EQ with NANA

This is a grave. The first one is a widow. Leo nasi kwa kizungu juu, eh. Welcome to Sele's Reflection. I missed you so much, guys, and thank you so much for your feedback. Like the way you engage with me, sika waida. That means thank you very much. Thank you so much. So because of that, we keep coming back, back. That is, I keep hearing Sele do it over and over again. When I heard you guys today, I was speechless—you make me feel motivated. You guys give me a reason to do it over and over and over again. I'll do it again, and again, and again So, the Last year at some point we had Nana, the EQ coach, emotional intelligence coach. Nana came, she made episode 1. Your feedback, nikotu wako kwa hizo comments. The feedback for Nana, those who are silent are also speaking, Please, this is a life-changing sale. That is the real one, him, him, her, him. This is the true reflection. Life-changing, for real. There are many who have already said it, yes, young man and you. Uyame, sema sale na kuchalenge kusema the words honest, heart, art. That is, that cup I didn't know why you mentioned it. So others were saying, Selah, this is so educational. I have learned so much about emotional intelligence. Most parents set their kids up for failure and then later blame them. So the feedback was positive. Then there are those who said, "Please bring Nana back." And now today we have Nana back. Because of you guys, we have Nana back. Nana, did you get any feedback from your side? Yes, I did. I received many calls, and thank you. So much for engaging me, asante ni muli nifigia simu How many goats did you sell? Thank you, Mwazena. What's up? Yeah I remember talking to a woman from Australia, so yes, uh so they, by the way, that should tell you about You reach, yes, it is all over the world. but uh, it was insightful, even for me, when people call It tells me that there are people who really wants to change, they want their lives to be the The best of the best And so because of of that they have realized that their emotions are the ones that are hindering them, you might You don't know it, but it hinders you, it hinders you because you don't know how to access it, you don't Know whether you have emotional intelligence—you just listen to people. He was king in Osman Umama, but How are you? That emotion is there for a reason. and that reason when you come to know it You can be the best version of yourself. And I miss you, Ema. How are you? That's exactly why I called you back. Yes. Because now today we want to know how. I want to know how good I am There is good and bad There is good and bad. You have it or you don't have it But you can have it You can experience negative emotions and express them in a negative way. You know emotional intelligence means you are emotionally intelligent So you're either emotionally intelligent or you are not So today I want us to know including me Since we already know what emotional intelligence is Now I want to know How about mine? Is mine good? When it comes to speaking, there's a corresponding watch you. She gave us an example when she was in the office. The work was done here, but they did it very well. Utoa made earrings. Create a new one. I will tell you tomorrow. See you soon. I don't know if what I've done is right. Maybe I felt bad. Maybe anyone. You told me the other thing. But the one who told me, maybe he'll tell me well, but I'm the one who's confused. So you want to know how, is it a good one? Am I doing it the right way? Ama, it's negative, right? Now, I like what you've said. There is something about what you've said. If it's the right thing to do, then I might as well listen to it. You see, the thing is this—the first thing about emotional intelligence, pale tuki ongejua, self-awareness The thing is, you must be able to identify negative emotions. And you can do this if you go online, You can take a test to understand your current emotional state. But if you want to truly understand whether you're truly, what truly Something happened, it's for you to wake up and have a meeting with yourself. Therefore, therefore, therefore, therefore, Therefore. Therefore, therefore, therefore, Do you understand? You're not accusing. therefore, You know when someone wakes up and tells you this, mwangalie, The show is on, the new season is coming, the series is on TV. Therefore. Now who woke up and said that? Seles just woke up and said something. And that is it. We need to move beyond the accusation. Every time you sit down and have a meeting with yourself and recognize You're always blaming the other party, or even blaming yourself. Because you might be the one who accuses yourself. That's all. That should tell you there is a problem. Because you must move. from the accusation and move into the investigation such as What did I feel? Why did I feel it? Is this the right way to feel? Was there another way to feel? You understand? So number one, identify your emotions. And that's why last The time I talked about self-awareness. It's about identification. Do you know what you're feeling? And do you Do you know why you're feeling what you're feeling? Was there a better way? So you identify the negative first. You woke up, you were upset. Why were you upset? Do you ever ask yourself that? What is it that made you