Narcissistic Mother Uses Your Sister to Triangulate You #npd #narcissist #narcabuse #propheticword

Hey everyone, Spiritual Whistleblower here with another video on narcissistic abuse. How are you? Happy holidays. It is December 2021. We are in the last month of the year. As always, I have a brand new book. I just released this on Thanksgiving. My Family Can Kiss My Ass. How to Deal with Toxic, Messy, Narcissistic Family Members. Right in time for the holidays, guys. um it's available on Kindle. um ebook and paperback and you can also go to uh barnes and nobles their website it's available there too um i'm going to discuss a chapter out of this book called triangulation as it pertains to a family setting your mother father your siblings um before i get into the video as always i offer phone coaching 15 minute 30 minute one hour and i also do in-person consultations international as well. So you can hit me up at chaneljasmin at gmail.com. All my information, where to purchase books and to set up an appointment with me will be pinned down below in the description box and in the comment section. Please get in touch with me. I'm here to help. I've experienced every level of narcissistic abuse. There's nothing. I'm telling you, I've been married to a narc. I've co-parented and raised my child with a narcissist. Both my parents are narcs my siblings are narcs my family um i've resigned from my job from working with narcissists and having a narcissistic boss i've been abused i survived domestic violence um listen any and everything i got it all covered okay this is the new book just you know in time for the holidays my family can kiss my ass this video today ladies i want to talk to y'all because a lot of y'all, this is a huge problem, huge problem, narcissistic mothers, mistreating their daughters, narcissistic mothers, mistreating their daughters. And again, we're going to use the model on the whiteboard for my triangulation series. This video, I will be explaining how a narcissistic mother uses triangulation to abuse her daughter with her other daughters. So ladies listen up because if you have a brother, it's the same thing, but I, I rather do a separate video when it comes to the brothers because the family members are interchangeable. They can use anyone to abuse you. But in this video specifically, I want to talk about, uh, if you have sisters, if you have one sister or you have two or three sisters and your mother's a narcissist and she, she utilizes your sisters to attack you. We're going to use the system of triangulation to explain how and why your mother does this to you. Okay. So before we get started, let me, I got to use my red marker to mark each role. So give me one second. All right. So as always, we have our triangle here, three points. The first point is you, you are the scapegoat child. You are the black sheep, the scapegoat child. The scapegoat child is the child that gets bullied out of the family. The child that gets groomed and broken down to be the caretaker of the family. the child that is belittled bullied berated um i mean you're robbed of your childhood your self-esteem is broken um you're you're like the whipping post of the family that is what the scapegoat child represents and the second point we have the the first narcissist that is going to be your mother she is the queen head matriarch she is the queen jezebel she is the ringleader of the entire family. She is the one that is training all her children. Each of her children has specific roles and she will put her children against each other. Like she's the puppet master and she's controlling all her children and training them to be demonic and abusive. And she's going to turn her children against each other or she's going to train all her children to come against one specific child and you are that specific child, the scapegoat. So the second the second spot is your mother. This is the first narcissist. There's two narcissists involved in this triangle. It's your mother and one of your sisters. Your mother is the first narcissist. She is the head matriarch. She is the Jezebel, Queen Jezebel. Now the third spot, the third spot, excuse me, is the second narcissist, your sister, your sister, who is the second narcissist of this equation. She is the golden child. Who and what is the golden child? Well, when you have a family that is constructed of uh narcissists your parents are narcs and you there is a very strong possibility they will groom their children certain children to be narcissistic as well the golden child specifically is a child that um doesn't get bullied doesn't get beat on but the golden child is spoiled the golden child is trained to um have self-entitlement issues that like they they feel entitled. They're arrogant. They're above the law. Your parents, in a sick, twisted way, they put you in this competition with your sibling. And they do this at a very young age. I'll give you an example. I said this a long time ago, but I can remember being a little girl, about 10 years old, 19 years old. And I have a brother. Me and my brother are very close in age. He's probably one year younger than me. We have a younger sister. My sister is five years younger than me. She's a narcissist. My mother basically groomed her, molded her to be a duplicate narcissist. Um, one Christmas, my mother being her toxic, abusive self, me and my brother woke up with nothing underneath the tree. And she told me and my brother, we weren't getting anything for Christmas. We got up and we looked at that Christmas tree. There were a bunch of toys under that tree. All the toys were from my sister. So she basically used my sister to punish me and my brother. Now we're small children. Imagine being a child sitting there knowing you didn't get anything for Christmas and you weren't good enough to receive anything for