EXPOSED! THE REAL TRUTH ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP

ready ready hell hi guys welcome back to the juicy Vlog today's video is all about relationships and that is because you guys wanted it to be so we did a Twitter poll a couple of weeks ago asking what type of video you want up next and what sort of sit down video you want to see relationships was one of the options on there it got the most votes by a long way and that's what we're doing here now for you it got like 70% of the vote didn't it out of like three or four the other options were can't even remember so yeah today we've just done an Instagram live we've got some questions for you what a long day a bit more of a children it's going to get juicy yeah it is you can't say the name of the channel in the video we're going to reveal all our secrets of our relationship basically are you ready I think so so the first point we want to talk about in relationships whether you're in one or not actually just if you're in one everyone argues everyone argues we argue a lot people on social media these days they can make their lives look perfect and we think it's important to realize that that's not real life nobody's perfect and we're kind of guilty of this because we obviously Vlog we make videos we edit all the crap so we film the best bits of our days put them online so it may be to some of you guys watching us it may make you think that our lives are quite good we're not here saying we don't have good lives so let's cut to it it's not our M but in our videos we're positive which is real is real but we often argue when we're vlogging don't we and then we'll cut we'll cut it out in the edit it's never like a dramatic argument about like hating each other it's more like little bickers we're both ridiculously honest people when if he does something that annoys me and I do something that annoys him we say it and that is the reason we argue because we say the truth and we don't want to sleep on an argument we we say it how it is with each other because we've been together a while it's okay it's always been like that I think even from like day one like if you've done something I don't like I'm like what you're doing and then resolve it there and then cuz it's not like we argue for no reason it's about a specific thing gets a bit heated very heated we live in a block of flats that wall there is someone's bedroom so I hate to think what they hear sometimes what if you're in a relationship and you're arguing don't worry about it as long as you make up at the end and you kind of don't go to bed on an argum that's the key yeah like don't if you go to bed on an argument you're gonna wake up and have a rubbish day the next day because that's what you're thinking about you wake up angry you're go to bed angry and no one likes that so no matter if you think you're wrong still try and make up the night before because I feel like if we have a conversation one evening and we disagree if we had that same conversation in the morning I don't know what it is but I feel like we'd be more accepted yeah sometimes you've had a long day you're both kind of stressed if you think about it like I'm I'm the same it sounds like random with horror films like at night if I watch a scary film it might be because it's dark and stuff but I get so scar dark no yeah it's much more like oh my God what am I doing this is so the scariest thing ever you wake up if you watch that in the day you'd be like whatever I don't know maybe I'm just thinking of two completely separate things but I feel like it's slightly related in that in the morning after a sleep you're more accepting and you're more relaxed and you've I don't know I just yeah I think that makes sense which kind of brings us on to the next Point nicely we didn't used to argue as much as we do actually there's a big difference between a new relationship and a long-term relationship I would count our relationship now as longterm because we' been together cut off point I know three and a half years now new relationship maybe up to 6 months yeah probably after the one year Master if you make it that far we somehow did when you're in a new relationship you spend more time trying to impress each other kind of go on dates you're actually arranged to do activities new relationships are exciting aren't they it's a new person you're getting to know each other is this not exciting for you we sat in our pajamas filming a video what is not exciting about that what I'm saying is when you're getting to know someone you're a bit more nervous around them doing new things you're going out you're actually doing Stu and it's almost like it sounds bizarre but it's almost like there's a checklist of things couples have to do for example go on a boat ride around swanborn Lake go shopping in Brighton go in our yeah we shoing fine you know I mean there's like almost like a list of things you're like oh let's go to the zoo together that sort of thing and there things you do in your first year of the relationship but afterwards you're like I'd rather just like sit and chill and talking about this before we started filming we've kind of realized that we are quite bad at not doing as much as we used to but I think that's a lot cuz of the flat as well though because now before we'd have our family's houses like you'd have one room I'd have one room in our own houses so when we went to each other's houses it'd be like you'd stay in that room if you don't stay in