Как Всё Успевать с Ребенком

Hello everyone, welcome to my YouTube channel. One of the most frequently asked questions in my Instagram and YouTube is how to keep up with the child. Because Eric will be only a year old soon. And my subscribers look at how much I have time to do, how our house is always clean, our dog is always well-groomed, we are always clean, beautiful, and everything works out for us, and everything is fine with us. But I definitely won't say that this is some kind of illusion and you just see it through the video and through Instagram. Because in life, in principle, it turns out that our house is always clean, it is always tidied up. Because we put everything on the places where it should lie. It always turns out that in the morning there are some household chores at home, such as cleaning, washing, sorting out some things. At the same time, I also run Instagram, and at the same time I work with individual clients online. This is all the time some kind of correspondence, and all the time everything happens like this at home. One hand here, the other hand there, eyes on the son. But I can also say that I have a lot of things that I don't do, which I constantly postpone for tomorrow. Every day I make a list of tasks for the next day, but all the time some of these tasks, and half of them, definitely go to the next day. And there are tasks that last for a week and cannot be done by me, because there is simply not enough time for this. For example, my son's birthday is coming soon, and I need to order balloons for him. I have been postponing this task for a week, for tomorrow, for tomorrow, for tomorrow. By the way, I will probably have to do it today. Because, in theory, it's a matter of two minutes, just write to a person, send a photo of what I need, and pay. And wait for the third day, when, in fact, it will be his birthday. But nevertheless, even such a small task, I think that since it takes two minutes, you can, in principle, do it later. Later, later, later, later. And so a week has already passed, and I still haven't done it. So not everything is done for us, and I don't have time for everything as I would like. I can probably say for sure that when I was not pregnant, and when we didn't have Eric yet, it seemed that there was a lot of time, that you always think that you will have time for everything, that everything will always work out for you, that you will do this later, this later, and make some plans for the future. And when a child appears, you understand that the day just passes like a minute. In the morning you opened your eyes, and as if in a minute you closed your eyes, and again at night. And for this minute you want to have time for everything, but this is not real. And you don't need to set yourself up in such a way that someone has more time, someone has less time. You need to live at your own pace. Someone is used to doing everything quickly, someone is used to doing 5 or 6 things at the same time, someone is used to doing one thing at the same time. For example, one mother can just sit with the child and play with him, another, like me, for example, can play in parallel and conduct some kind of work correspondence. That is, we are all different anyway, and you don't need to set yourself up for one person and think that if she is such a good girl, then I should also be such a good girl. No, you shouldn't. No one owes anything to anyone. You need to live at your own pace and, most importantly, not get burned out. What I'm most afraid of is really burning out. Because I know that when you work a lot, then you need to rest a lot. And the last time when this happened, I needed to rest for almost a year, do nothing to restore my psycho-emotional state and find some kind of energy to continue to act. And now, in fact, let's move on to lifehacks. Or not lifehacks, for someone, maybe someone already knows this. Probably those who have more than one child use all this 100% in their practice. Maybe you guessed it yourself, like me. Maybe you read it somewhere. In any case, in the process, when a child appears, you somehow begin to adjust to his regime, to his mood, somewhere you have time, somewhere you don't have time. I don't think I'll open any America for you. Just maybe you'll remember how to act right to have time for everything. First of all, do everything together. The same kind of homework. I don't know, wash the floor, wash the dishes, start the washing machine. All the time Eric is running around me when I'm doing this process. There are also some homework that I do, for example, when he is sleeping. If I haven't finished something while he was awake, then he fell asleep and I continue to do it. For example, usually when he falls asleep at lunchtime, I get up from him, leave, go to cook lunch, and at the same time I do something in my work while he is sleeping. Then I either have lunch with him, or I have lunch until he wakes up, then he wakes up and eats. In short, this is how it always happens with us. The same goes for stores. We go to the store together most often. The three of us, my husband, me and my son. Either I go with my son, or my husband, if something is urgent, goes to the store himself. That is, most of this happens together. Because I'm all for socializing the child, and going to the store with him is one more time for him to look at people, people look at him, and so that he somehow adapts to people, so that there is no such thing that, I don't know, winter is over, we went out in the summer, let's shout because he has never seen people before. I think this is wrong. Thanks to our light stroller, Annex Air Z, on which I filmed both a review video and a video response, I can even go with him, for example, to the mall, because this stroller folds, it weighs 6 kg, I take my son in one hand, the stroller in the other, here, where my son is still hanging, I have his shopper, and my bag in the shopper. We walk with him to the mall or boutiques and shop, or I buy something for him. I also study at night, I have already passed one course, I am increasing my qualification in nutrition, and the last course was Nutrition and Adaptive Nutrition, all the lectures of this course I studied almost at night, that is, if Eric, for example, goes to bed somewhere at 10-11 pm, I get up, take a shower, listen to lectures, it continues until 1 am, then I just turn off and go to bed. This option is not suitable for everyone, there are people who need to sleep from 11 pm, if they do not go to bed at that time, and go