Get Out of Your Own Way: Rewire Your Mindset and Own Your Future

Welcome, welcome, welcome. This is Keeping It Real on Purpose and I am your host, Edna White. On this episode of Keeping It Real on Purpose, we're diving into the beliefs that quietly sabotage everything. If you ever felt stuck, self sabotaged, or like living on autopilot, that ones wait this one. Not that one, but this one's for you. My guest today, and I want to say I want to say it right, Lindsay. You got it. Certified hypnotherapist, intuitive guide, and a the co-host of what? High vibing it podcast. She's my kind of girl. She's here to break down how your subconscious mind could be holding you back and how to take your power back. We're going to talk about the root of limiting beliefs and how to rewire your mindset without toxic positivity. Toxic, yeah, can be. And what it really means to manifest a life that's in alignment with your soul. Welcome to the show. I'm so excited. Just our little combo before we hit record. I know this is going to be such a good conversation that people will need and want to hear. So many good vibes already. I can't wait. Oh, I can't either. So, how do you show up in the world? Um, how do I show up in the world? Well, as you so eloquently said, I'm a hypnotherapist, which means I basically play around in people's subconscious minds. And I use that word loosely. Obviously, it's very deep uh healing work, but it is I do say play because it it is so much fun for me uh to to notice these shifts, to watch the client have these breakthroughs and for them to recognize that this is what's happening. Um this is their new normal, you know, whatever that is that they that they're trying to get out of life. Uh it's becoming their new normal. They're they're releasing the things that were not true for them anymore. And to watch those light bulbs go off is is really selfishly exciting for me. So I'd love to say that I'm here for the people and I am. But also you have to like what you do and I I certainly do. And listen I I make selfish. We're making we're bringing it back again. Okay selfish back again today. It right. I mean yeah. So, so I I I hope I show up as somebody who uh feels safe and trustworthy uh because I certainly am honored to work with the people that I work with. Awesome. So, I'm going to take it back to the foundation and self-awareness. Yeah. What exactly is limiting beliefs? We've heard it all over the place. People say it to us. How do we know we have that one? So, this this actually brings up a pretty I think it's funny. I if if I may digress, I got a little story. So I would say in last year sometime I went on a podcast. It was hosted by two psych like clinical psychologists and I mentioned limiting beliefs and they said yeah let's talk about this because I don't I don't have any limiting beliefs. So like that mean and I I love these girls. They were it was such a fun episode but I was like well a limiting belief she goes how do you define it? I said a limiting belief is literally just anything that you notice that you are doing or behaving in a certain way or having a certain thought loop that is not serving your goals and is not serving who you know you want to be and the direction that you're going and it can show up in so many ways. It's a belief about you that limits you. Yeah. And usually it's not true by any means but you know we're not talking about truth. We're just talking about belief. Yeah. So, uh, when I said it and when I when I just described what it was just the same way I did now, they go, "Oh, wait. I do have those." And I think that's important because there's nothing wrong with how we all have a limiting belief to some degree. And it may hold us back a lot. It may hold us back a little. We might not even notice that it affects us at all. But every single one of us has these set of u I don't want to say limitation stipulations that keep us where we are because that is what we know is safe and it doesn't mean you can't expand outside of that. It just means this is where we are right now and these are the things that uh our subconscious has decided will protect us from the scary outside of outside and unknown. So so yeah, we all have them. You may not be held back by them, but you did. I've never met anybody in my 40 years on this earth that did not have a limiting belief in someone. Neither. And it's okay. Where do they actually come from? Explain to the audience where they actually come from. Well, they can come from a lot of places. So, the most common is Okay, so to explain this, I kind of have to talk about how the subconscious is formed. Do you mind? Absolutely. Go ahead. If you can just imagine, I'll try to be concise, but if you can just imagine that your mind when you're born is a circle, it's a shape of a circle. We know the brain and the mind are different. You know, the the mind is more abstract and and metaphysical, but a circle, right? The only thing that babies are born with is the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling. They have a physical reaction to these two things. And then, of course, the only other thing in the brain or the mind is the primitive mind, which is the fight or flight. the uh the the fight