that room you go out but now we've got the whole flat and we are together all the time we have the option to have people around the flat and like I don't know it's more things that are like Central to us say you've just got in a relationship with someone new maybe and you're kind of concerned or worried or anxious about where it's going or what you're doing what you're doing right what you're not doing right any advice we could give you not that we're experts just relax and just kind of like enjoy each other's company the other person is probably just as nervous as you are we kind of were when we first got together exactly we first got together I felt like there was a lot of pressure to do everything right do the right things do you know I mean it sounds really odd sounds pathetic I'm going to say it though even putting things on social media like one month together two months together it's like there's pressure to do that and to prove that you're in a relationship CU I don't know what it is people are so competitive it's a whole another topic we could do another video on it people are so competitive on social media sometimes like birthdays and Val we'll see it on Valentine's Day have done it to show off don't look at that person saying oh they've been bought that oh great they're going they've been bought holiday they've been a watch they've been bought whatever don't look at and be like my boyfriend doesn't do that for me that's makes him a bad boyfriend because that's not how it works there's different ways of showing affection and that you love someone it doesn't have to be through having money to buy expensive gifts cuz I hate that people thinking like oh I don't have enough money to be a good boyfriend or girlfriend not the way it work although at the time it may be like oh it would have be nice if you bought me that like now it's just like honestly if you didn't washing know you got B present yeah obviously but like you kick off yeah but like I don't think you're buy me a present is Valentine's are you um I don't know yet you know I've already bought you loads of things have you I have to then don't I don't have to all right and another thing if you've never had a relationship or you're kind of concerned and feel like everyone around you is in a relationship and you're not don't worry about that either it's 2017 I know 50y olds who aren't in relationships wait it's irrelevant saying what year it is because your friends will be different ages no no no what I mean is we're in a time now where you don't have to like meet someone when you're 18 get together get married have like 2.5 kids or whatever it is people going traveling as well as change that like age people have kids if it's much more common now careers women are staying in jobs longer and not having kids as early you can do whatever you want with your life yeah again it's the whole oh all my friends have married or getting pregnant we're seing loads of babies pop up AR we proposals which is nice which is so cool and so nice to see don't feel like you have to compare yourself yeah exactly everyone's different everyone's going to do things at different times so you may be like oh wish I wish I've been in a relationship for 3 years before our relationship I always wor that I haven't been in a proper relationship everyone is in that position at one point and it will work out whether it's now or in 10 years I don't know but it where everything works out really believe that like everything positivity is key I feel like we need to give these guys an example of one of our arguments like a story to justify the title of this video and justify the thumbnail I feel like if they've watched this far they deserve it okay This Is Us opening up to you don't like talking about this very emotional this is one of our arguments recently let's start with whose fault it was if it was your fault I don't want to get into hands up if it was your fault okay I'll take a I'll take responsibility cuz it's easier I don't want to get into an argument now again on camera Lucy was in town getting an nails done IID agreed to pick her up pre-arranged i' text him 15 minutes before saying can you leave in 5 minutes you didn't leave this is the issue no I you were still here doing your hair I was going to leave so basically I was meant to leave I was running a bit late to pick her up and suddenly she arrives at the flat cuz we live really near town not to mention it was raining it was raining so she came I didn't have a coat because I didn't want to take one to the nail place cuz I knew he'd be picking me up from outside the door so I thought she would obviously just wait inside I'd be like 5 minutes late saying look girls will know when you have your nails done you're like bye and then sit down at the door I didn't know that so I thought she would just wait a couple minutes I knew I was late I got annoyed when you came in cuz you start obviously started having massive great me so Lucy was like really annoyed at me by this point cuz I hadn't come to pick her up but then I got annoyed at her firstly cuz she was annoyed at me kind of just like that I was annoyed at her because I was like well I would have obviously left in a couple of minutes yeah but it was why would you just wait for me I had offered to like take time out of my day to come and pick you up so don't be ungrateful and that didn't go down well never it's not going down well now either never say they're ungrateful so then we have to