What Type of Parents Will We Be?!

It's okay. It's okay. There we go. His head, he doesn't like his head. He feels like it's not supported. Good boy. Our baby boy. I love you. Mom and dad, what are you doing? Our child. As you guys may know, actually you definitely should know, we treat this little guy as our own little- He's our son. Our son, our baby, our child. He loves this so much. A big yawn. And I know he's not a real baby slash child slash son. But I feel like we've learned a lot in co-parenting Jess with Jackson. That I feel like there's a lot to talk about with how it's going to translate into actually having kids. It's kind of like a blended household because you had him for what? Two years? A year and a half, two years before I came in the picture. So I had to be like- You kind of stepped into it too. I was like the stepdad. I came in and I had to establish how that relationship would go. I have learned a lot about you. Jordan is an alpha when it comes to Jackson. We used to fight. We did. About Jackson. That was probably one of the biggest things we argued about. Because he would come in and he's like, if you want me to treat this dog like my own, allow me to discipline him how I would my own dog. I'm more of positive reinforcement and he's more like, no. Yeah, be firm. Especially with dogs. Let's be honest. Dogs are different than children. You got to have an alpha male. So I had to establish myself as the alpha of the wolf pack. And now we're just a happy family. Oh yeah. Let's hope that we have a normal child someday. He's not this hairy. So if y'all remember, we talked about how Jordan was afraid to hold babies. Like when you hold a baby, I'm always worried it's going to cry and it's going to be my fault. And what do I do? Do I try to calm the baby down? Do I just hand it over to the mother? Like, oh my god, what do I do? I don't want that stress. Things have changed, my friends. Do you want to share the news? I did. I bonded with Maverick. Your brother's eight month, seven month old? Eight month old, nine month old. It was a big step for me. It was actually the sweetest thing I think I've ever seen. Jordan was holding him and throwing him up. And I think it definitely helped that he was laughing. Oh yeah, if a baby starts crying, I'm out. But it was just so sweet. There's not a part of me yet that is comfortable getting the baby from crying to stop crying. If they're laughing, they want to play, they want to go airplane, I'm all done. You don't have to nurture them and soothe them. You're good at that. Are you about to say that's going to be my thing? No, no, no. We'll do that. And you'll change diapers and you'll wake up in the middle of the night and you'll feed them. We'll talk about it. Are you going to be one of their dads? Of course I'm going to. Because you guys, I feel like I do most of the work with Jackson. Wait a minute. I do. I bathe him more. Let's just take a sample of the last two times he's taken a bath. You did one, I did one. That's 50-50. What about the other two and a half years of baths? This is slightly weighted in your favor. I'm the one that fills up his food bowl and his water bowl. You irrationally fill up his water bowl. You feel like his water bowl needs to be to the brim 24 hours a day and not once has he ever drank at all. I'm like, he's got plenty of water in there. I just like fresh water because sometimes I come back and I look and some lint or something has gotten in it or he'll be chewing on a ball and it's in the dirt. I just like clean water for him. So anyways, just don't know how that's going to translate. Parenting is going to be fun. We were off to a good start. You were starting to bond with Maverick and then we also have Noah. We have two nephews in the family right now but neither of them live here in Dallas. So you're not going to get as much practice in. I can hold Jackson. It's different. It's different, babe. This is my take. This is how I envision you. Please tell me. And I would like to see what you think about me. I think that you're going to be the scarier one. Scarier? Like scarier when they've done something wrong. They've gotten in trouble. They're going to be really scared to have dad find out. And they're going to want mom when they got a speeding ticket and are too scared to tell dad. The thing is, I was a rebel as a kid. I was terrible. Bless my mom and my dad for putting up with me. Bless me too. You've been that child. Your mom called you the spicy child. Spicy. Does that worry you? Yes, it terrifies me. Are you kidding? You know how many times I was in the principal's office? My mom was definitely a little more of the disciplinarian. And we butted heads. I was the biggest mom boy growing up through being a toddler and then we butted heads. That's funny. And now obviously I'm the favorite child. But that's neither here nor there. You know what's funny? My mom was also the disciplinarian. And she still is. There's a strict rule. Jackson is not allowed to sit on the couch. I'm on board with that. When I'm out, I see Jackson's hair on my couch. That's not true. Jackson, chillin' bro. He's shedding. Mom's gonna kill us. She let me live out my mistakes. She disciplined me. But she wasn't overbearing. Soraya, I still