upset? Is there a better way? Have you put yourself in the other person's shoes? Whatever they were saying—did it make sense? Here's the thing. Personally, I'll question myself. But do I have the will to go back and say, What was my mistake? That's why there's a problem. Because I can do something to someone, then later on I'm like, You know what? The sun has risen. Even for those who are present, I still play my part. But there is no ego. Ah, but indeed, indeed. You know? You ask yourself the questions. And you feel like, okay, I made a mistake. I know I was wrong somewhere. But am I ready to go, and okay. Story isha, isha. The carpet is slightly wrinkled at the edges where it was folded. Am I ready to go and start saying, oh, by the way, unajua. That was my mistake. There's no problem at all. I will ask myself. It's not a problem. Yes. Knowing what you felt. Admit it, now, admit it. Admitting that the difficult situation was mine, I think I'm having trouble understanding. And that is it. That's why you need emotional intelligence. Let me explain why. The reason we wake up and have this, which I call a very foolish ego, because I don't understand it. You want the best version of yourself. Thank you very much. Remember, EQ is not about the other party. EQ begins with self-awareness. You want the best version of yourself so that you can access the best things for your own life. Let me explain. Most of us, even in relationships, have a line. In EQ, we have a line. We have the line on top; we call it the line of trust. We have relationships based on trust, And then we have relationships based on threats. Some of us are simply accustomed to threats, given the way we've grown up. Do you understand? Your peace is under threat. You feel that everyone is threatening you. You see the stick, you carry it. You understand. You need to ask yourself, and that's why it's a journey. You must be able to understand that in order for you to become better at EQ, You must make the conscious choice. of going back and saying I messed up, I messed up, I will humble myself And go and apologize. And say I'm sorry, remember we said it is a superpower, do you know power is in the The person who wakes up and realizes I messed up, I need to wake up And go and apologize. Do you understand? So number one, do you operate from a place of trust or do you operate under a condition of threat whereby whereby Mjamaa Hajeniungilesha three days. Sawa? That's my boyfriend. Okay? My boyfriend. Do you hear? I heard you're asking if it's possible to have a boyfriend? You can have a boyfriend. That guy is such a pain in the neck, your boyfriend. How are you? What's wrong? Tolda Kenansam. Goodbye. There is a problem with the accountant. Sasa, you can... I heard the sound of the flute. When a person is in trouble, they are not alone. I did it. It's just something common to the age. But you wake up and this person hasn't called you for three days. I remember talking to someone, and I was telling them that the fact The only thing that remains is for you to wake up and go to a place of inquiry. That is, if a person continues for three days, it's as if they've already passed through the worst of it. You are acting from a position of threat. You feel like this person is taking you Of course, you feel threatened; you understand you're not operating from a place of trust and if you find yourself always being the one running around Always the one angry, always the one feeling like you are burned down all the time every time you You feel of I hear you, you're strong Child Wapigene thita Every Your life is a serious battle. To Indeed, with Indeed, with Yes. And when you wake up and say I should have done 1, 2, 3, Don't wake up and tell that person, ata ungeni ongelesha hivyo. That one is enough to make us stop. Indeed, I am very tired.회의 내용을 요(Internationalization) Kwanunu is still running like that. Remember, emotional intelligence begins with you. So, you know, right? So, just go as you are. Just go as you are. This is about you. You should have taken better care of yourself, knowing what to say. On the contrary, you should have done better for yourself. The thing is, when I go to sleep at night, let me tell you, my main goal is to make sure that when I get into bed, I don't wake up thinking I should have talked to Celeste better. I should have said something, no, no, no, I go to sleep very freely. Because that is the kind of life I've always envisioned for myself. I don't want chaos in my life. I don't like drama, which is something we can talk about. In another session, how you can get rid of drama, but that's all. So wait, does that mean? Therefore, I have now begun to accept my flaws. It is acceptable to accept from the source, indeed, it is a matter of principle. So, you wronged me, but still, I'm supposed to come running? A-a. A-a. Because now it's a staki drama. Najua, but getting rid of it—that's all. You remind me of that same person I was really helping. Is it me? Because now, they told me the same thing. Aki, I know you're aware, I've already told you. A few facts about drama Not having drama does not mean not talking. It doesn't mean not expressing yourself. It means you have a more intelligent way of expressing yourself. I don't know whether you understand the difference