He Said She Said Part 2: How Men and Women Communicate Differently

We all know men and women we communicate a little bit differently so how do we bridge the gap Teresa? Well communication experts to you for recently stopped by to share some tips. All right welcome back Steve we've had you here before we were talking about how men and women kind of communicate differently. They do absolutely men and women do communicate differently and it does matter. All right so you have some pointers to explain kind of some of these differences. Yeah so we covered a few of those before that women ask questions and men make statements but there are there are a number of other ways that you know that that we can look at men and women and how they communicate in the workplace and in our personal life. One of the things that people don't realize is that men do not approach men from the front. If you ever see men approach each other they're going to approach from an angle or the side. Not head-on because it's too confrontational but a woman will approach a man from the front because she feels like that's the way you approach somebody which really truly is but the man will see that as confrontational. Okay. And if a man does not approach her from the front she sees that as possibly trying to avoid something. Got it and God no one wants to avoid anything. Nobody wants to avoid anything. All right so why he can't remember the anniversary? There's legit reasons to this. Yes there's actually a reason if your guy cannot remember an anniversary it's because when a man is in love they start having visions. It's all about pictures and mental visual imagery but a woman will start the whole memory activity in her brain. That's true. So the man will remember that you looked beautiful on that date. And that's nice but he might not know the exact date. No but the woman will know the date, the time, what her shoes were like, what her girlfriend said right before she walked into the restaurant, the whole nine yards. It's true. It's true. Women remember every detail. They don't get mad at your spouse or girlfriend if they forget. Well just try to have some understanding. Fair. And you know studies have shown, a Harvard medical study actually showed that if a man tries to show that he cares if there's some sort of activity in his brain saying well you know I actually care about your emotions that's good enough for a woman. All right. I think so. Do you believe that? Yeah. It's good enough. He's trying to make it happen. That's for sure. All right so up next talking about women kind of speak sometimes before they think. I will say that because I've done it. However men once they are ready to talk about it they process it a little more. Well it's very interesting and you're absolutely right because when by the time a man opens his mouth he's already processed the entire conversation in his head. He's already made the decision. So when he says it out loud and he's unresponsive to your suggestions it's not because he doesn't care about your feelings or want to understand you. He's already made the decision. Now women will process out loud. So they'll talk to their girlfriends, their hairstylist, their mom, their yoga teacher. The man is wondering. Anyone who will listen. Anybody who will listen because she's trying to figure out what to do. Now the man will automatically think oh well she can't make a decision. She really needs my help right now. No this is just her decision making protocol. She's taking in everyone's advice. That's absolutely right. All right so when a man kind of backs up a little bit needs his own time leave him alone. If a guy has a normal case of the blues and he retreats to his man cave or the den or the garage just leave him there. Women kind of want to fix it. I know they do. They want to be included. They want to be a part of the solution. Of course they do. Why aren't you talking to me? Talk to me. Talk to me. Talk to me. That's probably the worst thing you can say to a man because he's already feeling so vulnerable. He will come to you. Don't worry just make sure he knows you're there but you respect his space. You'll be in shape. And a woman if she has a problem or situation you got to listen to her guys. You got to listen to her. You have to stop what you're doing. You got to stop what you're doing. You have to look at her and you have to nod that you understand and you just have to listen because men want to fix everything. They're like firefighters. So if there's a situation that needs fixing they would just hose everything down but that's not what women really want. They just need you to listen and nod. There you go. I'm glad you understand it Steve. Well I understand it theoretically Teresa. That's great. Steve where can we find your book? Well you can find me at realsteveroar.com. Very good and everything that goes along with it. Everything Steve Roar. All right Steve thanks for being here. Thank you. That's some good information there Teresa.