The Anatomy of Being Stuck

Welcome, welcome, welcome. This is Edna White and you are on Keeping It Real. Today is going to be a special series that I am doing called A Word from Me where you get to hear my thoughts and my words of wisdom firsthand. And I am excited to present this part of the show because it's something that is um really dear to me and I'm going to be sharing excerpts of you know a lot of books that I've written um and what contains you know what's in them and how they started but more in depth I'm going to be teaching you things about yourself and you know that most of the time I speak about being stuck So that's what I'm going to be speaking about today and why you are stuck. Okay? You know that persistent feeling of being stuck in a relationship that's going nowhere in a career that drains you or in a financial pattern that you keep repeating. You see, it's not a sign of failure. You're doing all the right things. It's a sign that you're misaligned with the powerful spiritual keys that your body holds. Yeah, I figured that out, too. Your body is a road map. Your chakras are the energy centers of that map. And your physical parts are the keys to the kingdom. the points of authority you use to unlock your next level of clarity and action. So, we're going to take a look at where feeling stuck and the specific keys you need to turn to make everything line up. Now, I wrote this book years and years ago, and it was by the inspiration of Eugene Anderson, who's a pastor that's been very dear, near and dear to my heart. Um, who started me or who helped propel me into my spiritual journey. And he came to me one day when he was visiting out here in New York. He lives in um Albany, Georgia. and he came to me and said here and he hand he took my hands and he handed me all these papers and was I was like what what am I supposed to do with this he says you'll know what to do and he started reading some of the the parts and I'm like okay I I am not comprehending it and he said you will you take this you take all of this and turn it into something and it was right after years after years after I had went to him after my car accident in 2006 New Year's Eve to 2007 New Year's Day and um he had he had told me that out of me would come books and tapes and deliverance for women. And this is way before I knew what I was was supposed to be doing. and he said to me um which is an amazing thing um to my daughter Rachel who's my best friend Cindy's daughter um she said put her arm around me he said you too will make some changes you going to help her and little did I know years later that she would help me to go to China to live and open up another key to my life so I'm telling telling you this because all of this matters, right? Um I didn't know what I was going to write and so when I returned home, I then knew what to do with these pieces of paper he had given me. Okay. So, it turns out that everything I learned culminated into this road map regarding our emotions and how they get stuck and how they they they find themselves pinging along in our bodies, okay, that make us sick. And it's because we're stuck and because we don't use these certain parts of our bodies like our mouths to speak, our our minds to think, you know, like that and breathing, just breathing sometimes. And because we don't do that, we end up stuck in positions. So, let's get to it. The map of unstuckness. We're going to we're going to attack emotions, chakras, and the keys. Okay. Number one, you're stuck in patterns and mindsets. When you're stuck in those patterns and mindsets, the key is your eyes. You say, "How? What do you mean the keys are my eyes?" Here's the problem. Feeling stuck in old patterns like self-sabotage or procrastination or a limited mindset. You learn this from the patterns of your past. And that's this you learn them in the safe space. You get your feelings or your emotions from the safe space from your parents or your caregivers that give you either the feeling of a safe space or give you the negative that's not so space is so safe and you have to protect yourself and therefore live in survival mode and start limiting what you do. So if you heard the words, you're not smart, you adapt that and that's a pattern that you was given to you. So you self-sabotage. I'm not smart. I'll never be like that. So you start to self-sabotage. You learn patterns from your your parents, your caregivers. If you if your parent parents out of guilt, they might teach you bad habits like letting you get away with things or letting you eat too much or giving you things you shouldn't have and know you shouldn't have them, but because you're not there, they give it to you anyway. Learning patterns. Or you may have a pattern of maybe not knowing something. Maybe when you learn years later in your life, you saw your parents together and you thought they were married but didn't know, you know, and that's a pattern. So you you you saw what they were doing, what they were going through, and it was easy for them to separate and come back together. Separate and come back. So you were like, "Oh, I you know, you learned a pattern. You learned a pattern." Okay. You learned a pattern from your parents or caregivers who talked about people. You learned a pattern. You learned the gossip. You learned a pattern. You learned if your your lights were off all the time, your parents probably procrastinated cuz they wanted something else and they did did that instead of that and then they just paid it when they did. and that you learn procrastination. However it is, you learned it from your supposed safe space, which is home, which is family. See, you know what to do because I'm sure when you saw that, you said your your brain said your heart said that doesn't feel right. So, you know what to do. But you keep repeating the past in your adult life. You keep repeating it. So what is the emotion or the chakra surprise or the lack of and anticipation. See when you you think that something's going to happen, you have antip anticipation. Or you think that you believe that they're going to like a party. They're going to throw you aside surprise party. You have anticipation. or if you don't think they're going to do it or there's you have anticipation, right? You know, so it's tied to guess what the chakra third eye intuition and insight. You're surprised by the same bad out outcome because you lack clear inner vision. So you keep doing the same thing and being surprised that nothing has changed. You're not surprised by that. There's the bad outcome happens. You're not surprised or you are surprised. You get it? And you keep doing it expecting a different outcome. You lack clear vision. And that's like having fog in front of you, right? And you're trying to peep out the sides and you only see one spot, but on this side is a blind spot or looking through rosecolored glasses and you're seeing things as distorted. That's what it's like. So what's the body key? Your eyes. Your eyes or your forehead? The spiritual key here is knowledge, right? Everything that your eyes see, you can mimic. Especially those who love to see things and recreate it. They can create create it. Those who have, you know, that visual, you know, that they have to learn by visual, they can recreate or do anything just if they see it. Right? So this the spiritual key here is knowledge. When your vision is clouded by old