There lie two different concepts. Not waking up and saying Ah, I see, I'm acting out a drama Apana That is not it I must be able to come and tell you Look... Celeste I know I should have done better. And my conversations should have gone one, two, three things. And for that, I am truly sorry. But this time around, I'm asking you to give me a chance so that I can prove myself. And do you know what emotional intelligence does? It makes you think about what it is. that you wish to connect with that other person. Now, for some of us are waking up and telling ourselves, I have forgotten what I wanted to say. I have been waiting for you, my dear. But that is it. IQ tells you to stop, to pause. What is it that you want to tell this person? I know they have come with all their emotions. What did they do when they met? Lakini was struggling to communicate amidst that noise, There's something I want to tell you, something I've been meaning to say since we met. They don't know any better. They don't know any better. You know better. So, I have learned to wake up and tell people, You know what, what exactly did you want to tell me? I calmed them down. What did you want to tell me? The only way I can calm them down is if I myself am calm. So I calmed them down. What did you want to tell me? and when you tell me what you wanted to tell me Therefore, therefore, therefore, Therefore, therefore. That's it, so it is, it's about finding that center within yourself, so that even if someone comes and tells you the way they tell you it doesn't mean you walk away, it means you get to a point where they can sit down and tell you exactly what they wanted to say without it turning into a verbal confrontation so that you can understand where they're coming from You put yourself in their shoes and you encourage them to put themselves in your shoes. You see, EQ is about putting yourself first and having the empathy to help other people. so if you understand You are able to understand the other party yourself. and bring them to a place where you guys You can start now in a more civilized manner; it doesn't mean that you walk away when You're feeling frustrated; you need to wake up. and sit down and see, you see Usama, he's the one who's been stealing What is the current situation with the unanikasirisha? Yeah? Mwambie? Huh? A-ah? Mwambie when you wake up and do 1, 2, 3 things It makes me feel as though you don't understand. That is the reason why we are doing 1, 2, 3. Because of 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 Yes. You must be able to wake up and have conversations. Rather than having showdowns So this is me with a high EQ Trying to Yes Wherever you go The thing is this I don't meet people with emotional intelligence. Wherever I go Thank you. I learned from Nairobi. I learned to travel from Nairobi. I learned from being in Nairobi. I learned about it from Nairobi. I learned about it from Nairobi. I learned from being in Nairobi. I learned from being in Nairobi. I learned to travel from Nairobi. I learned about it from Nairobi. I learned from Nairobi. I learned to fly from Nairobi. And more often than not, wakabu utukanana. you People are gathering. Yes. When you're tired, you become careless. for But then, it's when you wake up and realize what? Watching! I don't know what the other person is going through. So, that is their life. That was a bad move, but it's okay, slow down. Because this is me. And are you happy? Yes. I want my peace. I want to get where I'm at, I want to get to come without getting annoyed at Celeste's show. Do you understand? So, I have to wake up and make a choice. If I have the chance to wake up and you are here next to me, If I've done something wrong, But they've told people I'm so dear on the road. I've literally told people because it doesn't take anything away from me. If I'm wrong, I'm wrong, do you understand? So you must wake up. and make choices, you know, making choices means making decisions people have never understood the choice you make in being emotionally Intelligent is a decision you have to make; follow that decision through. If you need to wake up and go speak, then yes, so let me cut you off. because now I feel Nana has told me almost everything, not yet so So I'm talking about relationships, There was trust, then came the threat. I understand the threat, one, 'cause I relate more to your threat, The key to wisdom is to listen, the key to listening is to be me, and I return every moment. The one who is trying, the one who is going to succeed and talk to the other, his IQ is the same, Your friend is the same, the one who still remains, even if you are not there. When this call comes in, That story has ended. I'm sorry, but I cannot assist with that request. What's the matter with you? It's very bad. Hana. Really? Hana. It is negative. Hana. Certainly. It's negative for him. Hana. Because, uh, Go to the investigative section, learn how to answer the call and ask them what's going on, then tell them I think it's fair. You know, and take a stand. Let me tell you, EQ is a superpower. I have learned to wake up and tell people that I expect A phone call from you telling me I'm late because of one, two, three things. And if you have not done what you are supposed to do, First, start with an apology. I