orflight or freeze reaction which is triggered with the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling. As you grow up as a child, your mind is completely open. We're accepting everything as true because you don't really have anything to contradict that. Uh that's why they say kids are sponges. They're just constantly absorbing and taking information. around 7, I'd say to 9. Meanwhile, from from zero to age nine, you're picking up all of these truths about you based off of your experiences. So, I love chocolate. I don't like broccoli. I love getting I don't like getting in trouble. Those kinds of things that become true. And once, like I said, age seven to nine, you get what's called a critical filter, right? Sometimes called a critical mind. that is separating the newly formed conscious mind which holds our logic, analytical uh skills, decision-m skills, willpower, uh all of that is in the conscious and now the subconscious mind has everything else. So everything that's true about you, uh your automatic behaviors, thoughts, um actions, so like your ability to ride a bike or speak, write, uh those are all obviously subconscious and of course our nervous system and uh our ability to breathe and blink and digest food. So that's all automatic. We don't have to think about we don't have to think about how to digest food every time, right? So as we're as we're going along in life, we've we've come up with all these truths and we do pick up some new ones, but the bulk of and I know this is a pretty general blanket statement. It's a bold statement, but the bulk of who we are as humans happens between zero to nine 10 years old. So, we're all just nine year olds walking around in grown-up suits trying to figure it out. And that's okay, too. But we once you recognize that and you realize like, oh crap, that's why most of the time it's so cliche to say, where did this start? Oh, in my childhood or tell me about your childhood when all this like kind of started. And that's why because that's when most of our formative uh truths about us kind of are formed. And they can manifest in different ways and and evolve, right? So just if if you let's say I'm going to use money because it's so common, but like if your mom said money doesn't grow on trees, what do you think I'm made of money? What do you you got to work hard for your money? Yeah, absolutely. Or there's never enough. It's such a common one. You could grow up thinking that and realize as an adult that that's not true for you anymore, but it's still there because that's what you learned and that's what solidified when it did. Also, things that be can become true for you so fast or when trauma's involved or when a something shocks your nervous system so much that it just cements it into your subconscious as true when you know it's never true. The only thing that's true is a fear of loud noises and the fear of falling. Everything else is learned. And so that's a I say that because everything else can also be unlearned and that's really important to notice as well. Did I answer the question? Do you think that do you think that money is um a societal thing? Do you think money is societ you know because I know there's child childhood and there's trauma in society you know limiting beliefs. Is money a societal limiting belief? I mean you know it's a good question. I think I think it it is definitely partly a societal thing. I think yes and in the same way because it was something so ingrained in society it has become an ancestral thing. You know if we think about a few generations back all of our ancestors were just worried about the next meal and how they were going to figure it out because you had to literally farm it, cook it, butcher it, skin it, you know, and all of the things. And now we just go to Kroger and we get our we get we're not depending on that anymore. So in a lot of ways this survival instinct this this this like default to survival isn't doesn't really apply. I mean of course of course sometimes it does you know that we go through recessions and all the things that are happening right now we're just going to but for the most part you know we have so many more freedoms and so many more options and so many more abilities just as humans than we did back then. However, we're still carrying that because their kids carried it and their kids carried it and even my parents are still in that belief of there's never going to be enough money. You have to work hard for your money and good luck trying to make ends meet. That kind of thing. Yeah. And it's it's a hard one for a lot of people because there are so many factors that are boosting it. So many factors that are encouraging this lack mentality. And I just think it's to stay under the thumb of the man. Yeah. That's another bold statement. I don't know what it is honestly. Okay. So, let me ask you. So, we're going to we're going to, you know, move move ahead into what your line of work, what you do. And I know that you have hypno, you know, you use hypnotherapy in your work. How does that actually help shift the subconscious? So, okay. So, this actually brings me to the part two of how the subconscious is formed. So when let's now we're now we got the