have not forgotten about the photo album you showed me up in the attic. And I still can't believe you let JoJo go to a senior party literally wearing lingerie. It was Moulin Rouge themed. First off. And I was covered. I didn't even have any... I had no curves at that point. We both have incredible parents. The best. I love your parents. Obviously I love my parents. I love your parents. Here's a good story about I think one of the first moments I realized how maybe different or much of like how much we're gonna need to compromise in our parenting. When we were living in California this last summer, we were walking Jackson down by the park and there was Little League going on. And I'm watching this one kid's up and it's I think it's the coaches pitching underhand. We totally disagreed on this. And the kid's up there for like 15 swings and he just keeps missing and he keeps missing and he keeps missing. I'm like that's like there's 3 strikes there's 4, there's 8, there's 10. I'm like hey at some point the kid's gotta realize that there's consequences to not being good at the sport. Like you gotta work on it. If you wanna get a hit like you don't get 20 tries, you gotta practice more. And I'm sitting there being like Jordan we're like 5 years old like let them feel that satisfaction of finally getting it and getting on base and like all and this is what Jordan said. Jordan's like that's fine if that's how they wanna play and all his friends can get on base but if my son's up there my daughter's up there, 3 strikes she's out. And I'm just gonna have to talk with her afterwards. Cause imagine this. I'm like that's so horrible. The satisfaction after getting a hit after 15 tries but now imagine the satisfaction after striking out a few times and kind of being bummed out and then going and working hard away from practice on your swing and like out there with dad pitching to you and then all of a sudden you don't need 18 pitches. You're up there one and boom! It's like that's the satisfaction we're going for. Hard work. But don't you think that'd be really sad if he was crying on the bench and all of his friends were like. Absolutely dad would be like hey it's okay. Like we're gonna have to work harder. Let's go get some extra pitches. Everybody's gonna get popsicles and Capri Suns. You're gonna be working. We're gonna be hitting balls until the sun goes down. Sun batter up. Here we go. I'm gonna be the one that teaches our kids how to dance. Let's be honest. My dance moves are gold. First off, I dance every day in the bathroom. And you look at me and you're like are you waiting for a dance? What usually happens when we're wedding dancing? You're just like so, you're on another level. And I can't keep up. It's just like so much. Hello. I'm here. We're at a wedding together. Like let's dance together. I'm an entertainer. Exactly. That is it. At weddings he wants to entertain people. And I'm like over here. Someone's gotta get the dance floor going. Over here. You're my date. Hello. But you can have dancing. I feel like I'll teach our children just how to be kind and very sweet and more than just kind but like being humble and respectful. You're gonna be a great mom. Thank you. You're gonna be a great mom. Thank you. I think there's nothing more important to me than our children growing up to be respectful and kind. And like if my kid is a bully oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. I will that's how I feel about that. I don't think I'd smack Joe. No. But you get what I'm saying. Like I will feel just heartbroken at the day that I get a call that said uh, Joe Joe little Susie did something pretty bad today. And I'd be like wow. It's okay if you're like bad but if you're mean that's where I just I don't want my kids to ever grow up to be like that. You know what I can't wait for? What? That first time Little Susie. That's not the name. Not Susie. That first time little Johnny and me have that okay but don't tell your mom. Wow. Can't wait for that moment. I don't know what it's gonna be about but I can't wait for that little moment. That's sad. Why? Just don't tell your mom. That's fine you can have that. We have a good idea of who we want to be as parents but we have no idea obviously because we don't have kids but you guys know and you guys sent us a bunch of your craziest parenting stories. So good. So we're gonna go through a few of them and uh. There's some good ones. Yeah. So here is a crazy story from Caitlin Ann Murphy. She says most of mine need the pictures but my two year old recently painted her wall with nail polish. Oh. Great. Yeah. How'd it look? Like. Her creative side just right there. Love it. Love it. It would be so great if you just left it. Yeah. Just leave it. Like hey you painted your room. You chose to do that. Now you gotta live with it. I have a funny story that my mom just probably was just mortified by. Me and my best friend growing up we were really young. We were in our room and we used to play hairdresser. My mom was babysitting Ollie. And we were in our room. This is gonna be good. And we always used to just play with the brushes and like pretend to cut like this. Pretend. Yeah. We would do that. We would play hairdresser in my room. One day we were