Christmas. Yet you're watching your younger sibling opening up tons of gifts in your face. That's how our mother punished us. That is what we call triangulation. And she still does it to this day. It doesn't stop when you're young. Your parents will continue this trifling behavior into their adulthood. And When you have children, they will start to triangulate their grandchildren. If you will not allow your parents to control you and you have children, they will treat your children, their own grandchildren, like ----. They won't buy their grandchildren any gifts. They will not acknowledge their grandchildren for birthdays or holidays because they're mad at you because you will not allow them to control you. So they will punish you and their grandchild. And they will spoil all the other grandchildren. This is very sick. This is very sick, y'all. These people are very sick. So your sister is the golden child. She is the second narcissist in this equation. So you are being tag-teamed by two narcissists, your mother and your sister. Now, the reason why your mother has trained your sister, whether this is an older sister or a younger sister, ladies, your mother specifically trained your sister to be a duplicate of herself. Your mother specifically wanted a child exactly like herself same behaviors same mannerisms same way they do their hair their makeup everything when I tell you my my sister is the exact replica of my mother it'll turn your ******* stomach your mother will teach your sister that you are jealous of her your mother will teach your sister to disrespect you. Your mother will teach your sister to gossip about you in the street like a dog. Your mother will teach your sister to compete with you. Your mother will teach you, teach your sister to flirt with your motherfucking man. Your mother will teach your sister that you want to be just like her. And you're mad at mom because mom does more for the sister than she does for you. Your mother is teaching your sister all of this. Your sister is being groomed to be utilized as a tool and a weapon to further punish you when you become an adult. Should you not fall in line with what your mother wants? If you do not give your mother the control over your life, if you do not give your mother any money, if you do not allow your mother into your home, you don't, you keep your mother out your business. You're independent. You don't have to live with your mother. You don't need your mother for ----. Your sister now becomes the flying monkey. Your sister becomes a minion, a messenger, a worker, a demonic worker on behalf of your mother. So check this out. If you don't get along with your mother and you have an off again, on again relationship with your sister, there'll be times your sister's mad cool. Your sister will come around and act like, Hey sis, what's up? When she gets away from your mother and she gets you and her get together it's cool y'all are vibing what's up sis yada yada y'all let's go shop da da da sis is cool for a minute but you forget sis is a narcissist narcissists are two-faced they cannot be trusted and I know you love your sister and I know it feels good when y'all bond together and y'all on the phone clicking and laughing or y'all might go out shopping y'all feel tight and close because your mother's not interfering but who your sister is internally. She's been battling demons. She knows your mother's ways are trifling. She knows your mother is evil, but your sister has made a conscious decision to, to stand on your mother's side. So let me tell you something. Your sister is playing you all those times you're chatting and gossiping with your sister, or y'all are out bonding and shopping and kicking it together. Your sister is going to take all this information and she's going to tell your mother everything. your sister is spying your sister is retrieving information your sister is getting in all your business so she can run back and tell your ******* toxic ringleader Jezebel mother your sister's playing you this is why you got to cut her off and what's going to happen when you cut both mama and sister off because they're both narcissists they're both going to team up together and run a nasty smear campaign they're going to tell everybody that you're jealous of them that you're mentally ill you're crazy oh baby they're going to lay it on thick but anyone with two eyes and common sense from the outside looking in can clearly see you are more accomplished your sister don't have no college degrees here it is you're working on your PhD your sister needs your mother's help your sister can't even afford to buy or pay her own bills she got she got your mama paying her car note and helping her with bills. She's not even 100% independent. She can't even piss on her own without getting your mother involved. She's weak and they both know it. That's why they got to sit and gossip and delude themselves into believing that you're obsessed with them when they're the ones watching your every move. Terrified that you're going to do better than them. Terrified because they know all of their attempts in the past to destroy you have failed and you're still rising and climbing. You cannot ever have a relationship with neither one of them ever again. You gotta realize this. They both will destroy you. Their insecurities run deep. I don't care how pretty they look, how well-dressed or how bougie they might think. That's all fake, honey. I don't care about their relationship. Their relationships are fake. They are miserable inside. They realize you are free and you are the one that are really, you're really happy because you don't need their validation and that's scary to them, okay? So I hope I've broken down the mother and sister tag teaming up on you. There'll be more triangulation videos to come. I love you guys. Get the book.