conscious, we got the subconscious, we have the critical mind which kind of acts like I like to call it the bouncer and the club. So it is the gobetween. When you have a thought or an idea, it's always starts in the conscious. That would feel really good. That's a really great idea and that would be really nice for me to have and it checks in the critical filter checks in with the subconscious with that idea and it checks to see if there's anything going on in the subconscious that contradicts that idea. If you don't have this goal already, chances are there's something in the subconscious that's contradicting it. And so it'll just kick it right back out. So what I love about my work is what I'm able to do with clients is take them to a space, a translike that is more receptive, that their conscious kind of perks up and is listening to what we're telling it and to the ideas that you have and the the objectives that you have in this work. And we kind of create a pathway through the critical. We tip the bouncer. We tip the bouncer. We get into the club. We start creating new knowns, new truths about you that reflect where you're going and who you want to be, that next level version of you. We we basically teach your subconscious in this receptive state that it is safe for you to have whatever it is that you want. Because if it thought it was safe, you'd have it already. That's important. If it thought it was safe, you would have it already. So, we're really just teaching the subconscious that it's safe. And um you know, everybody's been in we've been in hypnosis multiple times a day since the day we were born. So, you're already this is already something you know how to do. Most people can get on board with this idea. If you've ever meditated or been in that like kind of floaty state, even if you've gotten a deep massage where you kind of leave the room, but you're still in the room, but you're so relaxed that it, you know, you it's just a nice place to be. That's that's where the work happens. Yeah. Yeah. That's a good take on it. What would you say to someone who's skeptical who just like just so skeptical? You know, this won't work. Skeptical like they think they can't be hypnotized. Yes. Well, I love teaching people that you do it all the time now. Now, I like that part about what you just said. Yeah, that's great. Yeah, you you're you do it all the time. Every single day, we have to. It's part of our biology to to allow ourselves to kind of go into that homeostasis. Now, the thing the the the thing that I would say to that person is the only thing that could allow me to not hypnotize you. The only thing that would prevent me from doing that is if you said, "I don't want it." And that's also super important because I don't care. I'm really good at my job and I don't care how good you are at your job. If you are against being hypnotized on demand, you know, it's it can't happen. You have to be willing. You have to be receptive. You have to be open to the work. Um or else it's just not going to happen. Right. Absolutely. That's with everybody. That's every everything. Ice cream, cereal, it's with everything, you know, whatever you you want, you have to be receptive to it. You got Absolutely. That's great. So, let's let's um shift another gear and I want to talk about some real life application because I love that because that's really who I am and my audience knows I need to know how this applies to Edna. Okay. Right. How do we manifest with alignment instead of hustle and burnout? How do we do that? Oh my gosh. I'm I might be the best person to ask or the worst because I still I still sometimes will try to force my way through some I think I think it's especially as like somebody who I am someone who was taught at a young age you can't depend on the adults around you. So you got to figure this out. And so that is a whole it's a little bit of a challenge for me to not micromanage the universe which is really what we're doing when we try to you know push through. So it's practice and I think um I'm much better than I ever was but I do notice I'm doing I do notice myself doing it sometimes. So in that way I think I'm probably a pretty good person to ask because I got a lot of knowledge in it. But okay, I would say you could you could you could chop a tree down vertically if you wanted to. But why? Why are we doing it? Why? Life's hard enough. You might as well let the universe figure it out sometimes. and it feels good. But the scariest part is that trusting piece that if I let go of this and I don't try to to hustle and I don't try to just drill my way through this wall, how do I know it's going to happen? Well, that's where the trust comes in. And every time I've been able to let go, as hard as it is, every time I knew it was the right thing to do and I did it, it has worked out a million times better than my puny human brain could ever have planned it. And I think a lot of us have those examples of when it worked out better than we thought we wanted it because can you walk us through a moment in your life? [Laughter] Uh, yeah, actually I can. So this goes back to when I started my I guess my hypnotherapy journey. I was living here in my hometown realized uh it was