YOUR MOTHER WANTS YOU TO FEEL “EXCLUDED” TO FURTHER BULLY YOU #narcissist

I want to talk about the women in your family doing micro-bullying. Now, there's many forms of micro-bullying and micro-aggressions. The one that I'm about to speak about is called exclusion. Exclusion. I'm going to give you an example of what exclusion looks like in a toxic, dysfunctional, narcissistic family, which is often ran like a cult, very enmeshed, codependent, toxic, and they target one, maybe two individuals to bully and tease and outcast, okay? So exclusion, here's an example of exclusion. When your female relatives, it could be grandmother, mother, sister, aunt, female cousins, nieces, women, catty ones, and I'm not going to say all the women in your family. Because like me, I got some aunts that I really love and they're not toxic. And they know my mother is full of ----. They know my mother is ******* demonic and they barely deal with her ass. So I will say not all the women in my family, and I'll say the same for you. It's a couple of them sprinkled in there and they keep their distance. They don't want to be tied up in the bullshit, the gossip or the drama. OK, they know what time it is and they know your ******* mother and your toxic ass sister, the rest of the family. When your female relatives perform exclusion, which is a form of micro-bullying, exclusion is not inviting you to family function on purpose. Or you finding out later that there was a family function and nobody told you about it. That's exclusion. Or your female relatives going out of their way, fully intentional, deliberately not inviting you. They don't want you there on purpose because you steal the shine. I'll give you an example. Word came through the grapevine. You know, this is many years ago. You know, my mother being a communal narcissist, communal narcissists are narcissists that like to hide behind charities and do charitable work. But they're ******* evil behind closed doors. They're bullies and abusers. but because she has a charity uh that charity is what makes her look like a good person to the community the community has no idea that she's a ******* abuser and she's ******* toxic as **** and a criminal minded piece of ---- so the community that the charity is what protects her image her facade her false reputation to her friends and family but those that really know my mother know how she really is ******* evil and demonic many years ago because the word got back to me that my mother um put together a fashion show a local fashion show or what have you and um I guess she recruited, she needed models to model in her fashion show, right? And my sister, my first cousin who just passed away, she's younger than me, may she rest in peace. I love her. Um, she was in the fashion show as a model, you know, other women and what have you, and here's the interesting thing: I wasn't invited. No, and we're talking about this is like 10 years ago, I wasn't invited. My mama didn't reach out and say, "Hey, I would love for you, I'm putting together a local fashion show and" I would love for you to be in it. I never received an invite. Here's the kicker. Nobody who participated in that fashion show, all the models that participated in her fashion show, none of them are professional models, But guess who is a professional model? Guess who has walked down several runways, including internationally, where I made history as the first plus-size model to walk in International Fashion Week in the Bahamas, Guess who? If you know your daughter is a professional model and has competed in beauty pageants, why would you ******* exclude her from being in your fashion show? And let me guess, I'm sure people asked my mother, why I wasn't in it, as beautiful as I am and successful and a professional model with a working resume getting paid work. I'm sure people asked her and she made up some type of ******* lie. She made up a lie. she probably said I couldn't get in touch with her, or she didn't, you know, we offered but she didn't want to be in, and she made up some ******* lie and I'm here to announce the truth I never received a motherfucking invitation because the bitch was being catty, she wanted me to be excluded, she wanted me to feel unloved, unwelcome, she was being a total bitch because that's what she does. She had my sister in the fashion show, my cousins, other women who are not related, total strangers. But your daughter being a professional model who has modeled in New York City multiple times, received accolades, awards internationally for being a professional paid model. Why didn't you put your ******* daughter who's a professional model who would a model for free and not charge your ass? because i get paid i don't i don't walk for free bitch my sister who has no modeling career this is the catty ---- that is what we call exclusion and this happens it's very common when you're the scapegoat black sheep child of the family and your family is very enmeshed very codependent very toxic ran like a cult you go against the system and you don't fall in line with what they want as toxic and dysfunctional as their ways are if you don't fall in line with what they want they will outcast you and exclude you exclusion is a form of micro bullying and it's ******* nasty and toxic and it is a form of emotional abuse don't get it twisted it is very abusive because they exclude you to they deliberately want you to feel unloved unwelcomed isolated outcasted and like bitch we don't love you whatever okay it's toxic and it's very abusive there is no motherfucking excuse my mother can come up with because i never received the invite i don't give a **** what her feelings are and i'm just thinking you know like i said i have a daughter but if i have multiple daughters there's no way there's no way i'm going to play psychological mind games with my children I'm always going to keep my children together I'm going to make sure my children love each other they're not competing with each other I'm not going to gossip about them behind each other's backs my goal is to keep my family together and healthy but when your mother is a narcissist she's the ringleader puppet master she is author she's she's creating a chaos a chaotic environment amongst her children and she will even go as far as you know if you got cousins female cousins lady she'll treat your female cousins like a daughter not because she really loves your cousin she's just using your cousin as a pawn this is called triangulation she will triangulate you against your own cousin just to ******* punish you and bully you okay you don't want to fall in line well you know i'm gonna treat your cousin like my daughter and ---- on you bitch even though you're my biological daughter i'm gonna treat your cousin i'm gonna use your cousin to replace you you bitch that's how ******* nasty your mother is so she will congregate with the other toxic I'm not going to say all the women in your family just the narcissist and the toxic messy ones they love congregating together they love to gossip whether it's your grandmother your aunties whoever it is you can always tell who the narcissists are in your family because they run in packs and when they run in packs they gossip they they team up against they come against one and they act like a bunch of immature girls in high school, mean girls gang up on that nerdy girl in the corner. So you didn't know that being excluded is a form of bullying and a form of emotional abuse. Now, you know, do not put up with it. If they treat you like you're excluded, smile and say, thank you. I wasn't coming no way. and the next time I stay far away from y'all I don't want to hear no complaints don't complain that I'm not coming around when you went out of your way to exclude me multiple occasions to make me feel unwelcome and unloved now it's going to backfire because I want nothing to do with you now take that