If she Loves You, she will Ignore you

Hi guys, my name is Christine and I'm a dating, relationship and personal development coach. And today I'm talking about if she loves you, she will ignore you. So today's video is all about what happens if a girl likes you but she also ignores you and why this might happen. And sometimes, yes, this can be a thing. But there's usually a good reason because I think sometimes you may see a video titled like this one and you may think, oh, if the girl that I like is ignoring me that must mean that she loves me or you're clinging to straws that if a girl is ignoring you it means that she really likes you because you really like her and you really want her to feel those same feelings for you. Now I'm not saying that she doesn't feel that way about you but I am going into the reasons why. And if these aren't the reasons why then there could be another reason as to why she's ignoring you. So there has to be a solid reason. If she's ignoring you there has to be a solid reason especially if let's say you guys are not teenagers anymore because you often see this kind of thing playing out when you're because she's a teenager and her brain's still developing and she doesn't know how to handle these new feelings that she's got because she's an adolescent. That is something that definitely happens. But if you're not a teenager, if you're not 12 and you're in your 30s or something like that then there has to be a solid reason. So if she's ignoring you because she loves you, because she has strong feelings for you, it could be because maybe she's married or maybe she's got a boyfriend or maybe she's your boss or your supervisor or she's emotionally unattainable in some other way. So there has to be a solid reason. There has to be a solid reason and if you know that she's married, if you know that she's got a boyfriend then yes she may be fighting her feelings for you because she's already committed to someone else or she can't act on those feelings because she's your boss or she's your supervisor or your superior in some way and the relationship would just be inappropriate and she knows her feelings for you are inappropriate so therefore she's ignoring you, she's not acting on them and she's doing her best to stay away from you. Or if she's not that, it could be that she has a lot of growing up to do and she could still be acting and behaving like a teenager and she basically hasn't developed out of that stage because it is quite an immature thing to do if she's single and you're single that she just starts ignoring you because she likes you and she doesn't know how to process those feelings and if she's had struggles with processing those kinds of feelings and she's in her late 20s or she's in her 30s and she's not a teenager anymore basically then perhaps she's actually not the right woman for you because even if you did get together with her, what else is she gonna be not facing? What other things will she ignore in life? What other things will she behave that way about? And that's not, in my personal opinion, the right woman to be with. She needs to process her feelings more and maybe get some help and some therapy to help with these feelings that she tries to fight down even though they're completely normal and natural feelings to feel for someone especially if you're both single, both available. So she may have a lot of growing up to do still. So either way there's not really a lot you can do because if she is ignoring you for a very good reason even though she has feelings for you like she's your boss for example or she's married or taken in some of it, you know, she's got a boyfriend then you can't do anything about it, right? She's with someone else. What can you do? Nothing, right? Maybe you could wait around see if she gets... they break up but, you know, that might not ever happen. So what I would suggest you do is move on and also if it's because she's immature then I also suggest that you move on because, you know, like I said it might be difficult to be with her if she's very difficult, if she finds it very difficult to sort of face things and she just ignores a lot of reality and she ignores her feelings and, you know, it's just going to be a whole bag of worms that perhaps is not necessarily going to be the best thing for you, okay? So that being said then, well how do most women then behave when they love you, when they really like a guy? Well they don't ignore you. If a woman really, really loves you and cares about you and she doesn't have any of these other things going on in the background that I've just listed then what a woman will do is she will try to be with you as much as she possibly can, you know, because you've got to think of how you behave. How do you behave when you really like a woman, when you're really into her? And more likely than not you would probably try to do anything that you can to hang out with her and be with her. So if you're talking to a woman and she really likes you too then you're probably very likely trying to get together, trying to see her, trying to, you know, squeeze time in your schedule to just be with her even if it's only for like an hour. Like you'll do what you can to be with her, you'll do what you can to be around her because you like her so much. And women are exactly the same when they like a guy. They will try everything that they possibly can to do to be with you, okay? So that's what you need to hold on to, that's what you need to think of. And honestly it's just way easier if you can find a woman who does behave the way that most women behave as opposed to these ones that are half in and half out. Now of course the reality could be that the reason that she's ignoring you, the reason that she isn't engaging with you in the way that you want her to, is because she actually just doesn't like you. She doesn't love you, okay? So I feel like this could be one of those things that could be for the majority of this video, the majority of men watching this video. If you don't know if there's a solid reason for her to not like you or to ignore you, so for example if she's not married, if she's not got a boyfriend, she's not your boss, she's not your superior, she seems like she doesn't have a lot of growing up to do, she doesn't act like a teenager in that sort of way, she doesn't ignore things. It could be because she's just not that into you and you're just projecting how you're feeling onto her. So either way, whatever's going on, even if she does like you or she doesn't like you, it's best to move on with your life and find a woman who does want to be with you, who does behave the way that the majority of women do when they like a guy, which is they try to be with him as much as possible. It's not like women are just going to come up to you and be like oh I'm really into you, I really like you. You probably still need to do things like ask her out and things to that effect. You still need to put in your interest essentially by saying hey when are you free to get together, let's hang out, I'd love to see you. When are you free, you know those kinds of things. You're probably still going to have to do that, but a woman that really likes you, a woman that's super into you, that finds you really attractive, she's going to agree to that. She's going to jump at that chance to see you. So she'll want and try to be with you as much as she possibly can and there's no better start to a relationship than that one. So what I suggest that you do is you get some dating apps, start meeting women out, start talking to women and try and find that woman who is very clear on how she feels about you because life is already pretty tough, life is already pretty difficult, but this is one of those things that you have control over. You have control over who you date, you have control over who you continue to date, you have control over who you end up in a relationship with and because you have that control, exercise it. Find a woman who's super into you, who of course as well you're into as well. So thank you so much for watching and I shall talk to you again very soon. Goodbye.