Does your Glutes or Lower Back Ever Hurt? Best Massage Therapy Techniques for Male Massage w/ Tessa

this video is made possible by our loyal patreon supporters visit patreon.com psychetruth hey guys welcome today I'm going to be doing a massage for my handsome hubby and his name is Lee um we're going to be doing a glute and low back massage and I'm going to go ahead and start with um the glute and kind of work my way up into the ql muscle it's going to be my main focus so I'm go ahead and get started um just some simple things before you get started I like to make sure that I have plenty of space so I might move the arms around a little bit and I'm actually going to start with um just some gentle compressions in the IT band and kind of work my way up the hip and into the glute eventually [Music] and I'm not trying to be like super specific or perfect here I'm just trying to warm up everything and I usually do this with a little bit of gentle rocking [Music] go ahead and one more [Music] time this is really soothing for the hip joints and is a great way to kind of work your way into more glute work can also um just this gentle movement is a really nice distraction technique and you can certainly continue that as you work your way into the muscle it's different [Music] muscles sometimes this is more effective than just a static [Music] hold I'm going to be focusing a lot on um the parap foris today but I'm going to work my way into it so before I even attempt deep tissue in the paraph forus I like to work on this medius um it's kind of easier to work on the parap foris if the muscles around it are have been worked [Music] on and you certainly don't have to hold your wrist like I am I just makes me feel more stable and especially if I'm using this um just distraction technique it's a little easier for [Music] [Music] me and [Music] um starting to get a better idea the tightness in here tightness level and I'm going to start going in with some more static [Music] holds and I'm not going to hold for a long time but just starting to move into a little bit of deep tissue and it's going to be a lot easier to do deep tissue if you're working in towards the body and as I get into this medius muscle I might corporate a little bit of gentle shaking and making sure that my stance is nice and wide when I'm bent over like [Music] this really taking my time with these glutes [Music] making sure that I feel really stable before I try to do any distraction technique like [Music] this and I'm going to go ahead and do a little bit of Active Release just bringing that leg up and doing deeper work in this glute Max um this is a really great way to make it a lot easier on yourself and it's a great leadup to the deeper paraph foris work that I'm going to do for [Music] Le you can find your own pace with this kind of thing you can use you know [Music] whatever Pace feels right for you or your client at that moment sometimes I'll go really [Music] slow if the muscle fiber underneath your hand is kind of like super ropey I would suggest working a little slower you need to be a little bit patient and I'm going to start um in with some parap foris work go ahead and go in with my elbow make it easier on myself and I'm going to do that [Music] same Active Release Technique [Music] and really just gauge how your clients um responding you might need to adjust the amount of pressure that you're [Music] using and it's also a good idea when you're doing this kind of work to take little mini breaks um can be kind of intense [Music] the parap foris is such a deep glute muscle that trying to get in there with the thumbs um is a lot harder than kind of work with the elbow and taking a little bit more time here and again if the muscle is kind of trying to fight its way um then you might need to adjust your pressure a [Music] little just a little bit more in here [Music] and I might just do something kind of help encourage everything to just soften let go a little bit after all that and this is a good time to go in with just a few real basic compressions in the low back before doing that same routine on the left go ahead and work my way over and doing that same routine I really like to include a little bit of it pan work when I'm working on the glutes just helps the hips to soften makes glute work a little bit easier and not only does it feel better if I'm putting both my hands on Lee but I'm also a lot more stable when I'm [Music] working and always reminding myself to work with a neutral spine especially when I'm um doing elbow work and kind of forced to bend over a little [Music] more and just working my way right into different glute muscles making sure that my wrist is nice and supported [Music] and just really um making friends with these muscles before I try to go any deeper you can do the same thing just you know putting static pressure but it's just a little more interesting to your client sometimes if you shake a little bit too and when you start to do deep tissue your client's going to be thinking more about the movement than the possible discomfort Le that's the [Music] goal and really um focusing on this medius before um moving into the parap foris big muscle around [Music] it sometimes when I go in with my elbow I will start to do a few static holds just kind of depends on the client I'm working on and how things [Music] feel doing deep tissue like this because you're working in towards the body it's a lot more e it's a lot less effort on your part so it feels like a lot of pressure to Le it's actually like fairly easy for me if I'm doing it right [Music] and especially as I get closer to the low back I do a little more distraction technique I really like using my elbow on the medius and the parap foris but not so much the glute Max just a little really like the active Active Release Technique more than anything so all of this work that I'm doing is going to be super healthy and healing for the low back sometimes the pain that we feel in our low back is just referral pain because the glutes or the hips are really tight and like I said on the opposite