Lessons Learned & Unlearned: Motherhood Edition

I met a stranger, he greeted me, Do you know how to wash your hands? Therefore. Unfortunately, the doctor of men said, Feed this baby with breast milk as much as possible. Nita mnyonyesha haji kama sitaki kukusa mkono. So this is just a little encouragement for that new mom. Who is feeling overwhelmed? Who feels like I'm not doing enough? Imagine you're doing enough. They feel that the rainy season has already started in January. Who is going? My work is exhausting. Imagine that in a few weeks you'll be back on track. You're going to be okay. Somehow, I don't know how, but somehow things will be all right. Even if I were a child, even if I were a child Please welcome back to the Seles Reflection episode. Well, we have so many episodes, but at least the second episode in 2025. Hey, guys, Pia Mini was a real troublemaker, a child full of excitement. I've read the comments, thank you so much. Glad to see me back, I'm also glad to see you back in the comments. Thank you for engaging. 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How? By the way, she was born to sellers. Welcome so much to our new subscribers. Welcome to our new members, Wasile's Reflection. Yeah, and with that, today's topic, something that I really love, something that I, well, I thought I'd say this to you, kid, something that I love right now I didn't know about it when I was a girl. My YouTube channel has grown. Just an ordinary girl, learning and I'm learning. So some of the things that I have found myself learning or unlearning, or both, in my motherhood journey. I have a very strong feeling about motherhood, it's like something deep inside me. Juhu motherhood, if someone tells me, what is it, As for you, how do you feel about motherhood? And I think what I can say is just, well, like motherhood, well. So today I am here just to share some of the things that nimelearn. In the few years that I've been a mom, at most 7 years, This year we turned 7, so her motherhood has reached 40 years. I mean my mom's Hakona experience was 40, yours might be too. He has 15 here, no teens. Hi, at home, it's still not arrived there by ten. So in the few years that I've been a mom, some of the things what I've learned and had to unlearn, like unlearn too, I haven't been a mom for long, I've only been a mom for a little while. Aiyo, I can't do it alone; I'll have to bring others on board. I have a few, maybe you, as a mom, can tell me the few. But the first thing I've learned, not in order, but the first thing that I'm going to mention. As a mom, having fun is still possible. Just like you as a mom, you can still have fun. You can still go out with your friends. You can still catch up with your girlfriends, have a little date. Just like I was your mother, you will be a mother one day. Do you have fun? No. Even as a mom, you can still have fun. Today's meal, my dear, is either chicken or fish, what do you want? Ama, my house help, Ama, my house manager. I just wanted to tell you, my friend, that I'm going to be late to the high school group. You are my strength, you are my courage, you are my hope, you are my peace, you are my love. It's not impossible; it's very possible, depending on how you do it. I feel like a mom, I need to stop going out. It's okay. But for me, I feel like, you know what, The moment I'm happy, I have a lot to share with my family. If I'm not happy, and I feel the way you said so much, You cannot pour from an empty cup. It's the truth. You need to be happy for my family to be happy. I need to be okay so my kids can be okay. This feeling, my dear, imagine what I'm going through, dear grandmother. Why, mother, why? Why is mother suffering? And for our moms, that's exactly what we do for them. Mom told my child, you're not the one suffering, this stress is mine alone. This stress has nothing to do with you, really. Because for them it was motherhood, motherhood. I tend to think it was motherhood, motherhood, motherhood. But for me, I've come to realize something—do you know what? Even as a mother, you still have fun. Yeah, something I've learned. As a mother, something else I've learned You can still have yourself sometimes, like some me time. Well, it kind of feels the same as going out. But when I said this, it was not the case, especially for our, A feeling, well, that person, I need to give my best. Yes, you need to give your best. But even you need some time. Hey, come on, I'm tired of this nonsense The firewood is just a little bit dry. Two m-m-m. Try your best, and also you have some time. When you're down, if you have a community around you, ask for help. Take some time. That's something else. Ask for help. I thought asking for help might seem like He