go into a food shop which is in a public place I left cuz I was annoyed and said fine I'll do do the food job on my own you're welcome which I hate doing anyway oh yeah where I made another mistake forgot my car keys so I said George can you come and bring them down please and he went no I'm going to Chuck them out the window catch Chucks it down I I don't catch them because firstly it's wet so I'm looking up and there's rain in my eye I'm trying to yeah exactly I'm trying to catch this key and it's black so it's not like it's like you can't see it really well I don't know it it was difficult to see I I sort of had it in my hand it bounced off of the window if someone else is flat so sorry to them it's prob smacked that made that massive noise then I bounced off of that onto me hurt my hand my nail like my newly painted acrylic nails and nearly bloody dented and made marks then dropped onto the floor and it's now got a dent in it wasn't a good day overall really no so anyway I left I left for little was I can't remember little Morrison went to the shops and Lucy did the classic thing here that some people in relationships do I was like right do you want me to come with you or not I just needed an answer yes or no and she was like no it's fine it's fine so I was like does she actually want me to come and follow her and chase her and go shopping with her or is she actually saying no it's fine stay home so I didn't know what to do so I did what I thought was the right thing followed her to the supermarket no you didn't follow me I drove and you walked arriving minutes later I to walk H so we're now in the supermarket it's a public place we're visibly upset with each other still we're trying to film a vlog we're not the of people that argue in publicar yeah then he starts sticking the camera in my face which obviously at this time was quite frustrating I was just trying to pick some cucumbers and some lettuce up from the vegetable section and event I think we made up in the shop though we did I just start telling jokes on like you know being a no you do that really really really really annoying thing oh yeah good trick Lads H it works but I hate it so if your girlfriend's really annoyed at you all you say to them is they like stare at you with this face and you go if you hate me don't smile and then they smile eventually and then you've made up just as easy as that it's really annoying cuz it's like you don't want to smile at them because you're annoyed at them and even looking at them makes your skin craw anyway that was a little story about us we made up eventually so that's the point always make up made up about a week ago yeah if you want to be together if you know you want to stay together just make up that day just make up it's worth it in the long run so this is where you guys get involved we went on Instagram live just now just before starting filming this and we wanted to ask questions we got like 15 questions so we're going to pick a few up and we're going to answer them all about relationship some are relationships some are are relationships so we'll just see what we've got so first one is from belly bro who has always commented on our videos so thank you for that he has asked on Twitter when is it safe to get a pet that is his and her so a pet you own together now I've only committed to an aloe vera plant so far and I'm not sure if I'm ready to go any further than that to answer that as in us two currently in the flat we're in we're not allowed pets so we couldn't get on until we had like our own house if we had a house I think and when we could commit to being home a lot if any of you want to send me a gift make it a cat like I'll I'll open a PO Box to accept cat live animals through the post kittens preferably gray with green eyes so to answer that sensibly um I guess just when you're ready commit yes correct when you are ready thank you for your knowledge oh this is an embarrassing one Sam on Twitter who said I love you first I still haven't said it cuz I'm just not ready to make that I'm not ready for the commitment why is it embarrassing honestly I don't know it's like weird talking about it isn't it honestly that's bad I don't even remember saying I remember really sorry we can't answer it because we don't it wasn't too far in to be fair though cuz we already knew we'd already met each other I just go it was probably me I'm a very emotional person Mac anden on Twitter asked us to talk about the toilet seat debate you're okay I know sometimes I do it Le maybe 80% of the time you don't do it but I if you didn't I'd just put it down it doesn't bother me because some people geted by it I feel like if it's a girl that leaves it down the guy still got to go oh I've got to lift it up if you leave it up I've got to liftt it down it's 50/50 one person's got to do the work why does it make a difference who it is exactly we always FL so you're not just have you fall in love with me all over again yeah that's so romantic you're only looking at like clean water it's not offensive Ryder has asked us two questions so we can answer them both now will you get married as a first and how do you dump someone without hurting them questions I hope your girlfriend didn't see you asking that question I hope she doesn't watch this video how do you dump someone without hurting how do you not dump them without hurting them text the mar Morrison thank you to my ex might be watching who did that I was working around Morrison my mom about 