Phát hiện sớm khiếm khuyết bẩm sinh – Tập 03 | Khóa học dành cho cha mẹ | ETV Life

Today we officially start the second lesson. Does anyone still remember the first lesson? Ms. Tran, I still remember. Ah, you tell me. First, when the child is not yet full, you must know in addition to the basic concepts such as weight, height. There is also a standard, when the child is lying on the floor, hold his body up and hold for 3 seconds, then get off the ground. If you can't do it, you can't let the child lie on the floor. If there is a problem, it is because you lack knowledge. It really happened tragically like that. Today, we will look at the second standard in the US and Taiwan standards. Is it normal to evaluate a child? The second point is that the child can pay attention to the objects in front of him. That's right. When crying, the child will be silent when he hears the sound. In addition to crying, the child can also make other sounds. The two hands of the child can hold tightly, can open his mouth and speak. That's right. The child is not yet full. That's right. We used to have a study. This is a very interesting study. They put the child on the bed to compare. The researcher is a professor talking to the child. At the same time, he used a film camera to record it. After watching it again, he found that it turned out that the child could imitate the expression of an adult. Then we gave the video to our students to guess how old this child was. Most people guess that the child is 4 months old. There are also many people who answer that the child is 3 months old. Almost no one can guess how old the child is. The child is really only a few days old. Do you know why? Because in the lab, we focus on observing very carefully. This is why we say that we have to start from a small thing, observe the smallest movements of the child. We make parents sometimes a little upset or feel too bored or worry about their career. If you are so talented, why do you hug your child now? When you have that attitude, when you use that attitude to work, you will not be able to concentrate and carefully observe the child in your hand. So you often ignore such meaningful signals. Ms. Tran, speaking of which, I have a funny story. My mother used to tell me. After the first child, parents usually like to play with their children very much. So with the first child, parents are very careful to talk to the child. I am the oldest, so my mother often talks to me. Then my grandmother laughed and said, Why is this woman so stupid? Why does she talk to a child who doesn't know anything? This is a popular way of thinking in Mainland China. They think that children don't know anything. But my mother loves me very much because she is kind. She often talks to me to express my personality. As for my brother, my mother said that my father's health is not good, so my mother's mood is not good. So I don't have the mood to take care of my brother. My brother's language development is really not as good as mine. So later, my mother told me that she regretted and was very sad. Now my mother remembers those days and tells me what happened. Yes, you just said that science has studied that a few-day-old child can catch flies. I know how to catch flies. Not only catch flies, but there are many images in that study. Basically, the child knows all those emotions. I know how to catch flies. You can say that these are movements. If you are not conscious, how can you aim like that? That is, when you laugh, the child also laughs. Maybe the child doesn't laugh like you. But the child has the ability to catch flies. Oh, this idea is very important. Don't think that children don't know anything. Just born, it's like a binoculars. Look at you every day. That's right, look at you every day. And a concept is also very important. Most people think that children don't understand adults' words. I give an example. Once there was a mother who came to me for advice. Suddenly asked me a question. She said, teacher, that day my child asked me a question. Mom, is my child really stupid? Oh, is there anyone out there talking to a child like that? That's right. After that, the mother thought for half a day and realized that she was the one who said this. When she called, she thought that her child didn't understand. How old is the child? Studying at a religious school. Ah. I just went to a religious school. Ah. The child could then come back and ask you a question. Mom, is my child really stupid? Oh, poor thing. What do you think we should do now? What I mean is, even though children still can't speak the language of adults, we really have to change our perspective. What perspective? Before, we all thought that children didn't understand. Now I have to tell everyone this new perspective. We really don't understand the meaning of the child's words. We don't understand the child's words. It's not that the child doesn't understand our words. The child is talking to us. We don't understand the child, but the child understands us. What does the child understand? In our research, we found that the child understands the sound of words. Ah. The child understands the sound of words. For example, your words are very sincere, very warm. No matter who you talk to, the sound of those words is completely different from when you want to scold someone else. That's right. The child recognizes everything. It's not that the child doesn't understand, but the child understands very clearly. But because the child doesn't understand what that sound means in the world of adults, the child uses the ability to speak first, which is to speak first, which is to copy everything inside, and then bring everything out to ask you, Mom, am I really stupid? Oh, in life, when we talk about our children, how can you say that I'm really stupid? But... Some people say that our children are like cats and dogs. Have you heard of it? Like cats and dogs. That's right. Some people say that. That's right. The child just told everyone that our children are like cats and dogs. I also told my parents not to say things like that. Why? Because I feel that it's not respectful enough to the life of a child. What will happen to the child? In fact, at that time, parents see the child as a toy, like a toy, a pet. That kind of attitude is with that attitude, you just think that your child is like a cat and a dog. Then let you hear, with a cat and a