Your Silence Will Make Her Stress

Your silence will make her stress. Hi guys, my name is Christine and I'm a dating relationship and personal development coach and today I'm talking about your silence will make her stress. So this is for those people out there that are in no contact with a woman, perhaps she lost interest in you or she friend zoned you or she broke up with you and you're in no contact with a woman and you're hoping that that no contact is going to perhaps make her think about you, wonder about you, want to get back with you or perhaps it's just something that you're going through, maybe you're going through a process where you're trying to get over her but you kind of maybe want to know what's going on in her mind, the psychology of it all and such and the human behavior, okay, the patterns of human behavior that can happen when a woman is in no contact with a guy and she still has feelings for him because let's be honest, like if a woman doesn't have any feelings for you and she's indifferent towards you, then your silence isn't going to make her stress at all because she's not that into you, right, but if she is still into you and she does have some feelings for you and some attraction, the fact that you're not talking to her will make her stress out and it will cause her to reach out. So what, why this makes, can make a woman stress out when you're doing no contact with her is if she wants to keep you, she now knows that she has to do something. So for example, let's say this was a woman who you were dating and you thought things were going really really well and then all of a sudden she has pulled back and you're now doing no contact in hopes that it will re-attract her and if she has some attraction for you, she's going to realize at some point that, oh I haven't heard from him in a while and if she cares about you and if she wants to see you, then she's going to start to panic and when she starts to panic she realizes, oh my god I'm going to have to do something otherwise he's never going to speak to me again. She might be thinking, oh I wonder if he's mad at me, I wonder if he, if I've pushed him away, I wonder if I've done too much, I wonder if I've, you know, she's going to be going, her head's going to be going miles a minute to try and figure out what to do and what the conclusion will be is that if she wants to keep you, then she's going to have to do something. So she's going to have to reach out to you or something along those lines. So the thing is that a woman may not directly say to you, hey I miss you, hey I made a mistake, hey, they're not going to be direct like that. What they will do instead is they will test the waters, they will just, she'll just send you like a hey how are you or she'll send you something that she thought maybe you would find funny but the fact is that she's contacting you and that's the thing that you've got to remember and this is where you sort of have to become very logical about this, okay. If a woman is reaching out to you, even if it's just a hey, even if it's her just sending you something funny, in that moment before she sent that, she was thinking of you, you were in her head, okay. So if a woman is sending you something, it means that you've been on her mind and if you're on her mind and she sent something to you like a hey or, you know, she sent you something that you, that you thought, that she thought you would find funny like a reel or a meme or something then it means that you're on her mind and it could be that she misses you. So if a woman does that, if a woman does the thing you want her to do which is reach out even if it's not I miss you, I'm in love with you, if she's not being direct like that then what you got to do is if you want to see her then say hey thanks for sending that or if she sends you something funny like oh yeah that was really good, you know, that made me laugh out loud or if she's saying hey, hey it's good to see you, it's good to hear from you and then just ask her when she's free to hang out like hey oh my goodness it's been a while, it's been a minute, let's have a catch up, when are you free? Okay, so get the ball rolling, okay, if she does that, okay, especially if you want her back. If you don't want her back then obviously if she reaches out to you just ghost her, ignore her or whatever it is that you want to do, right, but if you want to see her again then when she reaches out in any shape or form like if she sends you something or she sends you a message directly then see when she is available, okay, because what you've got to realize is this, if she misses you she will reach out, okay, if you don't hear from her and let's say it's been months then she just wasn't that into you and she doesn't really care, okay, maybe she was into you, maybe she's lost interest or maybe it is that someone that she liked more came back into the picture, like maybe an ex came back into the picture, maybe a guy that she had more of an emotional investment in, another guy that she was dating who she liked more just happened to come back into the picture, you don't really know what's going on and to be honest it doesn't matter why, what matters is her behavior and if she's pulled back and she's not speaking to you then that's the behavior that you've got to go by, just because she was into you three weeks ago doesn't mean that she's going to be into you now and past behavior doesn't stay consistent, okay, her feelings for you are going to change. Even in marriages and relationships, you know, there are going to be times when she's more into you than others, it's just one of those things, things are never consistent, sometimes she's going to be super attracted to you, sometimes it's going to be sort of neutral, other times she might be really mad at you and angry at you but you just got to stay consistent within yourself and just know that that's just the way that human beings are, you know, we're not, you know, always 100% head over heels in love with someone 100% of the time at the same level, at the same rate, it's just not, the human beings just don't work like that, especially if we've got a lot of stress, there's a lot of work to do or there's a hormonal thing, you know, or we're poorly, unwell, you know, got sickness, you know, all those kinds of things, so many different things can affect someone's mood, okay, and women are exactly the same, okay, so I'm sure if you've got stress at work then probably you've got, you know, you act and behave differently, okay, if you're not feeling well you probably act and behave differently, if you've got other things that you need to think about, you've got money worries, you act differently and you're not always the same person all the time, okay, and it's the same with women, they're not going to act and behave the same way all the time, so if she's got a dip in her attraction then just see it