The Only Dating Advice You'll Need in the Philippines

Welcome to Smart Girl Philippines. I'm Irish. Remember, it's more fun in the Philippines, but only if you're smart. In today's short talk, I'm sharing my best dating advice for the Philippines. It might sound crude, it might sound funny, it might sound shocking, it might sound weird, and it might sound like a joke, but it's not. And after I tell you, I'm going to quickly explain why I think it's the best dating advice you're ever going to hear. The advice is this, find a Filipina who walks you off. That's right. Let me say it one more time. Find a Filipina who walks you off. All right. So let me explain why I think this is the best dating advice. And it all starts with talking about the white sticky stuff. That's right. For years, scientists were puzzled. Why did spiders coat their webs with sticky stuff? If you look on a spider web, you'll see little glue droplets. But why is it only on certain parts of the web? People thought maybe it was to make it harder for the insects to escape from the web. People thought that maybe it made it easier for the spider to navigate around the web without getting stuck. But neither of those explanations were correct, and no one could figure it out. But before I continue, if you enjoy my content, then consider signing up for my free weekly newsletter called Smart123, where I share ideas for how to be smart in life, love, and business. My very first week, I started out with 11 subscribers. I worked really hard on it and put my best efforts into it. And today, I'm sending my newsletter to over 20,000 people around the world every single Thursday. It takes less than a minute to read, and I'm sharing ideas and advice that no one else is going to tell you as you navigate through life. The people who receive it regularly tell me it's the only email they look forward to receiving every week. I have literally nothing to sell you. I don't need anyone's money, and I'm not an OnlyFans. If you want to start receiving it starting this Thursday, just click the link in the description below to sign up. Okay, so back to spider webs. Why do spiders use white sticky stuff on their web? A biologist and really smart spider expert by the name of Katherine Gregg finally solved the mystery. When a spider is painting a web, it's not just making a basic net for insects to randomly fly into. No, no, no, no. It's so much more amazing than that, and at the same time really deceptive and diabolical. It turns out that a spider is actually painting when it's painting a web, and the picture is that of a flower. She figured out that the sticky stuff creates UV reflective signposts that insects perceive as bright flowers. Insects see the web's spiral as petals on a flower, and the spider in the middle as the flower's pistil. And so insects are lured into the web because it looks like a flower. A spider web is actually a simulation of a flower, but there's a deeper lesson here. The reason scientists couldn't solve the mystery was because they were first looking through the perspective of their own eyesight, then they were looking through the perspective of the spider's eyesight. And both of these were a huge mistake. When they shifted their thinking to look at a spider web through the eyes of an insect, they were finally able to figure it out. And that's because insects see the world in a different way than humans and spiders do. So solving the mystery was all about having the right perspective. Actor Stephen Toblosky talks about this story and his epiphany about spider webs in his book Adventures with God. Wait, can we talk about Stephen Toblosky for a second? You probably recognize him, but you never knew his name. He's been in a bunch of great movies like Groundhog Day, Basic Instinct, Thelma and Louise, Single White Female, and of course one of my favorite movies, Sneakers, where the lady goes on a date with him and gets him to say the word passport at dinner so she can use a recording of his voice to break into his office. What I love about his book is that it's all about shifting your perspective. So many of us are looking at the world through the wrong lens. So let's talk about dating. In today's world, everyone is watching simulation on their phone. And when it comes to sex, guys are watching a lot of naughty videos and having a lot of fantasies about Filipinas on their phones. And how do I know this to be true? Because ding ding ding ding, numbers don't lie. According to the data, the majority of relationships today start by meeting online, so that means on a phone. And also, according to the data, over 60% of men view porn on a regular basis, and some studies suggest that over 90% of men have viewed porn in the last month. And the other 10% are probably flying. And according to the numbers, Filipinas are in fact the number one nationality of women searched for on the naughty app. Ever heard of track patrol? Basically, what this means is that if you're a guy and you're either single or you're horny or you're attracted to Asian flowers, you're probably walking off to women on your phone on a regular basis. And there's a very high probability that some of those women are Filipinas. And here's the point. When you show up in the Philippines to date Filipinas, you're going to be stuck in the mindset of hunting for a Filipina that you want to walk off to. But there's one tiny problem with this approach. You're an insect who's looking for flowers, and you're going to end up flying right into a spider web. This