dog, when you love them, you come to protect them. When you don't love them anymore, you don't care about them anymore, you will put them aside. That's right. That's why a lot of people raise pets, they don't usually get upset, but taking care of children is very tiring because the child doesn't stop asking us to take care of it. In fact, the child is not asking, but helping us grow up. But in today's society, many parents make up for their children like a cat, a dog, a bear, all kinds of toys. They look like they're playing, I've seen a lot of pictures, especially now, selfies are very popular, they use their phones to take pictures, make up for children in a very special way, very creative. Do you agree with this? I don't agree very much because we've seen some cases. What kind of cases? The consequences of it will appear later, until the teenagers have a case. When the child is more than 10 years old, he suddenly can't do his homework, he can't go to college, he can't take on the new responsibilities at that age. The cause of this is? We look back at the past, there was a very special event, at that time, the child was disguised as a rabbit. Okay, the child really hates it, but the adults around him say it's so cute. It's so funny. Then he took the child to take a picture. The child told me it was the picture he hated the most, but the adults around him chose it as the cutest picture. Ms. Tran, in our generation, at that time, we used to disguise a boy as a girl to take pictures. There are cases like that. Then, you know, that rabbit was painted with two pink cheeks. At that time, the adults around him said it was so cute, while the boy hated it so much. Then this happened when the child was over ten years old. Why? Because at that time, he couldn't say what he wanted to say. Gradually, it became a habit. Later, there were a lot of things that he couldn't express what he thought. At that time, his parents didn't know. Later, the child told me, how long he had been hiding it. When he was about 17 or 18 years old, his body began to react. His head ached and his chest ached a lot. The child couldn't finish the exercises in the normal middle school. So, there were a lot of problems because of the inheritance. That's why we say two principles, one big, one small. So now, the parents who gave birth to 80 children later or gave birth to 90 children later began to feed their children and told their children not to play with their children anymore. According to the expert's advice, what is the right way to educate children? If you say you don't know and play like that now, it's fun. Wait 10 years later, the world will find you. Believe it or not, it's up to you. But Ms. Tran Ngan Lin has decades of experience. She has observed many children with such problems. In Chinese society, if you come to find an expert like that, the problem is already very big. Parents can't control it anymore. Why wait until that day? When you have to deal with such problems, I believe that Ms. Tran also feels the pain. That's right, not wrong. So you want to open a school for parents. So, as I said, children can hear, understand, know how to catch, when they hear the sound, they know how to be quiet. Can you clarify this concept? That is, we have to know whether this child can follow moving objects around or not. There are some concepts. The first is that the neural network of children has a problem. Some children are born with hearing problems and can't follow moving objects. Should you know soon? Don't wait until the child knows to go to find out why this child walks away but keeps falling, keeps falling. Is there really such an incident? Is there really such a problem? Of course there can be such a thing. Can you give us an example? That is, children walk away easily and fall. Adults think it's very normal. Falling children don't make adults feel strange. It's not very clear when you look at them from the outside. But they often fall. That's right. But children's physical strength has a big problem due to the perception that the distance between objects has a problem. So in the end, they fall easily. Don't think that falling is necessary. So now I'm going to find an expert. Actually, there are parents who don't know how their children fall. Of course there is. Can you give us an example? I've seen such a case before. Those children don't just fall. Most of the time when there is a problem in school, then the teacher also feels that he is trying to teach the children but he can't. At that time, the teacher just told the parents to invite an expert to help. So there are often cases from the school to the medical room to diagnose. So we really hope that we can talk to the parents. I feel that parents in Taiwan are still very lucky. In the past, we rarely had this opportunity in the mainland. It's not much better now. It was because the parents were so worried that they immediately brought their children to the hospital named Dr. Nhi Khoa. Now we continue to talk to her. So after that, I let the children walk around and see if they were normal. At that time, I found out that the children's legs had a problem. Low feet, the parents couldn't see it. I saw it, but the parents really couldn't see it. They really couldn't see it. They couldn't see it, so when the children even walked there was a problem. When everyone ran out to play, the children didn't run in time. In school, there are often games to put three or four children in a group. Then, if this whole group didn't make it in time, the whole group would be deducted. That's right. Then, this child is a black duck. No one wants to be with it. No one wants to be with it, so it has no friends. The children come to school not only to learn knowledge, but also to have a very important ability, a very crucial ability, which is to make friends. Without friends, this child is very lonely. That's right, so we really hope to explain these standards to the parents. Do you remember the second lesson? Check to see if the child can hear or speak or look at the light to see if there is a problem. In fact, no one knows how a child will be born, but we all hope to give birth to a healthy, cheerful, smartest and most beautiful child. But we have to know that when a child has a problem in childbirth, we have to find out in time. Don't wait until the child grows up, then the physical problems will be very difficult to fix.