REACTIVE ABUSE (CHILD VS. PARENT) #robreiner #narcissist #narcissisticabuse

I want to talk about reactive abuse. And this time around, I'm not referring to a man and a woman. Okay. When you hear the term reactive abuse, you immediately think of a man abusing a woman in a domestic violence situation. But in this video, we're going to talk about the parent and child dynamic. If a parent is toxic and abusive and they abuse their child their entire life and the child becomes an adult resenting that parent for abusing them their entire life there is a high probability that that adult child will snap and harm the parent that has been abusing them their entire life that is reactive abuse this is a follow-up video i did two videos about the Rob Reiner Rob and Michelle Reiner if you don't know by now their son Nick um murdered them in cold blood while they were sleeping he unalived them he slit their throat while they were sleeping both of his parents so you know a lot of people are demonizing Nick and they're demonizing uh the fact that he had mental illness and a drug addiction and it's much more complicated than that um i'm able to see through uh the veil i think it's a deep-rooted issue that involves his parents abusing him covertly and insidiously behind closed doors. It's just that we, the public, cannot see it. So I'm going to give a few examples of reactive abuse between a parent and child, okay? First of all, I want to talk about the male and female dynamic, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, okay? What is reactive abuse when it comes to a man and a woman in a domestic violence situation let's take the movie um the burning bed okay if you haven't seen the movie burning bed i don't know if it came out in the 70s or 80s it's been a long time since i've i've seen it farrah fawcett stars in a movie uh the movie is basically about her husband uh beating her he he's so violent he drinks and he beat her throughout the entire movie um and she couldn't take it anymore you know she was the sweetest non-violent she was you know always tending to her children she was isolated she didn't have really much of a support system at the end of the movie while he was sleeping she set his bed on fire and and burnt him alive and she took her children and fled packed their things up and they got in the car and they fled that's how the movie ended off the burning bed that is reactive abuse ladies we know this all too well when you're in a relationship or marriage with an abusive man and he pokes pokes pokes and provokes you um starts arguments cheats abuses you put his hands on you and you take it you keep taking it you don't tell anybody you know he's isolated you from your friends and family so you can't really reach out and tell anybody you're too ashamed but behind closed doors you are constantly on a day-to-day basis taking so much abuse off this man and at the very end of the relationship you end up snapping maybe you catch him with the side chick maybe you you know um follow the side chick and find out where she's living and you pop up on him and her we have we hear these stories where the wife will pull out a pew pew when she catches her husband with his side chick and we've heard stories where the side chick got got the wife put a bullet in her. That is reactive abuse. When a female victim snaps and abuses the male abuser right back, that is reactive abuse. Are y'all following me? So now I'm gonna go into what a child and parent dynamic is. If a parent is a bully, a narcissist, a very malignant sociopathic evil ass parent, mother or father, and they spend your entire lifetime abusing you from the time you're conceived and if you have siblings they take joy and pride in bullying you in front of your siblings praising your siblings putting them up on a pedestal and comparing y'all that is called triangulation that is also another form of abuse child abuse other forms of abuse verbal abuse calling the child all types of horrible names destroying and diminishing their self-esteem at a young age if the child has any developmental disabilities ADHD autism instead of the parent getting the child therapeutic services the parent bullies the child for being slow um not having social cues not being as fast or quick as all the other children that is a disability that the child has but because the parent is a narcissist and a bully they will perceive their child to be retarded and and slow and they will bully and beat the child for for behaving in such a way instead of getting the child uh the necessary accommodations and therapy ask me how i know if the child ends up doing drugs that is to escape or it's a coping mechanism a lot of children that are abused by their parents when they become teenagers they turn to drugs you know they turn to they have sex they lose their virginity they're looking for an escape something to feel good something to numb the pain of the abuse of their parents their narcissistic toxic parents okay follow me that said child may try to run away or end up homeless because the parent has made it known i hate you i can't stand you i wish you weren't born i love your brother and sister more than i love you get out of my house. A lot of us have been kicked out into the streets. And what happens, either you run away or get kicked out into the street and your narcissistic parent will track you down and tell you to come back home because they want to use you into the ground to clean up the house, to be a slave around the house. If you work a part-time job like I did as a teenager, your mother will take all your paychecks. Your father will take all your paychecks, your student loan refund, your tax refund, your disability checks they want to covet and take all your money from you that's why they take they want you to come back to control you use you and work you like a slave and have dominance over your money they don't love you but they need to use you you are the in-house slave the whipping post the scapegoat child they want to make sure that you stay crippled and dependent on them they do not want you to be independent of them and have your own identity own freedom they don't want you to blossom or be successful uh without them you have to remain underneath the thumb of your abusive narcissistic parent even though they'll kick you out into the streets a million times they will have family members stalking you and keeping tabs on you so that you don't go too far because if you go too far they're going to panic they need to have you within arm's reach so that they can always maintain control dominance over your money and control everything you do even your friendships and your love life but what happens when the child is so far gone um the the the parent can also enable the child to harm themselves um if the child turns to drugs the parent will give them money to buy more drugs just to make sure the child stays crippled and dependent on them um it's an endless cycle of enabling and abuse this child eventually becomes an adult who will resent their abusive mother and father for enabling them to harm themselves and also abusing physically verbally emotionally psychologically on top of the enabling so when a child becomes an adult and they end up snapping blacking out harming the parent or even worse unaliving murdering their own parent that is what we call reactive abuse the adult child has spent their entire life being exposed and bullied and manipulated and destroyed by that parent and because they love their parents so much they have protected their parents reputation throughout the years and tolerated the abuse quietly behind closed doors that will push the adult child to snap and harm the abusive parent are y'all following me on this is it wrong yes but can you understand where that blacking out and wanting to destroy and unalive the parents, where, where, where is it rooted? Okay. Same thing. If you get a puppy dog, a sweet puppy dog, and every day you kick that puppy dog and you hurt that puppy dog and it keeps happening day after day, week after week, what will eventually happen? That puppy dog will turn on you and bite the living ---- out of you. Eventually you cannot go around abusing and harming someone and not expecting them to flip out one day on you. This includes parents. We have been groomed and taught to honor our parents, no matter how much they abuse us. But today, today we are not taking it from our parents. And we're going to start hearing more stories about Rob Reiner and what his son did to him and the baby boomers who just refused to own up any accountability to harming and abusing their children. Elderly abuse is on the rise due to reactive abuse.