Signs He's Emotionally Attracted To You (Not Just Physically)

When you really like a guy and there's no physical and no emotional attraction, you can be best friends forever. That's a not so awesome friend zone. Some people move there right away. Yeah. Thank you for sharing your feelings. I really appreciate it. But I kind of see you as just a friend. Others arrive afterwards. Hey, don't worry. It's not you. It's me. I hope we can still be friends. Great. Thanks. As if I don't have enough friends. If you add a little bit of physical attraction into the mix, you can still be friends, but this time with benefits. A lot of benefits. It's a little bit better, but the other person will eventually fall for someone else and then everything ends. If, however, you add some emotional attraction to the mix, now you can be passionately in love for the rest of your life. So if you want to be more than just friends with a guy, then attraction will be needed. However, if you want more than just the benefits and the emotional attraction is going to be crucial. If a man only feels physical attraction, then the relationship will go nowhere. Because the bad news is that first, physical attraction is not enough. But second, physical attraction never lasts. It gradually declines. The science has proven this many times. In the case of men, it's, for example, because the male mind is continuously looking for novelty. And if you don't believe me, have you ever seen a man go crazy because it's Super Bowl Sunday? Must be a very important game then. Well, have you ever seen that same man watch that game or any other sports game again? Let's say six times with the same level of excitement. My point exactly. And this is not just for men. Novelty is important for both genders. And novelty will, for example, also increase sexual desire. But my point is this. The raw physical attraction will decrease over time. However, when you start to blend in some emotional attraction, everything changes. So let's see how to get that done in this video. And let's also see why it may be very important to not create too much physical attraction too soon. My name is Geert. I'm an author. I also use the pen name Brian Knox because that's easier to pronounce. And I write books about relationships and dating for women. I also write about other topics. And I personally think it's kind of funny how much time we can spend on creating physical attraction when it's not even the most important type of attraction. Some people will, for example, shop for hours to find the right outfit, one that makes them attractive. Others will go to the gym very often to be physically attractive. But then during the first couple of dates, they may totally forget to put in the effort to, for example, flirt and tease and create emotional attraction, or they have a relationship, but they forget to maintain that emotional attraction. So physical attraction is I want to feel your lips. I want your body. I want to touch it. I want to caress it. I want to have sex with it. That, however, is not very special. If you are a woman and you walk into any room filled with a lot of men, then plenty of them will have thoughts just like these. Even if you are wearing four sweaters, if you're wearing baggy pants and your hair looks like a dove created a nest in it. Emotional attraction, however, that's a bit different. That's when he thinks, I want to get to know you. I want to know what you are all about. I really want to know who you are. And I also would love for you to like me, to love me, to compliment me, to listen to me when I want to share something. And if I have an important moment in my life, then I want to share that with you. If I have something to celebrate, then I want you by my side. If you are ever in trouble, then I want to help you. I want to take care of you. I want to see you smile because I arrive home after a work trip. I want to see you smile because our relationship makes you smile, because I make you happy. I want to be able to touch you, to move you, to make you proud, to be with me. That, as I'm sure you can tell, that's a little bit more difficult to achieve. That sexy dove nest will probably not cut it. There is no magical formula, but let's look at some of the ways to create this type of emotional attraction and some of the signs that the guy you are with is having these thoughts. Now, creating this type of emotional attraction, first and foremost, requires him to value you, to respect you. So as I explain in many of my other videos, this is where your standards, your boundaries, using the word no when needed, not being a pushover, not being a nice girl, not being needy, being a challenge and so on. This is where that comes in. If you are playful and you tease a man a bit without putting him down, fragile ego, you can create emotional attraction. So that means and remember this. If you don't want to be just friends, then do not treat him as a friend. Play, flirt, tease a little bit, go for what you want. Take the lead at times. For example, if you have been texting back and forth with him and he still doesn't ask you out, it's OK to say something like, OK, well, I think it's time for you to ask me out now. If he doesn't like you, then he's now going to reject you. And that's good because you were not looking for a friend. If he likes you, however, then this now creates the emotional spark. It raises the stakes. It makes this exciting. And by the way, emotional attraction requires his brain to be fully active. So that means do not create too much physical attraction too soon. In other words, do not be too sexy because then his blood will have left the region. And sadly, I'm not kidding here as proven by science and reality. So don't be too sexy too soon unless you're just looking for a one night stand. But I will show you some of the signs that he's ready for your sexiness in just a minute. Another great way to create emotional attraction is to do something fun together. A lot of people go on normal dates. They go for a drink, they go to a restaurant. And although just getting a drink can be a great idea for a first date, if you want to test the waters a little bit, especially for the other dates, experiences, mini adventures are much better. Simple things like playing mini golf or creating a bonfire on a beach and having a bottle of champagne, having to run because a thunderstorm arrives and so on. These adventures, these experiences create a bond in many different ways. And you often see that in movies, by the way, where a man and a woman go on an adventure and then they fall in love. That can happen for real as well. Another way to create emotional attraction is to be very unapologetic about who you are. Even though everyone has insecurities, it's best to try to accept your imperfections and especially to not hide them. Being unapologetic about our imperfections is not only a sign of strength. It actually makes us more attractive to the right person. So if you ever think I am not dot dot dot enough for him, then try to realize that that is just a self-limiting belief. We have no idea. That's for the other person to decide, not us. Self-esteem creates emotional attraction. Most people love to be around non-arrogant people with a lot of self-esteem. And a huge part of that self-esteem comes from accepting our flaws, our imperfections and being unapologetic about them. So try to let go of who you think you should be and be who you are. Now, some of this will sound like way too much work to some people, and you often see that in the comments. But why? Why would a great, loving and passionate relationship ever come as a free gift? No effort required. Everything that's worth anything in this galaxy requires at least some effort. It's just the way things are. Just like you can't have a great professional career without working hard for it. It's kind of impossible to have a great, loving, romantic relationship with that hard work. And again, we are already putting in hard work for the physical attraction part. The one that doesn't last. Emotional attraction, if you ask me, is worth the effort because it can endure, it can last. OK, so how do you know it's working then? When is he emotionally attracted to you? Well, it's for example, when he stays awake for more than five minutes after sex. Just kidding. It's when he says, why have sex? Let's just talk about our feelings instead. Still kidding, obviously. Some real signs are he's texting you late at night. It's not a booty call. It's because the both of you have long conversations that last and he doesn't want them to end. He's asking questions because he wants to know you. He wants to know everything there is to know about you. Here's a not so obvious one. It's when he remembers important dates. Let's say that you had an important interview or exam or presentation today and you mentioned that a couple of days ago or even better, a couple of weeks ago. And today he asks how it went. That's a great sign. It's when he wants to fix problems for you, when he wants to take care of you. It's when you are getting other signs that he's thinking about you very often. It's when you send him a message and he not only replies, but he's very responsive. He fuels the conversation because he doesn't want it to end. So when these things start to happen, it's OK. You can be as sexy as you want. There you go. I have to keep it top level here. But if you want deeper strategies and tips, you can visit me on Brian Knox dot com for more videos and podcasts that I'm not sharing over here. My books, they can be found on Amazon by typing my pen name Brian Knox in the search bar. But I will put links to everything underneath this video in the description of the video as well. I've loved making this video for you. I hope you appreciated it and I hope to see you in another video.