is in his element at work. No. Hi, what's up with the crazy weather? The child of the community. You helped me. I'm coming to you. Hi, Digiri. All your hats. Wakue did something. Ask for help so you can get some time alone. Asking for help doesn't mean you've lost. Ama doesn't mean we're done now. We all are, it is, it is. Where is motherhood? So please, ukiweza, ask for help, then you'll get some time. Sometimes time can be fleeting. It doesn't have to be that you must get money and do it. You are the one who is pure, the one who is innocent, the one who is blameless, and the one who is completely free from fault. Hiyo tu, some time, some breather, Take a walk, go to the salon, Osho Yonyele. Even if there were no good things there at the sink. If you do it this way, you do it this way, you get good results. I know, I'm thinking about now, I'll send you a message, I'll go home, You know, he, when he speaks, or when he's quiet, you know. So, ask, take some time off, and also ask for help. Something else I've learned here, After I became a mama, before I became a mama, What's first, I used to say before I became a mom, Here I am, my house is ready to burn. When I clean my house, my child will be happy. Where is the toilet, IR? There is a child here, for there is a child. You will see the child's footprint. I was saying, if you go to the market, you'll buy something clean. Just leave it, it's already clean. Hi there, I'm here, I've arrived. But you see there, I'll say, this thing here, this thing that is, that is. There are those who can do it; that's fine. For those of us, like myself personally. cleanliness at home, neatness, like, hile neatness, hile neatness Nimeachiliya kima. I've had to let go. Because surely there's a toy that will be on display. Worship God alone, for He alone is worthy. Haujui arrived there, but the rain had already started pouring. My heart is with you there in Zion. When the one comes, he will blow it up. So I've had to learn that. Imagine. Balance itabidi sometime. Itabidi, you balance sometime. Itabidi, you choose to say, are the children well fed? Are the children healthy? Are the children alright? Are they well enough? If you go, then you will arrive at the end. I was attending to my engine, which was running out of water. And it's okay. It's only for a season. Even if I were as lazy as I am, the house would still be clean. So for now, the season I'm in, my house is gone. A bit untidy, not dirty. A bit messy. If I had, if I were alone, na inge kaido. But since I have the children, I've had to learn that now. Imagine it is a face. So wake up, my dear, it's time to get up. Don't worry, your child is fine, just relax. So, before, before I had a baby, there were things I would ask. You will be blessed, you will be rewarded for sure. If you're going to curse someone, then, what kind of child will you get? Now I understand. Such questions are better left unasked, because why Am I asking you about other babies, like Mungu, who is also a baby? Hamo na jipa toki, na umtoto wako, kwenye hako na makelele, You're a stubborn child, my child, you're just like your father, you're impossible to handle. I no longer have opinions about other people's children. Because people are different, Kids are different; there's so much going on. So please, when you have a child, This is a brotherly thing, and maybe you also have a gift. Stealing your friend's child, you don't have much to fear, do you? Let those who want to play, play, but you must not. Ate mamaki, maybe he ate it. If your friend is close to you, Then maybe there's a way you can talk to your friend. Don't envy your friend's child, for you are not big and you won't be either. In a humble request, like you're not asking. Where is your child? Is your child sleeping? Where are you going? Where are you heading? If you're not asking from a good standpoint such as, I would like to refer you to Doctor So and So. I think, if you're just asking to confirm kuwa, Oh my, if my baby isn't okay, then don't ask. If you're asking for help, then there's a polite way to make your request. Those are things I've had to learn. So awa sewa, I say mtrain kutia, I stopped. I think we should remain humble about this matter. Ujue, I have two boys and they are completely different from each other. Wakwanza were those, eh, the ones we told you about. Go to the clinic, why the hurry? Why isn't Tugi eating? Why isn't Tugi eating? Why is everyone rushing the child? Why is the child crying? Here, this is it, nothing else, like, no food at all, nothing at all. He's just like that. Second-born. Why, child, are you crying? Who ate a lot? E, brother, tell me, why do they have blood? I mean, sometimes we might laugh, but it depends on who it's at. If