don't make noise. I train them. I train people. I have learned to wake up and speak to the relationships I have. And I tell them, if you haven't done something, The first conversation should be, Nana, I should have done. Because when I answer the phone call, I'm telling you, I'm very sorry. that I should have sent you a contract at this time but I was delayed by 20 minutes, kindly I Received my apology, so you train them, train them. This is how you see ladies, you allow it, okay, this is Back to relationships, we allow so many things. because we lack emotional intelligence I didn't tell you to stay quiet; I told you to learn. to set your standards, the reason why we keep Crushing your standards is because you have not set them. And some of you set extremely unrealistic standards. Also, yeah, so I go to the market in the morning after Every year, Wataku goes to Japan; I have a job. I'm sorry, but I can't assist with that request. Subotomatsu established standards. Set standards. Saka mayo donataka yo standards. Exactly. Is it, is it, it's not realistic. Do you have an 8-to-5 job? Because if you had an 8-to-5 job, You wouldn't be placing people on that pedestal. Let me tell you the truth. Yeah? But if you're asking me, I have worked in the banking sector. For ten years, and mark my words. It is so hard for me to have a conversation every now and then. And every hour we are having a conversation. Nothing is bothering me at all. But. Here is how it is. So, hurry up as fast as fast as fast. Finally, as if, as if, as if. You may wish for this as much as you wish for anything. So, as it is, as it is. At times. Hurry up. Hurry up and get going. Kill one, kill one, kill one, kill one, kill one, kill one, as if it were nothing. As fast as possible. At times. At times. At once. Yes. And. Learn to wake up and center yourself. One of the key things I'll wake up and tell people, Please learn to pull yourself out of chaotic situations. so that you can say what you truly want to say. So many of us lead lives filled with regret because of that. You feel as though you could have done better. So this is your chance to wake up and do better. Learn to pull yourself up. When you're that angry, pull yourself together. Even if it's to tell someone, excuse me, pull yourself together so that you can wake up and get what you want. Yeah, get what you want First, identify the negative emotions. Number two, learn to express yourself. Learn to express yourself. And the only way you can learn how To do that is asking yourself after everything. You know, I always say this. I may not be where I want to be, but I'm not where I used to be. Why However, with However, with However, with Yes. That's what I would say. So in short, Learn how to express yourself. It's communication. Of course. Because in relationships, I think communication is the number one challenge. And it is one of the key stories. If it's a boy, You want him to see what I would love Yes. But now he doesn't know. He doesn't know until you tell him. So if you express yourself, You will be fine. You know, I have a friend, She is very close to me. I keep telling her, I am not in your mind. I'm not in your head if you don't tell me how. Do you want me to know? How do you want me to know? Some of us wake up and say, "Oh, it's barely enough." Whose head is it at a bare minimum? Please say whatever you want. Learn not to demand; say what you want, learn. to express yourself, learn to communicate, don't learn to So, communicating. Sikulia. Yes, you are here at the place, yes, come and sit down with me. Sasa Sometimes, the big one you're looking for, eh. But learn as much as you can to walk away. Because every time we cry, it means that there's, um... Sometimes, we are simply unable to express ourselves. So, if you go back and have a meeting, say, That is exactly what I want to say. That it has offended me. And I feel like... that you have made me feel like You've made me feel like I'm a second-class citizen, like I don't matter. You have made me feel so low in my self-esteem. and that is not something I appreciate Yes, so there is that now there's This kind of person, the third one I won't bring yours like Sultana drama, I won't Talk about it, I won't communicate about it, I will. Let it sink, am I good? KWA EQ no, because I won't, we won't fight. No, we won't talk about it. No, I will not. Let it go. No, no, then I'll have it somewhere. Too young, I didn't know such things, I was just a child Find out from the person who reminded me of something I did ten years ago. I was just thinking about those days, wait, ten years ago Ten years ago Seriously? You should have told me ten years ago. You know, when I talk to her, I tell her the very thing I hear. The main drum is called yuzu, it makes people dance Three things that Shindo Mbolo mentioned. But Haku let it live. Like a settle down, you know... That's it. Ten years. For ten years we've been good friends. How come Jua Kuu has something that makes it last ten years? Exactly. But you see, it didn't... You see, let me tell you something about working through a problem. It deepens the bond. To Indeed, with So you get frustrated, you wake up after five months, However, You told me the pot has broken. with When you're tired, your body may develop nerve