around my first awakening. I think I had I read this book called Journey of Souls which basically talked about you know the soul's journey and how if you believe in reincarnation like the soul going through their different lessons and their their different lives. And this was all by a hypnotherapist. I was like what the heck is a hypnotherapist? don't know what that is, but this sounds cool. So, I looked into it more and I had like this epiphany that I had to move to California and go learn at his institute to figure out what I wanted to this was going to be what I did for the rest of my life. Um, but before that, I'd say probably in the past few months before that, I'd been in a very on andoff relationship. I was 20 years old. I mean, come on. But it was my high school boyfriend. And I at at one time I there was nothing I wanted more than to marry this person and have a bunch of babies and stay in that town. But the alternative was listen to my gut, go to California by yourself with $2,000 and hope for the best or do the safe thing and stay here and probably end up in a mediocre marriage. No offense, but that's exactly what it would have been. So if he's listening, we let's be real. And I and I did I took I let go and I to I knew that I couldn't stay. I knew in my gut that it was the right thing to do. And it was the hardest thing to do because I left my entire family, my entire family, all my friends, everything I had known up until that point had been here. And I said, I can't. I just can't. The pull to leave is so much stronger than my fear to leave. So, I would say that one and and I think we can all agree at least I definitely believe that it worked out better than I thought I wanted it at one point. And it took me having to just leave everything and and hopefully your gut decisions and your soul isn't pulling you to leave everything behind, but I would say if your no matter what your gut is pulling you to do, if it's your gut, you will never land wrong. No. Ever. Nope. If it's truly your intuition, your higher knowing, your soul, whatever you want to call it, it will never steer you wrong. You're never going to regret listening to your intuition ever. It's just not a thing that happens. No, I hear you. I hear you saying something about your spiritual connection, and I'm glad that you're talking about intuition. Um, because that's that's a space where you can reframe things. M can you talk to the audience and how using those things right now to help move forward? This is a good time to ask me this. I'm actually going through, I would say, another transition. I'm in a liinal space, if you will. I'm in a space between right now. I feel like I'm goopy inside the cocoon. This is a very I'm there, too. I guess we're on the same tree. Every single person I have I am there, too. I'm there, too. has said a version of this. I know I'm not alone. Listeners, viewers, if you got viewer, listen, we're not alone, okay? There are we're all going through it together. I I know it's a good thing. I know that we're elevating. However, right now, I'd say my intuition um is coming into play. It's all I have at this point, right? I'm desperately this is the only twig left that I that I'm holding on to because everything else I think I think the intuition is that little twig that you hold on to when you start to molt and all of that. That's what you're hold we're holding on to. That's what I'm holding on to. Believe it or not, right now everything else is going out the window. We're in a tornado. We're in an energetic and evolutionary tornado. And that twig is our tether. Yes. So that's the best I honestly wish I could explain it better. That is the perfect way to explain it. I I that's exactly what it feels like. And so I don't we don't always know it's our intuition. I'm not going to sit here and say I have such a good connection that I always know when it's speaking to me or that I always listen. We're humans, okay? We don't always listen. But this is for me one of the times where I really feel like I Yeah, that I'm there. I have to. And if I know it's my intuition, I have to listen to it because what else am I going to do? What am I going to let go of the twig and just fly into the tornado? I think that's where no I don't think I know that's where I am that you know um several years ago I've I have been um studying and ret re refining my intuition and I think what we get spiritual connection mixed up is the societal definition of spiritual connection and what I'm really the place I am in now is using my intu intuition to evolve into this butterfly or whatever I'm going to be whatever. I don't know what insect I am, but going to be, but I'm evolving into this and it's I am getting rid of things that no longer serve me. Like, you know, like perfect example, my my audience, you guys know me. Um, I've been going through this this thing with my body that everything that I used to be good with is not good with me. It's just not good with me. And things that I used to take part, you know, have food with, you know, just just food in general, drinks, juice. Yeah. Are are are coming like they're they're my body is saying, "No, that's not nope. Nope." And I'm getting an adverse reaction to