there's someone excellent, I should say so, Hey, big guy, you're only three years old, you haven't arrived yet. Some things are better left unsaid. Because, like, if it's a house there, then the owner is. So, those are things I've had to learn. So, if you are that kind of person, Are you once that person, maybe uneza chill. And this is an episode for all new mothers. This point is especially for new mothers. I am sharing my seven-year journey. The teenage girl from the corner helped me, and I helped her. Things you've had to learn and unlearn through comments. Take people's advice with a grain of salt. Especially fellow parents. You, as a parent, already I don't know your position. Why So you're already known as Mama So and So, You are capable of bringing that up. However, Like, you're right, that's your responsibility. It is a tremendous responsibility, But imagine it's because you can handle it. with These are the lullabies, oh, when the baby sleeps, sleep. I received that advice, and it helped me. Yes. because this baby, you're telling me, when the baby sleeps, Maybe I'm the one who's needed. Wash their clothes Yes, I'm still working from home. I need to work. I have emails that I need to reply to. This way, I am walking like this. Not even a house Ama ni oshe vyombo So your advice in a konga puwa If you can But sometimes Yes, sir In the true sense Siri I've heard that, I've heard about babies, na iyo advice sijawayuweza. When the baby sleeps, at least during the first month, utalala kufunazi, healing, you know. So there's, but I can't find a place, this river flows like eight hours a day. Hi We, Mama Ibu Lala, work eight hours a day. See you later. I sleep only 8 hours a day, maybe I'll be able to sleep at night. So it's a balance. You're already a good parent; you're doing the right thing. So whatever works. When I arrived, he said to me, "Don't be afraid." I know the hand gesture. No Unashindua. Daktaria, breastfeed this baby as much as you can. Nita mnyonyesha haji kama sitaki kumkona mkono. I have to hold the baby like this. He is washing his hands. Moreover, this one has been hanging on for years. No. Sai, my Victoria is two points. Take it with your hand, achieve it with your hand. It's only for a short while. It's only for a short season. So, see you there. Atazoya hand, but 30 years will be in hand. Haizi touched his hand, whispering 30. I don't know what you're talking about. It's okay, we understand. He sat down for a while. And trust me, most kids are eager to help. Because every time you need to breastfeed, it hurts. So you end up being the one to hold the hand. So useful, it's like a hand. But hey, alifunzanga mtutu wakia mkono. On the day of the funeral, he had to be present, that was the custom. On the path, he walked with one hand on his head until he reached the age of ten. Just leave it in your hand. So, it might be tough. Maybe you're there, feeling like someone else is holding your hand. Imagine, azoe ya mkono forever. Hello, my hand is tired. Very soon I will be ready, so just wait a moment. Sometimes they say to enjoy it while it lasts. Maybe there's something to that as well. This hand, this hand of mine, I will stretch it out, it will tremble all over, but imagine, forever, at a distance, a hand. So, we wanted to say, I mean, oh, Hiyo baby walker, you're really good at walking, He does it with cricket legs, like, the kind that make people go crazy. I know, maybe they're not saying it in a bad way, but as for me, I'm the one talking to that new mom who feels like I have to take all these advice Like, Leo was supposed to go to so and so, but he didn't say anything. Feed your baby with formula milk Unajo formula is designed to mimic breast milk Yet you don't have milk So, you're a person I want to know the formula There are no sour milks That's why I'm saying For new moms These advices will come in as many As many as possible Like weh Many thanks At a young age I saw a video sometime ago Two-faced and insincere The first time to deal with Nini meno And that doctor was saying That's a lie Just because at this time, they take so many things and bite. It's bacteria, sir. So, what kind of illness do you have, or is it something else? But, juu na feel pressure ya, oh, this one is telling me, I don't need to give my baby the formula, oh, this baby walker, oh, Achi, sleep training, oh my God. That pressure is mounting, and you're going to feel it But please, take it with a grain of salt You and that foolish one have a god and a doctor See you soon, doctor. Ask the doctor, what's wrong with my child, and what should I do, please? Just that, otherwise, II, storyote kikam You will end up feeling overwhelmed. Like, the kid is already something new to me. Which I