TED演講：原生家庭對你的影響能有多大？

Today, I want to calculate something for you. Anyway, I'm going to ask you a few questions. How many people around here have children? A pa mor o bobl yn siŵr How will you know how to solve your children's problems in the same way, then? OK, I don't see many ways forward with this whole thing. It's also a computer program. I have three children. They are three, now a dozen. As for me, as for the majority of the crowd, It would be interesting if I didn't know what I was doing. I know they need to be happy and healthy in their lives, I don't know what I should do to ensure they are happy and healthy. There are many books there that focus on criticism, That's utterly impossible. I've spent most of my life trying to keep up after falling behind. Something changed for me a few years ago It has been just a few years since we have had it in Wales. It helps me feel confident about how I use my own children. It is becoming increasingly clear how, as a society, we can help every child. I want to share those years with you today. Seventy years ago, Jobs in Wales have followed hundreds of thousands of children for their lives as part of an incredible, fascinating development. That's something else entirely in the world. Spreading information to thousands of children is what truly matters. Otherwise, we can campaign against those who say it's good for the school. newt's happy or healthy or healthy as lives Some people live much more. We can summarize all the information we have gathered trying to figure out why their lives have turned out differently. This British school is in fact an unbelievable story, Everything began again in 1946, dim ond ddau blynedd ar ôl ddiwedd yr wythnos, Who were the workers wanting to know what the way was? I would have liked to have lived in those times. They're taking over the school's big campaign this year. most recently recording the brief life of every living thing Coming to Wales, School and Wales in one week. That was a campaign that saved 14,000 lives. The questions asked of them were different. the questions we can ask today. They're very interesting now. They were asking questions like, Did you go to school? Would you like to receive different service from a water point today? If you continue with corsets, smocks, Nidresau, nickers a brasiers? This is my favorite one. Have you checked your mirror? Are you at school with this party? We are asking questions like, This school event has taken place more frequently in general. The school has been rebuilt once again. They're recording the play of millions of plays a dod in 1958 and millions more in 1970. They did it again in the 1990s a sudden event for the span of the millennium. More than 70,000 children have been taken In these schools across the nations. Schools are campaigning in Britain. The schools have gone back and recorded more information. Every year, Bob and these people never. The time when information is being communicated to these people Very interesting. It includes thousands of paper questions and terabytes of computer data. The schools have also built a bank of test samples. including long shots, original clips, children and DNA. The schools have also included 9,000 planters. The rain on the children, currently in plastic nations in connected schools. This project has been completed solely, felly dim unrhyw wlad arall y byd to discuss كتاب of children in reality there. Those schools are some of the largest schools in the country. The data has proven extremely valuable to the schools. producing more than 6,000 schools and school administrators and administrators. And today, I want to establish one thing, The most important schools are those that come from these excellent schools. He is also the one who talks to me. Otherwise, it concerns how to use schools I want the best for our child. Felly, let the different changes go out first. The largest schools among these fine schools are the ones that fall away. You're not writing for the best or for important schools. Otherwise, if you do, You are more commonly associated with important schools in life. Many children in this area were writing to important families. in the service sectors They have had different schools or other problems. It's now obvious the important schools here It is more commonly written for every school. They would write more frequently to the important schools, I didn't go to important schools or get much more money. Now, that would obviously sound a lot like Some of the results have already been written down. The truth is that children who start life with difficulties More writing comes from service schools. They are more likely to write about being in community schools, I'm the one who gets clean services, I was in service schools. We are certain it must be those schools. Alright. Working with this research These schools are dealing with issues concerning these schools. We must come from these schools the drop-out rate from these schools Anyone starting in a different place may find it difficult in institutions. You know, many people start life with difficulty, they can't do that well in any way, This study begins by writing how. This study has two parts. It is important in reality. In this study, children who have visited parents who are interesting, anyone who has been concerned about their future, It was broader to come out from the beginning. It feels like parents and what they do are very important. I was very active during the first years of my life. I'll give you an example of that. In a study, the research has involved approximately 17,000 children. It has been coming since 1970. They