to bed later, then they feel very bad all day, I do not treat these people, I can, as I say, do something until 1 am, and then go to bed, and then continue to live a new day. Moreover, to study at such a time, at night, when everyone is already sleeping at home, except for me, I am much more comfortable, there is silence at home, to find such a balance of silence, you need to either kick everyone out of the house, or go somewhere yourself, and to go somewhere, I need someone to sit with my son, so for me the best option is to study closer to night. As for isolation, I spend a lot of time in silence, to work, to study the client's request, or to shoot some work reels for Instagram, or to write some posts, or to edit a video for YouTube. And at such moments, I leave the house, somewhere to the nearest cafe or restaurant, I would like to go more to the coworking, because it is much quieter there, but in restaurants and cafes it is quite noisy, due to the large number of people My father sits with my son, he has quite a seasonal, flexible job, mostly he is a freelancer, so most often we share some responsibilities in terms of sitting with the child, that is, we agree in the morning I sit with him, or in the afternoon you sit with him for a couple of hours, but of course most of the time I still spend with my son. And so, in principle, if I wanted, it would be 2-3 hours every day Especially now, when Rika has a lot of teeth, he is quite capricious, he often asks Guru not just to eat, but to hang, to ruin, as I still call it, and therefore, if even 2 hours pass, then he already becomes quite capricious, and I need to run home urgently. Also, thanks to these 2-3 hours, I can go to some of my beauty procedures, such as pedicure, manicure, I can go to the gym, but I can't afford it yet. I think after the year of Erik I will be able to find a nanny who would not sit with him, for example, at home alone, but would go with me and with him to some meetings at work, or, for example, I sit somewhere in a cafe at the next table with my son, that is, all the time he was in my sight and I was also in his sight, I have a lot of stories about nannies who are left alone with children, and I am very afraid of this, in fact, because the child is still small, by the way, when children can already speak, they still do not always tell some such moments, and by the way, about such cases, it often happens that the child even falls with you, fills some kind of bump, turns his finger out, he is bitten by your dog, and these everyday injuries it's scary when you're a mom for the first time and for you it's all for the first time any bruise is just some kind of horror it's just hair in the muck and plus a few more gray hairs and to calm yourself in such moments we either go to the Internet read all sorts of shitty articles that scare us even more or you need to sign up for a doctor whose appointment is in two days the next day it happens very rarely and so you can walk for days and start worrying what kind of bump he has what kind of bruise he has when he will pass and what to smear it with and in such cases I want to recommend the app for correction.ru there is a permanent team of checked doctors they are carefully selected and trained by the service itself responsive doctors who know how to communicate tactically online consultations are unlimited and work by subscription the essence of the subscription is as simple as possible you can ask any questions about health to qualified doctors of different profiles there are therapists, pediatricians, gynecologists urologists, dermatologists and neurologists there are even endocrinologists and other doctors another cool feature is that there are on-call doctors and you can ask questions 24x7 the cost of one month's 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grandmother will be able to find a common language with a grandson and feed him well and play with him well and love enough to highlight by the way, if you urgently need mom to come she can agree with dad transfer some of her duties to him for example one time when we had a business conference in the city which lasted from the morning to the evening Eric was younger he was 5 months and I just came home during breaks I fed him or with food no, it was 6 months because he already had food then I put him to sleep and went back every 2 hours I came until 6 pm and at the end of this video I would like to repeat what I said at the beginning that you do not need to compare yourself with other mothers business women who have time to sit with the child and do their business there is always some kind of assistant as a mother for example a grandmother or a nanny or a husband or a disabled child who sits in one hand and in the other hand you print something in the phone you work with your little finger you use a touchpad and you answer someone you read some e-mails with your teeth you mix a pot with soup because you need to feed a child and you wash your head with your foot in any case you need some kind of assistant my assistant is my husband and my mother my younger brother and his wife live in the city if they have a day off I can ask them to sit with Eric but since Eric is getting older he already understands that mom is mom dad is dad and there is also a grandmother who he also loves very much and then he starts to look for me or Yura so as I said I will look for a nanny who will go with me because I can't imagine how I will manage I would like to do a lot I have so many plans and I am very upset if I have to constantly postpone something for tomorrow or for a few more days I hope this video was useful and if not useful then it reminded you that you are great especially those who have children and those who have time to do something I don't know even if you have a hobby you collect bouquets you sell flowers you are still great if you make candles and you have a child you are also great to have time to cook and to devote time to a hobby and to work it's just wow and when this child is multiplied by 2, 3, 4 it's even more wow so always praise yourself if you forgot that you are great take a piece of paper and write down all the things that you managed to do for example today just write down and you will be shocked how much time you have when a day just passes you don't understand how much you did and when it's all written on a piece of paper it's just wow so thank you very much for watching this video be sure to write comments was it useful for you maybe you learned something new bye-bye