problems. Indeed, When there's no nerve, there's no stress. What's the matter? with Every day, the basket overflows with things. Indeed. EQ, I repeat again, is about self-expression. You are always able to say whatever you need to say. In the most intelligent way possible to achieve results. So here's the thing I don't know what you're referring to. I met this guy, I love this guy but Akona's weakness There is a thing there. I want to tell him But I'm afraid of losing him. But I love him. but it's just a small thing like a small one You know very well, you're just pretending to be ignorant. Uno na? but in a way, it's supposed to have an effect like it's the only thing that's keeping me from loving him 100% Because we relate more to relationships Tuna relationships relate more So, the people are also tired. The express train is delayed. At the express station At once, give it to the spirit For ten years, Ajai has been talking about the ilimkasirisha. I am really trying to be good at expressing myself. But expressing yourself will not always resonate with everyone else. Congratulations on your graduation, my friend Sukumojo, you know Your task is clear, yet understand how to express it properly. These days we're talking about Generation Z, inaji-express, sana mpaka I was seeing a meme that was saying there's a generation I sent an email asking about the job and how much they are paying. So, during the interview, the board asked him, what about say And how much are you all paying Akambiwa? Is that the amount of money you're calling me here for? In the interview, he said it directly. Like the money he earns is not his own money. So, you know, like... We call it vibaya, but anaji-express, as you're saying. Anaji Express Then the next email that came in was, "You are really qualified." You would have been the perfect person. But because of the way you, Sijui, talked about money in the board, The reply from Alipiana was, "Is that even money?" So, so that person, that generation, they're really expressive, aren't they? And out here, we don't have people telling us the truth. and telling us how it is. So I think Pia Kuna is that line Yeah, how do we express "so isikaya sana pia" like we don't need it? to know everything about you like you do You don't need to tell us everything at once. Not at the same time, so what you're telling me that they expressed themselves but were unintelligent but so they are not emotionally they were not intelligent in expressing themselves You see, I repeat again, this is emotional intelligence. the you you know like the way you say You know what intelligence is—to have a level of superiority in how you deliberate things You will be punished severely if you do this here. Therefore, I love you and I love you for your steadfastness. Hiyo ni hizi kama unachoma uweze. We don't need it anymore. It's not about the outcome, but about the journey. It's not about the speed, but about the outcome. Unaama, go to the gym to stay in shape. If you are angry about it, it's as if you are angry. When you're in the country, try to hustle hard by January. Yeah, so it's how you say it, uh, before. the program started, we were talking about the sandwich way of speaking where you wake up and give someone a compliment, tell them, uh I think you are amazing, I think you're very beautiful, you understand. and then tell me because I think I am beautiful, so tell me. And yes, you're so amazing, and you know what? If there's a How we can wake up and also get your waist to be in alignment with the rest of your body, did you hear that my waist be aligned with the rest of my body I think you would look absolutely amazing, even more so. Why, in a nutshell, I've been told my My stomach is bigger, but no one has told me to my face. So the guy would have just said I appreciate the opportunity. Thank you so much. And negotiated it It could be that all he needed was to negotiate. and see if they can increase the salary. He didn't have to be rude. He didn't have to tell them. No. All you need to do to wake up and say, this opportunity is so amazing. And if we are going to come back, maybe we can also open a door. so that we can negotiate那就薪酬问题进行谈判。 And then see whether in the near future there is a possibility of increment. Because you know people can wake up and start with 10K and in one year you earn 100K So you miss out on opportunities because you lack intelligence. Because in your mind you... So you can tell your boyfriend the scariest thing Yes, but you know you also have to start small. Let's be smart; you have to start small. If it's a new relationship, first get to know each other. Get to know, get to see how this person reacts And you can even tell them Imagine if today at work they told you one, two, three things You will know you will say, I don't want a correction Unilewa? So you're saying it's a correct shot if it's done that way By the way, you know there are movies, friends—just correct the stuff I'm hungry, let's watch a movie, I'm tired of movies By the way, live, there's nothing I don't use. Even when I'm watching something, I say, Wow, by the way, MSE Hameonge Kuchamana Hey, what did you do to me? So instead of showing this person that it's beyond them, I show them that I am correcting myself And in that way, I find peace and many other