approach is inevitably going to lead you to the nightlife districts, and to the bars, and to the freelancers, and to all the girls on Tinder and Pinalop who want to sell you a fantasy that you want to walk off to. Just like a spider, they are spinning a web with thick stuff that glows in the dark to draw you into their flower. And it's all just a simulation. So if you chase after a woman that you like walking off to, you're going to have the same fate as that of an insect who flies into a spider web. You're going to be the spider's dinner. Let's shift perspectives for a moment. If you're walking off to her, so are thousands of other guys. And that means she's getting a lot of attention from men who are being drawn into her web. And she's earning a lot of money from selling her flower. From your perspective, getting her to be with you is your ultimate fantasy, and it feels really great to make it happen. But from her perspective, you're just tonight's dinner. If she was going to be in a real relationship with you, that would mean that she needs to take down her web. And that means she's going to be losing a lot of money from all the other foreigners who are showing up who want a turn with her. And that's just probably not going to happen. Now you know where we get the phrase, she's not your girl, it's just your turn. Like any insect who thinks he's landing on a flower but ends up landing in a spider web, you're quickly going to figure it out. But let's talk about the fantasy of landing in a flower. Having a fantasy is not a bad thing. We all have dreams at night. We daydream about winning the lottery. We think about quitting our job. We fantasize about Brad Pitt showing up in the Philippines and eating Jollibee and drinking Red Horse with him. And then singing karaoke and then going to his hotel room and tying him to the bed and not letting him pull out. Mr. Pitt, I want it. Give it to me. Fantasies are what makes the world go around. And fantasies are a great motivator to show up in the Philippines because there's plenty of things to fantasize about. Amazing islands, friendly people, beautiful beaches, and even more beautiful women. After all, the women of the Philippines win more beauty pageants than any other country in Asia and we're good in bed. But actually showing up in the Philippines and chasing fantasies is no different than an insect flying right into a spider web. If you're actually serious about finding a Filipina wife or girlfriend here, my best dating advice is to shift your perspective from looking for a Filipina that you want to walk off to. Which is basically being like an insect falling for the trap of a spider web. And instead shifting your perspective to the idea of finding a Filipina who wants to walk you off. Being lured to land inside a real flower is not a bad thing. When that happens, both the insect wins and the flower wins. So think about it from her perspective. Is she looking at you like you're her dinner? Or is she looking at you like you're her cake? That means instead of quickly flying around and landing in all the bright beautiful flowers that you think you see, slow down and keep your distance as you're flying around and really open your eyes. And when you think you see a real flower, go in for a closer look. And if that flower is giving you signals to land on it, then get even closer. If it's not a fake flower but a real flower, then it's time to get inside that flower as soon as possible. That means choosing the Filipina who chooses you. That means choosing the Filipina who wants to take care of you. That means choosing the Filipina who is luring you into her web. And that means choosing the Filipina that walks you off. For both insects and human beings, life works better when you stop chasing after simulations. And instead, you let real things chase after you. I worked as a waitress in one of the tourist hotspots here for several years, and I could always tell which foreigners had fallen into spider webs and which foreigners were with the real flowers. And how will you know she's the real Filipina flower? Well, it's kinda obvious, right? For real, you're just going to know. Instead of you walking off to her, she's going to be walking you off. Duh! She's going to sit close to you. She's going to lean in. She's going to smile. She's going to enjoy spending time with you and not be in a hurry to leave. Then, when you start to kiss her, she's going to do something special with her hand to let you know that she's the real Filipina flower. Filipinas make amazing wives and girlfriends because we know how to treat our men like kings. So, don't make the mistake of coming all the way to the Philippines in search of a ripe mango only to end up landing in a spider web. Change your mindset. Stop chasing Filipinas that you want to walk off to and start looking for a Filipina who wants to walk you off. And we've got plenty of Filipinas like that here. So, go make it happen! What do you think? Please let me know in the comments below. If this episode was helpful for you and you want to help support my efforts and buy me a bucket of Jollibee and a bottle of Red Horse, then you can leave me a tip by clicking the thanks button below or use the PayPal link in the video description. None of this would be possible without all the people who keep showing up and watching my videos. So, thank you very much. And as usual, don't forget to hit the like and subscribe button for the good luck of the Philippines. Oh, I forgot to ask. Do you like a medium paste?