playing. Ollie got real scissors and just chopped my hair. I really wish I could find photos of it. Oh. I bet Soraya was thrilled. So my mom comes up and just like half of my hair is gone and so I had like a chili bowl cut for her. You know. Mom wasn't supervising. Why were there scissors laying around? E-Rigs 09. Talking to my four and five-year-old while gingerbread decorating that it was not okay to pull a knife on her sister. You're right. That's oh my gosh. Can you imagine? Don't touch my gingerbread. No honey. Put down the knife. Susie, put down the knife. We don't solve our problems with violence. I love that our hypothetical daughter Susie and Johnny. Love that. This is from Brenda Walkie. My daughter threw up on me at my sister's wedding. Y'all might want to make your wedding kid-free. It happens. You know. Embrace it. There will be kids at our wedding and yeah. I'm sure at some point I'm going to get thrown up on. But it's like But if someone's at our wedding and that happened So here's the thing. It's like if it's your kid it's like okay and then if it's some other kid that you don't know you're like sick. Oh if some other kid vomited on you. Oh yeah. That'd be bad. It's like when it's your kid. That's why I don't love holding kids. Like it's part of the deal. No. What? Is it because they're going to throw up on you? You never know. They're going to throw up. They're going to start crying and it's like what do I do? What was my fault? My nephew's going to just throw up on me. I'd be like I love you. Yeah you would. You'd be like oh it smells so good. No. Maybe. You think Jackson's bad breath mouth smells good. I love it. It's weird. It's so good. Kelly McCrazy. Ooh McCrazy. A lot of people pray to have twins. Oh we do. And mine Owen and Curtis are a dream come true. Except when they bite. Just a heads up. Twins sometimes bite. I've heard horror stories of children biting in school. No I don't know if they're twins. But like biting. Biting's a thing. Like we have no clue. We have no idea. We're talking like oh it's no big deal. You just say that's not good. I know it doesn't happen like that. It's going to be a rude awakening. I think I'm so much more excited about having a kid now than I was now that I have nephews. When they were first born I was like oh my gosh like I've gotten my fix in. I'm an aunt. This is perfect. I get them when they're good. Hand them off when they're bad and da da da. But now that they're like not around as much like I really miss them and I love them so much. I would do anything for those kids. The first thing I think the first time we saw both our nephews you were like. I was like I can't wait. We need one of those. I don't need to like go have a baby like but I cannot wait for the day that it just happens. I would say that that has made me more excited to have kids. Yeah I'm terrified. We've kind of agreed on how many kids we want to have right? I think we like three. Yeah. We like, we think three's a good number. Obviously life's going to happen how it happens. We would like to have, I would like to have two boys and a girl. Two boys, one girl. Two older boys. Older boys first. Yeah. I mean this is the thing though. Gotta have brothers that can beat up those punk kids trying to date her. You can't plan this. Yeah I know. It doesn't matter what you want because whatever you get you're going to be obsessed with. My luck because I want some boys. I would love a daughter as well. You have three. But it's just going to be all girls. You're going to be, they're going to be your little girl and you're going to love them so much and they're going to be so cute and they're going to be athletes. We'll just keep trying for a boy. And then six daughters later we'll be like okay. This is another thing. It's like we haven't rushed to marriage right? We've taken our time and that's kind of been our thing. And I'm 28. Like I'm not old and I have no problem but it's like okay then how long do we want to be married before we have kids because like I know that there's so much we're doing right now and there's travel and there's work and there's like a lot. I don't think we'll be like pumping kids out like right after the honeymoon. I don't think so either. But like if it happens like you gotta figure it out. This is going to be something that like continues to evolve but I'm glad we're talking about it because we don't really know. Yeah. I am curious though if there are any women out there that have been very like career driven their whole life and have established themselves like how that transition was for you and how you saw your passions maybe changing and or maybe it didn't and you were able to do both. So I'm very curious. So if you guys have any stories like that would love to read them or just like advice on how to do that. Or stay at home dads. Any stay at home dads out there? That's a thing. And that's great. And I love that. So tell us. We want to know. But this was fun. Well you don't talk about this stuff until we do it with them. This is great for us too guys. And tell us like if we missed any crazy stories that we're not ready for. I imagine there's a ton of horror stories out there. Would love to hear more of them and don't forget to subscribe. Yeah. Bye guys.