need to accommodate in my life Sorry, I can't assist with that request. If it worked for them, then so much the better. If it works for you It's okay, but if you keep pushing, I might just lose my temper. There's a reason God gave you that child, because you're capable. Huta huta. You can grow, and you can also sing. These people are going to the streets right now. This machine. About that, sir, it's a good thing, sir, what is it But they grow They turn out to be very nice kids. Hawa was with those strollers, those baby walkers I'm not saying they are bad. I'm just telling you If you have it, well and good If you don't, you'll be under pressure. Diapers available It's very nice to meet you today. The baby's diaper has been changed. You know what, I'm just saying Leo Even if the diaper is already wet, maybe it's still okay, but the baby might grow. That day, as the sun sets, and that day it will be over. So this is just a little encouragement for that new mom. who is feeling overwhelmed, Who feels like I'm not doing enough. Imagine you're doing enough. You are more than capable. You will receive it. You know those mom math moments that hit you out of nowhere. You give birth and you automatically become a mom. I got a diaper rash. But it's not like that at all. Quack, quack, quack, quack. You will be rewarded for what you do. What a wonderful thing you've done. You're like, where did this come from? And you survive, and you go on. Day one, I'm in a hurry; day two, I get diapers. If we will survive. We'll make it work somehow. We'll make it. We're all out here. Here she is. These are our parents. Let me speak for myself. I have a stroller. On the wrong side. I'm just trying to. Show you that there's no need for pressure. It has a baby cot. He was already at the place. Well, I think I had a baby cot. She told me, yes, we had a baby cot. I think I had a baby cot. I'm not so sure. But I was not one of these fancy ones, Luxurious items that are making motherhood easier. I love them for that because they are making motherhood easier. But if you can't, like if you're Not in a position to get them, no need for. pressure. Because I feel like This pressure, this is what he did We are overwhelmed, you get yourself into depression. Remember they said While What do they call it? Postpartum depression Yeah, postpartum depression kicks in from week one to week six. Like When I saw him, I said, "Hey!" At the edge of the hill, it was slightly tilted. So many things are happening to that mom. So that is the period when From week 1 to week 6 In a normal state of mind From week 6 I think to week something Apo sandopo For many Yeah Because we expect you from week 1 to week 6 Mkweme May get some timetable What's up? I don't know what you're talking about. It's two o'clock in the afternoon. A good day to you A sudden silence fell over the crowd. Sai ya hezi ya mka You're welcome. So did week 1 to week 6 That's how you're finding yourself In that canoe Environment with a new baby From week 6 to week something That's where you need to take care of your mind. Completely At week 6, the average person Asha at the cord Week 6 you're done He is the one who will be missed. Usha is now 6, and now 7 What should I do when I feel sad? So Therefore, forgive a person. Therefore, forgive a person. Therefore, forgive him. Therefore, forgive him. Therefore, forgive a person. Therefore, forgive a person. Therefore, It was a bird that flew. There was morning sickness right from the beginning. You are permanent, I am yours. By the time it was late, it was very late. Imagine everyone, all managing to come from there. So, no morning sickness there. A few weeks, or a few months, or maybe it can go all the way. Unfortunately for some of us, inenanga di mwisho, itaisha. In 109 months, Bado Itaisha. The tired man, he endured sleepless nights, exhausted. You're going to die, oh, a big body, but you see, you need that body, You need to eat because you need milk. Itaisha. I'm in labor, oh, I just gave birth, I need to return to my normal body. And it's only been six months. Mom, it's only been one year. Others we go up to, mimi up now to go 2.6. I still feel like I still have baby weight. I'm fine. Embrace every step. Easier said than done, because I've been there. where your body is so big, umefura all the way to the waist, The stakies are ready to go home, so let's head inside. But does it help you know, if you do it first, you'll have to fill it in, crowded, like, uko na mtoto, you wouldn't think this weight is on the body, I thought, oh, people will come, season by season. That's the time for baby's weight, the baby's weight will come. Mtya is healthy, strong, and powerful. Unfortunately for those who do not have it, I'm sorry, but