Your Mother Has a “Transactional” Relationship with Your Siblings (IT’S NOT LOVE) #narcissist #npd

Your mother doesn't love your brother or sister more than she loves you. What if I told you she didn't love them either? She don't love none of y'all. And you need to stop stressing. First of all, if you have the type of mother that divides her children up and plays favorites, your mother is more than likely a narcissist, okay? Because narcissist, that's a major tactic they use called triangulation, divide and conquer. They have multiple children. They divide them up and pit them against each other. as a form of control okay so your mama is even playing favorites with one or more of your siblings and she's shitting on you she is triangulating you all because she's a manipulative narcissist however don't get it twisted just because she favors or treats your siblings better than you does not mean that she loves them more than you or she loves them and she hates you she doesn't love them either okay and the point of this video is to teach you that the relationship that she has with your siblings is purely transactional stop looking at their relationship as if it's built on love mom loves your siblings more than she loves you she gives them money she doesn't give you ---- she puts them through college she doesn't give you ---- while you're in college she won't sign your FAFSA your student loans you got to do all that by yourself she wants to see you struggle she wants to cripple you financially you have kids she won't help you babysit she don't buy your kids no gifts but she'll buy her other grandchildren gifts your siblings children she spoils them and she doesn't do nothing for your children stop thinking that's love. A lot of y'all get that confused as love. None of it is love. It's all 100% abuse. When you understand that a narcissist's love is equated to transactions, everything they do is transactional. They just use love to identify their transactional behavior. It's not love. Love is pure. Jesus is love, Jesus' love is pure unconditional, it does his love is not abuse, his love doesn't hurt, his love is pure empathy and your parents, your mama lacks empathy, but she'll tell people oh I love my children and I love my grandchildren no, her love is based on transactions, what can you do for me, if I do for you, what will I get in return, what will my return of investment be so because you're the scapegoat child and you refuse to tolerate your mother's bullying, she's such a bully, she's your first bully, you will not put up with her childish behavior, you demand respect because you're an adult when she refuses to respect you, you you refuse to be used financially you won't let her take advantage of you financially, despite everything she's done to destroy you you cut her off and you leveled up but your siblings remained loyal to her and they're being rewarded for their loyalty and you think that's love, it's not love, it's all abuse, your mother has a transactional relationship with your siblings, whether it's a brother or a sister in my case I have a baby sister who is incredibly enmeshed with my sociopathic mother, my mother has groomed her to also be a duplicate narcissistic sociopath. They both behave and act the same way. The grooming has been intentional since birth to the point that my sister does not have any autonomy outside of my mother. My mother wants my sister to be crippled and dependent on her so that my mother can maintain control. I rejected my mother controlling me and my child. I rejected that and i was bullied and punished for it, i was excluded, i was gossiped and talked about, um she refused to buy my baby any gifts, had our mailing address over the last 15 years trust me my daughter has never received birthday prom special occasions my mother didn't even reach out could have wrote a letter could have sent an email wrote a letter how's my grandchild doing when is she graduating is she going to prom is there anything I could do to help her no my daughter's needs were all ignored we're talking about the last 15 20 years once my mother saw that I was setting a boundary and I would not allow her to control me or my daughter or my decisions as a mother she wanted to take over she wanted to rule over my child she wanted to create a reputation to the streets that I was an unfit mother and I was bad when she's the unfit mother right now in South Carolina we used to live in South Carolina and when I went to high school and there was a whole open case on her abusing me she got reported by my teachers and guidance counselor and investigated for a whole year so she's registered in South Carolina as being an abuser a child abuser I had to go down I drove down to South Carolina a couple years ago and I got a receipt I got it on paper she's on file in the state of south carolina a registered child abuser they had the case open for a whole year because i reported her and her husband and she sent me to school with a nasty open scar gash on my face see i have to put stuff out there to remind her she forgets what's that african proverb forgets but the tree will always remember yeah the victim always remember the abuser has selective memory they forget all the ---- they did but the beauty that's why they hate the victim so much because the victim is a daily reminder of what you actually did anyway not to stray from the topic you believe your mama loves your sibling more than you i don't believe for one second that my mother loves my sister more than she loves me their relationship is purely 100% transactional as long as my sister allows my mother to control keyword control my mother has to have control over my sister my mother has to keep tabs on my sister and stay in her business at all times no matter how old my sister gets that control that leash can never be broken my mother has a leash on my sister as long as that leash stays intact and my mother is able to keep tabs and have some sort of foot in the door control over my sister my sister in return will be rewarded rewards come in various ways maybe you know my mother may buy her something major a car a home take out a loan if my sister becomes a home owner and she's struggling my mother will help pay her bills if my sister has children those said children will be spoiled meanwhile my child hasn't received a gift in over 15 ******* years every occasion Christmas birthday holidays graduations everything she has received zero from my mother nothing in the mail not a card with money no acknowledgement my baby was punished but because my sister is an obedient lap dog she will always be rewarded if she has children those children will too be rewarded and spoiled for obedience and this is not a relationship built on love. It's a transactional relationship. My sister's obedience is the return of investment. So therefore my mother will continue to invest in her and favor her and spoil her because the return of investment is control. My sister allows my mother to control her. My sister has no foundation in her life, no autonomy. She was set up to fail. She was set up to choose narcissistic men because those narcissistic men will end up abusing her and she will have to run back home to her narcissistic mother so it's a triangle system you run to a man he abuses you you can always run back home to mom and mom gets to regain that control it's all a setup my sister's too stupid to see it a transactional relationship set up to keep her codependent and enmeshed forever so if you think your mom loves your siblings more than you it's not love it's transactional love it's it's it's a situation set up like a business mom invests and the return of investment is the control not love control be blessed y'all