are processing all the data that has been collected in order to try working it out Beth is the parent of the children who have had a difficult start in life I did allan a good job at school, obviously. In reality, things that could be difficult for children who have had a hard start in life. The data showed that what mattered was more important than anything else. The children were. Was having contact with interesting children in the first years of my life during the first years of my life I went to Allan's school later. In reality, things are broad Why are the children doing it? to concern developments for children's benefit. Speaking and writing for children, the children in recent times, They wrote their books and their periods, Take them on trips and outings. Writing to children every day looks like I was also very important. Felly, in one studio, but he's writing to them later They are 5 years old. an interesting write-up during his formative years at the age of ten that's not their concern regarding population and decades of being thirty among those who are not doing those things. Now, extensive compositions To use this kind of science. These studies show things that are being done to campaign for good conditions for children, I don't know those bodily conditions to fulfill my duties in good time, if there were any other factors to carry it out. It's urgent, we must communicate with generations, That's speaking differently No, I don't. Studies that are working with the British study It's a huge job I will carry it out, a study on the dyma It's very important. In this study, They're watching the programs over 10,000 children to die during the millennium. The children were going to the region. at particular times, Now they're heading for the area at different times in the years? The data showed body plant I'm going to the area at different times more extensive I have a problem with the installation. Nowadays, those who are changing I have specific times, specific times and a little bit more showing Good luck during the event. That was very important. otherwise he was realizing body disciplinary regulations to help with things I'll tell you about that child. That's another one I'd think about. At the same time, The officials were looking at the children. I'm going to the area at different times. It means they are taking shop, picture book Storybook. The data showed the plant that's going to the area at different times the state of being active A'R 10 more than a lot I found the key well planning the state of being active in their own world. It is not just a test of spirit, spiritual test a mathau hefyd. In reality, this period was trying an attempt all the factors general to have a look at children the most extreme range the same as the one mutual admiration I felt so down the spirit of the body Helping these children I found it in the range well planning strange things in their lives. And then I told him it was important regarding production, a good birth, if you can say so to help the child return to increase some of the social activities. Felly, wait, That means, then, Is it not important to care? You may say, It's important if a child is coming, it's important. as long as their parents are good parents, They're going to do just fine. I don't believe that's true. This study shows that poverty and parenting matter. And one study actually provided specific figures for that, so it examined children growing up in persistent poverty and how well they were performing at school. The data showed that even when their parents were doing everything right, They were putting them to bed on time. and reading to them every day and everything else, that has only gotten those children so far. Good parenting only reduced the educational gap. between rich and poor children by approximately 50 percent. Now, that means that poverty leaves a truly lasting scar, and it means that if we truly want to ensure the success and well-being of the next generation, Tackling child poverty is an incredibly important thing to do. Now, what does all this mean for you and me? Are there lessons here that we can all take home and apply? I mean, as a scientist and a journalist, I like to have some science to inform my parenting. And I can tell you that when you're shouting at your kids to go to bed on time, It really helps to have the scientific literature on your side. And wouldn't it be wonderful to think that all we had to do to have happy, successful children was to talk to them and show interest in their future, Put them to bed on time and give them a book to read. Our job would be done. Now, as you can imagine, The answers aren't quite as simple as that. For one thing, this study examines what happens to thousands and thousands of children on average but that doesn't necessarily indicate what will help my child or your child or any individual child. In the end, each of our children is going to walk their own path, and that is partly determined by the genes they inherit and, of course, all the experiences they have throughout their lives, including their interactions with us and their parents. I will tell you what I did after I learned all this. It's a bit embarrassing. I realized I had been so busy working and, ironically, learning about and writing about this incredible study of British children that there were days when I hardly even spoke to my own British children. So at home, we introduced talk time, which is just 15 minutes at the end of the day When we talk and listen to the boys. I'm trying better now to ask them what they did today and to show that I appreciate what they do at school.