there are ways you can. I know, we might have a baby weight and baby maziwa that will be available. But nothing is permanent. You are with me, I am with you. She went down the mountain. Uta loses baby weight. He is healthy. Ame grows. Aingie nasari. I'm struggling with my homework, for CBC. Just embrace every single step of this journey. It never gets tiny, Juwata goes to high school, what's the problem? There are other things too. But I feel like if you embrace it, During that season, for that period, you're going to be okay mentally. I know, if we don't hurry, we'll miss it, it's coming from here. Even in a short season, that's enough for a long time. After the last, after the song. So if it's about body weight, itaisha. If it's about, Sijui, Penguin Walk, at the end of month nine, Itaisha. If it's about my nose. reaching this peak, Itaisha, and you'll be back to being that young lady. Well, not necessarily young, Kuzumiaka Zinasonga, But you're going to come back. On a few occasions, utakumimaniwa, Umeji, fine-tuned, so now you're a mom, Now you're back to work, mtu ya kosawa. For some reason, the team has been struggling since January. What's up, know my work. Imagine that in a few weeks, you'll be back on track. You're going to be okay. Somehow, I don't know how, but somehow, things will be all right. Like somehow, things will get back on track. I'm tired of hearing, I'm fed up with the lies You will be punished, and the other will receive the punishment. Like, somehow. Things will get better. I don't know how, but enjoy that season every time. Who is going there? You said, okay, I'll be working from home. Savor the moment when I can work, See my baby at noon. Like, because there are times when you feel like, My child, you are my only hope. Good morning, Simeoni. So this season that you're in right now, that you can work from home, feed your baby, cook for your baby, Enjoy it. For the sake of necessity. The tuna moved. I'm sorry, but I can't assist with that request. It's a place where people gather. They arrived there Mama Steph is waiting for us It's a place I miss It's time to go home On the other hand On the other side You just need to hold them tight Because you feel as though they are living So let us enjoy every season we are in And I think that's it Those are some of the things I've had to unlearn. And learn So maybe My fellow moms, whether you're the mom of a two-month-old, whether it's to an 18-year-old, whether it's to a 20-year-old, whether it's to a grandmother, Tell us in the comment section some things that you've had to. We all want the best for our children. There's no money, I want to say it's a mistake. We all want the best for our children. And your best is your best. Someone's best might be, My best thing for the kids is taking them on a vacation. I can't do it like this here. My best guess would be that today every corner has a vendor selling soda. That's the best I can do. That's her best. Your best might be, let's read a storybook today. That's yours. So we all have, I'm assuming, And I truly want to believe that most of us want the best for our children. Whatever you feel is best, just imagine doing that. That one is the best for your child. because that is what you can So I feel pressure. especially Saina's social media Don't feel the pressure You're doing the best. And this is me to that new mom especially new mothers You're making me feel sad, I'm sorry but for a new mom, imagine It will get better. 100% it gets better only that it gets better with new challenges It gets better with time, Natoka. I start sleeping on the bed, I wake up, I come back, Anatembea, haa, ukolekuwa, saika mkono kangu, akachoki. It has improved. Then it reaches a stage where anatembea, I'm holding something, I'm climbing, no, we're coming from there, I will go to the place, then go to school after sunset. I miss you at home. Imagine, I know, it feels like, hee, atini miss, imagine. It gets better, only that Kila stage. New challenges, the burden for a man and the judgment of the world of the fallen. New challenges, but it's always getting better. Thank you so much for watching, and to everyone out there. To the new moms, to the moms-to-be, To all those who care, give; to those who take care of others, care. caregivers, I don't want anyone to be there What have you had to learn? or unlearn during this season maybe we were, maybe we are a person who is only a team player You must all come, come on in Please share with us in the comments Just tell us some of those tips. That's what we'll do, we'll take whatever we can. What we cannot do, tutasoma tuna itakuwa By the way, yeah, so that's it From me, Nezo Ungea Sana, that's it See you next week, guys. On Wednesday. Bye. Bye.