10 years old got a text at 12 actually got a text you're dumped you're dumped are you serious I guess the answer to this is you probably can't dump someone without hurting them wrong unless they already see it coming yeah I guess I guess there's nice ways to do it I think that's the best way to put it number one always do it in person number two try and soften it with a reason that should I be worried that isn't offensive to them unless they've done something horrible to you but be honest don't lie don't be like oh it's I just changed my mind if it's something that's upset you then say it and number three and this is really critical I think in in my opinion after you've dumped them walk away remove yourself from their life delete them on Facebook block them on every social media just get out of there is that a little bit childish people will say it's childish but I don't think so cuz you need to get out of that space with that person in every single way no let me finish if someone's broken up with you and then you're scrolling through Twitter and they're posting photos they're having a good time they're going out getting with girls going on dates and stuff you don't want to see that you don't need to see that you need to move on you don't need them re it then in any way unfriend them unfollow them don't block them if someone searches for you and you can't find they're blocked no but it's totally different isn't it no but if you block them it will make you not be able to search for them right yeah but you don't want to block them cuz if someone looks you then they you can't see them cuz you're blocked they'll just be like what an idiot like I I disagree with that I think just yeah unfriend them fine but don't block them all don't block their number what if you left their toothbrush around their house and they can't get hold of you and you don't get your electric toothbrush that's true actually yeah and will we get married I guess so don't know when not yet not yet too much other stuff going I don't I don't see the point I don't see the point in being with someone that you don't want marry or like want to spend the rest of your life with there's no point in committing to a relationship in my eyes if you don't see a future with that person I know people and I'm not going to name chain but I know people who are with people and they've said to me don't see myself staying with this person forever but it's good enough for now I'm like what you doing fine it works for some people cuz they just want to be happy like then I personally wouldn't do that because I I want to be of someone that I wouldn't be with forever and marriage is so traditional and these days you don't have to be married to someone to commit to them but will we get married probably one day yeah rings are expensive though imagin M27 was it difficult moving in together I'm going to say no it was really fun go back and watch the Vlogs we filmed the whole moving in process this room was Bare this wall was like some horrible wallpaper these walls weren't even painted we painted the ceilings we did new carpet go and watch those Vlogs back they're really fun I loved every minute moving in together buying all our stuff new choosing our bed choosing these lights disagree throwing a spanner in the world I loved choosing I love shopping I love going around choosing everything but for me it was stressful because I wanted everything done on day one and it was things like oh we've got to wait for that paint to dry to be able to put another layer on oh it's another day oh the electrici can't come around till next week oh that's another week and until we can't move in and it was things like that that being delivered probably more fun to look back on because our videos are all at the Fun bits and stuff but I remember being stressed because it was like there was a lot to do it was quite stressful and not going to lie although it was it was so fun like it was and I remember like our first night here and being excited and stuff and sitting in like Lounge floor eating burgers and things silly that argued a lot then actually didn't we yeah of course but then it's like you're going to like spending all day painting absolutely shuted it was quite a full on time you see this in the Vlogs like we look so tired we got bags under our eyes our skin got really bad I had a spot like for all of those moving in Vlogs so whenever I watch them back I'm like it was so fun it was really fun but it was it was difficult for me but I did enjoy it so Chris Bailey on Instagram asked us when was the last time you dreamt of each other I don't I've ever dreamt of you actually I don't remember you being I feel like in my dreams sometimes you're just there like just alongside me just like whatever like you're just there but it's never like it's normally about someone that I don't know that well or that I've only met once or something I've just remembered something I was talking in my dream the other day and Lucy recorded it should I get it yeah we're done right pic he no is Panasonic Panasonic what you kept going you kept honestly like before I was recording you going and it went long but it was like you were asleep but you were still replying to me like it was really strange so I keep looking that screen freaks me out guys thank you so much for watching this video I hope it was kind of like insightful into us and it maybe answer some questions some things 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