things. that we are able to do on the gods from above. God of eternity. Wow. Hi. That's it. I like, nana tu nezo ongea. Chana Kwanza, I think it's about drama, relationships, by pursuing the threat and the trust, I feel like there's a lot we can talk about, especially relationships. Yes. I am tired. Yes. This emotionally intelligent approach favors us. You're here, so you might as well speak up. Like, there's a lot. He killed a person. I want a YouTube slide I'm tired of staying silent, I want to speak up so I think It's a two-way. It is a two-way. and more than ever before is to wake up and recognize that We both have history. We both have experiences. And so we both have stories. When we get into a relationship, The way I handle things is based on my experience. My mindset is different from yours. We have never understood that. This is a person, you are a person that has been influenced by your family. You have been influenced by your culture. You have been influenced by your association. You have been shaped by your experiences. Do you understand? You have been influenced by your exposure. Because there are people who have never really know how to surf the internet, but you, who have known how to surf the internet and the things you have exposed yourself to on the internet, I probably didn't have the time because I have a 10-to-10 job. So, I work 16 hours a day. So, you'll be surprised to find that our conversations aren't the same. So, for us to wake up and realize that we come with different mindsets in relationships Our experiences shape who we are. Our exposure to people, our association, I'm here, you're here talking to me about emotional intelligence, You have met someone who has never Heard about these things, so they don't understand what you're talking about And it takes time. There are though. Say you meet them and they're from church—they don't believe there's anything called I don't know, I've experienced it myself. You tell them and they are What do you mean, you understand? And getting them on board is such a difficult task. Recognize that. As if the merchant were watching. He is not satisfied with Q. hi t You're two different people. At the end. please So having the intelligence to wake up and bring these people to understand what you're talking about. We get into relationships, oh it's just me and you, we're in love. There, her mother is there, her father is there, Her uncle is there, that ex-boyfriend from before. Who was very rich, and you are not rich, is also present. All those experiences culminate in me. And so when you come, understand that. So that you can wake up quickly now and start investigating who this person is. Then from there you can build. True. Yes. Meskia, mejisikilia, eh, learn how to express yourself, I think. My takeaway from today is that. Sasa, we're going to build from there. Tuna label, tukifanya, tukifanya research in case there's anything else You tell us in the comment section. Tunarusha nana tena hapa, nana Katie. Now we can express ourselves. But, Ivo Ivo, tutenda as a series on the way we learn. Thank you so much, Nana, for coming. Final shot, just the final shot, the parting shot, that little one. Uh, this is what I'm going to recap. and say EQ is a superpower, EQ is not weakness, uh, whether you Whether you like it or not, your emotions truly determine burying them down doesn't mean that you're emotionally intelligent, you're waking up and using them to advise you on how to behave in every level at every office that is now a superpower, and every day you wake up in every relationship And become better; if you fail today, go back. Again tomorrow doesn't mean that you wake up and tie your goods and walk away, no, everybody hasn't Failure is not the path to greatness; no one has ever become great by failing. by not failing you feel you wake up tomorrow and start Again you wake up tomorrow and start again And tell yourself, I will become better, Jitem Kutano. The sun is rising That's the only way you get better. Celeste speaks much better than you do. Ask yourself what it is she's talking about How was it that she was able to wake up and move around? Why are we calling so and so to wake up? and come and resolve the situation How did she learn it? Emotional intelligence can be learned. It can be learned You're not born with it You learn it You learn it So learn emotional intelligence Thank you So, in short, I think we've brought our children. If I learn it, then how am I going to relate with Tugi? He's going to learn from me He's going to see what I'll be doing. So in the future, be aware that people are equal. Even if there were no such glasses here At the crossroads, we meet randomly. So if they see, if we learn Then we teach our young ones They learn from us We are going to be in a At the office, by bus, on the street I think things will be easier. Hakuta kuwa na yu Verbal diarrhea You called it? Yes, verbal diarrhea Thank you so much. Thank you so much, Nana. I wish I could understand Nana So you go, you go But she'll come back again Thank you so much, everyone. As for comments, tell us Are you willing Like Tell us what you are willing to do What else, Ama? Can Nana come and tell us about But thank you so much for watching See you next week on Seller's Reflection Goodbye Bye