it. And so I'm taking this as okay then. Okay, this is if this is happening in this the earth, it's definitely happening in the heavens, right? As above so below, as within so without. Yes. So as I'm going through the food issue, people and things and I'm you know and and words and and it's it's like you know in the Matrix where you see these the trickles of numbers. Yep. I'm seeing that everywhere. Everywhere. And I'm going, "What is that?" Like, "What is that?" You know? Um and I and I'm take and I'm I'm almost like this frozen looking figure it out. Figure it out before you move. Figure it out before you move. So that's where I am. Figure it out before you move. So I am there where you are. I am there. And I'm really hinging on I think what I'm doing is getting rid of what no longer serves me. Mhm. Um that um that can't take me to the evolution that who I'm supposed to really be. And I think that's for you know um I was thinking about this right before you came on. So I couldn't um I I hadn't had a um TV on in my room and I was like why am I not going to sleep? Right. TV's off. Why I'm not going to sleep? It was because the television was plugged. It was my brain was still picking up the waves and I could I sleep I was sleeping two hours a night. Why I mean when I say wide awake I'm like like I'm wide awake. I haven't been sleep and I'm wide awake like what's going on? Well, we forget that we're energy a lot of times and anything that in because I truly do believe in your soul leaves to recharge Yeah. your body. it it it and it comes back down in a certain time. And when you're not getting that, you're not at your best. And that's the sp the spiritual connection. That's it. This just happened before you came on. So I was thinking about that. I said, "Oh, this is hypnotism here. This is television." So you know what I do the television, right? You know what I do with the phone, right? Everything is in the living room now. Yeah. Yep. And everything is away from me. You know, everything is And I'm even thinking about bringing in a candle instead of a light. Oh my gosh, you definitely need to do it. We were never meant to be this plugged in all the time. No, all the time. It's too much plugging. Not just electronics, but like the fact that my cell phone is on do not disturb all the time. I don't want just random calls. And I don't think we're meant to. I think we're meant to live such a more mindful, slow existence. And you're tired all the time. You're stressed out all the time. You're overwhelmed all the time. Yeah. No wonder we all are because we're just so available to all the influence all the time. And there's only so much our electromagnetic fields can take. Our nervous system. Our nervous system is shot. Yeah. It's shot. Yeah. So that's great actually. Yes. Everybody listen. go unplug as much as you can. Everything and I and I just woke up. I was like, "What is this?" And I I you know you how you fall asleep slightly but not really. Yes. And and it's something it went just like that TV and I was like and I saw before I opened my eyes I could feel the energy from the television. Oh. I was like, I got up immediately and I just took the television out and I took it and put I was like, "Oh, no more TV here." And I was like, I was like, "Okay, I'm going to do something productive with no sleep." I'm like, "Oh my goodness." That's what Yeah. I mean, I'll tell you what, we moved back to where I live now, and our house is a is it's it's smaller than our Vegas house, and it was built in 1955, right? Okay. So, all the rooms are small. The bathroom is simple. The bedroom is is small. It's It's simple. It It really kind of rooted me into unintentionally or intentionally rooted me into the simplicity that it could be. And it is now my cottage like haven. I'm so glad none of these rooms can fit a TV because I I would I wouldn't fil that room with a TV. And I'm so happy that I can't. And yeah, it definitely will affect you for sure. But I'm so glad and and I think too, Lindsay, is that you know, it's not for everybody. You got to you got to make sure it's, you know, cuz I was fine before, you know what I'm saying? Before I start evolving to this next level, wherever I'm going, I was fine before, right? Maybe, you know, it didn't affect me as much, but now it's I mean, I get the the the jumping in my ear like I'm like, what the heck? Like I'm I'm totally so sensitive to things. Not and I it's like what am I reversal autism or what the is going on here? Like but it's really our it's our intuition and our spirit that we the spiritual energy we have that's changing that's really being con being more connected. Yes. If that makes sense. I think also I'm gonna say something crazy. Yeah. Edna. I'm gonna say something crazy. I think for some of us I think parts of our DNA are reactivating because we have all this junk quote junk DNA. Maybe that's maybe that's what was keeping us, you know, not noticing stuff and now we are waking up. Our DNA is awakening and we're noticing and getting affected by things. I don't know. I think I think that that's inside that um cocoon. I'm telling you, I think out of there because the the larve doesn't have the same DNA as a butterfly. That is