mental stories, you can't see the path ahead. So how do you unlock your eyes? By intentionally seeking new perspectives. You can't have a closed mind to everything. You have to have a open mind with open ideas. The you have to see an opportunity and then listen this doesn't happen like regularly. You have to do it. You have to consciously do it. Where other people just are open you're not you have to consciously open your box of curiosity. You have to open the your your perspective all the time. You have to cha challenge your core beliefs. So if you believe that marriages won't work because you saw them not working in your family. You got to challenge that. I'm not saying go out and marry everybody, but you got to challenge that narrative. Is that really the truth or is it what you saw? and looking and you got to look for evidence that that desired that that is not right but there's a desired future that's possible. Okay. Many years I've I've experienced you know um the surprise factor and it it never changed. It was always a bad outcome and I was hoping for a different outcome but it was always the same. So what I learned my I was always waiting for the as an adult waiting for the other shoe to drop. I was looking for something that always something to happen and where the shoe was going to drop. It's not always in the same place, but I was looking for something to happen. Right. The second thing is you're stuck in relationships and the key to being unstuck and and the key to that is your mouth. So here's the problem. When you're feeling stuck in relationships, personal or professional, where you can't communicate your needs or you you feel unheard or powerless, you're not able. That's the biggest problem. You're stuck because if you're speaking to someone, they're not receiving you or they're talking over you or they don't hear you or you're afraid to speak. you're stuck in a bad relationship, whether it be personal or professional. And this and this is very important to know because you can have a bad boss or bad supervisor or a bad manager or bad team leader and they're not willing passively, aggressively or aggressively, they're not willing to hear. They'll they'll they'll they'll hear you, but they won't listen with the intent to give a solution or meet you where you are. So, you stay stuck in the job. So, you stay stuck in a relationship. The emotion that you feel is disgust. It's the total opposite of acceptance. See, when you're accepted, you don't feel nothing but happy, but you're disgusted. And that's tied to your throat chakra, which is not only communication, but out of your throat comes truth. You feel disgust for the situation but fear speaking your truth. Now what's the body key to that? That's your mouth, your tongue, right? This is the key to pro proclaiming truth. You can proclaim and you can tell the truth. If you cannot use your voice to articulate your needs and your boundaries, you stay locked in a dynamic for life if you don't consciously unlock your mouth. By practicing clear, kind, and firm communication, you have to use your voice to declare what you will and will not accept. I've seen people stay in marriages and pretend for years, for years, everything's great, everything's wonderful, and stay in marriages because it's something told them over there in their past that longevity means success. But never mind you're unhappy. Never mind you're unfulfilled. Never mind you're not doing anything together. Never mind there's so much disgust. Never mind there's so much regret. That's okay cuz you learned that over there. That's a pattern. You stay together cuz you saw your parents do it. Yet they were unhappy. And now where are they? They're together but unhappy. Doesn't sound good right when I say it. Stuck in your career and your finances. The key is the heart. Here's the problem. Feeling stuck in a career that lacks purpose or repeating financial scarcity cycles. These are matters of worthiness and security. Feeling stuck in a career that lacks purpose. You learn that over here in your past. You learned that because your father or maybe even your mother had to get a job because economics you learned financial scarcity because they live from paycheck to paycheck and said to you this is the only way we can do it or modeled this is the only way we can do it. never stepped out to learn about finances or learn about how to do things financially, how to invest. Never did any of that. never went into their heart's desire to say, "Hey, maybe we should do this financial scarcity." But these are the matters of worthiness. They didn't feel worthy and they passed it on to you. And they didn't feel like they had security and they passed it on to you. You see, the emotion that you're going to feel or the chakra and the chakra you're going to have is trust or lack of it and joy. And that's tied to your heart chakra, love and self-worth. When you don't trust your value, you stay in jobs that underpay or relationships that underserve. You getting the picture now? So, what's the body key? Your heart and your solar plexus. Your core. It's your core. These keys manage your personal power and selfworth. You unlock your heart by practicing radical selfacceptance. Accepting you as you are and acknowledging your inherent earth that that's here. Not that out here. Not your certificates, not your licenses, not your doctorates, not all that other stuff, not your education, but your inherent, you know, worth. You know that one that you had that when you were five, you felt like you can conquer the world, you do anything. You could be a fireman, you could be a police officer, or the one when you were nine, I could be a police officer. that one inherent do anything. See this aligns with your your core power your solar plexus so you can demand the pay respect and purpose you deserve in your career and your fi finances. So why am I saying all this today? Because so many of us get in a place in a space that doesn't serve us and we stay in it. We stay involved. We stay, you know, there and it undermines us even more. It it takes away from our selfworth. It just power drives us into the ground until soon our body starts reflecting that bad emotion and we have disease, discomfort, and maybe even cancer. But we get in out of alignment, these things can happen to us. Things can happen to our bodies. disturbances, diseases, chaos could happen in our lives and I don't want that for you. You deserve the best thing in life and you should be there to receive it. You see, if you've been searching for an external solution, the word for you today is this. You are the solution. That heavy feeling of being stuck is simply the resistance of an unused spiritual muscle. You have the keys to the kingdom. You have the authority, the insight, the voice, and the trust in your own anatomy. So, start small. Focus on one key today. If you're stuck in an old pattern, challenge your eyes to see a new story. If you're stuck in a relationship, use your mouth to declare your truth. If you're stuck in a career, activate your heart and insist on your worth. You are fully equipped to unlock your kingdom. And if you ever want to get my book, The Keys to the Kingdom, it's available in Barnes & Noble. It's available in all bookstores. Just ask for it. The keys to the kingdom and start equipping yourself to unlock your kingdom. See you next time around. Bye for now.