side sometimes I'll do you know really slow movements sometimes I'll do a little bit quicker just depending on my client and how they're [Music] responding and I am going to start to work my way into this parap foris a little bit bit more and when I first go in I'm just careful not to you know put all of my weight can be a little bit um shocking you finally access that deep glute muscle but gradually cuz I feel like the muscles responding well I'll kind of sink my elbow in a little bit more this is like probably the best thing you could do for someone with sciatic pain if they can tolerate it going to help them out a lot if you do this technique parap [Music] forist and really taking my time here I might give just a little [Music] break and do just a little bit more in here it's really important to be present and not tune out when you're doing this kind of work you want to do it effectively just a little bit more and I might just hold for a minute or release and instead of just kind of ending things there I'm going to do something a little bit more soothing before I work my way into the low [Music] back and really just encouraging these hips to be as soft as possible before I attempt any work in the ql [Music] yeah I'm have to pull these shorts down a [Music] little just going to grab a drink of water [Music] and I'm finally going to go in with my oil and I'm going to start working my way towards the ql so I'm just warming up the low back a little bit [Music] more the ql is also a very deep musle that can be a little harder to access so just kind of working my way towards it and to start um this kind of work this kind of ql work I like to work away from the spine and around the hip so you do need to be a little careful if you're working on someone that's a little bit bony just kind of use your discretion just using these double fists and working our away from the spine it's an excellent way to warm up everything before going in with the deep tissue work can always use one hand as well if that feels more natural and um actually going to go in with my forearm a little bit kind of working from different angles [Music] and really tying the medius into all this a little [Music] bit so I'm definitely um you know working my way towards the ql but I'm not really working on it just yet in a way that's going to be that helpful um if somebody has chronic issues with that muscle but I'll get there [Music] so just uh doing a little bit more work in that medius muscle and tying that into my little routine here all right so I'm going to start um this area is nice and warmed up and I am going to start in with some deep tissue now really accessing that ql muscle a little more so like I said when I was working on the glutes when you work in towards the body um that's your best you know way to do deep tissue so I'm going to start going in with my elbow and working my way around the iliac [Music] crest and in towards the [Music] spine I find this kind of works to be definitely on the more challenging side ql is a tricky muscle to work on I think and just making sure that I'm nice and stable as I work and really taking my time but not lingering too long as I do this kind of [Music] work because you are working towards the spine um feeling really staes really important [Music] [Music] and like to do a little bit of lengthening all that and I'm going to go ahead and move to the opposite side and doing that same [Music] routine and it's pretty standard for Wes side to feel you know more tight than the other it's good to communicate that to your client when you're [Music] working and just being careful um this area around the IC Crest can be a little bit bony so just being a little bit careful as I [Music] work and when you are working on the low back working from different angles is really effective can be and really tying this medius into this [Music] routine so just working extra slow on this muscle [Music] and finally I'm going to go in some deep tissue and working my way around the iliac crest and working my way in that Q well making sure that feel nice and [Music] stable you can also explore working with the other forearm if that feels more [Music] natural or if you get tired can use [Music] and just a little bit more in here before I start to wrap things [Music] up working um laterally is really important when you're working with someone that has you know a history of low back stiffness or [Music] pain and I do like to include um a little bit of SI joint work when I towards the end of my low back [Music] routine and it's really good to do SI joint work after you do that work in the glutes just kind of get more bang for your [Music] buck just making sure that I have a really good idea of how things are feeling from right to left before I work one side at a time and I am stacking my thumbs here just to make it a a little easier on myself I don't like to overwork the aside joints but I really like to include include this kind of work if somebody has low back pain if there are no contraindications to doing that of course just have to communicate with your client [Music] and totally normal for one side to feel different than the other one [Music] like to work my way around this iliac crest after I do that kind of work feels really nice this wouldn't be a bad way to work on the soaz muscle if you wanted to do that you could wrap your hands all the way around to the front side of the body it's a really interesting way to do that kind of work we're not going to do that today and I am going to do a little bit of work in the sacral area just there's a lot of nerve endings after this routine that we've done it's going to feel really nice to just stimulate this area a little bit and I do like to work my way all the way down towards the [Music] end the coxic this can be a huge relief for someone that's feeling discomfort in their low back and I like to end how I started do something nice and simple and that is it for today guys thank you for joining us today guys I hope that you enjoyed today's video and we look forward to seeing you next time [Music] e e e