as a dip and if she likes you she will come back to you, but if not, well then you'll just never hear from her again and that's what you've got to trust and that's what you've got to remember, so the difficult thing is, is though, is if you are right now in no contact and you are giving her silence right now, it can be difficult to maintain that because if you have strong feelings for her it can be really difficult to stay silent, okay, so how do you stay silent? So there are a couple of ways, so if you have a lot of desire for her, if you've got all these romantic feelings for her, then what you can do is instead of using that energy to reach out to her and to message her too much and to call her up or to post needy insecure quotes online or something like that for her to see, instead use that energy and transmute it, right, and do something and transmute into something useful, so for example, go to the gym and start exercising and just pretend that she's watching you, right, how would you exercise at the gym if you knew she was in the room, okay, how would you work on projects and your goals if you knew that she was in the room, if you knew that she was going to see this work, if she knew, if you knew that she was going to see this, and just use that energy to just level up and make your life way better and it's okay to use that, it's okay to use that emotion and your feelings for her and her as a muse, it's okay to do that, as long as you channel it in a healthy way and you're using it to actually level up in life and to create some really cool things or to exercise really well and keep yourself fit and healthy, you know, just use that, just pretend she's always watching, okay, and see how much your productivity improves and how much everything sort of starts to improve, like your health and fitness and stuff, because you're using that as your muse and I think that's a really good way of doing that. There is a book called Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, some people may be really familiar with that book, it's one of my favourite books, one of the, in my opinion, one of the best books of all time when it comes to like self-help and, you know, how to get things that you want, how to get more money and things, but there's a chapter in that book called sexual, sexual, I said it in a really weird way, sexual transmutation, and that's what it is, it's using that energy, that sex energy or that desire and that love and that passion as inspiration to create something really cool and to get wealthier and to, you know, make more money, you know, whatever it is, right, you use that because it could be that you, she doesn't, she loses all interest in you, so you want to make some f**k you money instead, right, look, I'm going to show you what you missed out on, I'm going to show you through excellence that you missed out and it's okay to use that, as long as you're not shoving it in her face and you're not messaging her saying, look girl, I made so much money, I bet you regret not being with me now, look how fit my body is, it's not like you're actually like verbally saying these things to her, you're just showing her through maybe like social media posts, right, things like that, just show through excellence, just show her through excellence, okay, so don't post anything on social media unless it's an accomplishment, okay, and maybe she'll see it, who knows, but the idea is, is that you want to show, you want to transmute that energy into excellence, so you're not always on your phone, so you're not always just waiting for her to reach out to you, just find a way to use that energy that you've got to, to make things better, because it's easy for someone to say, oh yeah, you just need to get over it, you just need to move on, well yeah, that's, that's fine, that's all good and well, but how, what do you do with all that emotion, what do you do with those feelings, that just saying that doesn't make those feelings go away, so what you can do is use those feelings of love, of attraction to improve your life, because that's all you can really do with that energy right now, because you can't give it to her, you've got this love that you want to give to her, but you can't give it to her, so you make something, you create something, and I bet it'll be a really cool thing to create, I bet it'll be really, really successful too, because you've used that energy, okay, and there's, I don't think there's any more power, this is gonna sound really woo-woo, but I think that one of the most powerful energies is love, and that desire for someone, the desire to prove yourself, I think that's such a motivator, okay, to like lose weight, to get fit, to create a business, to create money, I think it's a huge motivator, so just always imagine that your crush is watching, just always imagine that, and watch how more excellent you become at absolutely everything, and that's how you stay silent, right, anytime you feel tempted to messenger, go and do something productive, go create something, go to the gym, go work out really hard, just use that time so you're not tempted to their messenger, because if you're idle and you're not doing anything, then yeah, you're gonna be, you're more likely gonna break no contact, you're gonna make a lot of emotional mistakes, you're probably gonna get really sad about it and stuff, you know, there's a quote that I really like by Dale Carnegie, which is, um, inaction breeds doubt and fear, taking action creates confidence and courage, if you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home, and think about it, go out and get busy, it's one of my favorite quotes of all time, and I think it's so true, so go out and get busy, don't be on your phone all the time, just go out and just show her what she's missing, okay, so thank you so much for watching, if you'd like coaching with me, there's a link in the description, if you would like, uh, to purchase something else which isn't got anything to do with, um, I don't know, coaching with me, if you want something really cost-effective, then you can go and get the dating blueprint, which tells you what to do at each stage of dating, so for example, how to ask a woman out, what to do, what kind of vibe you want on a date, and how long you should wait after a date before asking her again, so you're more likely to get that second date, um, and also, as well, you can go and read my, uh, my book totally for free as well on my website, if you want a longer book to read, but unfortunately, it's the pdf, just take it to the pdf reader, um, if you want a copy of the book, or if you want it on kindle, you want on a different device, you don't want to keep going to my website, then you can get it on amazon, again, all of the links for everything is in the description, and I shall talk to you again very soon. 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