you have much more because a lot of time we are just not content with what we have and we keep bothering ourself with the things we don't have that we are chasing. But if we can just be more content and more aware of the things we already have and really show appreciation, we'll live much happier. Go raid, go study, go to learn, go to explore. I find myself so fulfilled when I learn something. When I find myself keep growing, when we stop the school year and when we became adult, learning something become a choice is no longer a mandatory thing. If you don't want to learn, there's nobody to force you to learn anything. I find a lot of time that we are only focusing on getting our physical, this body satisfied and forgot that we also have the mind. Not many people realize that we also have the soul. So if you could do something that can satisfy feed your mind or your soul, read books or do things that not only make you feel good physically but make you fulfilled mentally, you will find yourself much happier. People don't just grow older. People stop growing and they become older. Every change is an opportunity. I remember one of my favorite YouTuber. He says something like when he experience life just cut off from his knee and life will show him a completely different perspective and I can't agree more. Every single time I went to a hard time no matter it's a real hard time physically in the world or it just happened in my mentally when I overcome challenge life is rewarding me in a very generous way. Read books that can make you think, make you forgive yourself more, make you love yourself more, make yourself learn something that's other than skill, make you learn the wisdom. The last trick in positive self-t talk. I can show you how to think this way because I find myself that when I practice long enough, it become my default way of thinking. Like sometimes when I go to challenges, my brain just stop thinking it way out. I was surprised when I first realized that oh my gosh my brain can do this my brain can talk positively itself it doing this because I was training my brain to doing this and my brain start to picking up the pattern and when I didn't try to think positively my brain just doing it by itself it's really powerful and it's work so let me show you how I did it the first step is show understanding you don't need someone to p your shoulder and to tell you, "Oh, you're okay. I'm here to listen." You can do that to yourself. Just say to yourself this word. I understand what you're going through. It's completely understandable. What you're feeling is completely understandable because you are human. This is normal. The next step is give love. Show sympathy. Give encouragement to yourself. You don't wait for someone to give you gift love. You do that to yourself. When I realize I can give myself so much love, I become so self-dependent like I'm no longer letting other people deciding my emotion. I can take back those control. How do I show love to myself? Firstly, I have showed in my other video. I do the physical touch of my body. If you don't know, check out my short one of short this whatever second rural milk will make you feel better. So I do the physical touch, I talk to myself, I will say I love you, you are doing great or you do affirmation. You need to accept the real you, not a certain version you put on display to make people like you. I mean all of you, your faults, your imperfection, your personality, your good and the bad. Just accept the whole you. Accept your authentic personality, what you truly like. If you could accept yourself completely, that is the best self-love you can give to yourself. I didn't know that love have such a healing power until I had a really magical experience. Um by that time I was completely in a different phase of life. Like I was literally struggling and my life was not that great and I was struggling mentally and physically. One night all the light was closed. I was closing my eyes but I saw this light without like physically exposed to the light. This light is not the same as the regular light and heat. I feel a really gentle and powerful almost overwhelming warmth. This is a light contain wisdom and unconditional love. I sense that this energy loving me wholeheartly and this light helped me to see all my life uh what I went through something goes well something goes doesn't well the way I treat others and sometimes I didn't do a perfect job I would see from almost like a third person view I realize I am here in this life to learn this light is like a guidance or warmth or something that love me so much and by that time I I was having some really bad memory and I were having trauma like physical and mentally trauma that I wasn't able to heal myself. I don't know how long I have experience the light that light healed me from all my trauma and I just know and feeling like this light is feel of unconditional love. The love is beyond my comprehensive. I know it sounds crazy, but I really wish you that one day you can experience something that as good as what I experienced because that light changed my life. Love is a very powerful energy. It is the most powerful energy that can help you heal, help you become better, help you become calm. Well, just think about for a moment. Maybe you have fight with your boyfriend before. If in that moment your boyfriend saying I just love you so much, you are so pretty. Are you still angry? You probably pretend to be angry but half of your madness is gone. This is how human love can make you calm. When I realize that how love is powerful, I want to get connected to the light or energy or the source. I still don't know what is it. I still have no idea what exactly it is. But I starting to call I think God because that is the closest word I can find in human language to describe the love and the energy. When I meet the light I become speechless. There is only three words left. One is oh my god. Two is wow. The third one is thank you. The light is the energy full of unconditional love. and it release all my worry because by the time I was experiencing trauma and to be honest I didn't feel good by that time. Um but this light just assure me that everyone has their own way and you don't need to worry about anyone because everyone by the end will have a good ending. The information that I can give you is there is no need to worry because the end is good. If you already know you will have a good ending, you can enjoy your process more. Think about if you are taking a train to London and you just don't know how many stops the train is going to stop, but you know you will get to London. So there is no way to panic, to worry, and not to overthink because you know you'll get there and you will enjoy more on the road. You will enjoy this experience of getting there. And that's the true beauty of life. And you don't need to worry about anyone in your life. Not yourself, not your parents, not your kids because they are all being taken care of. And I realize the light is very general. I realized the light is guiding me in a way that showing me that people are beguidened in their own path and some people are fast learner. Think about like when we are eating food. Some people have good teeth. They can chew. They can digest a while. Even if they eat raw meat, but some people they need to cook it, they need to cut it. So the energy is using smaller lessons to help that person learn. If another person is a even slow learner and the life will use a food processor to blend everything in, make it liquid and feed that person. So don't look at how other people are growing. Some other people just naturally grow faster than other. But it doesn't matter. No matter it's going to take you a year, 10 year or 1 month, it doesn't matter. The point is don't compare yourself with other people. just compare to your old self and see if you're getting better. If you're getting a little bit better, that's something you need to be happy about. Yeah, this is something I want to share about the unconditional light experience. After that experience, I was trying to have that experience again. But I didn't have at a single time. I prayed and I want to connect it to the energy again. I want to feel the love and feel being taken care of. And my prayer was answered so many times like in books, in movie, in feeling. The message is the light you're looking for is within you all the time. If you could just starting by doing the things that you enjoy and by taking care of yourself, by meeting your own need, meeting your own emotion or just realizing it, it can be a really meaningful step. I hope my tips and my perspective of my life can help you. And if you find them helpful, please let me know because I would like to know. And I hope you can live a happier, happier, happier life from now on. I will see you next