true. Oh my gosh, that is true. I think we got it. That's what's happening for us. I think so. And bring it on because it's about time. I'm ready. I'm ready. I'm ready. I'm ready. I am so ready. And I tell everybody this is the most amazing um part of my life. like I'm I'm seeing things differently, you know. Um and you get to a place that you have no fear. Are you feel are you feeling that? I'm Yes. I'm more um gung-ho about the next part than I think I ever have in my been in my life. And it could, you know, it could be with age. You know, I just turned 40. I don't give a crap about it. No, you are not old. Please stop it now. Well, I'm just saying a lot things can happen like this this level of like Yes. not feeling self-conscious, not feeling fearful, I think can happen when you've just been taken care of by the universe for so long that now you feel more comfortable. That's for me I just think like I've never been let down. I've never been high and dry by the universe has never left me. Yeah. And that's the thing where I had to get to is you know because of the patterns of you know learn about money about you know not having enough. Yeah. Not being enough. You know, I had to I was just telling, you know, a couple of my friends that I'm in the space now. I had to go in the the inner shadows of the subconscious. See, it's it's not enough to go to that part where it says I am not enough, but what's behind that I am not enough? What's the why? What's the payoff? And what why are you doing it? Yeah. All of that that's shadow work and we don't want to do it. See, we do that that easy stuff. Peel a band-aid off. Yeah. Yeah, you're right. I got um imposter syndrome all the way. Let's just do some affirmations and journal about it. And that's I think Yeah, we got that. We got We get all that. We get all of that. That's simple stuff. But it's the pulling that back and you know, why did I why did I post that online? Oh, you know, people should know what I do. No, you did it because of your ego. Mhm. I I had to face some serious truths about myself is like and that's another thing you'll never regret is knowing yourself better. This is why I say and you just talked we talked about like doing the easy stuff, right? So part of the easy stuff I would say easy is not letting yourself feel your feelings. Not letting yourself actually feel what's coming up for you, shoving it down and being like, "Nope, I got to stay positive." This is where we talk about toxic positivity. It's not serving you because the only way to move through an emotion is to feel through the emotion and understand what it's trying to tell you because an emotion is just a messenger. Yes. Any feeling you have, any limiting belief that you have as a messenger. What is it trying to what is this gift that I'm being given and am I willing to really look at it? Um, also talking about limiting beliefs, they are only ever trying to help you and love you in the best way they know how. The problem is that the translation has gotten lost. They thought what what they were doing was protecting, loving, helping, supporting, but it's actually holding you back and keeping you comfortably uncomfortable. And so, as you said, you were looking at things in your life that were no longer serving you. Your your subconscious doesn't know what doesn't serve you anymore. It just knows that it did at one time and it's there's no expiration date. But the Exactly. You You get rid You got to throw it out. Exactly. You get to decide that expiration date. you get your subconscious beliefs is safe. And I think that's the that's the meat of what I want to tell people is you you have a say. You're not stuck with these beliefs. They they are kind of your friends. They just don't know what they're doing isn't helping. They think they're helping and loving you. And so that's why in my work, I always I think you probably do too. When you release something, you release it with love. You release it with honor because it was there for a reason. And so we want to always make sure and be cognizant of that. It's not something that hates you or trying to sabotage you. It was it was it had a purpose and so you just you get to decide when that purpose is up and then move on to the next level. That's right. Which I think you're doing beautifully, Edna. Thank you so much. Well, Lindsay, thank you for bringing the real, the raw, and the rewrite all we need. You reminded us that transformation isn't just about doing more. It's about believing differently. To everyone listening, if you've been fighting your own mind, you consider this permission to stop battling and start reprogramming and look for someone like our beautiful Lindsay here today. You are not broken. You're not alone. You just been conditioned and now you can come to choose differently. So, don't forget, you know, look in our um comment section. I'll give you some information about Lindsay and where she is and how to get in touch with her. But also remember to like, share, and subscribe this episode. And look out for someone who's trying to get ready to get out of here and be something different. This is Edna White and my esteemed guest, Lindsay, the hypnotherapist, saying goodbye for now. Bye-bye.